The Hidden Costs of Doing Nothing – Why Waiting in Limbo Might Be Hurting You
Release Date: 06/03/2025
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info_outline🎙️ Episode 198: The Hidden Costs of Doing Nothing – Why Waiting in Limbo Might Be Hurting You
🎧 Listen to This Episode If You:
🔁 Feel stuck or overwhelmed since separating
📅 Keep delaying property or parenting decisions
💔 Are hoping things might just “work out” without action
💸 Worry about legal costs or can’t afford a lawyer yet
🛑 Feel like taking action will start a fight
🚧 Want a plan but don’t know where to begin
🧭 Need clarity to move forward without fear
⚠️ Trigger Warning: Discussions include separation, family court, and financial and emotional abuse.
📌 Legal Disclaimer: General info only. Please get specific legal advice for your situation.
Separation is overwhelming—there’s grief, uncertainty, and a mountain of legal stuff no one feels ready for. But what happens when you do nothing? In this episode, I sit down with my mum Lyn (a family lawyer) to talk about the risks of delaying action after separation or divorce.
From financial pitfalls to missed opportunities and emotional burnout, we explore what it really costs to stay stuck in limbo. You’ll learn if waiting “until things settle down” can actually work against you—and how small steps today can protect your future.
If you’ve been unsure about where to start, afraid to rock the boat, or feeling too exhausted to make decisions, this episode is here to give you the clarity and confidence to take your first step.
⏱️ Episode Timeline:
0:00 – Trigger warning, legal disclaimer & welcome
1:30 – Why so many people stay stuck after separation
3:00 – What it feels like to be in post-separation “limbo”
4:45 – Common fears: lawyers, conflict, making the wrong move
6:10 – Emotional costs of doing nothing: guilt, stress, burnout
9:00 – Financial costs: how waiting can shrink your property pool
10:30 – Parenting: when not taking action can hurt your child’s stability
13:00 – False hope: thinking your ex will change or agree later
15:00 – How court views delays—and why judges may not be sympathetic
17:00 – Misconceptions that delay people from acting
20:00 – What to do if you’re scared of your ex’s reaction
22:30 – First steps you can take—without lawyers or court
25:00 – Why the DIY Divorce Blueprint was created for people in limbo
27:00 – Reassurance: you don’t have to figure it all out right now
28:30 – Final thoughts: permission to take action at your own pace
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