Birds And Bees Don't Fck
We can all agree that the whole birds and bees thing was a lie, right? When it came to learning about sex, we were all left to our own devices (or lack thereof!) yet somehow we made it through! Join Sex Educator & Intimacy Coordinator Arielle Zadok as she talks comedians and sexperts about how they learned about sex, and share what they know now. No matter what type of upbringing you had, we've got a story you can relate to!
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Purity Culture and Fascism Are Very Good Friends w/ Erica Smith
05/13/2026
Purity Culture and Fascism Are Very Good Friends w/ Erica Smith
Erica Smith is an award-winning sexuality educator, advocate, and author from rural Pennsylvania, where she grew up casually Christian, went to public school, learned sex ed from a gym teacher, and somehow became the most responsible teenage sexual health nerd with birth control, condoms, spermicide, and library books before having sex for the first time. In this episode we talk about purity culture, religious sexual shame, high-control groups, Christian nationalism, marital consent, “duty sex,” the pressure placed on both women and men in evangelical purity teachings, and why healing from purity culture is not just about learning sex ed, but reconnecting to your body, your signals, your autonomy, and your right to desire without fear. Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Want to hear Reddit stories? Join the afterparty over on Patreon! Where to find Erica: Website: Instagram / Threads: Book: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Like my cuffs AND my vibrator necklace? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 00:37 Why purity culture impacts everyone regardless of religious upbringing 02:01 Reclaiming spiritual language, God, universe, source, and finding meaning outside of shame 03:35 Erica's rural Pennsylvania upbringing and not coming from purity culture or evangelical Christianity 06:52 Conservative Judaism, kosher, Shabbat, fear of God, and the god of religious sexual shame 10:13 Why controlling sex is the central power tool in high-control groups and cults 13:15 Twin Flames, New Age purity culture, divine feminine and masculine, and forced relationship roles 15:11 Non-monogamy, the one-person mythology, and not knowing ethical non-monogamy was an option 18:22 The pressure on children to save souls and why evangelical recruitment causes anxiety 20:15 AIDS education, high school sex ed, birth control, Cosmo handouts, and a raw egg as a fake baby 23:35 Family planning at 16, condoms, spermicide, Planned Parenthood, teen pregnancy, and pre-internet sex ed 26:03 Curiosity as the common thread among sex educators and talking explicitly with friends about sex 30:26 From women's studies to abortion clinic counselor, September 11th, anti-abortion terrorism, and fake anthrax 33:46 Seventeen years doing sex ed and HIV prevention with incarcerated youth in Philadelphia juvenile detention 35:09 Exvangelicals, deconstruction, the 2016 election, and the mass exodus from evangelical Christianity 39:28 Wedding night trauma, the flip-the-switch expectation, marital rape, duty sex, and long-term sexual dysfunction 43:09 Consent in marriage, the every-72-hours myth, Christian patriarchy, and denying women the right to say no 46:14 Rape culture, dissociation, blaming wives for husbands cheating, and the harm purity culture does to men 48:41 Duty sex, maintenance sex, intimacy dates, responsive desire, and why sex should never be expected 50:06 Men in purity culture, being taught you are a sex demon, bounce your eyes, and associating desire with disrespect 53:01 How purity culture silences body signals around consent, danger, hunger, and attraction — and somatic healing 56:08 Why purity culture is not a thing of the past, Christian nationalism, fascism, voting, and bodily autonomy 01:01:07 Where to find Erica Smith, The Purity Culture Recovery Guide, and purity culture recovery support groups
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A Condom For A Cheeto w/ Alex Gay
05/06/2026
A Condom For A Cheeto w/ Alex Gay
Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Alex Gay is a certified intimacy and relationship coach and adult performer from Maryland, where his sex education came from homeschooling, evangelical purity culture, and two conversations with his dad that left him wondering if condoms were worth trading for Cheetos. In this episode we talk about growing up in a religious high-control group, shame as a clue to desire, what kink actually means, why so many men are expected to magically know how to be good in bed, and how Alex went from purity culture to helping queer people, couples, and curious adults feel more confident exploring sex, intimacy, kink, and their own bodies. Want to hear Alex and I unfiltered reading Reddit stories? Join the afterparty over on Patreon! Where to find Alex: Instagram: TikTok: Website: https://heyalexgay.com/ Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: Am I the Asshole for Breaking Up With My Girlfriend After She Wanted Our Relationship to Be Pussy Free? STORY 2: My Husband Needs to Touch My Breasts to Fall Asleep. I’m Exhausted and Need a Divorce. Am I the Asshole? STORY 3: Am I the Asshole for Breaking Up With My Girlfriend Because She Literally Told Me She Would Cheat on Me If I Took a New Job? Like my cuffs AND my vibrator necklace? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 00:00 Meet Alex Gay, certified intimacy coach and adult performer 02:23 Adult entertainment, OnlyFans, and why spicy content builds coaching trust 04:48 Coaching sexual confidence, kink, communication, and why sex education is lifelong 05:30 The pressure on cis straight men to magically know how to be good in bed 07:01 Why "normal" does not exist when it comes to sex, bodies, and kink 08:10 Shame as a clue to desire and how taboo shapes what turns us on 10:20 Growing up in Maryland inside an evangelical high-control group 11:44 Homeschool sex ed, Christian sex books, condoms, and the Cheeto trade 16:17 Sleepovers, curiosity, and why honest sex education changes everything 19:30 Boy moms vs. moms who have boys and the emotional weight placed on sons 22:00 Leaving religion, hitting rock bottom, and finding inherent self-worth 25:16 Men's mental health, masculinity, and why 60 men die by suicide every hour 29:28 Queer sex education, coaching, and what gay male coaches bring to the table 31:46 Play parties, group scenes, body confidence, ethical porn, and real naked bodies 38:25 Alex's first OnlyFans videos, strip interviews, and modeling non-sexual intimacy 44:00 Course creation, ADHD, and why the labor of pleasure cannot be on your partner 49:21 Coaching couples, high-mileage questions, and becoming your own sex detective 56:32 Dr. Tush aftercare products, butt play recovery, and kink aftercare 01:00:00 Bonus Reddit stories and where to find Alex Gay
