Birds And Bees Don't Fck
We can all agree that the whole birds and bees thing was a lie, right? When it came to learning about sex, we were all left to our own devices (or lack thereof!) yet somehow we made it through! Join Sex Educator & Intimacy Coordinator Arielle Zadok as she talks comedians and sexperts about how they learned about sex, and share what they know now. No matter what type of upbringing you had, we've got a story you can relate to!
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Sexy Yentas (w/ Raye Schiller)
05/08/2024
Sexy Yentas (w/ Raye Schiller)
Raye Schiller is a comedian, screenwriter and professional yenta originally from Queens, NY where they were raised as an Orthodox Jew. Yes, that means we are two Jews from New York which is obviously why this is the sexy yenta episode! Some things we said... "We're Jews. We have our own traumas." "The gender thing was the reason I left. I couldn't exist in that world where I was a second class citizen." "Relenting is not consenting. Just remember that. If you learn anything today, learn that relenting is not consenting." "When you're in a subspace, you are, you're present, but you're like shut down, not shut. I don't want to use the language shut down, but you're so, you're like in a trance." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! LA Couples Intimacy Workshop with Arielle on 5/15: Where to find Raye: Intsta: TikTok: Where to find Arielle: Insta: K, love you, byeeeee
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Sex Positive Moms (w/ Dr. Alix Agar)
05/01/2024
Sex Positive Moms (w/ Dr. Alix Agar)
Dr. Alix Agar is a Clinical Sexologist and one of LA’s top Sex Therapists originally from Oakville Ontario where her mom was the cool mom to create safe spaces for her, and all her friends. A literal hero. In this episode we talk about: 02:06 Early Experiences as a Dancer 03:34 Bonding Experiences through Travel 04:04 Exploring Power Dynamics and Relationships Working On a Cruise Ship 05:55 Open Communication and Supportive Parenting 09:16 The Role of Parents in Sex Education 13:24 The Power of Self-Disclosure in Therapy 21:32 Disarming Clients and Normalizing Experiences 23:00 Spoiler… Therapists Hav Biases! 26:23 Harm Reduction!! 31:23 Lack of Sex Education in Therapy Programs 39:39 Defining Boundaries and Scope of Practice 41:33 You Gotta Like Your Therapist! 44:15 Sex and Politics - They’re unfortunately intertwined! 45:37 Religion's Impact on Sexuality 47:59 The Cruelty of Sex Education 51:36 The Importance of Embracing Childhood Curiosity 59:40 Find Your Community and Get Support You can find Dr. Alix on Instagram at and her website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! LOS ANGELES: Join me on Wednesday May 15th for a Couples Intimacy Workshop at Zula Den where we'll be exploring arousal, gaining practical sexy communication tools and embaring on a journey of sensory exploration designed to ignite passion and deepen connection. Learn more at: Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Strip Your Shame Away (w/ Miss Spent Youth)
04/24/2024
Strip Your Shame Away (w/ Miss Spent Youth)
Miss Spent Youth is a Los Angeles based burlesque performer, producer, teacher and pin up princess originally from North Carolina where the girls were afraid to swim on their periods! In this episode we talk about burlesque, empowerment, creativity, body positivity, power dynamics, body confidence, sexuality, burlesque, sex education, circumcision, shame, open-mindedness, acceptance and SO much more! You can find Miss Spent Youth on Instagram at and her website, ~~~~ Los Angeles! If you’re a femme looking to build confidence, heal your relationship to your body and tap into your sensuality, join me THIS Sunday April 28th for an Immersive Sensual Empowerment & Pole Dance workshop in Downtown LA. Details & registration: ~~~~ Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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The Boob Episode (w/ Amanda G. Savage)
04/17/2024
The Boob Episode (w/ Amanda G. Savage)
Amanda G. Savage is a comedian, host and creator of the show G. Savage Talks originally from the great soft pretzel state of Pennsylvania where she did an anti-abstinence only presentation and we Stan. Also, happy 420 ya'll! This episode was unofficially sponsored by , their vapes are so tasty and smooth. If you're into it, I highly (!!) recommend this brand. In this episode we talk about: The great G Savage Yelling at men on stage Boobs! Imagine having a different pair every day?! Respecting pussy gets you EVERYWHERE Decision fatigue in dating Growing up wanting to pee standing up (relatable) Prioritizing pleasure Society’s perception of sexual expression Refractory periods… what are they? You can find Amanda on Instagram at on TikTok at and her website LA you can see Amanda live on April 25th at Holy Water in WeHo for the G Savage Talks premier! Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! 4/28 Immersive Sensual Empowerment & Pole Dance Workshop Registration: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/immersive-sensual-empowerment-pole-dance-workshop-beginner-friendly-registration-875746440177?aff=ebdsoporgprofile Check out other upcoming Sensuality workshops at Join the mailing list for weekly Sex(y) Education sent straight to your inbox! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie (or a Daddy, whatever). K, love you, byeeeeee
