126. Reframing Our Approach To Sexual Intimacy In Terms of Expectations, Stigmas, and STDs: Holistic Sexual Health From A Family Medicine Physician and Sex Coach | With Dr. Tiff Cagle
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Release Date: 05/17/2023
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, MD discusses how to reimagine date nights. She challenges conventional thinking and advocates for more intentional, meaningful relationship-building activities. This must-listen episode is perfect for any couple eager to strengthen their bond beyond routine and uninspired outings. Dr. Alexandra critiques the overly simplistic view of date nights as a magic cure-all for relationship woes and offers invaluable advice for couples at every stage—whether they’re struggling to find time for each other or looking to...
info_outline 193. Erotic Intimacy After 40The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the topic of erotic intimacy after 40 in the context of a captivating conversation with holistic health coach Leah Vachani. They explore the intricate dynamics of maintaining intimacy and passion in long-term relationships, particularly during and after menopause. Dr. Alexandra and Leah debunk the myth of libido mismatch, and explore the crucial roles of self-awareness and emotional intimacy, while covering practical strategies to rekindle desire and pleasure in the bedroom. The conversation emphasizes the...
info_outline 192. 5 Steps to Prevent Gray DivorceThe Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, dives into the importance of nurturing long-term relationships and how to prevent gray divorce, the term referring to divorce among older adults. She explains that having a fulfilling marriage requires constant attention and nurturing, much like tending to a garden. Dr. Alexandra dispels outdated myths about divorce rates and emphasizes the importance of ongoing learning and growth in a marriage. This episode is filled with practical tips and strategies to keep your marital connection vibrant and strong. Also in...
info_outline 191. The Problem with Having a Sexless MarriageThe Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the significance of sex in marriage and explores whether a sexless marriage can be a happy one. She breaks down the various dimensions of intimacy and connection within marriages, noting that societal trends show a decline in sexual activity. Even as collaborative companionship and emotional intimacy are crucial, the enriching experiences brought by sexual intimacy are invaluable. Dr. Stockwell notes that some couples attempt to overcome challenges and dissatisfaction in sex by opening their marriage, and...
info_outline 190. Enhancing Emotional Intimacy in Relationships with Coach Annie LallaThe Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
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info_outline 189. Unlock the Secrets of Female OrgasmsThe Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD discusses female orgasms in great detail, in honor of National Orgasm Day. She explores the origins of the day, various types of orgasms, and the differences between "masculine" and "feminine" orgasms. She also explores different types of orgasms, emphasizing that the classification is based on the anatomy and physiology being stimulated. Dr. Alexandra speaks on one way to enhance orgasmic potential, namely slow, deep breathing, as she encourages listeners to explore new realms of erotic intimacy with their...
info_outline 188. Family First: Dr. Alexandra Stockwell’s Guide to Welcoming Your Future Son-in-LawThe Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD and her husband Rodd Stockwell, MD dive into the deeply personal territory of welcoming their future son-in-law into the family when he asked for their daughter's hand in marriage. They touch on the nuanced process of preparing for the conversation, the emotional dynamics involved, and the broader cultural and personal implications of such a significant exchange. Together, Dr Alexandra and Dr Rodd reflect on the experience knowing the importance of mutual respect and wanting to be intentional in meeting him with...
info_outline 187. Navigating Intimacy After Baby: Expert Tips for New ParentsThe Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD unveils the secrets to rekindling passion and maintaining intimacy after baby. Dr. Alexandra is joined by Jessi Sletten from "Empowering Postpartum." Together they dive into the challenges new parents face, particularly in preserving intimacy and emotional connection during the postpartum period. Jessi and Dr. Alexandra explore how vulnerability and intentionality can profoundly impact marital happiness, especially when navigating the complexities of parenthood. They emphasize the importance of non-sexual physical touch,...
info_outline 186. How to Unlock the Secret to Feeling Desirable in Your MarriageThe Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, addresses the importance of feeling desirable in your marriage. Dr. Alexandra shares insights on how women can feel more desirable and desired within committed partnerships while emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and self-care; they are the foundations for creating vibrant, intimate connections with your spouse. She explains that feeling desirable is an inside job and offers practical strategies for women to enhance their intimate connections. Also in this episode: Feeling “desirable” is an...
info_outline 185. Balancing Stress and Intimacy: Secrets to a Harmonious Love LifeThe Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, delves into the crucial topic of balancing stress and intimacy in relationships. She discusses the importance of deeper connections to create more passionate relationships and provides tips on cultivating emotional intimacy and other common issues faced by most couples. Dr. Alexandra answers a series of listener questions, covering topics such as enjoying intimacy while managing multiple external stressors, reviving a sexless partnership, reconnecting with desire after an emotional upheaval, and exploring...
info_outlineIn this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Dr. Tiff Cagle, a board-certified family medicine physician, sex educator, and coach. Dr. Cagle talks about her passion for providing care through the lens of a person's mind, body, intimacy, relationships, and community.
Dr. Cagle also shares her experience in decreasing stigma around sex and providing HIV testing and counseling. Dr. Cagle discusses sexual concerns including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, orgasm difficulties, desire discrepancies, and living with sexually transmitted infections. She also provides tips on how to manage herpes in a committed relationship and describes the start-stop method for overcoming premature ejaculation. Dr. Cagle emphasizes the importance of clarifying expectations and refining perceptions when navigating sexual concerns.
Also in this episode:
- The importance of mentorship and sexual health
- How to deal with sexual health concerns like Herpes
- Treating premature ejaculation and discussing it with your partner
- The three principles of sensate focus in sex therapy
- The importance of undressing yourself when being intimate
- How partners can start touching one another
- The first three phases of sexual exploration
About Dr. Tiff Cagle
Tiff Cagle, MD (she/they/Dr.) is a board-certified family medicine physician, sex educator, and certified coach from Durham, North Carolina. Like many others, she grew up in an environment where conversations about sex were rare and almost always centered around shame. Through challenging the sex-negative attitudes she was taught, she developed a passion for helping others feel empowered to embrace their authentic self.
Dr. Cagle chose to specialize in family medicine because of her desire to provide care through the lens of each person’s mind, body, relationships, and community. After years of traditional medical practice, she’s now bringing this holistic approach to her work in sexual health. She received her medical degree from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill School of Medicine, where she first discovered her passion for decreasing stigma around sex while providing HIV testing and counseling. She went on to complete her residency training at Duke University Hospital with a concentration in Law, Ethics, and Health Policy, and now holds a consulting position in Duke’s Department of Community and Family Medicine providing resident lectures and mentorship.
Contact Dr. Tiff Cagle
Website: https://sensatehealthnc.com/
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Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully. www.alignedhotmarriage.com
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About Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” Alexandra Stockwell, MD is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach and an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching ambitious, successful couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.
For over two decades, she’s been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!