98. How Masculine-Feminine Polarity Teachings Undermine Intimacy
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Release Date: 11/02/2022
195. Everyday Intimacy with Erica Bove
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, MD and Erica Bove, MD discuss the concept of sensual awakening. Together, they explore the complexities of balancing a high-powered professional life with the emotional demands of romantic relationships, emphasizing nurturing connection despite hectic schedules and times apart. This episode provides a variety of practical strategies to help couples preserve intimacy and passion, even in the face of busyness and other common challenges. Also in this episode: Strategies and perspectives on keeping romance...
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194. Date Nights are Overrated
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, MD discusses how to reimagine date nights. She challenges conventional thinking and advocates for more intentional, meaningful relationship-building activities. This must-listen episode is perfect for any couple eager to strengthen their bond beyond routine and uninspired outings. Dr. Alexandra critiques the overly simplistic view of date nights as a magic cure-all for relationship woes and offers invaluable advice for couples at every stage—whether they’re struggling to find time for each other or looking to...
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193. Erotic Intimacy After 40
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the topic of erotic intimacy after 40 in the context of a captivating conversation with holistic health coach Leah Vachani. They explore the intricate dynamics of maintaining intimacy and passion in long-term relationships, particularly during and after menopause. Dr. Alexandra and Leah debunk the myth of libido mismatch, and explore the crucial roles of self-awareness and emotional intimacy, while covering practical strategies to rekindle desire and pleasure in the bedroom. The conversation emphasizes the...
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192. 5 Steps to Prevent Gray Divorce
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, dives into the importance of nurturing long-term relationships and how to prevent gray divorce, the term referring to divorce among older adults. She explains that having a fulfilling marriage requires constant attention and nurturing, much like tending to a garden. Dr. Alexandra dispels outdated myths about divorce rates and emphasizes the importance of ongoing learning and growth in a marriage. This episode is filled with practical tips and strategies to keep your marital connection vibrant and strong. Also in...
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191. The Problem with Having a Sexless Marriage
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the significance of sex in marriage and explores whether a sexless marriage can be a happy one. She breaks down the various dimensions of intimacy and connection within marriages, noting that societal trends show a decline in sexual activity. Even as collaborative companionship and emotional intimacy are crucial, the enriching experiences brought by sexual intimacy are invaluable. Dr. Stockwell notes that some couples attempt to overcome challenges and dissatisfaction in sex by opening their marriage, and...
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190. Enhancing Emotional Intimacy in Relationships with Coach Annie Lalla
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD and Annie Lalla discuss how to enhance emotional intimacy in relationships. Annie shares her insights on the importance of emotional fitness and how feelings manifest as physical sensations in the body. She describes subconscious fears that often keep couples from experiencing deeper intimacy, and provides actionable advice on overcoming these barriers. They also delve into the intricate dynamics of power within relationships, discussing how unresolved power imbalances can manifest as sexual disinterest or withholding....
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189. Unlock the Secrets of Female Orgasms
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD discusses female orgasms in great detail, in honor of National Orgasm Day. She explores the origins of the day, various types of orgasms, and the differences between "masculine" and "feminine" orgasms. She also explores different types of orgasms, emphasizing that the classification is based on the anatomy and physiology being stimulated. Dr. Alexandra speaks on one way to enhance orgasmic potential, namely slow, deep breathing, as she encourages listeners to explore new realms of erotic intimacy with their...
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188. Family First: Dr. Alexandra Stockwell’s Guide to Welcoming Your Future Son-in-Law
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD and her husband Rodd Stockwell, MD dive into the deeply personal territory of welcoming their future son-in-law into the family when he asked for their daughter's hand in marriage. They touch on the nuanced process of preparing for the conversation, the emotional dynamics involved, and the broader cultural and personal implications of such a significant exchange. Together, Dr Alexandra and Dr Rodd reflect on the experience knowing the importance of mutual respect and wanting to be intentional in meeting him with...
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187. Navigating Intimacy After Baby: Expert Tips for New Parents
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD unveils the secrets to rekindling passion and maintaining intimacy after baby. Dr. Alexandra is joined by Jessi Sletten from "Empowering Postpartum." Together they dive into the challenges new parents face, particularly in preserving intimacy and emotional connection during the postpartum period. Jessi and Dr. Alexandra explore how vulnerability and intentionality can profoundly impact marital happiness, especially when navigating the complexities of parenthood. They emphasize the importance of non-sexual physical touch,...
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186. How to Unlock the Secret to Feeling Desirable in Your Marriage
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, addresses the importance of feeling desirable in your marriage. Dr. Alexandra shares insights on how women can feel more desirable and desired within committed partnerships while emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and self-care; they are the foundations for creating vibrant, intimate connections with your spouse. She explains that feeling desirable is an inside job and offers practical strategies for women to enhance their intimate connections. Also in this episode: Feeling “desirable” is an...
info_outlineImplementing masculine and feminine polarity teachings prohibits the cultivation of uncompromising intimacy, because they place you in a particular role that inhibits the expression who you really are. This is an outdated view on relationships and ultimately undermines the idea that the tension between “masculine” and “feminine” ways of being creates erotic chemistry in a relationship. This usually is understood to mean that having a man embody masculine energy and a woman embody feminine energy (in a heteronormative relationship) will result in a wonderful marriage. It’s far more important to focus on your own authenticity and self-expression, rather than taking on a particular gender role.
In this episode, I discuss:
- How masculine and feminine roles have changed over the decades (including examples from my own relatives)
- Why I believe that masculine and feminine polarity teachings are extremely restrictive
- My client, Suzanne, who was hesitant to participate in coaching because she was so concerned about giving up who she is in order to fit into a “feminine” role (as she felt she would be losing herself in the process)
- When masculine and feminine polarity teachings ARE helpful in an intimate marriage
Resources referenced in this episode:
- Uncompromising Intimacy podcast episode
- Going Beyond the 5 Love Languages podcast episode
- Download the first chapter of my book, Uncompromising Intimacy
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About Alexandra Stockwell, MD
My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis.
For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom!
I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare.