124. Constructive Conflict: How We Can All Resolve Conflict Productively Today and Start Dismantling Racism For The Future | w/ Dr. Lynne Maureen Hurdle
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Release Date: 05/03/2023
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by her husband Dr. Rodd Stockwell, to unpack the art of problem-solving in marriage. They stress the importance of clearly identifying the type of conversation you’re having, whether it's venting, seeking emotional support, problem-solving, or something else. You need to know which kind of communication you need, and which kind of communication your spouse needs. When there’s a problem, before diving into practical solutions, it’s essential to address any emotional baggage first. Visualize yourselves sitting side by side, collaborating on the...
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Alexandra Stockwell, MD, shares heartfelt stories of couples she's coached and her thoughts on what makes a marriage last. From reigniting intimacy in a 21-year marriage to a couple's transformative journey after 27 years, these narratives inspire and inform. Alexandra encourages listeners to reflect on their own marital culture and emphasizes the importance of making a deliberate effort to foster a positive relationship within a marriage and within a family. She also provides insights and strategies to maintain focus and intentionality in long-lasting marriages, ways to reignite the spark and...
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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Intimacy Coach Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores the dynamics of genuine connection within marriages and how they can be influenced by two specific false archetypes of love. Delving beyond traditional roles, she navigates two common archetypes that hinder intimacy: the parent-child dynamic and the project manager approach. By embracing the essence of "being" over constant "doing," listeners learn to infuse presence into every interaction, fostering deeper relationships. The episode inspires self-awareness, promoting emotional growth and...
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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Intimacy Coach Dr. Alexandra Stockwell shares profound insights to help you recognize how varied compromise in marriage can be, and how to let it go. Instead, embrace uncompromising intimacy and all the lusciousness that comes with it! Discover the power of honoring and expressing your authentic desires, while respecting your partner's wishes. Learn how to break free from unconscious habits of compromise and foster transparent communication instead. Uncover the keys to building a collaborative and adult-to-adult relationship, deep emotional...
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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra delves into the topic of enhancing and enjoying your married sex life and how to go from just “good” to “absolutely great.” She emphasizes the importance of open and honest communication about sex, including sharing your personal experience and desires with your partner. Alexandra provides practical tips on how to initiate conversations about sex, such as starting with positive memories and desires. She also discusses the profound impact that talking about sex can have on emotional and physical intimacy in a long-lasting...
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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra shares a recording of an interview she did with Ruan Willow on her podcast. The episode explores topics such as uncompromising intimacy, libido mismatch, eroticism, and the importance of bringing all elements of oneself to a relationship, including heart, mind, and genitals. Ruan is an erotica author and a romance novelist, with a smooth silky voice. She’s comfortable talking about all aspects of sex and sexuality and asked some excellent questions, which makes for a deep, precise, and excellent conversation. Alexandra...
info_outlineIn this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Dr. Lynne Maureen Hurdle, a conflict resolution strategist. Conflict is inevitable and Lynne talks about how she helps people engage in constructive conflict, instead of running from it.
In this conversation the focus is on conflict in marriage, and in the workplace, between any two people and specifically interracial couples. Lynne recommends people engage in conversations with those they are in conflict with, aiming to be vulnerable and staying open to listening. She describes her program, On the Matter of Race, which was created to teach white people about racism and how to dismantle it. The program was inspired by a request from two white women who wanted to understand the experiences of people of color, and how to be effective allies. Lynne clearly articulates the need for white people to understand their role in addressing and dismantling racism and has devoted her life to helping make that happen, at both the personal and societal levels.
Also in this episode:
- Why conflict presents an opportunity
- Why we are scared of conflict
- Racism and interracial marriages
- The merging of the present moment and personal history
- Dr. Lynne’s program called “On The Matter Of Race”
- Why racism is global
- Diversity, equity, and inclusion
- How to be an ally to others in the workplace
About Dr. Lynne Maureen Hurdle
Dr. Lynne Maureen Hurdle is a conflict resolution strategist, facilitator, speaker, and coach. In addition, she is the author of the best-seller, “Closing Conflict for Leaders: How to Be a Bold Leader and Develop a Kick-Ass, High-Functioning, Happy AF Team”. In many circles, she is known as The Conflict Closer, not just because she helps leaders gain the skills they need to dig deep and finally close the door on those conflicts that have been plaguing their business for too long, but also because she helps bring conflict closer. She helps you bring conflict close enough to examine its roots, the fruits of it, and the long-lasting effects it has on your business and your life. She makes it less scary by helping you to actually see it, get to know it, and be in a relationship with it. Because it is only then that you can use it to help you and your team transform. She has helped a lot of people transform in her thirty-plus years of doing this work and that’s because, through a mix of different styles and methods, she makes it interesting and fun.
Connect With Dr. Lynne Maureen Hurdle
Website: https://lynnemaureenhurdle.com/
On the Matter of Race: https://theconflictcloser.com/matter-of-race
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About Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” Alexandra Stockwell, MD is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach and an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching ambitious, successful couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.
For over two decades, she’s been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!