Why Couples Divorce & How To Reset The "WE" In Your Marriage | Ep. 338

In this foundational episode, Snooks and Lovey open up about their remarkable 29-year marriage that began with a near-fatal stabbing and survived a near-divorce just four years later. They introduce listeners to the powerful concept of "Resetting the We" and the Six Seasons of Marriage—a framework that helps couples understand where they are and communicate more effectively.

Drawing from their recent marriage group session with Intentionally Yours (led by Cloyce and Sheila Dickerson), the hosts walk through each marriage season and share vulnerable insights about where they currently are in their own journey, including navigating grief after losing their son and adjusting to raising their grandson together.

The episode delivers actionable wisdom about the importance of regular "check-ins," maintaining individual identity while strengthening the "we," and never forgetting the plot of your own love story. Whether you're in the honeymoon phase or the valley season, this episode equips you with tools to stay connected and build a resilient partnership.

Key Topics Discussed

✅ The Origin Story of Snooks & Lovey -How they were "tricked" into meeting each other -The dramatic stabbing incident 5 days after engagement -Lovey's two open-heart surgeries and miraculous recovery

✅ The Fourth Anniversary Divorce Request -How Snooks asked for a divorce at Morton's Steakhouse -The wake-up call that changed everything -Their journey through counseling, coaching, and healing

✅ The CRAZY Method Explained -Compassionate -Real -Accountable -Zealous -Yielding

✅ The Six Seasons of Marriage -Honeymoon/New Beginning: Excitement, discovery, and hope -Building Season: Careers, finances, parenting, and goals take center stage -Valley Season: Illness, grief, conflict, betrayal, or burnout -Adjustment Season: Major life transitions requiring patience -Refining Season: Old wounds surface, growth is uncomfortable -Harvest/Renewal Season: Peace, friendship, and gratitude deepen.

✅ "Resetting the We" Concept -Understanding that resets aren't about failure—they're about realignment -How each spouse can be in different seasons simultaneously T-he importance of respecting where your partner is.

✅ The Power of "The Check-In" -Why weekly or bi-weekly check-ins prevent disconnection -How to implement check-ins without feeling awkward -Using check-ins to stay present and maintain connectedness

✅ "Don't Forget the Plot" - Divorce Attorney Wisdom -Insight from The Diary of a CEO podcast with Steven Bartlett -How couples lose their original story when life gets busy -Why supporting characters (kids, jobs) become the main characters -The danger of writing separate stories under the same roof

✅ You, Me, and We -Maintaining individual identity within marriage -Honoring what attracted you to each other initially -Committing to the collective "we"

✅ Community & Support Systems -The importance of having strong couples in your community -"As iron sharpens iron" - how couples sharpen each other -Avoiding isolation and toxic couple friendships

🎯 Who Should Listen to This Episode? ✔️ Married couples seeking to strengthen their relationship ✔️ Couples experiencing communication challenges ✔️ Partners navigating major life transitions (new baby, job change, relocation) ✔️ Couples dealing with grief or loss ✔️ Engaged couples preparing for marriage ✔️ Marriage counselors and coaches looking for frameworks ✔️ Faith-based couples wanting Christian marriage guidance ✔️ Anyone who feels disconnected from their partner ✔️ Couples raising grandchildren or blended families ✔️ Listeners who enjoy authentic, vulnerable storytelling