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Purity Culture Sets Us Up for Failure w/ Reuben Johnson
04/29/2026
Purity Culture Sets Us Up for Failure w/ Reuben Johnson
Reuben Johnson is one half of FlyDuo, a husband-and-wife team behind the pleasure-forward platform SexTech n' Chill, originally from the suburbs of Boston where growing up in a strict religious environment meant sex education was mostly abstinence, shame and silence. In this episode we talk about purity culture, abstinence-only sex education and how religious messaging around sex can leave people completely unprepared for real intimacy. We get into the science behind pleasure, why nervous system regulation matters in the bedroom, the myth of “think about baseball” when people struggle with performance anxiety, and how honest conversations about sex can actually help protect people from harm. We also talk about building a pleasure-centered relationship, the work Reuben and his wife are doing with SexTech n' Chill, and why comprehensive sex education is still so controversial in the United States. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! or _________________________________________________ Where to find Reuben: SexTech n' Chill: FlyDuo: Instagram: YouTube: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Love jewelry that doubles as a vibrator? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 02:10 Museum of Sex panel and meeting other sex educators 04:02 Consent, body language and what animals teach us about boundaries 08:36 Trauma responses, fawning and reading nonverbal cues 11:05 Nervous system regulation, anxiety and grounding techniques 15:02 Communication, emotional safety and better sex 19:11 Performance anxiety and why “think about baseball” is terrible sex advice 22:05 Vulnerability, trust and sexual confidence in relationships 24:40 Growing up in Boston and avoiding sex education conversations 26:40 Religious purity culture and sexual shame 29:10 The first real sex education class in high school 31:03 Condoms, lube and the basics abstinence-only programs skip 33:28 Why abstinence-only sex education leaves people unprepared 34:15 Dr. Joycelyn Elders and the fight for comprehensive sex education 36:01 Why pleasure and eroticism challenge systems of control 41:00 Social media censorship and the fight for online sex education 46:54 Porn history, kink and the evolution of sexuality 52:20 Wedding night sex after purity culture 55:50 Building Sex Tech & Chill and pleasure-centered relationships
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I Need You To Say Blue Balls w/ Ginger Koehler
04/22/2026
I Need You To Say Blue Balls w/ Ginger Koehler
Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Ginger Koehler is a sex educator, columnist and speaker from the Midwest where her earliest “sex talk” happened over mac and cheese at a McAlister’s… and ended with her bursting into tears when her mom explained what a period was. In this episode we talk about what it actually means to study sex academically, why people confidently give terrible sex advice online, and the moment Ginger realized she wanted to build a career translating complex sex science into language normal humans can understand. We also get into missionary position myths, writing about sex for a living, and why curiosity might be the most important sexual skill anyone can have. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! _________________________________________________ Where to find Ginger: Instagram: Ginger & Spice Podcast: Substack: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Like spicy jewelry? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 02:51 How Ginger became a sex educator and sex columnist 04:28 Studying sexuality academically vs learning from experience 06:24 “I need you to say blue balls” and translating sex science into normal language 09:43 Epididymal hypertension vs “blue balls” and sexual slang explained 12:08 Why bad sex advice spreads so easily online 14:12 Sex myths people still believe about bodies and pleasure 18:04 Missionary position myths and why “boring” sex positions can actually be great 21:10 How sexual expectations shape dating and relationships 23:10 Writing about sex vs talking about sex publicly 27:28 Thoughtful sex vs performative sex culture 31:44 The moment Ginger decided to study sexuality academically 35:21 Getting the “period talk” over mac and cheese at McAlister’s 38:47 Growing up shy about sex and becoming a public sex educator 41:09 Why comprehensive sex education still scares people 45:07 What comprehensive sex education actually teaches 49:12 Why curiosity is the most underrated sexual skill 52:38 What age-appropriate sex education really means
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Wait… Is This A Kinky Dinner Party? w/ Maurice James
04/15/2026
Wait… Is This A Kinky Dinner Party? w/ Maurice James
Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Maurice James is a comedian, host, actor, and co-creator of Kinky Comedy from Jackson, Mississippi where his formal sex education came from an Episcopalian school science class taught by a teacher who carried a petrified bull testicle cane… and where sex ed mostly felt like mitosis and meiosis rather than anything connected to his own body. Want to her Maurice and I unfiltered reading Reddit stories? Join the afterparty over on Patreon! Where to find Maurice: Instagram: & Kinky Comedy: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: My life has imploded. Husband 29M slept with my mom 55F right before we got married two years ago. STORY 2: I told my girlfriend I sometimes think about other girls during sex and she lost it Like your jewlery a bit kinky? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 02:32 The origin of Kinky Comedy and bringing kink and comedy together 04:11 Why being a good Dom requires communication, trust and emotional intelligence 08:14 Yes / No / Maybe lists and negotiating kink scenes 10:33 Why sex is like producing a film or planning a journey 12:57 Rope bondage, body awareness and communicating boundaries 15:08 Practicing “no” and learning to hold boundaries 19:11 Maurice’s unexpected introduction to kink at a Tinder dinner party 21:21 Why kink communities value clarity and communication 23:41 Shame, sexuality and the fear of being rejected by community 25:59 Coming out as kinky and the real career risks involved 30:39 Authenticity, privilege and living a fully expressed life 37:37 Growing up in Jackson, Mississippi 39:53 Sex education in religious private school 42:11 Why sex education needs to be ongoing and age appropriate 44:31 Abstinence education and the harm of ignoring sexuality 48:23 High school sex culture, late bloomers and learning from friends 50:23 Munches, kink community and finding people on the same journey 52:06 Losing a job, breakup and starting stand-up comedy 54:05 Building Kinky Comedy from a backyard show to a touring production 57:55 Community support and watching creative projects grow 59:58 Producing a show vs developing as a comedian 01:01:37 Comedy etiquette and why audiences shouldn’t film comedians
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A Real Good Sex Guy w / Justin Herman
04/08/2026
A Real Good Sex Guy w / Justin Herman
Justin Herman is a television director and producer, internationally touring stand-up comedian, and co-creator of Kinky Comedy originally from Albany, New York where his formal sex education consisted of one awkward school lesson separating boys and girls, a confusing anatomical chart, and a diner conversation with his dad about “the birds and the bees” that definitely did NOT cover kink. In this episode we talk about the lifestyle community, kink and non-monogamy, how Kinky Comedy accidentally became a hub for sexually liberated audiences, the anthropology of play parties, why lifestyle spaces tend to create deeper friendships, and what happens when kinky jokes collide with vanilla comedy crowds. We also get into porn magazines as early sex education, polyamory as emotional calculus, consent culture in BDSM communities, and the surprisingly wholesome reality of seeing your friends thrive in sexually open environments. Then, Justin and I go deep reading Reddit stories over on Patreon! Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: ___________________________________________ Where to find Justin: Instagram: Kinky Comedy: Website: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: Am I the asshole for wanting my girl to do more cleaning around the apartment? STORY 2: Am I the asshole for banning my sister’s boyfriend from my house and closing the door in his face? Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: _____________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet 02:05 What Kinky Comedy is and how it started 06:40 What “the lifestyle” actually means (kink, BDSM and non-monogamy) 09:10 Why women watching male-male porn often feel safer and more connected to the pleasure 11:15 Building community through sex-positive comedy shows 15:50 Why kinky jokes bomb in vanilla comedy rooms 18:20 XBIZ, adult industry spaces and sexual openness 20:40 Seeing your friends have sex and what it teaches about personality 23:00 The anthropology of play parties and lifestyle spaces 25:15 Why polyamory requires extreme emotional intelligence 27:30 Body positivity, vulvas and seeing real bodies in lifestyle spaces 29:35 Why naked confidence makes everyone hotter 31:50 Consent culture and why lifestyle spaces prioritize women’s comfort 34:05 Negotiation vs coercion in kink and BDSM dynamics 36:00 The Orgy Dome at Burning Man and radical consent practices 38:10 Why people attend play parties without having sex 40:13 Justin’s real sex education: awkward school lessons and the diner birds-and-bees talk 42:20 Porn magazines as early sex education for teenage boys 46:30 Why boys looking at porn together is its own weird cultural ritual 49:40 Punching down in comedy and evolving standards in humor 54:15 Why comedy should evolve as society evolves 56:30 The origin of the “real good sex guy” title 58:50 Growing Kinky Comedy into a real community event
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What Porn Taught Hollywood About Sex Scenes w/ Lotus Lain
04/01/2026
What Porn Taught Hollywood About Sex Scenes w/ Lotus Lain
Lotus Lain is an adult performer, producer, intimacy coordinator and sex worker advocate originally from California’s Central Valley where growing up in a small town meant most of her real sex education came later through curiosity, the internet, and eventually working in the adult industry itself. In this episode we talk about the unexpected overlap between porn and Hollywood, how the adult industry approached consent, boundaries and choreography long before mainstream film and television caught up, and why productions eventually realized they needed intimacy coordinators. We also get into mentorship in the adult industry, what actually happens on set when filming sex scenes, and why performers deserve experts guiding those moments. Catch Lotus and I gettin’ real reading Reddit stories over on Patreon! Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: ____________________________________________________ Where to find Lotus: Instagram: TikTok: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Organizations we support: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: My husband (37M) has been seeing other women and I (36F) don't know if I should give him another chance. What would you do? STORY 2: AIO? My daughter didn’t listen to the teacher during a female emergency and is now receiving a referral Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: ___________________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet: 02:29 Growing up in California’s Central Valley 04:28 Discovering the adult industry 06:36 Mentorship and “porn mom” lineage 08:45 Consent and boundaries on adult film sets 10:55 The logistics of filming sex scenes 13:18 Why Hollywood eventually needed intimacy coordinators 15:31 Differences between porn sets and traditional film sets 17:38 Choreographing realistic sex scenes 19:54 Why actors need experts guiding intimate scenes 22:15 Performer advocacy and safety on set 24:35 The rise of intimacy coordination in Hollywood 26:58 What film productions still get wrong about sex scenes 28:40 Why sex workers understand boundaries and consent 30:41 Supporting performers during vulnerable scenes 33:01 Changing the culture of filming intimacy
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Where There's A Will, There's A Fcking Way w/ Aimee Latta
03/25/2026
Where There's A Will, There's A Fcking Way w/ Aimee Latta
Aimee Latta is a certified embodied intimacy and relationship coach and the host of the podcast Come Talk With Aimee, originally from Utah where the best sex education she got was a fifth grade presentation from a very enthusiastic husband and wife team… followed by years of abstinence-only education and a very graphic childbirth video meant to scare everyone into never having sex. In this episode we talk about growing up in Utah, abstinence-only sex education, Mormon purity culture, and what happens when the only messaging around sex is prevention instead of pleasure. We also get into Aimee’s journey from working in public health policy to becoming an intimacy and relationship coach helping people reconnect with their bodies, their pleasure, and their partners. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: _________________________________________________ Where to find Aimee: Instagram: TikTok: Podcast: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode cheat sheet: 00:46 Starting a sex podcast and talking about sex publicly 03:22 Why talking about sex still feels taboo 05:18 How Aimee started the Come Talk With Aimee podcast 10:00 Being a public voice in sex education and intimacy coaching 18:54 From public health policy to becoming an intimacy coach 28:12 Growing up in Utah with abstinence-only sex education 34:57 BYU rules, Mormon purity culture, and sex before marriage 47:42 Mormon garments, religion, and sexuality 49:21 Becoming a sex and relationship coach 53:52 Painful sex in marriage and rediscovering pleasure 59:57 Why couples struggle to talk openly about sex
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The Cuban Missile Crisis of Burlesque w/ Tito Bonito
03/18/2026
The Cuban Missile Crisis of Burlesque w/ Tito Bonito
Tito Bonito is an international burlesque performer, host and instructor originally from Miami, Florida where he knew he was gay before he even knew how babies were made… and learned most of the rest through TLC, the Spice Girls, and sheer curiosity. Catch Tito and I talkin’ some real shit reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: _________________________________________________ Where to find Tito: Instagram: | Links: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // TikTok: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: My (31F) husband (33M) of four years doesn’t take our role playing seriously when we have sex. He purposely takes his characters way over the top. STORY 2: AITA for dropping our dinner on the ground and walking out when my boyfriend asked me "What's for dinner tonight, b*tch?" Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: ________________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet: 03:07 Shadowbanning, algorithms and why sex educators need Patreon 07:00 Demisexuality, graysexuality and why dating apps don’t work for everyone 09:14 Friends who fuck, play communities and chosen family 10:41 Why hookup culture looks different for women, femmes and men 12:45 The dream of a hookup app for women and femmes 18:31 Why talking about sex openly matters 20:00 Therapy, curiosity and emotional intelligence in relationships 23:07 Why getting “dicked down” can improve your mood 24:22 Prostate pleasure, anal play and why butt toys need a stopper 27:05 Lube 101: silicone vs water based and toy safety 29:31 Gooning, masturbation and slowing down sexual experiences 31:40 Subspace, rope play and erotic trance states 36:18 Growing up gay in Miami and early memories of sexuality 40:52 Masculinity, machismo and emotionally healthy men 46:22 Why it’s harder for men to seek emotional or sexual support 49:36 The performance of masculinity and learning sensuality 53:55 Why monogamy puts pressure on one partner to meet every sexual need 57:35 Men in burlesque and how Tito found the stage 59:27 The early burlesque scene and performing masculine tropes 01:03:44 Why burlesque is political, comedic and deeply sex positive 01:06:03 Giving audiences permission to explore sexuality 01:08:20 Consent culture and why burlesque spaces teach boundaries
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Everyone Wants To Be A Cult Leader w/ Jimanekia Ebon
03/11/2026
Everyone Wants To Be A Cult Leader w/ Jimanekia Ebon
