Where did "virginity" come from?
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
Release Date: 02/21/2025
Pleasure Beyond Orgasm with Sexuality Doula Ev'Yan Whitney (Re-release)
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
Pleasure is so much more than orgasm. Don’t believe us? In this re-release, DB dives into all things sensuality with Sexuality Doula Ev’Yan Whitney, author of Sensual Self. They unpack the grip of purity culture, talk body reconnection, and offer real-world tips for bringing more pleasure into your life—yes, even outside the bedroom. Still untangling your sexuality from the grip of the patriarchy? (Same.) This one’s for you. GUEST DETAILS: is a sexuality doula®, author, facilitator, and sensualist, and for the last 10+ years they've had an insatiable curiosity about their sexuality,...
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BEST OF: SEX TOYS
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
Sex toys are the best toys. In this Best Of episode, we’re revisiting two fan-favorite minis all about finding your toy—the one that gets you there every time. If your browser has 25 tabs open full of a different vibes that buzz, suck, swirl, or pulse and you still don’t know where to start, this one’s for you. Mentioned in this episode: CONNECT WITH US Instagram: TikTok: Twitter: Threads: YouTube: ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: , , , & . Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things ! GET IN TOUCH Email: for...
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Curious Sex Ed: Porn Addiction (Re-release)
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
Is porn addiction real? Or just another shame spiral? In this Curious Sex Ed re-release, DB and Mariah Caudillo of talk first encounters, how porn shapes our sexuality, and what a healthy relationship with porn actually looks like. If you’ve ever wondered “am I watching too much?”, this one’s for you! CONNECT WITH US Instagram: TikTok: Twitter: Threads: YouTube: ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: , , , & . Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things ! GET IN TOUCH Email: for behind-the-scenes content and...
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BEST OF: PORN
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
You’ve got porn questions—we’ve got answers! In this Best Of episode we’re revisiting two essential minisodes on your most asked-about topic. Let’s get into it! Mentioned in this episode: CONNECT WITH US Instagram: TikTok: Twitter: Threads: YouTube: ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: , , , & . Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things ! GET IN TOUCH Email: for behind-the-scenes content and answers to your sexual health questions! FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: ABOUT THE SHOW...
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What should my vagina smell like?
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
What should a vagina smell like? Hint: not a bouquet of roses. In this week’s bonus episode, DB tackles one of the most Googled (and least talked about) questions in sexual health. From the history of floral-scented shame to what’s actually normal down there, we break down myths, signs of infection, and why your vagina’s natural scent isn’t a problem to fix! Mentioned in this episode: CONNECT WITH US Instagram: TikTok: Twitter: Threads: YouTube: ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: , , , & . Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things !...
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The Wedding Singer with Hari Kondabolu: Rom-Com Vom
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
This week on Rom Com Vom, comedian and cultural critic Hari Kondabolu joins us to dig into The Wedding Singer—one of DB's childhood favorites! We talk emotional manipulation, passive female leads, and why so many rom-coms treat marriage like a finish line. Julia deserves better! Plus, softboy meltdown karaoke, marriage as the ultimate female achievement, and The Not Like Other Girls Olympics. GUEST DETAILS Queens-raised Brooklyn-based comedian has performed on Comedy Central, Conan, Jimmy Kimmel Live and The Late Show with David Letterman, and on stages around the world as a touring...
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Should I have sex with my ex?
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
In It’s Complicated, Meryl Streep’s character finds herself tangled back up with her slimy ex—familiar, messy, but kind of irresistible. In this week’s bonus ep, DB dives into the real-life version of this quandary and answers a listener’s question about sleeping with their ex. Why are we drawn back to people we’ve already left? Can it ever actually work? Mentioned in this episode: CONNECT WITH US Instagram: TikTok: Twitter: Threads: YouTube: ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: , , , & . Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite...
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It’s Complicated with Nicoletta Heidegger, LMFT: Rom-Com Vom
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
In It’s Complicated, Meryl Streep is a thriving divorcée caught between her sleazy ex-husband and a soft-spoken architect. What starts as a steamy rekindling quickly turns into a chaotic spiral of questionable decision making. This week, we're unpacking what It’s Complicated gets right about midlife sex, healing, and regret — and what it leaves out when it comes to agency and growth. Plus: how Nicoletta’s real-life work with couples and families adds context to the emotional wreckage onscreen. GUEST DETAILS , MA., MEd, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and...
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MUNCH: Everything You Need to Know About Eating Pussy (from Shameless Sex)
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
We’re dropping a clip from one of our all-time fave podcasts: Shameless Sex! If you’ve ever wondered how to level up your pussy-eating game, this episode’s for you. Pleasure educator Tyomi Morgan walks us through techniques, tools, and tips for giving oral that actually hits. Mouths, hands, toys—it’s all on the table (or bed, or floor, etc.). We LOVE what Amy and April are doing on Shameless Sex—it’s sex ed meets comedy meets sexy chaos, and it’s just so damn fun. We even joined them for episode #332, so go check that out too. And if you’re in Austin (5/1),...
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Sweet Home Alabama with Becca Rea-Tucker: Rom-Com Vom
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
This week, we’re joined by Becca Rea-Tucker—aka The Sweet Feminist—to break down Sweet Home Alabama, the rom-com that wants you to root for a gaslighting ex with a glassblowing hobby. DB and Becca dig into the movie’s deep-fried nostalgia, messy relationship dynamics, and the way rom-coms love to dress up coercion as fate. They unpack emotional manipulation in a southern accent, the myth of “the one,” and why Melanie’s real love story might’ve been with her friends—or *literally* anyone else! GUEST DETAILS Becca Rea-Tucker is a reproductive rights advocate, baker, and author...
info_outlineIt’s a concept we all grew up with, and it’s certainly shaped the way Hollywood tells stories about sex, but have you ever stopped to ask where the idea of virginity even came from? In this bonus episode, DB breaks down the history of virginity as a social construct, how it’s been used to control women, and why the hymen was never a reliable “proof” of anything.
What would sex look and feel like if it wasn’t about losing something? Let’s rethink the way we talk about first-time sex!
Mentioned in this episode:
"The 40 Year Old Virgin": The Bro Comedy That Hates Women
Planned Parenthood on Virginity
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Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted.
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Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB)
Producer: Sadie Lidji
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