Birds And Bees Don't Fck

We can all agree that the whole birds and bees thing was a lie, right? When it came to learning about sex, we were all left to our own devices (or lack thereof!) yet somehow we made it through! Join Sex Educator & Intimacy Coordinator Arielle Zadok as she talks comedians and sexperts about how they learned about sex, and share what they know now. No matter what type of upbringing you had, we've got a story you can relate to!

Arielle Z on Ariel Z: Consent, Comedy & Chaos w/Ariel Zucker 07/15/2026

Arielle Z on Ariel Z: Consent, Comedy & Chaos w/Ariel Zucker Join us LIVE AT FIVE (PT) on YouTube for the watch party every Wednesday: Ariel Zucker is a producer, director, and writer from Atlanta, Georgia where sex education was taught through abstinence, fear-based messaging, and wildly unhelpful visuals that left her and her peers confused about their bodies and sexuality. In this episode we talk about growing up with abstinence-based sex education, the confusion and shame that comes from fear-driven messaging, how sex education shapes our early experiences, and what it actually means to unlearn all of that as an adult. We get into working in production and storytelling, intimacy coordination and creating safer sets, navigating desire and communication, kink and lifestyle communities, and how humor, curiosity, and real conversations can create better sex education than anything we learned in school. We’re going in on the Reddit stories, AZ Style. Catch our bonus Reddit story episode over on Patreon! _________________________________________________ Where to find Ariel Zucker: Instagram: & Website: & YouTube: Where to find Arielle Zadok: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found on Patreon Story 1: My wife (33F) is denying we’re married and wants to be called my girlfriend. I’m confused Story 2: Yesterday my brother told me he was in love with me Story 3: Would I be the asshole if I broke up with my girlfriend for humiliating me Like jewelry with a sexy secret? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet: 00:00 Intro and meeting “the other Arielle” 02:05 Ariel Zucker on working in production and comedy 05:10 Working with Ify Nwadiwe and the LA comedy scene 07:45 Dropout TV, Make Some Noise, and behind-the-scenes production work 11:30 Growing up in Atlanta with abstinence-based sex education 15:10 Fear-based sex ed and early confusion about bodies and sex 19:40 First real sexual experiences and lack of preparation 24:10 Learning about sex outside of school (media, friends, curiosity) 28:20 Why humor and real conversations teach better sex ed 32:50 Intimacy coordination and creating safer sets in film and TV 37:40 Kink, play parties, and alternative relationship spaces 42:30 Communication, boundaries, and navigating desire 47:10 Rewriting sexual narratives and unlearning shame 52:00 The gap between sex education and real-life experience 57:40 What good sex education should actually look like /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/42018715

Dangerous Women w/ Alyssa Mei Liu 07/09/2026

Dangerous Women w/ Alyssa Mei Liu Alyssa Mei Lue is a traveling burlesque and circus performer, Playboy model, and podcaster from Riverside, California, where her formal sex education consisted of one vague classroom video, a heavily religious upbringing, and getting married at 21 before she had ever seen, touched, or had sex with a penis. In this episode, we talk about performance, survival, and what it actually means to be a dangerous woman. Alyssa shares how she got into modeling during quarantine, why modeling can be just as risky as live performance, and how learning boundaries in those industries changed the way she moves through the world. We also get into catcalling, self-defense, jiu-jitsu, gun safety, growing up in Riverside, and the reality of having almost no real sex education before marriage. Want more of Alyssa and I? Catch our bonus Reddit story episode over on Patreon! _________________________________________________ Where to find Alyssa: Instagram: Podcast: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: k TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: Yesterday my brother told me he was in love with me. STORY 2: My wife (33f) is denying we’re married and wants to be called my ‘girlfriend’… I’m confused STORY 3: WIBTAH for breaking up with my gf for humiliating me? Like jewelry that’ll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet: 00:20 Meet Alyssa Mei Lue (burlesque performer & model) 02:27 Getting back into performing and winning The Play’s Got Talent 04:32 Live performance challenges and adapting on stage 08:46 Why burlesque is more exhausting than aerial performance 10:51 Presence, performance, and why it matters in sex 13:10 Modeling risks, boundaries, and safety 17:44 How Alyssa started modeling during quarantine 19:59 The psychology of angles, posing, and “perfect” photos 24:18 Catcalling, safety, and walking alone as a woman 33:39 Why women stay guarded and how quickly things can escalate 35:54 Self-defense, jiu-jitsu, and learning how to fight back 46:56 Growing up in Riverside and building resilience 50:03 Getting married before having sex (and what happened) 55:52 Why sex education fails so many people 57:06 Pleasure, autonomy, and rebellion 59:06 Patreon preview: Reddit relationship stories /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/42018590

We should be kissing each other, not fighting each other w/ Emily Zawadzki 07/01/2026

