Birds And Bees Don't Fck
We can all agree that the whole birds and bees thing was a lie, right? When it came to learning about sex, we were all left to our own devices (or lack thereof!) yet somehow we made it through! Join Sex Educator & Intimacy Coordinator Arielle Zadok as she talks comedians and sexperts about how they learned about sex, and share what they know now. No matter what type of upbringing you had, we've got a story you can relate to!
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What Porn Taught Hollywood About Sex Scenes w/ Lotus Lain
04/01/2026
What Porn Taught Hollywood About Sex Scenes w/ Lotus Lain
Lotus Lain is an adult performer, producer, intimacy coordinator and sex worker advocate originally from California’s Central Valley where growing up in a small town meant most of her real sex education came later through curiosity, the internet, and eventually working in the adult industry itself. In this episode we talk about the unexpected overlap between porn and Hollywood, how the adult industry approached consent, boundaries and choreography long before mainstream film and television caught up, and why productions eventually realized they needed intimacy coordinators. We also get into mentorship in the adult industry, what actually happens on set when filming sex scenes, and why performers deserve experts guiding those moments. Catch Lotus and I gettin’ real reading Reddit stories over on Patreon! Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: ____________________________________________________ Where to find Lotus: Instagram: TikTok: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Organizations we support: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: My husband (37M) has been seeing other women and I (36F) don't know if I should give him another chance. What would you do? STORY 2: AIO? My daughter didn’t listen to the teacher during a female emergency and is now receiving a referral Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: ___________________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet: 02:29 Growing up in California’s Central Valley 04:28 Discovering the adult industry 06:36 Mentorship and “porn mom” lineage 08:45 Consent and boundaries on adult film sets 10:55 The logistics of filming sex scenes 13:18 Why Hollywood eventually needed intimacy coordinators 15:31 Differences between porn sets and traditional film sets 17:38 Choreographing realistic sex scenes 19:54 Why actors need experts guiding intimate scenes 22:15 Performer advocacy and safety on set 24:35 The rise of intimacy coordination in Hollywood 26:58 What film productions still get wrong about sex scenes 28:40 Why sex workers understand boundaries and consent 30:41 Supporting performers during vulnerable scenes 33:01 Changing the culture of filming intimacy
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Where There's A Will, There's A Fcking Way w/ Aimee Latta
03/25/2026
Where There's A Will, There's A Fcking Way w/ Aimee Latta
Aimee Latta is a certified embodied intimacy and relationship coach and the host of the podcast Come Talk With Aimee, originally from Utah where the best sex education she got was a fifth grade presentation from a very enthusiastic husband and wife team… followed by years of abstinence-only education and a very graphic childbirth video meant to scare everyone into never having sex. In this episode we talk about growing up in Utah, abstinence-only sex education, Mormon purity culture, and what happens when the only messaging around sex is prevention instead of pleasure. We also get into Aimee’s journey from working in public health policy to becoming an intimacy and relationship coach helping people reconnect with their bodies, their pleasure, and their partners. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: _________________________________________________ Where to find Aimee: Instagram: TikTok: Podcast: Where to find Arielle: Instagram: TikTok: Patreon: Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode cheat sheet: 00:46 Starting a sex podcast and talking about sex publicly 03:22 Why talking about sex still feels taboo 05:18 How Aimee started the Come Talk With Aimee podcast 10:00 Being a public voice in sex education and intimacy coaching 18:54 From public health policy to becoming an intimacy coach 28:12 Growing up in Utah with abstinence-only sex education 34:57 BYU rules, Mormon purity culture, and sex before marriage 47:42 Mormon garments, religion, and sexuality 49:21 Becoming a sex and relationship coach 53:52 Painful sex in marriage and rediscovering pleasure 59:57 Why couples struggle to talk openly about sex
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The Cuban Missile Crisis of Burlesque w/ Tito Bonito
03/18/2026
The Cuban Missile Crisis of Burlesque w/ Tito Bonito
