Relationship School Podcast
Learn street level, practical tools to have better relationships from a real dude who is a solid husband and father. Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School, interviews couples, experts, neuroscientists, therapists, coaches, and everyday people to help you have the best relationships possible. Watch your long-term partnerships, family relationships, friendships, and work relationships get better. Jayson offers a fun action step at the end of each episode. Let's do this people! Let's learn how to love bigger! The world needs it.
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Teens, Screens, and Mental Health - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 507
07/09/2024
Teens, Screens, and Mental Health - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 507
Jayson and Ellen delve into the complex relationship between teens, screens, and mental health. Is it okay to use screens to help kids calm down? Are teens becoming more anxious? At what age should children have their own cell phones? What societal changes are needed to protect the mental health and well-being of children and teens? How can you effectively implement boundaries at home? Tune in to find the answers to these and many more questions. Timestamps: 2:35 - Why screen time matters 5:50 - The Anxious Generation 9:00 - Using screens to help kids calm down 17:00 - The problem with content 21:00 - The problem with texting 23:30 - Setting boundaries 30:30 - Haidt's four recommendations 33:30 - Jayson and Ellen's recommendations 43:00 - Action steps Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Setting Boundaries With Dysfunctional Family Members - Terri Cole - 506
07/02/2024
Setting Boundaries With Dysfunctional Family Members - Terri Cole - 506
In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole shares some creative (and funny) strategies for handling problematic family relationships. Timestamps: Why Interacting With Family Can Be So Difficult [1:30] Terri Cole’s Family Experience [3:30] The Importance Of Boundaries and Language With Family [7:30] Examples Of Managing Family Dysfunction Successfully [9:30] Strategies For Avoiding Unwanted Conversations With Family [14:30] Is It Okay To Just Walk Away From Shitty Family Conversations? [23:00] Taking A Break From Family And Avoiding Family Holidays Altogether [25:00] When Mom And Partner Are Competing For Attention [29:00] Links: U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media:
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AMA: Phone Snooping, Sexual Trauma, Emotionless Partners - Jayson Gaddis - 505
06/25/2024
AMA: Phone Snooping, Sexual Trauma, Emotionless Partners - Jayson Gaddis - 505
Jayson answers listener questions: How should you deal with trauma responses in intimate situations? Should your partner have access to your phone? What should you do if your partner isn’t interested in personal growth? What is the right way to apologize? Is it possible to make a relationship work with an emotionless partner? Find the answers to these questions and more on this episode of The Relationship School Podcast. Timestamps: 2:19 - Trauma responses in intimate situations 5:55 - Dealing with a condescending partner 7:45 - Should your partner have access to your phone? 11:58 - Partner isn't interested in personal growth 14:32 - Apologizing 16:13 - Emotionless partnerships 18:45 - Intentions and apologies Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Advice for Anxious Fathers & Their Wives - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 504
06/18/2024
Advice for Anxious Fathers & Their Wives - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 504
Jayson and Ellen offer advice for anxious new dads. Why do many new dads struggle to enjoy parenting? What happens when men become aware of their relational needs for the first time, and how should they approach meeting those needs? Should new dads consider therapy? What kind of support should new dads seek from their male friends? What about sex? If you're a new parent or know new parents, you won't want to miss this. Timestamps: 1:23 - When men struggle to enjoy parenting 14:57 - Men becoming conscious of their relational needs 24:42 - Support from other men 29:33 - Avoidant men 33:52 - Sex Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Trauma–Peter Levine’s Heartbreaking & Inspiring Story of Healing - Dr. Peter Levine - 503
06/11/2024
Trauma–Peter Levine’s Heartbreaking & Inspiring Story of Healing - Dr. Peter Levine - 503