We should be kissing each other, not fighting each other w/ Emily Zawadzki Join us LIVE AT FIVE (PT) on YouTube for the watch party every Wednesday: Emily Zawadzki (AKA Emily Zed) is a Canadian sex educator who specializes in supporting queer, kinky, and neurodivergent people navigating intimacy, relationships, and pleasure. She grew up in Kitchener-Waterloo, Ontario, where her formal sex education came from Catholic school abstinence lessons, graphic STI scare tactics, and a very cool mom who handed her an educational flap book about how babies are made. In this episode we talk about building a career in sex education, why gender-affirming care isn’t just for trans people, and how gender expression can show up in something as simple as hair color. Emily shares what it was like growing up Catholic while questioning her sexuality, the pressure of stereotypes about what lesbians “should” look like, and how discovering her wife’s ADHD shifted her work toward supporting neurodivergent intimacy and sexuality. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! _________________________________________________ Where to find Emily: Instagram: Website: Emily's Webinar: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Like jewelry that’ll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 02:04 Purple hair babes, identity and gender expression 04:03 What gender-affirming care actually means 06:05 Why queer identities aren’t “new” 08:05 Emily’s path to becoming a sex educator 11:22 Switching from social work to sexuality studies 14:00 Why casual conversations normalize sex education 18:06 Arielle’s early sex curiosity and Dr. Ruth influence 22:00 Producing a sex education podcast for people who hate sex ed 26:00 Catholic school abstinence education and STI scare tactics 27:17 The “cool mom” who provided real sex education 30:20 Why better sex education leads to later sexual activity 33:15 Why showing graphic STI photos to teens is harmful 36:40 Coming out as queer after growing up Catholic 38:50 Unlearning stereotypes about what lesbians “should” look like 41:20 Why labels can be empowering or limiting 45:30 Biphobia and policing identity inside queer communities 50:00 Feminism, patriarchy, and why hating men isn’t the solution 55:05 Discovering ADHD in Emily’s relationship 56:20 Neurodivergence, sensory play, and sexual arousal 58:12 Why partners need to do their own sex education work 59:00 Where to find Emily and upcoming /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/41922800

I Thought Penises Had Bones w/ Joy Mamey 06/24/2026

I Thought Penises Had Bones w/ Joy Mamey Join us LIVE AT FIVE (PT) on YouTube for the watch party every Wednesday: Joy Mamey is an actor, writer, comedian, cancer survivor, and improviser currently performing with Sunday Company at The Groundlings who grew up in Los Angeles where her sex ed teacher wouldn’t answer her questions so she thought sex was basically naked kissing and that penises had bones. In this episode we talk about the surprising overlap between improv and intimacy, why "yes and" can become a people-pleasing trap, and what happens when we're taught to ignore our instincts to make other people comfortable. Joy shares the sex education she never got, the question her sex ed teacher refused to answer, and why she genuinely thought penises had bones. We also get into body autonomy, consent, patriarchy, impact versus intention, learning to say no, and the importance of listening when your body is trying to tell you something. Hey, you too can Fck Like The Movies! Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! Where to find Joy: Instagram: Website: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: AITAH for ending a 4 year serious relationship without even a huge fight? STORY 2: My [M27] wife [F28] showed her friends our sex tapes STORY 3: AIO because my husband ‘forgot’ to tell me we’d be sharing a condo with his ex-wife during a family beach vacation? Like jewelry that'll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 01:20 Meet Joy Mamey 02:45 The Groundlings, Second City & Improv Comedy 03:50 Why "Yes And" Can Become Toxic 06:50 Consent, Boundaries & Learning To Say No 08:00 What Improv Taught Us About Intimacy 12:45 Why Impact Matters More Than Intentions 18:00 Can Bad People Actually Change? 20:50 Psychopaths vs Sociopaths Explained 25:30 Power Dynamics, Comedy & Punching Down 30:15 Why Speaking Up During Sex Is So Hard 32:45 The Problem With People Pleasing In Bed 37:30 The Church Hug Joy Never Forgot 41:00 Why Patriarchy Hurts Men Too 45:45 Growing Up Without Sex Education 48:15 My Sex Ed Teacher Ignored My Question 49:45 "I Thought Penises Had Bones" 52:45 Why Porn Became Sex Education 55:00 Being Called "Exotic" As A Child 58:00 The Kinky Mind Meld Game 59:30 Why Improv Feels Like Great Sex 1:02:30 Patreon Reddit Story Preview /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/41520735

You Can’t Masturbate Your Way to a Million Dollars w / Caitlin V 06/17/2026

You Can’t Masturbate Your Way to a Million Dollars w / Caitlin V Join us LIVE AT FIVE (PT) on YouTube for the watch party every Wednesday: Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach, former sexuality researcher, author of Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger, and host of Good Sex on HBO Max from Michigan where her earliest sex education included a fifth-grade period lesson, a graphic STI scare slide in health class, and years of curiosity about pleasure that she had already discovered on her own. In this episode we talk about what men actually want help with in their sex lives, why performance goals like “lasting longer” rarely solve the real problem, and how intimacy, not frequency, is what most couples are actually craving. Caitlin shares how she went from academic sex research at the Kinsey Institute to coaching men about sex and relationships, why maintenance sex can quietly kill desire, and how intention, presence, and curiosity can transform a sex life. We also get into astrology and sexual chemistry, loud sex and the connection between breath and orgasm, group dynamics in intimacy, why coaching spaces for men matter, and the surprising way Caitlin realized academia wasn’t where she wanted to make her impact. Caitlin and I are not fcking around with these Reddit stories. Join Patreon and dive in! Where to find Caitlin: YouTube: Book (Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger): Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon; STORY 1: I think my wife 31-F might be poisoning me 34-M, and I don’t know what to do STORY 2: I [28F] am dating a divorcing dad [34M] and it’s starting to take over my life STORY 3: My bf (M29) is threatening to break up with me (F24) over condoms Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:https://lovecrave.com/arielle Episode Cheat Sheet 02:14 Astrology, Sexual Chemistry & Scorpio/Leo Energy 06:03 Loud Sex, Breath & Orgasm Connection 08:15 Getting Caught Having Sex & Early Exploration 11:07 Claiming, Dominance & Sexual Identity 13:28 Science, Magic & Manifestation in Sex 16:12 Why Caitlin Coaches Men About Sex 19:02 Why Most Therapists Aren’t Trained in Sexuality 21:36 Quality vs Quantity in Long-Term Sex 23:45 Why “Maintenance Sex” Kills Desire 26:04 Physical, Emotional & Spiritual Sex Explained 28:20 Co-Regulation, Group Energy & Intimacy 32:21 Why Male Friendship & Community Matter 36:54 Boundaries, Accountability & Relationship Conflict 45:33 Communication, Softening & Honest Feedback 46:58 Growing Up in Michigan & Early Sex Education 49:24 Masturbation, Pleasure & STI Fear-Based Education 52:05 Becoming a Sex Researcher at Kinsey Institute 56:12 Leaving Academia & Starting a Sex Education Platform 01:00:37 Coaching vs Influencing in Sex Education 01:02:50 Changing Career Paths & Following Your Zone of Genius 01:04:43 Patreon Reddit Stories Preview /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/41520720