Join the watch party LIVE AT FIVE on YouTube: Jimanekia Eborn is a trauma specialist, sexuality educator, survivor advocate, co-owner of Cintima, and founder of the nonprofit Tending the Garden, originally from Riverside, California where she actually DID received sex education multiple times growing up… but was any of it good? Absolutely not. In this episode we talk about grief, trauma work, modern dating struggles, sex education failures, intimacy coordination, professional wrestling (yes, I mean that), mental health, and why community and safe spaces are essential for connection and pleasure. Catch Jimanekia and I reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: AITA for cancelling mother's day celebration that I arranged for my wife after hearing what she told my son? STORY 2: AIO if I end my relationship because my bf kisses and tells me he loves me before leaving for work in the morning? Where to find Jimanekia: Instagram: Cintima Training: Nonprofit: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // TikTok: Patreon: Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet & Index: 00:09 Intro 02:30 Imposter syndrome and starting the podcast 05:00 Jimanekia’s work in professional wrestling mental health 08:30 Losing her father and navigating grief 10:20 The power of laughter during difficult moments 12:10 Community, connection, and safe spaces during the pandemic 15:15 Dating apps and the loss of real connection 17:45 Nervous systems, safety, and intimacy 20:00 Protecting your peace and sexual boundaries 21:40 Working in sex education and consent culture 23:00 Growing up in Riverside, California 23:50 Early sex education experiences 25:30 Sneaking HBO and learning from Real Sex and Loveline 29:00 Why representation in sex education matters 31:20 Finding community in the sex industry 33:30 Boundaries and accountability in sexuality spaces 36:00 How Jimanekia got into intimacy coordination training 40:30 Building Cintima and training intimacy coordinators 44:00 Working across trauma care, media, and sexuality education 47:00 Play parties, consent culture, and power dynamics 49:30 Weird and wonderful jobs in the sexuality industry 51:00 Learning about sex through books and curiosity 54:00 Balancing multiple careers in sexuality work 58:30 Why asking for help matters
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Cute Butt Stuff w/ Whitaker Cohen
03/04/2026
Cute Butt Stuff w/ Whitaker Cohen
Whitaker Cohen is the Founder and CEO of Amore Sui, originally from the East Coast where despite having a mom who worked for Planned Parenthood she still received plenty of medical sex education without any lessons on pleasure. We talk about terrible sex education, orgasm myths, squirting, consent, power dynamics, and how Whitaker went from a few bad anal experiences to launching a company designing beginner friendly butt plugs specifically for women. Catch Whitaker and I reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! Episode cheat sheet: 00:38 Meeting Whitaker Cohen 05:23 Growing up with Planned Parenthood sex education 09:55 Goal oriented sex vs pleasure 12:14 Squirting myths 16:59 What sex education actually teaches 19:23 The clitoris and missing research 24:07 The “blue balls” myth 28:38 Consent, fawning, and sexual assault 33:10 Power dynamics and sex 37:52 Discovering anal pleasure 40:03 Starting Amore Sui 44:28 Designing a beginner friendly butt plug 49:09 Why most butt plugs are badly designed 53:43 Launching a sex toy company 58:01 Reddit story teaser Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: I found my fiancés sex tape with my stepmother. We're supposed to get married in two weeks. STORY 2: AITA for locking up my stuff so my wife will not touch it Where to find Whitaker: Instagram: Get 10% off your oder: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // TikTok: // Patreon: Like my cuffs? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:
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Birds & Bees Don't Read Reddit w/ Elisa Ellis (Bonus Episode)
03/03/2026
Birds & Bees Don't Read Reddit w/ Elisa Ellis (Bonus Episode)
to access the full episode. It's here! Our very first bonus episode of Birds & Bees Don't Read Reddit and I'm starting this adventure with none other than comedian Elisa Ellis who also happens to get the most unhinged versions of me in real life. This episode is WILD ya'll. Here are the stories, only available on Patreon: Story 1: I just found out that I'm a mistress...of 4 years. OMG. How do I tell her? 48M/36F Story 2: My 43f husbands 46m affair partner 19f is pregnant doesn’t know the baby’s father and I don’t know where to begin with fixing this Story 3: AITA For suing my girlfriend after she had my 1967 impala project taken to the scrapyard? Honestly, this was one hell of a way to start. Follow Elisa: On & @ElisaMcBear Follow Me: On & @BirdsAndBeesDontFck and my personal Instagram Love my Crave Cuffs? Use my link and get $15 off anything storewide:
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An Overdue Update
09/26/2025
An Overdue Update
I ghosted, I know. And I'm sorry. So here's a little update on where things are at! Including me losing (for now) my primary instagram account @ariellezadok Like, comment & subscribe if you're happy to hear me! ________________ Dive into The Sexy Directory: Follow me on instagram:
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Sexy Confidence (w/ Tia Lynn)
06/26/2024
Sexy Confidence (w/ Tia Lynn)
Tia Lynn is a sex and intimacy coach, Tedx speaker and host of the Sexy Biz Babe podcast originally from Utah where as you can imagine, the Mormons (which she was not one of) taught her nothing about sexuality but a whole lot about judgement. Some things we said... "Pole dancing gives permission for others to explore their desires and sensuality." "Transitioning into sex coaching happened naturally based on client feedback and impact." "When you upgrade and when you progress past that, that makes them look at themselves in a way that they're not ready to." "Play parties provide a space where sex is permitted, but it's not required." "Consent is required at play parties, and there's accountability for violating someone's boundaries." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! Where to find Tia: Intsta: Podcast: Where to find Arielle: Insta: Website: K, love you, byeeeee
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Sugar Baby Gone Wrong (w/ Nnamdi Ngwe)
06/19/2024
Sugar Baby Gone Wrong (w/ Nnamdi Ngwe)