Jayson talks with Dr. Peter Levine about the subject of trauma. Peter shares the harrowing story of what happened when his father testified against the mafia and explains why he decided to get vulnerable about his trauma in his latest book, An Autobiography of Trauma: A Healing Journey. Jayson and Peter discuss how the perception of trauma has changed recently, the danger of retraumatizing people, the process of healing trauma, and why you should be careful about who you choose to share your trauma with. Don’t miss this powerful episode. Timestamps: 4:05 - Why Peter decided to get vulnerable 11:39 - Is it important to tell your story? 18:15 - Testifying against the mafia 26:22 - Healing from trauma by sharing 34:29 - Relationships and trauma 40:46 - Trauma and association 50:07 - Retraumatizing people 59:21 - Action step Links: U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media:
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How to Handle Hurt Feelings - Jayson Gaddis - 502
06/04/2024
How to Handle Hurt Feelings - Jayson Gaddis - 502
What’s the #1 mistake people make after getting their feelings hurt? Jayson discusses how to handle hurt feelings, his experience with shutting down after experiencing hurt feelings, and how to work through hurt feelings. Tune in to find out how you can turn hurt feelings into an opportunity to grow into a more resilient, self-respecting, and confident person. Timestamps: 3:09 - The mistake people make when their feelings get hurt 6:18 - Jayson's experience with hurt feelings 10:18 - Feel your feelings 14:47 - Takeaway Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Helping Teen Girls Thrive - Johannah Reimer - 501
05/28/2024
Helping Teen Girls Thrive - Johannah Reimer - 501
Ellen Boeder interviews Johannah Reimer to find out how women can help teen girls. They discuss the unique problems that teen girls face today, the evolutionary mismatch between the environments we evolved in and modern life, the importance of doing hard things and Johannah’s Girls Group Facilitator Training, “Pathways to Womanhood”which is about guiding and supporting girls on their journey to womanhood. Johannah is a soulcentric educator, ceremonialist, teen mentor, and an artist of many trades. Trained as a Waldorf teacher, Johannah has been working with children of all ages for over 20 years and holds a particular passion for tweens/teens striving to meet their developmental needs for mentorship and initiation in a culture that has forgotten how to do so. An apprentice of visionaries: Sage Hamilton and Melissa Michaels of SOMA Source, Johannah has worked for many years as a Waldorf teacher under the guidance of her elder Sage, and as an embodied leader for international youth in movement based Rites of Passage with Golden Bridge & Golden Girls Global. Timestamps: 5:33 - Johannah's path to becoming an educator 13:19 - Why create girls' groups 26:56 - Evolutionary mismatch 30:20 - The value of doing hard things 34:22 - Becoming an entrepreneur 37:55 - What will people take from the training? 43:26 - Advice for teenage girls Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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My Experience with Cancer - Men Listen Up - Jayson Gaddis - 500
05/21/2024
My Experience with Cancer - Men Listen Up - Jayson Gaddis - 500
Jayson opens up about his recent prostate cancer diagnosis. He talks about the causes of cancer, letting people’s care in and his recommendations for how men should monitor their health as they age. This episode is a PSA for men over 40, if you haven’t been screened for cancer, now is the time. Timestamps: 2:16 - Jayson's experience 6:34 - Causes of cancer 9:01 - Letting people's care in 12:15 - Recommendations for men over 40 Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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When to Stay or Leave + True Love - Annie Lalla - 499
05/14/2024
When to Stay or Leave + True Love - Annie Lalla - 499
IN THIS EPISODE, You will learn: To see your partner as a sacred mirror and sanctuary for the growing your greatest actualized self The true characteristics of a long-term partnership How your partnership is the optimal container for complete transformation of yourself into the highest possible version imaginable How to fall in love and why this is more important than being married How to take radical responsibility for being loved in every moment of your life How to actually get your needs/wants met in a partnership How to know if conflict in your relationship is driving you toward or away from more magnificence There’s a ton in this episode so dive in and go slow. And, Here’s a great question from Annie to ask yourself if you are trying to decide to stay or leave: Is the person I’m being called to become by what my partner’s asking me to become (if you take on the growth-development framework), will you become a more extraordinary version of yourself? If who they are asking you to become is a constricted, small, tight version of you, then this is probably not the person you want to be with. However, if you identify as the smaller version of you, then, you are going to hear your partner’s feedback as criticism and blame and might make them wrong in the process. So, pay attention to these finer points. Timestamps: 1:47 - What are we getting into when we say yes to long-term relationships? 6:04 - Becoming the best version of yourself 9:49 - Annie's story 16:48 - Taking responsibility when we don't feel loved 21:35 - Getting out of your victimhood 30:34 - When to leave Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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The Cost Of Stress In Your Primary Relationships with Dr. Gabor Maté - 498