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The Truth About Sex Work (w/ ShelBee)
04/10/2024
The Truth About Sex Work (w/ ShelBee)
ShelBee is an aerial performer, instructor and sex worker originally from Taiwan and grew up in an Asian community in SoCal where she was taught using a tampon means you’re losing your virginity! In this episode we talk about: 03:19 ShelBee got me a gift!! 05:13 Cultivating Eroticism 08:58 The Impact of Positive Examples of Single Women 18:20 Asian Cultural Beliefs about Tampons 23:04 Older Siblings Are Our Saviors! 25:31 First Sexual Experiences 26:28 Understanding How to Please Women 29:18 Creating Mutually Beneficial Relationships 32:26 The Erasure of Female Anatomy In Medical History 35:11 Exploring and Discovering Sexual Preferences 39:22 The Impact of Shame and Internalized Shame 40:46 Coming Out and Overcoming Trauma 41:34 The Journey to Self-Acceptance 45:09 Entering the Sex Work Industry 47:05 Understanding Having a Sugar Daddy / Being A Sugar Baby 49:54 Dispelling Misconceptions about Sex Work 52:37 Unity and Support within the Sex Work Community You can find ShelBee on Instagram at @shelbeestrong and if you’re lucky, teaching or performing at a venue in Los Angeles! Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Planting Sexy Seeds (W/ Dr. Nazanin Moali)
04/03/2024
Planting Sexy Seeds (W/ Dr. Nazanin Moali)
Dr. Nazanin Moali is a Clinical Psychologist, Sex Therapist and Host of the Sexology podcast originally from Iran where sex education was TRULY non-existent. In this episode we talk about: 00:00 The Importance of Different Perspectives 03:09 The Role of Communication in Relationships 07:15 The Impact of Nonverbal Communication 10:06 Changing Attitudes Towards Therapy and Mental Health 12:04 The Influence of Trauma on Sexual Health 15:47 Lack of Comprehensive Sex Education 26:41 Transitioning to Sex Therapy 28:20 Healing from Eating Disorders and Rediscovering Pleasure 31:17 The Importance of Pleasure 36:31 Cultivating Pleasure in Different Areas of Life 41:21 Creating Sensual Spaces 44:57 The Menu of Options 50:12 The Importance of Communication and Planning in Sex 55:44 Cultivating Desire and Erotic Mind You can find Dr. Nazanin on Instagram at @sexologypodcast, her website and wherever you get your podcasts. The Yes / No / Maybe list we talk about can be found at: And the erotic menu can be found at Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host And if you want to say “thanks babe” !
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Sex Ed Video Star (w/ Christine Medrano)
03/27/2024
Sex Ed Video Star (w/ Christine Medrano)
Christine Medrano is a comedian, actress and writer originally from Winnipeg Manitoba, Canada where she went to Catholic school and watched an abortion video at age 14, and that was pretty much it! In this episode we talk about: 03:21 Christine was in a Sex Ed Video! 04:16 We have a pitch… the office, but it’s an STI clinic! 06:29 Misconceptions about Anal Play and Sexuality 10:03 There wasn’t any sex ed at her Catholic school, but there WAS an abortion video! 11:27 Lack of Knowledge about Tampons 13:08 The Importance of Openness and Humor in Sex Education 13:28 The TV Show 'Big Mouth' 14:27 Why you need to consider using Organic Tampons 19:14 Give us pain killers during IUD Insertion! 21:09 Arielle’s alcohol allergy and birth control 23:23 The Neglect of Female Pleasure in Medicine 26:35 The Impact of Shame and Lack of Masturbation Education 29:47 Coercion and Manipulation in Sexual Experiences 35:27 The Importance of Sexual Compatibility 38:21 Openness and Communication in Relationships 47:06 Generational Differences in Views on Sex and Romance 52:09 The Evolution of Romance and Communication 57:37 Reflecting on Traumatic Events 58:06 The ending you were all hoping for.. Ruby the cat Brings us an Avocado You can find Christine on Instagram at and her website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Sex, Sensuality & Sparkles (W/ The Hollywood Burlesque Festival Performers)
03/20/2024
Sex, Sensuality & Sparkles (W/ The Hollywood Burlesque Festival Performers)