Episode 69: Making Her Moan w/ Daddy Heff 06/09/2026

Episode 69: Making Her Moan w/ Daddy Heff It’s 6/9 so we’re publishing early! Plus if you're in Los Angeles, come with us... to Melrose Umbrella Co from 6-9p to celebrate! Daddy Heff is a professional dominant, kink educator and master of the sensual art of impact play from Greensboro, North Carolina where his earliest sex education included school lessons on fallopian tubes, ovaries, sperm and semen, sneaking reads of his mom’s risqué novels, flipping through Penthouse Forum stories, and asking a very uncomfortable teacher to explain anal sex after seeing it in a porn video. In this episode we talk about the connection between moaning, safety and surrender, why BDSM often models communication better than vanilla relationships, and how Daddy Heff uses breath, heart space connection and energetic presence to help people fully let go. We also get into the difference between tops and doms, the importance of vetting and informed consent, how he discovered kink through a dominatrix in Germany, and the moment a birthday spanking turned into the start of his professional domination career. Plus: throat chakras, performance vs presence, why subs need education too, and what it actually takes to create trust inside a scene. Want more? Check out my DIY course, Fck Like The Movies: _________________________________________________ Where to find Daddy Heff: Instagram: X: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Like jewelry that’ll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 02:19 BDSM Negotiation, Limits & Scene Safety 04:27 Why Moaning Matters During Sex 07:35 Sexual Shame & Being Told to Stay Quiet 11:38 Nervous System & Relaxation Before Sex 18:10 Why Subs Need Education Too 22:14 The Dangers of Untrained BDSM Play 24:29 Presence, Performance & Energy in Kink 28:34 Dom vs Top & Sub vs Bottom Explained 34:10 Growing Up in Greensboro, NC & Early Sex Education 37:18 Discovering BDSM in Germany 41:49 Learning Impact Play & Finding a Mentor 44:38 The First Paid Domination Session 48:53 Heart Space Connection & Energetic Domination 53:13 Live Demo Stories & Orgasmic Spanking 57:10 Anal Play, Energy Work & Kink Healing 59:47 Teaching Men How to Be Better Dominants 01:03:06 Episode 69 on 6/9 /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/41520710

Stay Attractive. Stay Attracted. w/ Phil Morris 06/03/2026

Stay Attractive. Stay Attracted. w/ Phil Morris Join us for the watch party on YouTube LIVE AT FIVE (PT) on episode release day: Phil Morris is an actor best known as Jackie Chiles on Seinfeld and John Jones on Smallville who grew up in Los Angeles and Beverly Hills, where the closest thing to sex education was basic health class, a little anatomy, and figuring out the rest through growing up in Hollywood. In this episode we talk about Good Vibes Breakfast Club, the beautiful way community can create space for men to be vulnerable, and why real connection so often happens when people drop the performance and just show up as themselves. Phil shares what it was like growing up in Beverly Hills as the son of original Mission: Impossible star Greg Morris, how early exposure to fame shaped the way he sees the world, and why curiosity, humility, and authenticity matter so much more than status. We also get into marriage, intimacy, what it actually takes to stay connected over decades, and Phil’s simple but powerful advice to stay attractive, stay attracted, stay interesting, and stay interested. Phil and I are getting real honest with Reddit stories. Join Patreon and dive in! Get everything you need to _____________________________________________________________ Where to find Phil: Instagram: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: AITA for ignoring my wife for throwing away my late wife video tapes? STORY 2: My 18M son says my brother’s wife (30F) crossed boundaries with him and now my family says I’m overreacting (46F) STORY 3: Do I (F 26) tell my boyfriend (M 26) his ex cheated on him? Like my cuffs AND my vibrator necklace? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet: 02:47 Good Vibes Breakfast Club, car culture, and finding community in Los Angeles 05:14 Male vulnerability, brotherhood, and emotional intimacy during the pandemic 07:39 Why real connection happens when people drop the filter 09:50 Community, commonality, and why we are more alike than we are different 12:10 Why big conversations happen best on a beautiful drive 14:30 Intimacy meetings, relationship check-ins, and how to communicate with your partner 16:54 Emotional intelligence, curiosity, and what makes relationships actually work 19:20 Marriage advice, acceptance, and why you cannot carry someone else’s water 21:35 Stay attractive, stay attracted, stay interesting, stay interested 23:52 Novel thinking, personal growth, and accepting the peaks and valleys of life 26:13 Why relationships, friendships, and community all need curiosity and effort 28:28 Good Vibes, masculine friendship, and non-sexual touch between men 30:41 Growing up in Los Angeles and Beverly Hills as Greg Morris’ son 31:42 Fame, Hollywood, Beverly Hills, and what Phil learned early about success 34:01 Black representation in Hollywood and being raised around groundbreaking artists 35:25 How community showed up in grief, loss, and the final days of a loved one 37:48 Grace, gratitude, and why pain does not have to define your story 40:05 Falling down, getting up, and deciding how to write your own life 42:27 Career pivots, producing, creativity, and doing the work that actually lights you up 44:48 Why Phil stopped hustling and started creating 47:13 Acting, storytelling, and what comic conventions reveal about human connection 49:40 Leadership, gender dynamics, and domestic labor in relationships 52:03 Growing up with basic sex education, Hollywood freedom, and getting married young 54:22 Marriage, desire, fidelity, and how to stay connected over time 56:43 Long-term relationships, teamwork, and the three energies inside a partnership 59:04 Relationship advice, acceptance, and what it means to stay on the same team /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/41520695

