Integral Levels & Lines Of Development - Keith Witt - 275
Release Date: 02/18/2020
The Cost Of Stress In Your Primary Relationships with Dr. Gabor Maté - 498
Relationship School Podcast
Most of us have no idea how damaging relational stress can be. In this episode, legendary medical doctor and psycho-physio-spiritual trailblazer Dr. Gabor Maté brings some very grounded, practical examples of how relationship stress can impact our lives. The result of stress can be seen throughout the web of our life and it’s up to us to learn how to relate and attach well to our fellow humans. I love how this man turns such complicated topics into common sense. If you want a deeper cut about your marriage, children, or any stressful relationship, this episode is a must listen. SHOWNOTES ...
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Advice for Couples, Therapists and Coaches - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 497
Relationship School Podcast
Are you attending couples therapy but feeling like you're not making progress? Jayson and Ellen delve into why couples often find themselves spinning their wheels and offer insights on how to propel your relationship forward if you're feeling stuck. They also tackle the issue of spiritual bypassing, emphasizing that true letting go is a gradual process. Timestamps: 2:01 - Couples not making progress 7:36 - Doing the work 22:28 - Overly spiritual couples Links: U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow...
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Polyamory vs Monogamy - Irka & Eugene - 496
Relationship School Podcast
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28 Years Strong Even After Affairs - Satyen and Suzanne Raja - 495
Relationship School Podcast
In this podcast, I interview Satyen and Suzanne, both long-time students of David Deida. These two are super honest, loving individuals, and wow have they been through a lot! There share some very vulnerable details about how they navigated religion, affairs, and fighting. They give you concrete practical tools you can try right now with your partner. These guys live it! SHOWNOTES How did Satyen and Suzanne start caring about relationships? [4:27] Why did Satyen resist marriage? [7:00] What ingredient was the “it” factor for Suzanne’s attraction to Satyen? [7:44] What role did religion...
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My Take on Andrew Huberman and His Relationship Issues - Jayson Gaddis - 494
Relationship School Podcast
Jayson shares his thoughts on the controversy surrounding popular podcaster Andrew Huberman. What can we learn about ourselves and our relationships from the online reaction to the recent revelations about Andrew Huberman? What are you projecting onto the authority figures in your life? Are you putting people in your life on a pedestal, and how will you react when they inevitably fail you? Timestamps: 2:17 - What can we learn from the Andrew Huberman situation? 5:24 - Pedestal to pit 13:55 - Are you projecting on to authority figures? Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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The Purpose of Relationship Pain - Jayson Gaddis - 493
Relationship School Podcast
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Dan Savage On Being Monogamish - Dan Savage - 492
Relationship School Podcast
Are you simply defaulting to monogamy? Have you ever genuinely asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?" Dan Savage, an author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster, and public speaker, suggests that we should all regularly pose these questions to ourselves. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've acknowledged that it's impossible to fulfill all of your partner's needs, and that's a message from which we can all learn. While we typically focus on monogamous long-term relationships, in this episode, we'll explore how various...
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Conflict, Communication, Fixing, Problem Solving - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 491
Relationship School Podcast
Jayson and Ellen discuss conflict, communication, and problem-solving versus understanding. What's the issue with being a conflict-avoidant couple? When is it appropriate to problem-solve and offer advice to a long-term partner? Can excessive understanding become problematic? Tune in to hear Ellen and Jayson offer a few simple strategies that you can use to resolve your communication issues. Timestamps: 1:51 - Avoiding Conflict 11:21 - Solving communication problems 17:04 - Problem solving vs understanding 20:28 - The conflict-repair cycle 22:31 - Taking action vs understanding Links: ...
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Couples Coaching: Anya & Bodhi Part 2 - Jayson Gaddis - #490
Relationship School Podcast
Jayson coaches the couple, Anya and Bodhi. The last time this couple appeared on the podcast was in episode #364 when they were in the midst of deciding whether to stay together or break up. Since their last appearance, they have grown into a strong and stable couple. In this episode, they discuss the turning point in their relationship that led to them staying together. They also work through current tensions in their relationship related to conflicting schedules and navigating a small living space. You won’t want to miss this insightful conversation. Timestamps: 5:17 - Anya & Bodhi's...
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Teen Talk: An Intimate Conversation With My Son - Jayson & Lucian Gaddis - 489
Relationship School Podcast
Jayson is joined by his son Lucian for a conversation about the unique challenges of being a teenager in high school. What are the challenges of being from a relationally focused family? What kinds of stereotypes do teens face? Why do so many parents over-parent their kids? You won’t want to miss this candid father-son conversation. Timestamps: 3:52 - Boys in high school 5:28 - Social media apps 6:19 - Waldorf vs. public high school 9:21 - The relational family experiance 16:41 - Challenges high school kids face 20:25 - Over-parenting 23:41 - How to get teenagers involved Links: U.S....
info_outlineI first got introduced to Ken Wilber when I was in grad school. The guy’s mind is insanely brilliant.
He takes a lot of maps of human development and consciousness and weaves them together in what he calls integral theory.
My guest on this week’s podcast is Keith Witt.
He’s worked with Ken for years. We dig into Relationships of course, but from an integral lens.
I ask him about the common relationship dynamic where one person claims they are more “developed” than the other
What do we do? Interesting answers to come.
Check it out.
- 4:35: Introduction Keith Witt
- 11:20: What is “Integral”
- 14:00 Looking at relationships in an Integral way
- 18:20 The importance of lines of development for relationships
- 29:30 How the adaptive unconscious interferes with your personal growth
- 37:20 How people can learn to be self-aware and evolve
- 45:10 Lines of development that can help you on long-term relationship
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