Nnamdi Ngwe is an actor, comedian and writer for The Amber Ruffin Show and Tab Time originally from London where his initial sex education was just the bad kids used to try to get the younger kids to kiss. Then he got a little older and realized how unhinged that was! Some things we said... "I would, as long as it's like, my feelings wouldn't be hurt if it's like, don't do that. Continue on. Yeah. Here's some guidance. Here's some notes. Let's keep going." "You think that I'm not in control, you think that I'm not in power, your dick is in my mouth. I can fucking hurt you or heal you right now. Do not fuck with me." "You have better sex when you know what you're working with. But none of us were ever taught what we're working with. So, like, we're just like flailing about." "That's daddy official. Okay, okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, you've been a sugar daddy. I've been not a good one." "You have your erotic persona and then you have who you are. Yeah. Really? Like you have, there's, there's two worlds." "To get somebody in a position to release to you in that way is such a gift and it's so powerful." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! Where to find Nnamdi: Intsta: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Website: K, love you, byeeeee
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Letting Your Freak Flag Fly (w/ Teresa Lo)
06/12/2024
Letting Your Freak Flag Fly (w/ Teresa Lo)
Teresa Lo is an award winning writer and comedian originally from Coffeeville Kansas where nearly 40% of her high school class had a baby before graduation… which is another reason why accurate sex education is so important! Some things we said... "Comedy and the sex world is the only place that accepts freaks and lets us thrive." "If I really wanted it, I could have done it." "How bad do you want something? What are you willing to sacrifice?" "People, not all people, but many people are very dishonest about sexuality where they can't be open with what they really want." "Some people are afraid to even negotiate, to even say upfront, like these are what I want. This is what I'm cool with. This is what I don't like to do. This is what I like to do." "There are so many men out there that want to treat a woman, that want to be in that dynamic, that want to be daddy, that want to be a master." ... plus so much more. to get the full experience! Where to find Teresa: Intsta: OnlyFans: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: Website: K, love you, byeeeee
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Tantalizing Tantra (w/ Layla Paul)
06/05/2024
Tantalizing Tantra (w/ Layla Paul)
Layla Paul is a strategic brand consultant for kinky brands originally from Chicago where her lack of sex education lead her to put her own child through the program. What a badass move. Some things we said... "If it can do double duty, I'm all about that" "You have this one product that's made for XYZ, but how can you use it in a different way?" "Partnerships with deep, visceral connections and loyalty last regardless of monogamy or non-monogamy." "The primal aspects of attraction, like scent and voice, are often overlooked but play a significant role in intimacy." "Intimacy coordinators in film ensure the safety and comfort of performers during intimate scenes." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! Where to find Layla: Intsta: Website: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: Website: K, love you, byeeeee
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Prioritizing Sex (w/ Andrew Orolfo)
05/29/2024
Prioritizing Sex (w/ Andrew Orolfo)
Andrew Orolfo is a stand up comedian, host of the meter gameshow and one of Just For Laughs New Faces of 2022 originally from Oakland, CA where they pretty much just watched a video from the 80s with dude stuff. Some things we said... "Sometimes you get close to death and then you come, you know what I mean?" "We're so often rushing with ourselves, especially men and people with penises." "Creating space for pleasure and exploration can enhance sexual experiences." "There's so much more. There's so much available to us if we're willing to explore it." "We need to normalize that conversation. Yeah. By the way, fucking everybody's got herpes and we just don't talk about it." "We have to make it safe for men to learn these things without shame, without guilt." ... plus so much more. Watch it on YouTube to get the full experience! Where to find Andrew: Intsta: Website: OnlyFans: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: Website:
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You Can Be Smart AND Slutty (w/ Nicoletta Heidegger)
05/22/2024
You Can Be Smart AND Slutty (w/ Nicoletta Heidegger)
Nicoletta Heidegger is a therapist, sexologist, equine assisted psychotherapist, educator and host of the podcast ‘Sluts and Scholars’ originally from the porn capital of the world (aka the San Fernando Valley) where thankfully she grew up in a sex positive home that lead to being the sexy powerhouse that she is today! Some things we said... “We all have the capacity to be woo girls” "The San Fernando Valley: From Porn Capital to Podcast" “So like a pole at the park, like a bed post, a lamp post, sofa arm, you know, like things that were things that were long and hard that I could rub up against.” "Breaking Down Sexual Shame and Judgment" “I had a curious mind about it and just an active imagination. I had a lot of fantasies when I was younger and self-pleasure and fantasizing became a big part of my young life.” "The Lack of Sexuality Education for Medical Professionals" "I don't know, it's just like dare to resist drugs and yeah. Let's look at it." "And so she was the one that was like, yeah, we should be teaching our kids about masturbation. It's a natural part of having a body and we should be teaching kids about that." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! Where to find Nicoletta: Intsta: Podcast: Website: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: Website: K, love you, byeeeee
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Kinky Education (w/ Nathan Hammerle)
05/15/2024
Kinky Education (w/ Nathan Hammerle)