05/07/2024
The Cost Of Stress In Your Primary Relationships with Dr. Gabor Maté - 498
Most of us have no idea how damaging relational stress can be. In this episode, legendary medical doctor and psycho-physio-spiritual trailblazer Dr. Gabor Maté brings some very grounded, practical examples of how relationship stress can impact our lives. The result of stress can be seen throughout the web of our life and it’s up to us to learn how to relate and attach well to our fellow humans. I love how this man turns such complicated topics into common sense. If you want a deeper cut about your marriage, children, or any stressful relationship, this episode is a must listen. SHOWNOTES What happens when Gabor’s wife forgets to pick him up at the airport. [8:30] How our partners are perfectly suited to help us grow. [10:35] What happened in Gabor’s childhood that makes his wife a perfect match for him now. [13:00] The long-term cost of not dealing with stress. [15:00] How parents can be compromised by raising their children. [17:30] The link between our relationship health and our physical and mental health. [19:30] What’s the best way to deal with our own relational and attachment issues? [29:00] Why relational healing modalities are so effective. [30:00] What we can learn from pygmy cultures about parenting and relationships. [32:30] How relationship can most effectively be taught to children. [34:00] The effect of Facebook and Internet on kids. [38:00] Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Advice for Couples, Therapists and Coaches - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 497
04/30/2024
Advice for Couples, Therapists and Coaches - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 497
Are you attending couples therapy but feeling like you're not making progress? Jayson and Ellen delve into why couples often find themselves spinning their wheels and offer insights on how to propel your relationship forward if you're feeling stuck. They also tackle the issue of spiritual bypassing, emphasizing that true letting go is a gradual process. Timestamps: 2:01 - Couples not making progress 7:36 - Doing the work 22:28 - Overly spiritual couples Links: U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media:
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Polyamory vs Monogamy - Irka & Eugene - 496
04/23/2024
Polyamory vs Monogamy - Irka & Eugene - 496
Irka and Eugene join Jayson to talk non-monogamy. Is monogamy inherently restrictive? Do people in polyamorous relationships have boundaries? Is non-hierarchical polyamory possible? What role does sexual exploration play in a polyamorous relationship? Is non-monogamy for you? Whether you’re monogamous or not, you’ll find plenty of wisdom in this insightful conversation. Timestamps: 8:45 - Definitions and terms 11:40 - Boundaries 19:52 - Thirds 34:09 - Is monogamy inherently restrictive? 37:39 - Sexual exploration 42:27 - Is non-monogamy for you? 51:03 - Communication 53:51 - Advice for high school kids 57:45 - Links 59:15 - Action step Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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28 Years Strong Even After Affairs - Satyen and Suzanne Raja - 495
04/16/2024
28 Years Strong Even After Affairs - Satyen and Suzanne Raja - 495
In this podcast, I interview Satyen and Suzanne, both long-time students of David Deida. These two are super honest, loving individuals, and wow have they been through a lot! There share some very vulnerable details about how they navigated religion, affairs, and fighting. They give you concrete practical tools you can try right now with your partner. These guys live it! SHOWNOTES How did Satyen and Suzanne start caring about relationships? [4:27] Why did Satyen resist marriage? [7:00] What ingredient was the “it” factor for Suzanne’s attraction to Satyen? [7:44] What role did religion play in their relationship? [10:42] How did fighting about food bring them closer? [12:15] What impact did David Deida have on their connection? [14:28] How did they create a new template for their relationship? [16:06] The most challenging period of their relationship [18:02] One really important practice to heal from infidelity [20:15] Satyen and