This week we’re mixing things up because Rena Martine (Women’s Intimacy Coach, Author and ) and I had the opportunity to park up at the Hollywood Burlesque Festival Bazaar and speak to some of incredible performers from the weekend. In this episode we’re talking to: an Aussie based in Los Angeles Tito Bonito, the of burlesque the east coast showgirl gone west coast the traveling circus showgirl the green goddess behind You can find The Hollywood Burlesque festival happening every year right here in Hollywood but since you missed this year (bummer) make sure you follow and check out their website to see all of the gorgeous performers at www.hollywoodburlesquefestival.com You can find Rena on Instagram at and on her website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Not Your Average Sex Party (w/ Michael Hollice)
03/13/2024
Not Your Average Sex Party (w/ Michael Hollice)
Michael Hollice is the Founder and Creative Director of (that’s a sex party) originally from Los Angeles where his class watched the birthing video forwards and backwards… literally. That baby got sucked right back up! In this episode we talk about: 00:46 The Play LA and Prioritizing Health, Consent, Intimacy, and Artistry 04:04 Arielle’s Magical Experience at The Play LA 06:19 Sex as a Collaboration 13:18 The Importance of Eye Gazing and Dropping In 15:07 Sexual and Creative Freedom 16:04 Shifting the Culture of Sex Education 26:25 The Pitfalls of Non-Monogamy 34:12 The Nuance of Flirting 37:07 The power of sharing Desires, Intentions, and Boundaries 38:33 No Phones, No Money, No Hierarchy… that’s a good play party! 39:29 How to be a voyeur, but not in a creepy way 41:23 Speaking Desires into Existence 42:49 The Evolution of Boundaries 46:32 Anticipation is Foreplay 56:16 The eroticism of being fed Cookies after an orgasm 59:34 The birthing video… in reverse! 01:02:44 Michael’s First Sexual Experience and the experience that changed it all 01:07:05 Importance of Repair… cancellation is not always the way 01:18:22 Profound Experiences can happen at Play Parties 01:20:15 Creating a Community of Connection and Vulnerability 01:21:35 The Play LA and The Play Network You can find Michael on Instagram at and The Play LA website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list (you'll find out if play parties are on the menu!), get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Stay sexy xx
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Let's Play (w/ Morgan Jay)
03/06/2024
Let's Play (w/ Morgan Jay)
Morgan Jay is a musician and comedian originally from Mahwah, New Jersey where he was taught that women would derail and distract him! In this episode we talk about: 04:11 Creating a Sexy and Fun Show 05:46 Transitioning from Stand-up to Music 07:33 The Evolution of Comedy Clubs 12:02 Understanding Different Sexual Preferences 16:20 The Importance of Consent and Aftercare 20:02 Exploring Sexual Wellness and Pleasure Products 25:23 The Accessibility and Variety of Pornography 31:05 The Impact of Abstinence-Only Sex Education 36:55 The Influence of Cultural and Religious Upbringing 41:44 Exploring New Sexual Experiences 46:09 The Importance of Playfulness and Curiosity 48:18 Sexual Connection in Intimate Relationships 49:10 The Consequences of Ignoring Sexual Compatibility 51:42 Having Complex Conversations about Sexual Desires 53:47 Normalizing Sexual Pleasure for All 56:52 Exploring Unique Sexual Fantasies 59:04 Creating Pleasurable and Intimate Experiences You can find Morgan on Instagram at @morganjay and his website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! HEY LOS ANGELES! Come to the Hollywood Burlesque Festival at Frogtown Brewery on March 9th where we’ll be interviewing performers all day! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Fck Yeah Sex Ed! (w/ Sarah Tomchesson)
02/28/2024
Fck Yeah Sex Ed! (w/ Sarah Tomchesson)
Sarah Tomchesson is a sex educator, fed-up feminist, queer mom and co-host of the Fck Yeah! Podcast originally from a little all over but who had her first sex ed class in Los Angeles where they were interrupted by an earthquake! In this episode we talk about: 02:02 SIECUS and Sex Education Advocacy 05:21 The Importance of Policy Change 10:17 The Fear of Talking About Sex 11:15 Unpacking Shame and Ego 15:07 Sarah’s Experiences with Sex Education 19:46 Supporting Parents in Sex Education 22:07 The Lack of Education on Menopause 24:59 The Lack of Sex Education in Medical Training 32:34 Sarah's Journey into Sex Education 40:55 The Importance of Normalizing Pleasure 41:08 Upcoming Program with Anne Hodder-Shipp 43:14 Understanding Your Relationship to and Expanding the Definition of Pleasure 49:31 Prioritizing Pleasure in Daily Life 52:09 Navigating Censorship and Playing the Game 53:49 Knowing and Trusting Yourself You can find Sarah on Instagram at and their website and of course you can join her program with Anne Hodder-Shipp that begins on March 14th at Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Consent Is Sexy (w/ Tyomi Morgan)