Everyone Wants To Say Yes Mistress w/ Justine Cross 05/27/2026

Everyone Wants To Say Yes Mistress w/ Justine Cross Justine Cross is a professional dominatrix, dungeon owner, educator, and sex worker advocate who grew up in the tri-state area where she actually received surprisingly comprehensive sex education growing up between private and public schools, something she credits with shaping how she thinks about sex, consent, and power dynamics today. In this episode we talk about how someone becomes a professional dominatrix, what actually happens inside a BDSM dungeon, and why kink spaces are often far more structured, communicative, and consent-focused than most people expect. We also get into power dynamics, submission, community, play parties, and the difference between what people imagine BDSM is and what it actually looks like in real life. Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: _____________________________________________________________ You know Justine and I are not holding back on these Reddit stories. Join Patreon and dive in! Where to find Justine: Instagram: @thejustinecross https://www.instagram.com/thejustinecross/ tiktok: @thejustinecross https://www.tiktok.com/@thejustinecross x: @justineplays https://x.com/justineplays Bluesky: @justineplays https://bsky.app/profile/justineplays.bsky.social Fetlife: @justineplays Website: Dungeon: www.stellaobscura.com Where to find Arielle: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck https://www.instagram.com/birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck https://www.tiktok.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: Younger sister is a tradwife and I secretly set up an investment account in case she needs to leave her husband. Do I tell her? STORY 2: Am I the jerk for sleeping with my colleague after my husband left me? Like my cuffs AND my vibrator necklace? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 02:18 Growing up in the tri-state area with surprisingly comprehensive sex education 05:07 Early ideas about sex, consent, and communication 08:36 How Justine became a professional dominatrix 12:11 What actually happens inside a professional BDSM dungeon 15:42 Negotiation, boundaries, and why kink requires clear consent 19:55 The psychology of domination and submission 24:18 Why people are drawn to power dynamics and BDSM 28:43 Debunking myths about dominatrices and kink culture 32:27 The difference between fantasy kink and real BDSM practice 37:06 Community, play parties, and finding kink-friendly spaces 41:15 Running a dungeon and the logistics behind the scenes 46:02 Why BDSM spaces can feel safer than mainstream dating culture 50:18 Humor, curiosity, and why kink doesn’t have to be dark or scary 55:31 What people misunderstand most about BDSM and domination /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/41121780

Is This Blood Normal? w/ Nicole Jardim 05/20/2026

Is This Blood Normal? w/ Nicole Jardim Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Nicole Jardim is a certified women’s health coach, author of Fix Your Period, and founder of the Institute for Menstrual Health originally from Antigua where the closest thing to sex education was mostly silence… leaving her to figure out hormones, cycles, and menstrual health the hard way before eventually dedicating her career to helping other women do the same. In this episode we talk about Nicole and I’s shared history working in television production, how burnout and health challenges led her to leave the entertainment industry, and the path that eventually led her into women’s health. We get into hormones, birth control, cycle literacy, and why so many women grow up completely disconnected from what their bodies are actually doing. Nicole explains why doctors often prescribe the pill as a quick fix instead of addressing root causes, how women are frequently dismissed when advocating for their health, and why learning to understand your cycle can change the way you approach energy, relationships, sex, and overall wellbeing. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! _________________________________________________ Where to find Nicole: Website - Nicole’s Membership - The Fix Your Period Collective Nicole’s Practitioner Program - Instagram - Facebook - Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Love jewelry that doubles as a vibrator? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: —————————————————————————————— Episode Cheat Sheet 02:33 Growing up without real sex education and how women learn about their bodies 04:58 Working in television production and how Nicole and Arielle originally met 07:23 The birth control pill and why it’s prescribed for almost every period problem 08:38 Hormones, birth control, and the unexpected ways they can affect your body 13:31 Coming off hormonal birth control and noticing changes in mood, health, and cycles 16:58 Burnout, leaving the entertainment industry, and pivoting into women’s health 18:17 Why birth control became the default medical solution for women’s health issues 22:04 Learning body literacy and understanding what your hormones are actually doing 24:42 Menstrual cycle literacy and why most people don’t understand ovulation 28:36 Fertility awareness and why cycle tracking can change how you approach health 31:16 Cultural messaging that teaches women their bodies are a problem 36:50 Why partners should understand menstrual cycles and hormonal changes 40:57 Advocating for yourself in medical settings when doctors dismiss symptoms 44:05 Training practitioners and teaching menstrual health and hormone literacy 48:12 Understanding energy, sex drive, and mood changes across the menstrual cycle 52:36 Becoming a “period detective” and learning what your cycle is telling you 56:47 What heavy bleeding and painful periods might actually mean 58:23 Women bleeding for months and being told it’s normal 59:42 Severe period pain, ER visits, and why doctors often dismiss menstrual symptoms 01:00:48 Heavy bleeding, IUDs, and when medical solutions miss the real problem /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/41121300