Suzanne demonstrate a powerful tool to express emotional pain to your partner [26:30] The often-missed key to understanding your partner [32:43] What is PCP and ISE and how do they create connection and turn-on? [34:50] Links: U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media: Satyen and Suzanne are the authorities on relationship – passionately intwined for twenty-seven years and sought after by people over the the world for their powerful and cutting edge trainings. With over two decades of study, teaching and facilitation in this area, they have taught tens of thousands of singles and couples the art of creating passionate, juicy intimacy that lasts a lifetime. A living demonstration of a couple who are continually re-igniting their spark, passion and love, Satyen and Suzanne practically distill what for many can be a confusing, frustrating and even painful topic down to its very workable, irresistible essence. Whether on radio, tv or in auditoriums of thousands, their style is provocative, inspiring, and above all, full of practical wisdom. They have a unique gift for hearing what lies beneath your questions, and giving you answers that convey deep truths with incredible heart. Never shy of controversy, they are willing to take conventional wisdom to task where it falls short in order to help you learn and live the most effective relationship skills. Satyen and Suzanne are committed to, and superlatively skilled at, saying the things that no one else says, going places that no one else goes — so that you can have the hot, deep, loving, passionate relationship that you deserve…starting now!
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My Take on Andrew Huberman and His Relationship Issues - Jayson Gaddis - 494
04/09/2024
My Take on Andrew Huberman and His Relationship Issues - Jayson Gaddis - 494
Jayson shares his thoughts on the controversy surrounding popular podcaster Andrew Huberman. What can we learn about ourselves and our relationships from the online reaction to the recent revelations about Andrew Huberman? What are you projecting onto the authority figures in your life? Are you putting people in your life on a pedestal, and how will you react when they inevitably fail you? Timestamps: 2:17 - What can we learn from the Andrew Huberman situation? 5:24 - Pedestal to pit 13:55 - Are you projecting on to authority figures? Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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The Purpose of Relationship Pain - Jayson Gaddis - 493
04/02/2024
The Purpose of Relationship Pain - Jayson Gaddis - 493
Relationship pain has a very clear purpose. If you are hip to it, you’ll thrive in relationships. If you are uneducated here, you’ll run away and play the victim. Direct and to the point, I suggest a very important daily practice for you to strengthen your mindset about long-term partnership. Pain hurts indeed. And, what if pain was your ally in disguise? Relationship Pain Daily Practice I have two choices with my relationship pain: 1. Use it to make me weaker by whining, complaining, and blaming others (or myself). 2. Use it to make me stronger by seeing it as my ally to master the lesson it’s bringing me. It’s 100% of the time up to me to choose. Timestamps: 3:15 - Two choices when it comes to relationship pain 9:32 - The first thing to NOT do when in relationship pain 13:40 - The good news about pain and stress 19:40 - The link between your emotional pain and your numbing habits 24:37 - Action step Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Dan Savage On Being Monogamish - Dan Savage - 492
03/26/2024
Dan Savage On Being Monogamish - Dan Savage - 492
Are you simply defaulting to monogamy? Have you ever genuinely asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?" Dan Savage, an author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster, and public speaker, suggests that we should all regularly pose these questions to ourselves. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've acknowledged that it's impossible to fulfill all of your partner's needs, and that's a message from which we can all learn. While we typically focus on monogamous long-term relationships, in this episode, we'll explore how various types of relationships can be successful. Tune in and prepare for some introspection into your own sexual expression. Timestamps: 5:00 - What does monogamish mean? 11:27 - Eroticism in a long-term relationship 17:24 - Bringing in a third 23:37 - Monogamy as the default setting 31:00 - Changing broken marraige norms 33:50 - Dan's relationship journey 46:49 - Allowing for erotic autonomy 53:57 - Dan's advice for young people 59:00 - Action step Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Conflict, Communication, Fixing, Problem Solving - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 491