02/21/2024
Consent Is Sexy (w/ Tyomi Morgan)
Tyomi Morgan is a Sexologist, Intimacy Coordinator and creator of The Cowgirl Workout originally from Chicago where they went on a class trip to learn about sex! In this episode we talk about: 03:04 Intimacy Coordinating, obviously! 14:43 The one thing you MUST know as an Intimacy Coordinator 23:00 When Sex Ed is a class trip… 29:29 Impact of Sex Education on Personal Exploration 38:08 Virginity is a hoax 45:03 The importance of authenticity and Communication in Relationships 46:28 The art of Letting Go and Embracing Change 47:23 Fluidity and Exploration in Sexuality 50:13 Recognizing Patterns and Trauma 51:57 Taking Action and Doing the Work 54:20 The Lifelong Journey of Self-Reflection 57:18 The Importance of Self-Care and Boundaries 59:08 The DM slide all sex educators get 01:01:21 Embracing Autonomy and Choice You can find Tyomi on Instagram at @realglamazontyomi and on X (Twitter) at @glamazontyomi get The Cowgirl Workout at see her in person at Exxxotica Expo or catch her classes at WE’VE GOT MERCH! Plus a free Yes / No / Maybe list all over at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on !
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It's Not Just A Hole (w/ Allison Goldberg)
02/14/2024
It's Not Just A Hole (w/ Allison Goldberg)
Allison Goldberg is a comedian and creator known for her dating show, Love Isn’t Blind originally from Baltimore where they scribbled some stuff on an overhead projector and called it a day! In this episode we talk about: 01:25 Allison actually knows about the birds and bees! 02:07 Love Isn't Blind - The Dating Show where men aren’t allowed to talk! 04:47 Pole Dancing and Rock Climbing 06:29 Intimacy Coordination and Other Jobs 09:41 Creating a Community 13:21 Being Organized and Having Tools 16:47 Lack of Sexual Education 21:04 Consent and Desexualization 24:44 New Zealand sex clubs 31:57 Time to figure out the Clitoris 34:32 Dating and Activities 37:10 Understanding the Clitoris and Vulva 41:09 Exploring the Labia and Outer Lips 42:30 Stimulating the Entire Vulva 45:08 Pleasuring the Penis and Balls 52:54 Orbiting and Communication 55:00 Allison’s got a podcast launching TODAY! HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!! You can find Allison on all social media at and on her website WE’VE GOT MERCH! Plus a free Yes / No / Maybe list all over at Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe, leave a 5 star review and tell your friends so other people know this exists! K love you byeeeee
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Hot & Funny (w/ Christina Calph)
02/07/2024
Hot & Funny (w/ Christina Calph)
Christina Calph is an actress, comedian and creator of Comedy Pole Show and The Last Improv Show originally from a small town outside of Buffalo, NY where they were taught demons were going to take over their bodies! Yay! In this episode we talk about: 01:09 Talking about Rain in LA, because it’s law 02:24 Growing Up in New York 03:37 Comedy Pole Show and the best comedians and pole dancers in LA 15:18 Sex Education in Catholic School 32:26 What even is virginity?! 43:09 Discovering the Power of Female friendships 45:25 Learning About Relationships and Sexuality at Hooters 49:17 Different Perspectives on Sexuality in Different Communities 50:17 Exploring Sexuality and Masturbation 51:46 Navigating Toxic Relationships 01:03 Pole Dance as a Sport and Art Form 01:05 The Perineum! 01:09 How to get your free Yes No Maybe List for Better Communication You can find Christina on Instagram at and her two shows and Get tickets to both shows by checking out WE’VE GOT MERCH! Plus a free Yes / No / Maybe list all over at Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe, leave a 5 star review and tell your friends so other people know this exists! K love you byeeeee
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Kinks & Cuddles (w/ Jean Franzblau)
01/31/2024
Kinks & Cuddles (w/ Jean Franzblau)
Jean Franzblau is an Intimacy Coordinator, Writer, Performer and Creator of the Cuddle Sanctuary originally from Hollywood Florida where her mother didn’t know she was kinky! In this episode we talk about: 01:11 Different Roles in the Sex Industry 03:03 The Physiology of Orgasm 04:00 The Impact of Shame on Pleasure 05:23 Creating Authentic Intimacy in Film 08:13 The Complexity of Faking Orgasms 10:32 The Fascinating Anatomy of the Clitoris 12:51 The Grit and Strength of Pole Dancing 15:22 The Diverse Backgrounds of Intimacy Coordinators 23:46 The Potential Benefits of Sex Dolls 25:29 The Importance of Touch and Cuddling 27:22 The Complexity and joy of Kink and BDSM 35:33 The Impact of Shame and Ignoring Red Flags 43:22 The Slow Process of Change in the film Industry 45:33 The Importance of Safety and Pleasure in Creation 48:30 Agents' Involvement in Addressing Behavioral Issues with cast (aka their clients) 53:33 Transition into Intimacy Coordinating 55:50 Experience on Set and Sense of Belonging 01:01:00 The Embarrassing Part of the Job 01:04:43 The importance of Consent and Boundaries You can find Jean on Instagram at and her website You can catch Jean's sex positive one woman show, "My Mother Doesn't Know I'm Kinky" on March 3, 2024 in Los Angeles. Find all of her performances here: Support the show and give us a 5 star review… and if you’re really into it, Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Want to get more of what you want in bed? Download your free Yes / No / Maybe list at to get clear, get inspired and get what you want! LOS ANGELES: Join Arielle and as we celebrate the release of new book “The Sex You Want” on Feb 7th at The Ripped Bodice. Tickets here:
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Poetry, Dating And Deviants, Oh My! (w/ Demi Wylde)
01/24/2024
Poetry, Dating And Deviants, Oh My! (w/ Demi Wylde)
Demi Wilde is an author, educator and content creator originally from Visalia, California where he had to GTFO as fas as he could! In this episode we talk about: 02:57 The Commodification of Connection 10:23 Demi’s journey into Sex Education 17:02 Growing Up Religious 21:13 Those First Wet Dreams 25:33 Poetry as Therapy 31:35 Demi Dishes the Dirt on Sh*tty Dating Trends 38:04 A Hookup Horror Story (obviously) 45:13 Reflections of a Bad Date 46:37 The Gift of Rejection 48:03 Finding Love on Grindr 49:29 The Importance of Timing and Emotional Availability 50:57 Being Present and Transparent 51:55 Burnout and Miscommunication in Dating 54:15 Communication and Presence You can find Demi on Instagram at , his website and you can get his podcast “Hookup Horror Stories” on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts. Help support the show and ! (Spoiler, you can also book a coaching session with me there!) Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Classes coming soon to !
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Lips On Lips (w/ Jil Chrissie)
01/17/2024
Lips On Lips (w/ Jil Chrissie)
Jil Chrissie is a comedian, writer and host originally from Denver Colorado where she was not quite sure if she should be looking at a lady’s vagina with a baby’s head in it in the third grade (sound familiar?). In this episode we talk about: 00:50 Pretty Privilege is a thing 02:08 The Misconceptions Around Virginity and Hymens 06:01 The Trauma of Early Sex Education 07:44 The Terrifying Reality of Childbirth 15:05 The Importance of Women's Sexual Pleasure 16:27 The Need for Sexual Exploration and Communication 20:38 The Stigma and Shame Around Masturbation 26:44 The Hypocrisy of Men's Sexual Preferences 29:08 Different Types of Orgasms and Sexual Scripts 30:30 The Importance of Clitoral Stimulation 32:10 The Benefits of Sex Toys and Masturbation 37:16 The Impact of Sexual Satisfaction on Relationships 41:22 The Impact of Aging on Sexual Function 45:26 Animal Behavior and Sexual Interactions 47:10 Symptoms and Treatment of Gonorrhea 51:00 Overcoming Stigma and Fear of STIs 52:49 Creating an Audio Book and One-Woman Show 54:34 Promoting Sexual Liberation and Expression 56:24 Persistence and Pursuing Dreams in the Entertainment Industry You can find Jil on Instagram at and on YouTube at Speaking of YouTube, this show is on it! Check it out here. If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! and I'll give you a shout out! For classes, coaching and more, visit Catch me on Instagram at &
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The Business of Sex Education (w/ Anne Hodder-Shipp)
01/10/2024
The Business of Sex Education (w/ Anne Hodder-Shipp)
Anne Holder-Shipp is an award winning Sex & Relationships Educator and Author of ’18 Modern Love Languages’ originally from Wolfurrow, New Hampshire where they learned more about sex exploring the library’s card catalog then they ever did in a classroom! In this episode we talk about: 01:34 Pandemic Era Transition to Online Teaching 11:11 The Balance Of Fair Compensation and Accessibility For In-Person Classes 14:11 Marketing and Censorship Challenges 18:22 The Reality of Sex Education Work 20:02 Growing Up in a Conservative Town 26:28 Limited Sex Education in School 34:23 Neutral Perspective on Sex Leading To Expansive Values 38:06 Unique Background and Entry into Sex Education 38:26 How They Became a Sex Educator 41:10 Working in Treatment Centers 43:07 Harm Reduction and Abstinence-Only Education 46:09 The Challenges of Sex Education in Treatment Centers 52:11 Understanding Desire and Collaboration in Relationships 55:58 Anne's Epic Responses to Trolls on TikTok You can find Anne on and at @TheAnneHodder and their website and of course if you too are interested in becoming a Sex Educator or simply learning more, visit If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on !
