Rae Alexandra and “Unsung Heroines,” Part 2 (S8E13)
Storied: San Francisco
In Part 2, we pick up where we left off in Part 1. We’re talking about Mission bars, and I share a story about the backroom at Delirium. Rae brings up similar stories of her own at places like Thee Parkside, and we agree that Parkside owner is the best. Rae shares a story that confirms it. She looks back on the years before she got her SSN grateful that Kerrang! allowed her to work. She says and I agree—those jobs don’t really exist anymore. The industry itself was misogynistic, but there was also a freedom to the job. They flew her to shows all over the place. And they paid her enough...
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Rae Alexandra and “Unsung Heroines,” Part 1 (S8E14)
Storied: San Francisco
Rae Alexandra has 35 stories to share with you, plus her own. In this Women’s History Month episode, meet and get to know Rae. She recently published a book with City Lights Publishing called Unsung Heroines: 35 Women Who Changed the Bay Area. It’s of course available at City Lights, but you can also find it at your local independent bookstore. I read the book and could not put it down. Only toward the end of the 35 essays did I start to recognize the women Rae features. I love history and I love learning and I have mixed feelings about the fact that there are so many rad women whose...
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What a Creep’s Sonia Mansfield, Part 3 (S8E13)
Storied: San Francisco
Part 3 picks up right where we left off in Part 2. While she was still working that real estate job, Sonia was treating dating like a part-time job. She signed up on several dating sites (this was before swipe apps like Bumble). She went on many awkward coffee dates. Then a friend introduced her to a guy, and the two hit it off right away. They were inseparable from the moment they met, in 2008. They moved in a couple months later. In 2010, they got married, and had a kid shortly after that. But in the middle of all this amazing life shit, Sonia was smacked with a breast cancer diagnosis. She...
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What a Creep’s Sonia Mansfield, Part 2 (S8E13)
Storied: San Francisco
In Part 2, we pick up where we left off in Part 1, with Sonia’s life right after her stint at community college. She left the Bay Area to attend college up north at Chico State. Widely known as a party school (perhaps rightly so?), they also had a reputable journalism department and an award-winning newspaper. This attracted Sonia, of course. But some friends also attended, and that didn’t hurt. Once in Chico, Sonia joined said college paper and got a job (where else?) at a movie theater. It was her first time to move out of her parents’ house. She lived with a couple of roommates in...
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What a Creep’s Sonia Mansfield, Part 1 (S8E13)
Storied: San Francisco
The story of Sonia Mansfield has roots in The Bay. In this episode, we meet and get to know my friend Sonia. She and I worked together at the Fangs’ Examiner back in the mid-2000s, and have been friends since. I loved her presence in the newsroom. I’d often listen to her make us all laugh from her A&E desk across the room. We’ve been through weddings, births, illness, divorces, and many, many beers together. These days, she hosts the , and I’m so glad you get to meet her now. We begin Part 1 with the story of Sonia’s parents. Her dad is from Richmond, California, and her mom is...
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Sad Francisco’s Toshio Meronek, Part 2 (S8E12)
Storied: San Francisco
In Part 2, we pick up where we left off in Part 1. Toshio talks about those chess players at Powell and Market and other early impressions of The City before they moved here. Having grown up in Orange County, with its underfunded public transit system, Toshio always wanted to live somewhere that had a subway. Being able to walk was important, too, in contrast with SoCal, where you pretty much need a vehicle to get anywhere. SF and The Bay checked those boxes. Like Part 1, this episode is rife with sidebars. I guess that’s just what happens when you get two people together who both like to...
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Sad Francisco’s Toshio Meronek, Part 1 (S8E12)
Storied: San Francisco
Toshio Meronek’s parents met at a bar. In this episode, meet and get to know Toshio. Today, they do , a really fucking amazing project that reports on and holds truth to power around here. I first became aware of Sad Francisco a few years ago and right away, I was struck by the deep reporting on and understanding of the many complex relationships and goings on in San Francisco and The Bay. And so I sat down with my fellow podcaster to get to know the human behind those efforts. Toshio’s story starts with their parents. That bar where they met was in Los Angeles. Shortly after meeting, the...