03/19/2024
Conflict, Communication, Fixing, Problem Solving - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 491
Jayson and Ellen discuss conflict, communication, and problem-solving versus understanding. What's the issue with being a conflict-avoidant couple? When is it appropriate to problem-solve and offer advice to a long-term partner? Can excessive understanding become problematic? Tune in to hear Ellen and Jayson offer a few simple strategies that you can use to resolve your communication issues. Timestamps: 1:51 - Avoiding Conflict 11:21 - Solving communication problems 17:04 - Problem solving vs understanding 20:28 - The conflict-repair cycle 22:31 - Taking action vs understanding Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Couples Coaching: Anya & Bodhi Part 2 - Jayson Gaddis - #490
03/12/2024
Couples Coaching: Anya & Bodhi Part 2 - Jayson Gaddis - #490
Jayson coaches the couple, Anya and Bodhi. The last time this couple appeared on the podcast was in episode #364 when they were in the midst of deciding whether to stay together or break up. Since their last appearance, they have grown into a strong and stable couple. In this episode, they discuss the turning point in their relationship that led to them staying together. They also work through current tensions in their relationship related to conflicting schedules and navigating a small living space. You won’t want to miss this insightful conversation. Timestamps: 5:17 - Anya & Bodhi's turning point 13:23 - Individual growth 20:00 - Getting to the root of relationship tension 33:34 - Feeling trapped by a lack of connectedness 39:05 - Spontaneity vs. responsibility 43:00 - Different schedules 47:00 - Helping your partner feel less judged 1:00:30 - Being true to yourself vs. being considerate 1:08:59 - Action step Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Teen Talk: An Intimate Conversation With My Son - Jayson & Lucian Gaddis - 489
03/05/2024
Teen Talk: An Intimate Conversation With My Son - Jayson & Lucian Gaddis - 489
Jayson is joined by his son Lucian for a conversation about the unique challenges of being a teenager in high school. What are the challenges of being from a relationally focused family? What kinds of stereotypes do teens face? Why do so many parents over-parent their kids? You won’t want to miss this candid father-son conversation. Timestamps: 3:52 - Boys in high school 5:28 - Social media apps 6:19 - Waldorf vs. public high school 9:21 - The relational family experiance 16:41 - Challenges high school kids face 20:25 - Over-parenting 23:41 - How to get teenagers involved Links: U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media:
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The Trap of Falling in Love - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 488
02/27/2024
The Trap of Falling in Love - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 488
Is it possible to truly love someone while you’re still infatuated with them? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk about the trap of falling in love and why it’s important to learn to live with the reality of who your partner actually is instead of projecting your fantasies onto them. How can you make your partner your priority every day? What should your relationship boundaries be? It’s time to take a deep dive into the world of love after infatuation. Timestamps: 2:16 - Infatuation vs. love 6:16 - Reality vs. fantasy 20:00 - Accepting people for who they are 24:48 - Know your relationship boundaries 28:16 - Love after infatuation 31:52 - Our impact on others Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Dealing with Division and Getting Unstuck - Jayson Gaddis - 487
02/20/2024
Dealing with Division and Getting Unstuck - Jayson Gaddis - 487
Jayson talks about dealing with division in the world, digital minimalism and getting unstuck in your relationship. Can solving division in the home help make the world a better place? How do you know when you’re stuck as a couple? What should you do if you’re stuck? Would you like to be the next guest on The Relationship School Podcast? Listen in to find out more! Timestamps: 4:01 - Couples, how do you know when you're stuck? 11:47 - Dealing with division 19:25 - Action steps Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Coaching Session: From Being Ghosted to Self Love - Jayson Gaddis - 486
02/13/2024
Coaching Session: From Being Ghosted to Self Love - Jayson Gaddis - 486