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Sex(y) Therapy (w/ Ify Nwadiwe)
12/20/2023
Sex(y) Therapy (w/ Ify Nwadiwe)
Ify Nwadiwe is a Comedian, Actor, Writer and Thot Dad originally from Los Angeles, CA where his Catholic School taught him religion instead of health and his public School made him sign up for sex ed as an elective as if learning about your body was the same thing as learning photography or Roman history. In this episode we talk about: 04:31 LA vs. New York 14:42 Sex Education in School 18:05 ADHD and Mental Health 21:38 Therapy and Sexuality 28:54 Successful Non-Monogamy 45:13 Trampling Over Boundaries 47:06 Problematic Relationship Coaches 50:22 Co-Creation and Personal Boundaries in relationships 51:48 Understanding Kitchen Table Polyamory 56:38 Monogamous Reactions to Non-Monogamy 57:27 First Reactions vs. Real Reactions 58:23 Excuses and Alternative Lifestyles 01:00:37 Ify’s upcoming Comedy Show! You can find Ify on Instagram at and his website . If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Email us at to request your favorite comedian or sexuality professional! Join Arielle's newsletter, , for musings on sex, relationships and life.
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Sex Witches (w/ Joy Wolfe)
12/13/2023
Sex Witches (w/ Joy Wolfe)
Joy Wolfe is a Writer, Director and Spiritual Comedian originally from Hollywood, CA and Albuquerque, New Mexico where they had a rotating door of teachers for the kids to torture with bad jokes instead of learning every week. In this episode we talk about: 01:42 Journey with Sex and Astrology 03:08 The Importance of Boundaries in Sex 06:16 Misconceptions about BDSM 07:01 The Influence of Religion on Sexuality 08:23 The Power of Words and Spells 16:16 The Myth of Virginity and Hymens 25:38 The Connection Between Witchcraft and Sexuality 34:14 Meeting Each Other and the Connection 43:20 Jocelyn Elders and Progress in Sex Education 44:33 Repression and Punishment 45:29 Impact of Technology on Sexual Education 46:13 Watching Porn in Traffic 49:25 Collaborative Sex 51:10 Unlearning Shame and Expectations 53:01 The Majority's Discomfort and Dissatisfaction with Sexuality 54:02 Connecting Sexuality to Life-Force Energy 54:49 The Sexualization and Repression of Body Parts 57:36 The Impact of Pole Dancing 58:27 Navigating Sexuality in Professional Settings 01:05:37 Creating Safe Spaces for Taboo Topics You can find Joy on Instagram at and listen to her podcast “” wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Email us at to request your favorite comedian or sexuality professional! Join Arielle's newsletter, , for musings on sex, relationships and life.
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Cervical Orgasms Are A Thing (w/ Wendy Perkins)
12/06/2023
Cervical Orgasms Are A Thing (w/ Wendy Perkins)
Wendy Perkins is an Orgasm and Neuro Pleasure Coach originally from North Hollywood, CA where she was simply told not to have sex because you will get a disease and die… yikes! In this episode we talk about: 01:11 Becoming an Orgasm and Neuro Pleasure Coach 03:06 The Role of the Nervous System in Sexual Experiences 13:20 The Need for Self-Regulation Skills 14:45 The Impact of Shame and Guilt on sex and pleasure 26:00 Navigating Boundaries in Coaching and Therapy 35:16 Balancing Stress and Pleasure in Life 38:02 The Importance of Sensory Activation and Pleasure Practices 41:11 The Flawed Approach to Sex Education 46:16 Exploring Personal Sexual Journey and Discoveries 51:24 Understanding the Impact of Trauma on Sexual Health 52:19 Educating Medical Professionals on Cervical Orgasms 54:39 Disparity in Care for Sexual Pleasure 56:34 The Healing Power of Pleasure You can find Wendy on Instagram at and her website If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Email us at to request your favorite comedian or sexuality professional! Join Arielle's newsletter, , for musings on sex, relationships and life.