Purity Culture and Fascism Are Very Good Friends w/ Erica Smith 05/13/2026

Purity Culture and Fascism Are Very Good Friends w/ Erica Smith Erica Smith is an award-winning sexuality educator, advocate, and author from rural Pennsylvania, where she grew up casually Christian, went to public school, learned sex ed from a gym teacher, and somehow became the most responsible teenage sexual health nerd with birth control, condoms, spermicide, and library books before having sex for the first time. In this episode we talk about purity culture, religious sexual shame, high-control groups, Christian nationalism, marital consent, “duty sex,” the pressure placed on both women and men in evangelical purity teachings, and why healing from purity culture is not just about learning sex ed, but reconnecting to your body, your signals, your autonomy, and your right to desire without fear. Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Want to hear Reddit stories? Join the afterparty over on Patreon! Where to find Erica: Website: Instagram / Threads: Book: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Like my cuffs AND my vibrator necklace? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 00:37 Why purity culture impacts everyone regardless of religious upbringing 02:01 Reclaiming spiritual language, God, universe, source, and finding meaning outside of shame 03:35 Erica's rural Pennsylvania upbringing and not coming from purity culture or evangelical Christianity 06:52 Conservative Judaism, kosher, Shabbat, fear of God, and the god of religious sexual shame 10:13 Why controlling sex is the central power tool in high-control groups and cults 13:15 Twin Flames, New Age purity culture, divine feminine and masculine, and forced relationship roles 15:11 Non-monogamy, the one-person mythology, and not knowing ethical non-monogamy was an option 18:22 The pressure on children to save souls and why evangelical recruitment causes anxiety 20:15 AIDS education, high school sex ed, birth control, Cosmo handouts, and a raw egg as a fake baby 23:35 Family planning at 16, condoms, spermicide, Planned Parenthood, teen pregnancy, and pre-internet sex ed 26:03 Curiosity as the common thread among sex educators and talking explicitly with friends about sex 30:26 From women's studies to abortion clinic counselor, September 11th, anti-abortion terrorism, and fake anthrax 33:46 Seventeen years doing sex ed and HIV prevention with incarcerated youth in Philadelphia juvenile detention 35:09 Exvangelicals, deconstruction, the 2016 election, and the mass exodus from evangelical Christianity 39:28 Wedding night trauma, the flip-the-switch expectation, marital rape, duty sex, and long-term sexual dysfunction 43:09 Consent in marriage, the every-72-hours myth, Christian patriarchy, and denying women the right to say no 46:14 Rape culture, dissociation, blaming wives for husbands cheating, and the harm purity culture does to men 48:41 Duty sex, maintenance sex, intimacy dates, responsive desire, and why sex should never be expected 50:06 Men in purity culture, being taught you are a sex demon, bounce your eyes, and associating desire with disrespect 53:01 How purity culture silences body signals around consent, danger, hunger, and attraction — and somatic healing 56:08 Why purity culture is not a thing of the past, Christian nationalism, fascism, voting, and bodily autonomy 01:01:07 Where to find Erica Smith, The Purity Culture Recovery Guide, and purity culture recovery support groups /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/41122225

