Cracking the Luxury Code: How to Start Networking with High-End Wedding Planners
Release Date: 05/08/2025
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In this episode, I pull back the curtain on what actually builds trust with high-end planners, how to navigate the “Catch-22” of not having luxury work yet, and how to start making meaningful connections with planners who are aligned with where you are now.
Plus, I share:
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A real-life email that got me a rave review from a luxury planner
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My exact framework for building planner relationships post-wedding
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A mindset shift that will change the way you network for good
Whether you’re just starting your journey into high-end weddings or you’ve been stuck in the middle market for too long, this episode will help you get in the room—the right way.