Nathan Hammerle is a sexual wellness educator and novelty specialist from central Ohio where the older kids faked them out and gave all the younger kids anxiety about the sex ed videos they had to watch about puberty. Some things we said... "Sex is messy and weird and we're gonna fuck up and just like, keep going." "Safety is the foundation of any successful kink scene." "How can we get more creative in bed?" "I loved doing...that's how I sort of transitioned from history teaching into sexual wellness." "There's room for everyone, but there's a responsibility...that everybody does their homework in this space." "Electro play is fun...it's not all about pain." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! Where to find Nathan: Intsta: Where to find Arielle: Insta: & K, love you, byeeeee
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Sexy Yentas (w/ Raye Schiller)
05/08/2024
Sexy Yentas (w/ Raye Schiller)
Raye Schiller is a comedian, screenwriter and professional yenta originally from Queens, NY where they were raised as an Orthodox Jew. Yes, that means we are two Jews from New York which is obviously why this is the sexy yenta episode! Some things we said... "We're Jews. We have our own traumas." "The gender thing was the reason I left. I couldn't exist in that world where I was a second class citizen." "Relenting is not consenting. Just remember that. If you learn anything today, learn that relenting is not consenting." "When you're in a subspace, you are, you're present, but you're like shut down, not shut. I don't want to use the language shut down, but you're so, you're like in a trance." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! Where to find Raye: Intsta: TikTok: Where to find Arielle: Insta: K, love you, byeeeee
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Sex Positive Moms (w/ Dr. Alix Agar)
05/01/2024
Sex Positive Moms (w/ Dr. Alix Agar)
Dr. Alix Agar is a Clinical Sexologist and one of LA’s top Sex Therapists originally from Oakville Ontario where her mom was the cool mom to create safe spaces for her, and all her friends. A literal hero. In this episode we talk about: 02:06 Early Experiences as a Dancer 03:34 Bonding Experiences through Travel 04:04 Exploring Power Dynamics and Relationships Working On a Cruise Ship 05:55 Open Communication and Supportive Parenting 09:16 The Role of Parents in Sex Education 13:24 The Power of Self-Disclosure in Therapy 21:32 Disarming Clients and Normalizing Experiences 23:00 Spoiler… Therapists Hav Biases! 26:23 Harm Reduction!! 31:23 Lack of Sex Education in Therapy Programs 39:39 Defining Boundaries and Scope of Practice 41:33 You Gotta Like Your Therapist! 44:15 Sex and Politics - They’re unfortunately intertwined! 45:37 Religion's Impact on Sexuality 47:59 The Cruelty of Sex Education 51:36 The Importance of Embracing Childhood Curiosity 59:40 Find Your Community and Get Support You can find Dr. Alix on Instagram at and her website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Strip Your Shame Away (w/ Miss Spent Youth)
04/24/2024
Strip Your Shame Away (w/ Miss Spent Youth)
Miss Spent Youth is a Los Angeles based burlesque performer, producer, teacher and pin up princess originally from North Carolina where the girls were afraid to swim on their periods! In this episode we talk about burlesque, empowerment, creativity, body positivity, power dynamics, body confidence, sexuality, burlesque, sex education, circumcision, shame, open-mindedness, acceptance and SO much more! You can find Miss Spent Youth on Instagram at and her website, ~~~~ ~~~~ Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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The Boob Episode (w/ Amanda G. Savage)
04/17/2024
The Boob Episode (w/ Amanda G. Savage)
Amanda G. Savage is a comedian, host and creator of the show G. Savage Talks originally from the great soft pretzel state of Pennsylvania where she did an anti-abstinence only presentation and we Stan. Also, happy 420 ya'll! This episode was unofficially sponsored by , their vapes are so tasty and smooth. If you're into it, I highly (!!) recommend this brand. In this episode we talk about: The great G Savage Yelling at men on stage Boobs! Imagine having a different pair every day?! Respecting pussy gets you EVERYWHERE Decision fatigue in dating Growing up wanting to pee standing up (relatable) Prioritizing pleasure Society’s perception of sexual expression Refractory periods… what are they? You can find Amanda on Instagram at on TikTok at and her website LA you can see Amanda live on April 25th at Holy Water in WeHo for the G Savage Talks premier! Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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The Truth About Sex Work (w/ ShelBee)
04/10/2024
The Truth About Sex Work (w/ ShelBee)
ShelBee is an aerial performer, instructor and sex worker originally from Taiwan and grew up in an Asian community in SoCal where she was taught using a tampon means you’re losing your virginity! In this episode we talk about: 03:19 ShelBee got me a gift!! 05:13 Cultivating Eroticism 08:58 The Impact of Positive Examples of Single Women 18:20 Asian Cultural Beliefs about Tampons 23:04 Older Siblings Are Our Saviors! 25:31 First Sexual Experiences 26:28 Understanding How to Please Women 29:18 Creating Mutually Beneficial Relationships 32:26 The Erasure of Female Anatomy In Medical History 35:11 Exploring and Discovering Sexual Preferences 39:22 The Impact of Shame and Internalized Shame 40:46 Coming Out and Overcoming Trauma 41:34 The Journey to Self-Acceptance 45:09 Entering the Sex Work Industry 47:05 Understanding Having a Sugar Daddy / Being A Sugar Baby 49:54 Dispelling Misconceptions about Sex Work 52:37 Unity and Support within the Sex Work Community You can find ShelBee on Instagram at @shelbeestrong and if you’re lucky, teaching or performing at a venue in Los Angeles! Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Planting Sexy Seeds (W/ Dr. Nazanin Moali)
04/03/2024
Planting Sexy Seeds (W/ Dr. Nazanin Moali)