A Condom For A Cheeto w/ Alex Gay 05/06/2026

A Condom For A Cheeto w/ Alex Gay Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Alex Gay is a certified intimacy and relationship coach and adult performer from Maryland, where his sex education came from homeschooling, evangelical purity culture, and two conversations with his dad that left him wondering if condoms were worth trading for Cheetos. In this episode we talk about growing up in a religious high-control group, shame as a clue to desire, what kink actually means, why so many men are expected to magically know how to be good in bed, and how Alex went from purity culture to helping queer people, couples, and curious adults feel more confident exploring sex, intimacy, kink, and their own bodies. Want to hear Alex and I unfiltered reading Reddit stories? Join the afterparty over on Patreon! Where to find Alex: Instagram: TikTok: Website: https://heyalexgay.com/ Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: Am I the Asshole for Breaking Up With My Girlfriend After She Wanted Our Relationship to Be Pussy Free? STORY 2: My Husband Needs to Touch My Breasts to Fall Asleep. I’m Exhausted and Need a Divorce. Am I the Asshole? STORY 3: Am I the Asshole for Breaking Up With My Girlfriend Because She Literally Told Me She Would Cheat on Me If I Took a New Job? Like my cuffs AND my vibrator necklace? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 00:00 Meet Alex Gay, certified intimacy coach and adult performer 02:23 Adult entertainment, OnlyFans, and why spicy content builds coaching trust 04:48 Coaching sexual confidence, kink, communication, and why sex education is lifelong 05:30 The pressure on cis straight men to magically know how to be good in bed 07:01 Why "normal" does not exist when it comes to sex, bodies, and kink 08:10 Shame as a clue to desire and how taboo shapes what turns us on 10:20 Growing up in Maryland inside an evangelical high-control group 11:44 Homeschool sex ed, Christian sex books, condoms, and the Cheeto trade 16:17 Sleepovers, curiosity, and why honest sex education changes everything 19:30 Boy moms vs. moms who have boys and the emotional weight placed on sons 22:00 Leaving religion, hitting rock bottom, and finding inherent self-worth 25:16 Men's mental health, masculinity, and why 60 men die by suicide every hour 29:28 Queer sex education, coaching, and what gay male coaches bring to the table 31:46 Play parties, group scenes, body confidence, ethical porn, and real naked bodies 38:25 Alex's first OnlyFans videos, strip interviews, and modeling non-sexual intimacy 44:00 Course creation, ADHD, and why the labor of pleasure cannot be on your partner 49:21 Coaching couples, high-mileage questions, and becoming your own sex detective 56:32 Dr. Tush aftercare products, butt play recovery, and kink aftercare 01:00:00 Bonus Reddit stories and where to find Alex Gay /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/41121525

Purity Culture Sets Us Up for Failure w/ Reuben Johnson 04/29/2026

Purity Culture Sets Us Up for Failure w/ Reuben Johnson Reuben Johnson is one half of FlyDuo, a husband-and-wife team behind the pleasure-forward platform SexTech n' Chill, originally from the suburbs of Boston where growing up in a strict religious environment meant sex education was mostly abstinence, shame and silence. In this episode we talk about purity culture, abstinence-only sex education and how religious messaging around sex can leave people completely unprepared for real intimacy. We get into the science behind pleasure, why nervous system regulation matters in the bedroom, the myth of “think about baseball” when people struggle with performance anxiety, and how honest conversations about sex can actually help protect people from harm. We also talk about building a pleasure-centered relationship, the work Reuben and his wife are doing with SexTech n' Chill, and why comprehensive sex education is still so controversial in the United States. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! or _________________________________________________ Where to find Reuben: SexTech n' Chill: FlyDuo: Instagram: YouTube: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Love jewelry that doubles as a vibrator? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 02:10 Museum of Sex panel and meeting other sex educators 04:02 Consent, body language and what animals teach us about boundaries 08:36 Trauma responses, fawning and reading nonverbal cues 11:05 Nervous system regulation, anxiety and grounding techniques 15:02 Communication, emotional safety and better sex 19:11 Performance anxiety and why “think about baseball” is terrible sex advice 22:05 Vulnerability, trust and sexual confidence in relationships 24:40 Growing up in Boston and avoiding sex education conversations 26:40 Religious purity culture and sexual shame 29:10 The first real sex education class in high school 31:03 Condoms, lube and the basics abstinence-only programs skip 33:28 Why abstinence-only sex education leaves people unprepared 34:15 Dr. Joycelyn Elders and the fight for comprehensive sex education 36:01 Why pleasure and eroticism challenge systems of control 41:00 Social media censorship and the fight for online sex education 46:54 Porn history, kink and the evolution of sexuality 52:20 Wedding night sex after purity culture 55:50 Building Sex Tech & Chill and pleasure-centered relationships /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/40707460

I Need You To Say Blue Balls w/ Ginger Koehler 04/22/2026

I Need You To Say Blue Balls w/ Ginger Koehler Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Ginger Koehler is a sex educator, columnist and speaker from the Midwest where her earliest “sex talk” happened over mac and cheese at a McAlister’s… and ended with her bursting into tears when her mom explained what a period was. In this episode we talk about what it actually means to study sex academically, why people confidently give terrible sex advice online, and the moment Ginger realized she wanted to build a career translating complex sex science into language normal humans can understand. We also get into missionary position myths, writing about sex for a living, and why curiosity might be the most important sexual skill anyone can have. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! _________________________________________________ Where to find Ginger: Instagram: Ginger & Spice Podcast: Substack: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Like spicy jewelry? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 02:51 How Ginger became a sex educator and sex columnist 04:28 Studying sexuality academically vs learning from experience 06:24 “I need you to say blue balls” and translating sex science into normal language 09:43 Epididymal hypertension vs “blue balls” and sexual slang explained 12:08 Why bad sex advice spreads so easily online 14:12 Sex myths people still believe about bodies and pleasure 18:04 Missionary position myths and why “boring” sex positions can actually be great 21:10 How sexual expectations shape dating and relationships 23:10 Writing about sex vs talking about sex publicly 27:28 Thoughtful sex vs performative sex culture 31:44 The moment Ginger decided to study sexuality academically 35:21 Getting the “period talk” over mac and cheese at McAlister’s 38:47 Growing up shy about sex and becoming a public sex educator 41:09 Why comprehensive sex education still scares people 45:07 What comprehensive sex education actually teaches 49:12 Why curiosity is the most underrated sexual skill 52:38 What age-appropriate sex education really means /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/40707410

