Where did "virginity" come from?
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
Release Date: 02/21/2025
From Stuck to Sizzling: Intimacy Rewired (from Shameless Sex)
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
Can You Imagine Having the Tools to Easily Rewrite Your Relationship with Intimacy and Create a More Fulfilling (and Juicier) Life? Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex, where we dive into the world of Intimacy Rewired. Not only will you learn about this online course that will transform your relationships and life, but you will also walk away with a few life changing tools to apply in your own life. Amy Baldwin and Ian Stratton are the masterminds behind this groundbreaking program, and they're here to share more about this program, alongside guests such as Dr. Nazanin Moali, Keeley...
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The Pleasure of Subbing with Lina Dune
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
Let's ask a sub all about subbing! What's the appeal of submission? Can being a submissive be feminist? Can being a sub be empowering? And how can you figure out if you might be a sub too? Plus: DB and guest Lina Dune talk about trad wives. Ladies, is that just a kink? GUEST DETAILS is a kink writer, content creator, host of the Ask A Sub podcast and fairy submother to all who seek her advice. She can be found writing about desire over on substack at . She's occasionally on instagram at @askasub2.0 and you can get Ask A Sub wherever you get your podcasts. FROM THIS EPISODE TABOO...
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How does autism shape someone’s experience of sex — from pleasure to overwhelm?
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
How does autism interact with sex and pleasure? From sensory distractions to overstimulation to routines, DB breaks down how to get the most pleasure out of sex if you're autistic, including scripts for how to talk to your partner(s) -- and how to be a better partner to autistic folks! Check out the ABOUT SEASON 13 Season 13 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex....
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The Realities of Queer Disabled Sex and Pleasure with Andrew Gurza
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
People with disabilities can be hot! People with disabilities can be sexy! And people with disabilities DESERVE PLEASURE! In this episode, we breakdown disability and pleasure with the amazing Andrew Gurza -- and their conversation with DB takes some twists and turns that are so real, they're going to strike a chord whether or not you're disabled yourself. And don't forget: anyone can become disabled. You never know if or when this conversation might hit even closer to home. GUEST DETAILS is an award winning Disability Awareness Consultant and author of the book, Notes From a Queer Cripple:...
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Does sex actually make the vagina looser?
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
We've got a great listener question this week: does having sex often -- and/or with many different partners -- actually make your vagina looser? Let's break into the science and bust some myths. Don't let purity culture get you down! And remember, you can email DB with your questions at , and yours might be chosen for a future episode too! ABOUT SEASON 13 Season 13 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more...
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Secrets of a sex cult: when pleasure gets weaponized with Ellen Huet
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
This week, we're talking about how sexuality can be used to coerce people in cultlike settings, through the lens of Ellen Huet's new book . Ellen joins DB to talk about OneTaste, a for-profit wellness company that was hit with allegations of coercion, forced labor, and other abusive practices. Listen in for the story of how Ellen dove into this story as an investigative journalist -- including the time she came face-to-face with the alleged perpetrators she was covering. CONTENT WARNINGS In this episode, we discuss allegations of sexual assault, coersion, grooming tactics,...
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Is it normal to always feel sore after sex?
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
What's a normal amount of pain to feel after sex? Is everyone else sore after sex and not talking about it? How can you make sex less painful and more pleasurable? Today, learn from DB about what is and is not normal about pain during and after sex, when you should be worried, and when maybe you could just use some more lube. (Hint: reigns supreme!) RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Mayo Clinic's guide on when to seek care: The CDC's guide on condom and lube compatability: The CDC's guide on Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID): The Cleveland Clinic's guide on vaginal atrophy: Mayo Clinic's...
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Cutting Edge Pleasure Research for Queer Black Women with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
Black folks are often left out of research studies. Queer people are often left out of research studies. Women are often left out of research studies. So if you're a Black queer woman, there's hardly any research about your specific needs, struggles, and pleasure -- and that's where our guest, Dr. Shemeka Thorpe, comes in! We're kicking off our second Pleasure season by diving into #HotGirlScience, intersectionality, and Dr. Thorpe's incredible research all about Black Queer women. ABOUT OUR GUEST (she/her) is an award-winning sexuality educator, researcher, and international speaker. She is...
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SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 13 TRAILER: EVEN MORE PLEASURE!
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
You all loved Season 12 so much, we're running it back -- and bringing you EVEN MORE PLEASURE! This season we're covering everything you want to know about pleasure, orgasms, sex cults, BDSM, and so much more. I’m talking to some of the top experts in the field, and answering your most pressing questions about sex, intimacy, and pleasure. Season 13 of Sex Ed with DB starts November 5th, 2025 and episodes air every Wednesday! Got questions about sex you’ve been too nervous to ask? Ask your question here: . We’ve got real answers from top experts in the field. Subscribe now so you...
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BEST OF: MASTURBATION
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
This best-of episode is all about MASTURBATION! Taken from our backlog to bring back our best advice, histories, and myth-busting all about self-pleasure to wrap up our first pleasure season! How do you know if you're masturbating too much? What's the deal with the history of vibrators? And WHAT came from WHAT in mythology? Dive into this episode for some wild stories and affirming advice. Don't be too shy to love yourself! Episodes featured: ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys,...
info_outlineIt’s a concept we all grew up with, and it’s certainly shaped the way Hollywood tells stories about sex, but have you ever stopped to ask where the idea of virginity even came from? In this bonus episode, DB breaks down the history of virginity as a social construct, how it’s been used to control women, and why the hymen was never a reliable “proof” of anything.
What would sex look and feel like if it wasn’t about losing something? Let’s rethink the way we talk about first-time sex!
Mentioned in this episode:
"The 40 Year Old Virgin": The Bro Comedy That Hates Women
Planned Parenthood on Virginity
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