Tito Bonito is an international burlesque performer, host and instructor originally from Miami, Florida where he knew he was gay before he even knew how babies were made… and learned most of the rest through TLC, the Spice Girls, and sheer curiosity. Catch Tito and I talkin’ some real shit reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT / 7p ET: _________________________________________________ Where to find Tito: Instagram: | Links: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // TikTok: Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: My (31F) husband (33M) of four years doesn’t take our role playing seriously when we have sex. He purposely takes his characters way over the top. STORY 2: AITA for dropping our dinner on the ground and walking out when my boyfriend asked me "What's for dinner tonight, b*tch?" Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: ________________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet: 03:07 Shadowbanning, algorithms and why sex educators need Patreon 07:00 Demisexuality, graysexuality and why dating apps don’t work for everyone 09:14 Friends who fuck, play communities and chosen family 10:41 Why hookup culture looks different for women, femmes and men 12:45 The dream of a hookup app for women and femmes 18:31 Why talking about sex openly matters 20:00 Therapy, curiosity and emotional intelligence in relationships 23:07 Why getting “dicked down” can improve your mood 24:22 Prostate pleasure, anal play and why butt toys need a stopper 27:05 Lube 101: silicone vs water based and toy safety 29:31 Gooning, masturbation and slowing down sexual experiences 31:40 Subspace, rope play and erotic trance states 36:18 Growing up gay in Miami and early memories of sexuality 40:52 Masculinity, machismo and emotionally healthy men 46:22 Why it’s harder for men to seek emotional or sexual support 49:36 The performance of masculinity and learning sensuality 53:55 Why monogamy puts pressure on one partner to meet every sexual need 57:35 Men in burlesque and how Tito found the stage 59:27 The early burlesque scene and performing masculine tropes 01:03:44 Why burlesque is political, comedic and deeply sex positive 01:06:03 Giving audiences permission to explore sexuality 01:08:20 Consent culture and why burlesque spaces teach boundaries
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Everyone Wants To Be A Cult Leader w/ Jimanekia Ebon
03/11/2026
Everyone Wants To Be A Cult Leader w/ Jimanekia Ebon
Join the watch party LIVE AT FIVE on YouTube: Jimanekia Eborn is a trauma specialist, sexuality educator, survivor advocate, co-owner of Cintima, and founder of the nonprofit Tending the Garden, originally from Riverside, California where she actually DID received sex education multiple times growing up… but was any of it good? Absolutely not. In this episode we talk about grief, trauma work, modern dating struggles, sex education failures, intimacy coordination, professional wrestling (yes, I mean that), mental health, and why community and safe spaces are essential for connection and pleasure. Catch Jimanekia and I reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: AITA for cancelling mother's day celebration that I arranged for my wife after hearing what she told my son? STORY 2: AIO if I end my relationship because my bf kisses and tells me he loves me before leaving for work in the morning? Where to find Jimanekia: Instagram: Cintima Training: Nonprofit: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // TikTok: Patreon: Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: Episode Cheat Sheet & Index: 00:09 Intro 02:30 Imposter syndrome and starting the podcast 05:00 Jimanekia’s work in professional wrestling mental health 08:30 Losing her father and navigating grief 10:20 The power of laughter during difficult moments 12:10 Community, connection, and safe spaces during the pandemic 15:15 Dating apps and the loss of real connection 17:45 Nervous systems, safety, and intimacy 20:00 Protecting your peace and sexual boundaries 21:40 Working in sex education and consent culture 23:00 Growing up in Riverside, California 23:50 Early sex education experiences 25:30 Sneaking HBO and learning from Real Sex and Loveline 29:00 Why representation in sex education matters 31:20 Finding community in the sex industry 33:30 Boundaries and accountability in sexuality spaces 36:00 How Jimanekia got into intimacy coordination training 40:30 Building Cintima and training intimacy coordinators 44:00 Working across trauma care, media, and sexuality education 47:00 Play parties, consent culture, and power dynamics 49:30 Weird and wonderful jobs in the sexuality industry 51:00 Learning about sex through books and curiosity 54:00 Balancing multiple careers in sexuality work 58:30 Why asking for help matters
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Cute Butt Stuff w/ Whitaker Cohen