Wait… Is This A Kinky Dinner Party? w/ Maurice James 04/15/2026

Wait… Is This A Kinky Dinner Party? w/ Maurice James Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: Maurice James is a comedian, host, actor, and co-creator of Kinky Comedy from Jackson, Mississippi where his formal sex education came from an Episcopalian school science class taught by a teacher who carried a petrified bull testicle cane… and where sex ed mostly felt like mitosis and meiosis rather than anything connected to his own body. Want to her Maurice and I unfiltered reading Reddit stories? Join the afterparty over on Patreon! Where to find Maurice: Instagram: & Kinky Comedy: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: My life has imploded. Husband 29M slept with my mom 55F right before we got married two years ago. STORY 2: I told my girlfriend I sometimes think about other girls during sex and she lost it Like your jewlery a bit kinky? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet 02:32 The origin of Kinky Comedy and bringing kink and comedy together 04:11 Why being a good Dom requires communication, trust and emotional intelligence 08:14 Yes / No / Maybe lists and negotiating kink scenes 10:33 Why sex is like producing a film or planning a journey 12:57 Rope bondage, body awareness and communicating boundaries 15:08 Practicing “no” and learning to hold boundaries 19:11 Maurice’s unexpected introduction to kink at a Tinder dinner party 21:21 Why kink communities value clarity and communication 23:41 Shame, sexuality and the fear of being rejected by community 25:59 Coming out as kinky and the real career risks involved 30:39 Authenticity, privilege and living a fully expressed life 37:37 Growing up in Jackson, Mississippi 39:53 Sex education in religious private school 42:11 Why sex education needs to be ongoing and age appropriate 44:31 Abstinence education and the harm of ignoring sexuality 48:23 High school sex culture, late bloomers and learning from friends 50:23 Munches, kink community and finding people on the same journey 52:06 Losing a job, breakup and starting stand-up comedy 54:05 Building Kinky Comedy from a backyard show to a touring production 57:55 Community support and watching creative projects grow 59:58 Producing a show vs developing as a comedian 01:01:37 Comedy etiquette and why audiences shouldn’t film comedians /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/40707390

A Real Good Sex Guy w / Justin Herman 04/08/2026

A Real Good Sex Guy w / Justin Herman Justin Herman is a television director and producer, internationally touring stand-up comedian, and co-creator of Kinky Comedy originally from Albany, New York where his formal sex education consisted of one awkward school lesson separating boys and girls, a confusing anatomical chart, and a diner conversation with his dad about “the birds and the bees” that definitely did NOT cover kink. In this episode we talk about the lifestyle community, kink and non-monogamy, how Kinky Comedy accidentally became a hub for sexually liberated audiences, the anthropology of play parties, why lifestyle spaces tend to create deeper friendships, and what happens when kinky jokes collide with vanilla comedy crowds. We also get into porn magazines as early sex education, polyamory as emotional calculus, consent culture in BDSM communities, and the surprisingly wholesome reality of seeing your friends thrive in sexually open environments. Then, Justin and I go deep reading Reddit stories over on Patreon! Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: ___________________________________________ Where to find Justin: Instagram: Kinky Comedy: Website: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: Am I the asshole for wanting my girl to do more cleaning around the apartment? STORY 2: Am I the asshole for banning my sister’s boyfriend from my house and closing the door in his face? Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: _____________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet 02:05 What Kinky Comedy is and how it started 06:40 What “the lifestyle” actually means (kink, BDSM and non-monogamy) 09:10 Why women watching male-male porn often feel safer and more connected to the pleasure 11:15 Building community through sex-positive comedy shows 15:50 Why kinky jokes bomb in vanilla comedy rooms 18:20 XBIZ, adult industry spaces and sexual openness 20:40 Seeing your friends have sex and what it teaches about personality 23:00 The anthropology of play parties and lifestyle spaces 25:15 Why polyamory requires extreme emotional intelligence 27:30 Body positivity, vulvas and seeing real bodies in lifestyle spaces 29:35 Why naked confidence makes everyone hotter 31:50 Consent culture and why lifestyle spaces prioritize women’s comfort 34:05 Negotiation vs coercion in kink and BDSM dynamics 36:00 The Orgy Dome at Burning Man and radical consent practices 38:10 Why people attend play parties without having sex 40:13 Justin’s real sex education: awkward school lessons and the diner birds-and-bees talk 42:20 Porn magazines as early sex education for teenage boys 46:30 Why boys looking at porn together is its own weird cultural ritual 49:40 Punching down in comedy and evolving standards in humor 54:15 Why comedy should evolve as society evolves 56:30 The origin of the “real good sex guy” title 58:50 Growing Kinky Comedy into a real community event /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/40354385

