The Cuban Missile Crisis of Burlesque w/ Tito Bonito
Release Date: 03/18/2026
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info_outlineTito Bonito is an international burlesque performer, host and instructor originally from Miami, Florida where he knew he was gay before he even knew how babies were made… and learned most of the rest through TLC, the Spice Girls, and sheer curiosity.
Catch Tito and I talkin’ some real shit reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck
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Where to find Tito:
Instagram: @cubanmissilecrisis | Links: https://www.titobonito.com/links
Where to find Arielle:
Insta: @ariellezadok // @birdsandbeesdontfck
TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck
Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon:
- STORY 1: My (31F) husband (33M) of four years doesn’t take our role playing seriously when we have sex. He purposely takes his characters way over the top.
- STORY 2: AITA for dropping our dinner on the ground and walking out when my boyfriend asked me "What's for dinner tonight, b*tch?"
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Episode Cheat Sheet:
03:07 Shadowbanning, algorithms and why sex educators need Patreon
07:00 Demisexuality, graysexuality and why dating apps don’t work for everyone
09:14 Friends who fuck, play communities and chosen family
10:41 Why hookup culture looks different for women, femmes and men
12:45 The dream of a hookup app for women and femmes
18:31 Why talking about sex openly matters
20:00 Therapy, curiosity and emotional intelligence in relationships
23:07 Why getting “dicked down” can improve your mood
24:22 Prostate pleasure, anal play and why butt toys need a stopper
27:05 Lube 101: silicone vs water based and toy safety
29:31 Gooning, masturbation and slowing down sexual experiences
31:40 Subspace, rope play and erotic trance states
36:18 Growing up gay in Miami and early memories of sexuality
40:52 Masculinity, machismo and emotionally healthy men
46:22 Why it’s harder for men to seek emotional or sexual support
49:36 The performance of masculinity and learning sensuality
53:55 Why monogamy puts pressure on one partner to meet every sexual need
57:35 Men in burlesque and how Tito found the stage
59:27 The early burlesque scene and performing masculine tropes
01:03:44 Why burlesque is political, comedic and deeply sex positive
01:06:03 Giving audiences permission to explore sexuality
01:08:20 Consent culture and why burlesque spaces teach boundaries