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Danielle Thoe, Sara Yergovich, and Rikki's, Part 2 (S8E11)
Storied: San Francisco
In Part 2, we hear the story of how Danielle and Sara met and eventually acted on the totally bananas (but shouldn’t be) idea of opening a women’s sports bar. Sara and her partner had just landed in San Francisco and fell right into a supportive community. Not that they didn’t have that back in the UK. But their friends there were starting to settle down and have kids, and that life wasn’t for them. Then we turn to the story of how Danielle and Sara met, on a soccer field, of course. An soccer field to be exact. Danielle was a leader in the queer nonprofit organization at the time, a...
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Danielle Thoe, Sara Yergovich, and Rikki’s, Part 1 (S8E11)
Storied: San Francisco
San Francisco has a women’s sports bar! In this episode, meet Danielle Thoe and Sara Yergovich. Together, they own and operate , a women’s sports bar on Market in the Castro. We’ll hear from Danielle and Sara about their early lives and how they made their way to San Francisco and became friends. We’ll also hear the story of why and how they opened The City’s first women’s sports bar, as well as the incredible woman they named it for. Most importantly, both Sara and Danielle (and me, Jeff) are Libras 😉. We start with Danielle. She grew up in Plymouth, Michigan, a suburb of...
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Kathy Fang, Part 2 (S8E10)
Storied: San Francisco
In Part 2, we pick up where we left off in Part 1. Kathy left her hometown of San Francisco for the first time to go to college at USC. Originally, she wanted to major in science. There was and perhaps still is a prevailing expectation in her culture to go into some sort of lucrative career. Surely, no one would want to go into the food business intentionally, so the trope goes. So Kathy set out to make her parents proud. Soon enough, though, she realized she doesn’t like science, and switched to becoming a business major. She earned a bachelor’s in entrepreneurship and operations and soon...
info_outlineThis one starts out a little differently. Ian Paratore was born and raised in San Francisco, but he’s moving away. This week. To Oakland.
Ian’s dad, Vince Paratore, moved into a Victorian in The Haight in the late-Seventies/early Eighties, and is still there. That’s the house Ian grew up in starting roughly 10 years later. Both of his parents are artists and teachers. His dad came to San Francisco from Syracuse, New York, to study photography at SF State. And his mom, Valerie O’Riordan, is from Long Beach in Southern California. She moved to The City to work with ACT (American Conservatory Theater).
The house at Page and Clayton is the only place Ian’s dad has lived in SF. I asked Ian whether he knows any stories from that house before he was born in the early Nineties. Both his parents being “natural hosts,” there were many parties. Nowadays, when his dad is out of town, Ian will sometimes have parties of his own at his dad’s place. When he does, he says his dad often offers up stories from back in the day. One involves a party with so many people already inside cramming a hallway, folks had to come and go via the first escape.
Back in the day, his dad was a general manager at restaurants like Stars, Donatello, Garibaldi’s, and Beach Chalet, which he helped open. Both his parents were big in the San Francisco restaurant scene.
We turn to Ian’s early life, which he experienced in the mid-Nineties to early 2000s. As a kid, and a kid without a backyard, he spent a lot of time in Golden Gate Park and The Panhandle. He hung out on playgrounds and basketball courts. He adds that “the craziness of Haight Street was just … normal.” I ask Ian about Skates on Haight, which I knew from my Eighties/Nineties skateboarding days from ads in magazines like Thrasher. (Marcella, who took photos for this episode and was with us at the table, chimes in at this point.)
Ian rattles off some spots from his childhood in The Haight—places like Gus’s before it was known as Gus’s, an Ethiopian restaurant, and a musical instrument store.
In high school, Ian got into visual arts and playing sports—mainly baseball and basketball. By the time he got to college, he played baseball “at a high level,” and art fell more or less by the wayside. More on that in Part 2. But during high school, though he took art classes, sports dominated his life.
We end Part 1 with Ian rattling off the San Francisco schools he went to. He did a stint at College of San Mateo (CSM) before getting into UC Berkeley, which was the first time he lived outside his childhood home. He had flirted with college on the East Coast before deciding to stay closer to home.
Check back Thursday for Part 2 with Ian. And join us tomorrow for a very special, timely bonus episode.
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We recorded this podcast at 540 Bar in the Inner Richmond in October 2025.
Photography by Marcella Sanchez