What Porn Taught Hollywood About Sex Scenes w/ Lotus Lain 04/01/2026

What Porn Taught Hollywood About Sex Scenes w/ Lotus Lain Lotus Lain is an adult performer, producer, intimacy coordinator and sex worker advocate originally from California’s Central Valley where growing up in a small town meant most of her real sex education came later through curiosity, the internet, and eventually working in the adult industry itself. In this episode we talk about the unexpected overlap between porn and Hollywood, how the adult industry approached consent, boundaries and choreography long before mainstream film and television caught up, and why productions eventually realized they needed intimacy coordinators. We also get into mentorship in the adult industry, what actually happens on set when filming sex scenes, and why performers deserve experts guiding those moments. Catch Lotus and I gettin’ real reading Reddit stories over on Patreon! Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: ____________________________________________________ Where to find Lotus: Instagram: TikTok: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Organizations we support: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: My husband (37M) has been seeing other women and I (36F) don't know if I should give him another chance. What would you do? STORY 2: AIO? My daughter didn’t listen to the teacher during a female emergency and is now receiving a referral Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: ___________________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet: 02:29 Growing up in California’s Central Valley 04:28 Discovering the adult industry 06:36 Mentorship and “porn mom” lineage 08:45 Consent and boundaries on adult film sets 10:55 The logistics of filming sex scenes 13:18 Why Hollywood eventually needed intimacy coordinators 15:31 Differences between porn sets and traditional film sets 17:38 Choreographing realistic sex scenes 19:54 Why actors need experts guiding intimate scenes 22:15 Performer advocacy and safety on set 24:35 The rise of intimacy coordination in Hollywood 26:58 What film productions still get wrong about sex scenes 28:40 Why sex workers understand boundaries and consent 30:41 Supporting performers during vulnerable scenes 33:01 Changing the culture of filming intimacy /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/40354255

Where There's A Will, There's A Fcking Way w/ Aimee Latta 03/25/2026

The Cuban Missile Crisis of Burlesque w/ Tito Bonito 03/18/2026

The Cuban Missile Crisis of Burlesque w/ Tito Bonito Tito Bonito is an international burlesque performer, host and instructor originally from Miami, Florida where he knew he was gay before he even knew how babies were made… and learned most of the rest through TLC, the Spice Girls, and sheer curiosity. Catch Tito and I talkin’ some real shit reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: _________________________________________________ Where to find Tito: Instagram: | Links: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // TikTok: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: My (31F) husband (33M) of four years doesn’t take our role playing seriously when we have sex. He purposely takes his characters way over the top. STORY 2: AITA for dropping our dinner on the ground and walking out when my boyfriend asked me "What's for dinner tonight, b*tch?" Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: ________________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet: 03:07 Shadowbanning, algorithms and why sex educators need Patreon 07:00 Demisexuality, graysexuality and why dating apps don’t work for everyone 09:14 Friends who fuck, play communities and chosen family 10:41 Why hookup culture looks different for women, femmes and men 12:45 The dream of a hookup app for women and femmes 18:31 Why talking about sex openly matters 20:00 Therapy, curiosity and emotional intelligence in relationships 23:07 Why getting “dicked down” can improve your mood 24:22 Prostate pleasure, anal play and why butt toys need a stopper 27:05 Lube 101: silicone vs water based and toy safety 29:31 Gooning, masturbation and slowing down sexual experiences 31:40 Subspace, rope play and erotic trance states 36:18 Growing up gay in Miami and early memories of sexuality 40:52 Masculinity, machismo and emotionally healthy men 46:22 Why it’s harder for men to seek emotional or sexual support 49:36 The performance of masculinity and learning sensuality 53:55 Why monogamy puts pressure on one partner to meet every sexual need 57:35 Men in burlesque and how Tito found the stage 59:27 The early burlesque scene and performing masculine tropes 01:03:44 Why burlesque is political, comedic and deeply sex positive 01:06:03 Giving audiences permission to explore sexuality 01:08:20 Consent culture and why burlesque spaces teach boundaries /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/40321295

Everyone Wants To Be A Cult Leader w/ Jimanekia Ebon 03/11/2026

Everyone Wants To Be A Cult Leader w/ Jimanekia Ebon Join the watch party LIVE AT FIVE on YouTube: Jimanekia Eborn is a trauma specialist, sexuality educator, survivor advocate, co-owner of Cintima, and founder of the nonprofit Tending the Garden, originally from Riverside, California where she actually DID received sex education multiple times growing up… but was any of it good? Absolutely not. In this episode we talk about grief, trauma work, modern dating struggles, sex education failures, intimacy coordination, professional wrestling (yes, I mean that), mental health, and why community and safe spaces are essential for connection and pleasure. Catch Jimanekia and I reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: AITA for cancelling mother's day celebration that I arranged for my wife after hearing what she told my son? STORY 2: AIO if I end my relationship because my bf kisses and tells me he loves me before leaving for work in the morning? Where to find Jimanekia: Instagram: Cintima Training: Nonprofit: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // TikTok: Patreon: Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet & Index: 00:09 Intro 02:30 Imposter syndrome and starting the podcast 05:00 Jimanekia’s work in professional wrestling mental health 08:30 Losing her father and navigating grief 10:20 The power of laughter during difficult moments 12:10 Community, connection, and safe spaces during the pandemic 15:15 Dating apps and the loss of real connection 17:45 Nervous systems, safety, and intimacy 20:00 Protecting your peace and sexual boundaries 21:40 Working in sex education and consent culture 23:00 Growing up in Riverside, California 23:50 Early sex education experiences 25:30 Sneaking HBO and learning from Real Sex and Loveline 29:00 Why representation in sex education matters 31:20 Finding community in the sex industry 33:30 Boundaries and accountability in sexuality spaces 36:00 How Jimanekia got into intimacy coordination training 40:30 Building Cintima and training intimacy coordinators 44:00 Working across trauma care, media, and sexuality education 47:00 Play parties, consent culture, and power dynamics 49:30 Weird and wonderful jobs in the sexuality industry 51:00 Learning about sex through books and curiosity 54:00 Balancing multiple careers in sexuality work 58:30 Why asking for help matters /episode/index/show/theunpluggedcreative/id/40320825