Dr. Nazanin Moali is a Clinical Psychologist, Sex Therapist and Host of the Sexology podcast originally from Iran where sex education was TRULY non-existent. In this episode we talk about: 00:00 The Importance of Different Perspectives 03:09 The Role of Communication in Relationships 07:15 The Impact of Nonverbal Communication 10:06 Changing Attitudes Towards Therapy and Mental Health 12:04 The Influence of Trauma on Sexual Health 15:47 Lack of Comprehensive Sex Education 26:41 Transitioning to Sex Therapy 28:20 Healing from Eating Disorders and Rediscovering Pleasure 31:17 The Importance of Pleasure 36:31 Cultivating Pleasure in Different Areas of Life 41:21 Creating Sensual Spaces 44:57 The Menu of Options 50:12 The Importance of Communication and Planning in Sex 55:44 Cultivating Desire and Erotic Mind You can find Dr. Nazanin on Instagram at @sexologypodcast, her website and wherever you get your podcasts. And the erotic menu can be found at Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host
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Sex Ed Video Star (w/ Christine Medrano)
03/27/2024
Sex Ed Video Star (w/ Christine Medrano)
Christine Medrano is a comedian, actress and writer originally from Winnipeg Manitoba, Canada where she went to Catholic school and watched an abortion video at age 14, and that was pretty much it! In this episode we talk about: 03:21 Christine was in a Sex Ed Video! 04:16 We have a pitch… the office, but it’s an STI clinic! 06:29 Misconceptions about Anal Play and Sexuality 10:03 There wasn’t any sex ed at her Catholic school, but there WAS an abortion video! 11:27 Lack of Knowledge about Tampons 13:08 The Importance of Openness and Humor in Sex Education 13:28 The TV Show 'Big Mouth' 14:27 Why you need to consider using Organic Tampons 19:14 Give us pain killers during IUD Insertion! 21:09 Arielle’s alcohol allergy and birth control 23:23 The Neglect of Female Pleasure in Medicine 26:35 The Impact of Shame and Lack of Masturbation Education 29:47 Coercion and Manipulation in Sexual Experiences 35:27 The Importance of Sexual Compatibility 38:21 Openness and Communication in Relationships 47:06 Generational Differences in Views on Sex and Romance 52:09 The Evolution of Romance and Communication 57:37 Reflecting on Traumatic Events 58:06 The ending you were all hoping for.. Ruby the cat Brings us an Avocado You can find Christine on Instagram at and her website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Sex, Sensuality & Sparkles (W/ The Hollywood Burlesque Festival Performers)
03/20/2024
Sex, Sensuality & Sparkles (W/ The Hollywood Burlesque Festival Performers)
This week we’re mixing things up because Rena Martine (Women’s Intimacy Coach, Author and ) and I had the opportunity to park up at the Hollywood Burlesque Festival Bazaar and speak to some of incredible performers from the weekend. In this episode we’re talking to: an Aussie based in Los Angeles Tito Bonito, the of burlesque the east coast showgirl gone west coast the traveling circus showgirl the green goddess behind You can find The Hollywood Burlesque festival happening every year right here in Hollywood but since you missed this year (bummer) make sure you follow and check out their website to see all of the gorgeous performers at www.hollywoodburlesquefestival.com You can find Rena on Instagram at and on her website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Not Your Average Sex Party (w/ Michael Hollice)
03/13/2024
Not Your Average Sex Party (w/ Michael Hollice)
Michael Hollice is the Founder and Creative Director of (that’s a sex party) originally from Los Angeles where his class watched the birthing video forwards and backwards… literally. That baby got sucked right back up! In this episode we talk about: 00:46 The Play LA and Prioritizing Health, Consent, Intimacy, and Artistry 04:04 Arielle’s Magical Experience at The Play LA 06:19 Sex as a Collaboration 13:18 The Importance of Eye Gazing and Dropping In 15:07 Sexual and Creative Freedom 16:04 Shifting the Culture of Sex Education 26:25 The Pitfalls of Non-Monogamy 34:12 The Nuance of Flirting 37:07 The power of sharing Desires, Intentions, and Boundaries 38:33 No Phones, No Money, No Hierarchy… that’s a good play party! 39:29 How to be a voyeur, but not in a creepy way 41:23 Speaking Desires into Existence 42:49 The Evolution of Boundaries 46:32 Anticipation is Foreplay 56:16 The eroticism of being fed Cookies after an orgasm 59:34 The birthing video… in reverse! 01:02:44 Michael’s First Sexual Experience and the experience that changed it all 01:07:05 Importance of Repair… cancellation is not always the way 01:18:22 Profound Experiences can happen at Play Parties 01:20:15 Creating a Community of Connection and Vulnerability 01:21:35 The Play LA and The Play Network You can find Michael on Instagram at and The Play LA website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Stay sexy xx
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Let's Play (w/ Morgan Jay)
03/06/2024
Let's Play (w/ Morgan Jay)
Morgan Jay is a musician and comedian originally from Mahwah, New Jersey where he was taught that women would derail and distract him! In this episode we talk about: 04:11 Creating a Sexy and Fun Show 05:46 Transitioning from Stand-up to Music 07:33 The Evolution of Comedy Clubs 12:02 Understanding Different Sexual Preferences 16:20 The Importance of Consent and Aftercare 20:02 Exploring Sexual Wellness and Pleasure Products 25:23 The Accessibility and Variety of Pornography 31:05 The Impact of Abstinence-Only Sex Education 36:55 The Influence of Cultural and Religious Upbringing 41:44 Exploring New Sexual Experiences 46:09 The Importance of Playfulness and Curiosity 48:18 Sexual Connection in Intimate Relationships 49:10 The Consequences of Ignoring Sexual Compatibility 51:42 Having Complex Conversations about Sexual Desires 53:47 Normalizing Sexual Pleasure for All 56:52 Exploring Unique Sexual Fantasies 59:04 Creating Pleasurable and Intimate Experiences You can find Morgan on Instagram at @morganjay and his website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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