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Sex Is Messy (w/ Michele Farmery)
11/29/2023
Sex Is Messy (w/ Michele Farmery)
Michele is the CEO and Co-Founder Squirtopia, originally from San Diego, CA where going Catholic School meant that Jesus was her homie who she didn’t want to disappoint. In this episode we talk about: A warning, we are two excited Leos. This conversation is passionate! How she and her co-founder / husband wound up living in Amsterdam An orgasm and a business idea…. Witches & Sex magic! Dismantling beliefs about ourselves and our partners How women and people with vulvas explore when we’re young The power of being honest with your kids about sex and drugs The campaign to move the red light district (!!!!) How the owner of a squirt pad company learned about squirting Personal responsibility in pleasure How she convinced her dad to help her with her sex business The importance of sex work You can find Michele on Instagram at @squirtopia and their website www.squirtopia.com If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Join Arielle's newsletter, , for musings on sex, relationships and life.
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The Slipperier, The Better (w/ Rena Martine)
11/15/2023
The Slipperier, The Better (w/ Rena Martine)
Rena Martine is a Women’s Intimacy Coach, Speaker and Author originally from LA where she learned more about sex from breaking into her dad’s secret cabinet then she ever did in a classroom. In this episode we talk about: The adventure that exists within a container of boundaries vs. the overwhelm that exists with no boundaries The power of planning for sex Arousal for people with vulvas Learning about sex through her dad’s porn collection What your preferred porn says about you Her transition from Sex Crimes DA to Intimacy Coach Working through sexual shame The value we place on sex in relationships (or lack thereof) Rena’s new book, “The Sex You Want”! You can find Rena on Instagram at @_rena.martine_ and her website You can also “The Sex You Want” on Amazon If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Join Arielle's newsletter, , for musings on sex, relationships and life.
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C*m To Clear Your Head (w/ Braxton Holme)
11/08/2023
C*m To Clear Your Head (w/ Braxton Holme)
Braxton Holme is an adult film Production Designer originally from Grand Rapids, Michigan where he had nothing more than flower babies in Home Ec class to teach them about sex. In this episode we talk about: The cowboy fever dream pool party where we met How he got into the art of clothing naked people (aka costuming for porn) How working with adult performers changed his view of the profession The differences, and similarities, in filming scenes with actual sex vs. simulated sex What age appropriate sex education *really* looks like What actually goes into styling for a porn The importance of getting dressed for sex in your own life Why do people with penises like the jackhammer so much? Braxton’s inspiring words of wisdom you don’t want to miss! You can find Braxton on Instagram at and his website If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Join Arielle's newsletter, , for musings on sex, relationships and life.
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Destigmatizing Sex Through Comedy (w/ Subhah Agarwal)
11/01/2023
Destigmatizing Sex Through Comedy (w/ Subhah Agarwal)
Subhah is a Comedian, Actor and Writer originally from the suburbs of Chicagos where everything was innuendo and the high school was split like a prison gang. In this episode we talk about: Sex workers vs. comedians, who has it better? Germany’s sex work stipend! 80s innuendo, the pinnacle of public school sex ed Teachers who clearly don’t fuck teaching kids about sex... and what their perspective might have been The exploding tampon! They used saline instead of blood to determine tampon capacity?! Her journey from Indian comedy to comedy that destigmatized sex Our collective first generation experience with sexuality at home Bridgerton Brother and a contrarian sister Why harm reduction is far safer than abstinence in sex education High school clicks & prison gangs… Surviving starting comedy as a teenage girl Want more inclusive comedy? Support shows that have a pattern of booking different types of comics Comedy in NY vs. Comedy in LA Nerds be fucking Ethical porn She's working on a new comedy special, go check her out! You can find Subhah on Instagram at on TikTok at and their website If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! More of a reader? Join Arielle's newsletter, , for musings on sex, relationships and life.
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Creating Space (w/ Bet Heykoop)
10/25/2023
Creating Space (w/ Bet Heykoop)
Bet Heykoop is a Stunt Driver originally from Whittier, CA where the girls are prettier is literally on t-shirts and also she was home schooled so sex ed was up to dear ole mom and dad. In this episode we talk about: Arielle falling in love with an MGB in Bet’s hometown How two babes in classics me (thanks and !) How she dreamt up her show, Hot Shift Creating space for women and people who look like her where they otherwise feel like they don’t belong First rule of driving classic cars We all wear drag, what’s yours? Sexism in car culture Learning about sex (or not) through a religious home schooling program Encyclopedia and ‘that one friend’ as sex educators Scissoring our Barbies... you know you did it too Intersex chat To learn more about intersex people and how to support putting an end to the human rights abuses experienced by the intersex community, especially children, visit You can find Bet on Instagram at and her website and catch her show Hot Shift on Instagram and YouTube . If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Join Arielle's newsletter, , for musings on sex, relationships and life.