Jason coaches two women live on the podcast. How should you deal with the experience of a long-term partner ghosting you? What should you do when you feel self-doubt and loneliness? How can you find meaning in the end of a long-term relationship? You won’t want to miss the chance to sit in on this powerful coaching session with Jayson, Katie and Camille. Timestamps: 4:09 - Katie's story 8:27 - Being there for yourself 16:26 - Katie's personal growth journey 26:17 - Camille's story 29:56 - Dealing with a partner who ghosted 37:46 - Finding meaning in the end of a relationship 46:51 - Finding your anchor Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Allowance, Chores, Family Economy & Empowering your Kids with Money - James Ure - 485
02/06/2024
Allowance, Chores, Family Economy & Empowering your Kids with Money - James Ure - 485
Helping children learn to be financially responsible is one of the most important jobs that parents have. James Ure joins Jayson to talk about how a family economy can help you give your child the best chance to achieve success and independence when they leave home. Should you pay your child for chores? How much of an allowance should you give your child? What is the difference between bribery and empowerment? How can you teach your child the importance of saving, investing, and giving to charity? You won’t want to miss this insightful conversation. Timestamps: 8:31 - What is a family economy? 13:55 - Creating incentives for kids 25:55 - Tracking a family economy without an app 37:41 - Using money and screentime as motivators 41:54 - Bribing vs. empowering 45:37 - Implementing a family economy 53:31 - The Greenlight app 57:46 - Big purchases 1:01:09 - Where to find James 1:02:34 - James' advice for high school students 1:03:40 - Action steps Links: U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media:
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Working With Men in Coaching and Therapy - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 484
01/30/2024
Working With Men in Coaching and Therapy - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 484
Jayson and Ellen team up to talk about working with men in coaching and therapy. How can you tell when a man is ready to grow? How does couples' work help men? What are the advantages of attending a men’s group? Are men more comfortable with male or female therapists? If you’re a man or you have men in your life, you won’t want to miss this insightful conversation. Timestamps: 6:16 - Ways that men get stuck 10:52 - Working through men's defensiveness 13:56 - Recognizing men's issues 17:27 - How male clients project 21:10 - Are men more comfortable with male or female therapists 24:48 - Men's groups 29:44 - How couples work helps men 31:35 - How to get men to change 34:09 - Making sure a man is ready to grow 36:34 - Action steps Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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How Therapist Bruce Tift Helped Me Have the Balls to Marry My Wife - Bruce Tift - 483
01/23/2024
How Therapist Bruce Tift Helped Me Have the Balls to Marry My Wife - Bruce Tift - 483
Bruce was one of THE pivotal factors in helping me marry my wife before she slammed the door shut on me. Hear that story in this episode and why it’s so common for couples to struggle. Bruce offers a powerful frame for relationship and intimacy and makes the distinction between the developmental work we need to do, and the possibility that we are “already free” in relationship. Check it. Timestamps: 4:29 - Jayson's history with Bruce 7:22 - Dealing with contradictions in relationships 15:11 - The value of separateness 23:04 - The practice of personal responsibility 27:26 - Bruce shares about his marriage 32:37 - How Bruce became a therapist 38:42 - What is a successful relationship? 43:19 - The impact of parenting on Bruce 47:13 - Sexual intimacy in a long-term relationship 55:43 - Personal responsibility 1:01:19 - Bruce's book, Already Free Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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What’s Wrong With Wanting a Healthy Relationship? - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 482
01/16/2024
What’s Wrong With Wanting a Healthy Relationship? - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 482
What’s wrong with wanting a healthy relationship? Jayson and Ellen are here to break it down. "Healthy" is a poorly defined concept, which can create nebulous expectations that are impossible to live up to. If you’ve written yourself off because you believe you’re incapable of having healthy relationships, it’s time to level up and start focusing on how you can foster growth-oriented relationships going forward. Tune in to learn how you can set realistic expectations and define the relationship experience that you want. It’s time to plan for reality and aspire for greatness. Timestamps: 4:57 - Defining what “healthy” means 7:09 - Deciding on the relationship experience you want 8:41 - Creating realistic expectations 11:14 - Plan for reality, aspire for greatness 15:00 - Don’t write yourself off 16:49 - Growth oriented relationships 19:17 - Action steps Links: U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media:
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How Menopause Changes You and Your Relationships - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 481
01/09/2024
How Menopause Changes You and Your Relationships - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 481
Ellen joins Jayson to discuss menopause and its impact on relationships. What is menopause? Do women in non-western cultures experience menopause differently than women in western cultures? What happens to women’s hormones during menopause? What about hormone replacement therapy? Tune in to hear Jayson and Ellen share their personal experiences surrounding menopause and learn how you can nurture your relationships through the menopausal journey. Timestamps: 3:34 - What is menopause? 7:02 - How does menopause impact relationships? 13:53 - How does culture impact the experience of menopause? 16:50 - Why are resources for menopause scarce? 19:01 - What happens to women’s hormones during menopause? 21:54 - Jayson’s perspective 30:40 - Keeping your partner in mind 37:24 - Resource recommendation 41:51 - HRT Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Challenging Sensitive Kids - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 480
01/02/2024
Challenging Sensitive Kids - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 480
Jayson and Ellen share valuable insights about nurturing antifragile confidence in sensitive children and offer practical tips for creating a supportive environment that encourages resilience and emotional well-being. Gain a deeper understanding of what defines a sensitive child. Discover practical strategies and compassionate approaches for navigating moments when your sensitive child is hesitant or resistant, and learn how to find the balance between challenging your child and respecting their emotions. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or simply interested in understanding the dynamics of parenting sensitive children, this episode offers a wealth of wisdom. Tune in for a discussion that will empower you to embrace and celebrate the uniqueness of your sensitive child while fostering a foundation of strength and confidence. Timestamps: 5:54 - What is a sensitive kid like? 9:29 - Overprotective parenting 14:20 - Are you asking too much of your child? 19:40 - Helping your child build antifragile confidence 23:09 - Validating your child's feelings 32:07 - Action steps Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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3 Simple Tips to Optimize Your Health, Snoring, and Breathing - Sachin Patel - 479
12/26/2023
3 Simple Tips to Optimize Your Health, Snoring, and Breathing - Sachin Patel - 479
In this episode, Jayson is joined by best-selling author and functional medicine practice success coach Sachin Patel. Do you or your partner struggle with snoring? Is it a constant challenge for you to get enough sleep? Sachin offers some basic steps that you can take to begin turning your health around. These range from simple changes you can make today, such as adjusting ambient home lighting, to incorporating effective breathing techniques. If you’re interested in taking control of your health, you won’t want to miss this fascinating conversation. Timestamps: 6:23 - Who is Sachin Patel? 8:11 - Sachin's wellness journey 17:44 - Why don't people do what's good for them? 28:16 - Why is nose breathing so important? 33:20 - Snoring 43:07 - Basic steps to change your health 48:42 - Advice for young people 52:59 - Action step Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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Common Misconceptions About Secure Attachment - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 478
12/19/2023
Common Misconceptions About Secure Attachment - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 478
Everyone wants to be in a securely attached relationship, but what does secure attachment really look like? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk about secure attachment and address some common misconceptions. How can you know the difference between infatuation and secure attachment? How long does it take to develop secure attachment in a romantic relationship? How do securely attached relationships differ between different couples? Tune in to learn how you can create and maintain long-lasting and meaningful partnerships. Timestamps: 2:00 - Secure attachment vs. infatuation 5:21 - How long does it take to know if you’re securely attached? 8:59 - Working through the challenge stage 11:26 - Misconceptions about secure attachment 20:25 - Make sure you both want the same type of relationship 23:02 - Action steps Links: Follow Jayson on social media:
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