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It's Not Like A Penis (w/ Dr. Dee Hartmann)
10/18/2023
It's Not Like A Penis (w/ Dr. Dee Hartmann)
Dr. Dee Hartmann is a Women’s Health Physical Therapist, Educator and Author originally from South Central Illinois where questions simply weren’t asked. In this episode we talk about: The importance of exploring your own body to discover how your pleasure works Pelvic floor isn’t just about getting rid of pain, it’s about experiencing pleasure too The penetration problem in women’s health The clit may get erect, but it’s not like a penis! Finding pleasure in the every day Foreplay is forever How her family’s approach to love differed from her now husband’s Taking responsibility for your own pleasure Shifting generational views on pleasure and the vulva starting at home Relationships in the digital world Female ejaculate aka squirting! You can find Dee on Instagram at and her website where you can purchase her book. If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Join Arielle's newsletter, , for musings on sex, relationships and life.
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Sex, Astrology and fcking Chad (w/ Nadège)
10/11/2023
Sex, Astrology and fcking Chad (w/ Nadège)
Nadège is a Sex Scholar, Astrologist, Author and Coach originally from Los Angeles, CA where nuns taught sex ed and brought in the actress who held up an STI sign in a Good Charlotte video as a guest speaker. In this episode we talk about: How Nadège became a Sex Scholar Growing up as a curious, extroverted child who knew they wanted to be on birth control… just in case Being sexy meant being loved (not true) Chad. So much talk about Chad. All the Chads. Mixed messaging about sex and worth Erotic Astrology! How to make consent sexy in the moment SLOWING IT DOWN and arousal times for vulvas are a lot longer than you think The Virgo Virginity Myth You can find Nadège on Instagram at and their website . Their book, “Sextrology” is available now on Amazon: If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Join Arielle's newsletter, , for musings on sex, relationships and life.
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Everyone Gets Hard (w/ Jacquis Neal)
10/04/2023
Everyone Gets Hard (w/ Jacquis Neal)
Jacquis Neal is an actor, comedian and creator of ‘Comedian Feud’ originally from Chicago, IL where old men would kiss women on the lips at Church as a standard greeting. In this episode we talk about: Creating his live show, Comedian Feud How fear and embarrassment over saying anything sexual causes people to lose the game Showmances; They’re alive and well How Intimacy Coordinators impact our lives long after the job has wrapped Arousal non-concordance in life, on set and on a massage table Sex Ed in school? Nah. Sex talk was however you got it... Like watching the Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky trial unfold on television Suck my dick! Is that really an insult? Casual homophobic language of the 90s His own journey with his mother’s coming out Questioning behaviors in comedy and what is actually funny when it comes to sexuality and gender You can find Jacques on Instagram at and his website If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists. Leave a 5 star review and I’ll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on !
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Being Seen (w/ Emily Anne)
09/27/2023
Being Seen (w/ Emily Anne)
Emily Anne is a BDSM Coach, Educator and Author originally from a farm town in the Pacific North West where her graduating class had only 40 people! In this episode we talk about: Sexy events bring people together New Yorkers and kinky people, we’ll always find each other What it is to truly see someone Exploring erotic interiors The reality of working in sexuality, even when it’s not sex work The great (horrible, misogynistic) instagram deplatforming and Arielle’s pole dancing account being a part of that Privilege and sex education Teachers taking on Sex Ed, trying to make an extra buck When Sex Ed is all about your life ending one way or another Farm town frolicking and grown men talking about a teenage girl’s hickey The Madonna Whore Complex… google it The immediate categorization of people when we date The goldmine you’re sitting on in long term relationships How capitalism, patriarchy and racism ties into sexuality Wait, do birds and bees fuck? Growing up on a farm, animals are your first example of sex but no one talks about it Our shared experiences of overriding our instincts The domination of children and the impact on us as adults Power dynamics and Intimacy Coordinators Learning by fucking! How she became a BDSM coach Low key announcement, Birds & Bees Don’t Fck Live comin’ at ya Jan 3rd! Emily’s Sex Pro tip! You can find Emily on Instagram at @thedomsubcoaches and her website and If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Want to help raise money for men's mental health, prostate and testicular cancer research? Great! Arielle is the Los Angeles host of the Distinguished Gentleman's Drive that just happened worldwide on Sunday September 24th. It’s not too late to make a donation, simply visit
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