03/04/2026
Cute Butt Stuff w/ Whitaker Cohen
Whitaker Cohen is the Founder and CEO of Amore Sui, originally from the East Coast where despite having a mom who worked for Planned Parenthood she still received plenty of medical sex education without any lessons on pleasure. We talk about terrible sex education, orgasm myths, squirting, consent, power dynamics, and how Whitaker went from a few bad anal experiences to launching a company designing beginner friendly butt plugs specifically for women. Catch Whitaker and I reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! Episode cheat sheet: 00:38 Meeting Whitaker Cohen 05:23 Growing up with Planned Parenthood sex education 09:55 Goal oriented sex vs pleasure 12:14 Squirting myths 16:59 What sex education actually teaches 19:23 The clitoris and missing research 24:07 The “blue balls” myth 28:38 Consent, fawning, and sexual assault 33:10 Power dynamics and sex 37:52 Discovering anal pleasure 40:03 Starting Amore Sui 44:28 Designing a beginner friendly butt plug 49:09 Why most butt plugs are badly designed 53:43 Launching a sex toy company 58:01 Reddit story teaser Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon: STORY 1: I found my fiancés sex tape with my stepmother. We're supposed to get married in two weeks. STORY 2: AITA for locking up my stuff so my wife will not touch it Where to find Whitaker: Instagram: Get 10% off your oder: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // TikTok: // Patreon: Like my cuffs? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:
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Birds & Bees Don't Read Reddit w/ Elisa Ellis (Bonus Episode)
03/03/2026
Birds & Bees Don't Read Reddit w/ Elisa Ellis (Bonus Episode)
to access the full episode. It's here! Our very first bonus episode of Birds & Bees Don't Read Reddit and I'm starting this adventure with none other than comedian Elisa Ellis who also happens to get the most unhinged versions of me in real life. This episode is WILD ya'll. Here are the stories, only available on Patreon: Story 1: I just found out that I'm a mistress...of 4 years. OMG. How do I tell her? 48M/36F Story 2: My 43f husbands 46m affair partner 19f is pregnant doesn’t know the baby’s father and I don’t know where to begin with fixing this Story 3: AITA For suing my girlfriend after she had my 1967 impala project taken to the scrapyard? Honestly, this was one hell of a way to start. Follow Elisa: On & @ElisaMcBear Follow Me: On & @BirdsAndBeesDontFck and my personal Instagram Love my Crave Cuffs? Use my link and get $15 off anything storewide:
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An Overdue Update
09/26/2025
An Overdue Update
I ghosted, I know. And I'm sorry. So here's a little update on where things are at! Including me losing (for now) my primary instagram account @ariellezadok Like, comment & subscribe if you're happy to hear me! ________________ Get your Backstage Pass and join the circle community: Take the free masterclass, Pleasure on Purpose: Dive into The Sexy Directory: Follow me on instagram: // (at least these still exist... for now!)
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Sexy Confidence (w/ Tia Lynn)
06/26/2024
Sexy Confidence (w/ Tia Lynn)
Tia Lynn is a sex and intimacy coach, Tedx speaker and host of the Sexy Biz Babe podcast originally from Utah where as you can imagine, the Mormons (which she was not one of) taught her nothing about sexuality but a whole lot about judgement. Some things we said... "Pole dancing gives permission for others to explore their desires and sensuality." "Transitioning into sex coaching happened naturally based on client feedback and impact." "When you upgrade and when you progress past that, that makes them look at themselves in a way that they're not ready to." "Play parties provide a space where sex is permitted, but it's not required." "Consent is required at play parties, and there's accountability for violating someone's boundaries." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! Where to find Tia: Intsta: Podcast: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: Website: K, love you, byeeeee
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Sugar Baby Gone Wrong (w/ Nnamdi Ngwe)
06/19/2024
Sugar Baby Gone Wrong (w/ Nnamdi Ngwe)
Nnamdi Ngwe is an actor, comedian and writer for The Amber Ruffin Show and Tab Time originally from London where his initial sex education was just the bad kids used to try to get the younger kids to kiss. Then he got a little older and realized how unhinged that was! Some things we said... "I would, as long as it's like, my feelings wouldn't be hurt if it's like, don't do that. Continue on. Yeah. Here's some guidance. Here's some notes. Let's keep going." "You think that I'm not in control, you think that I'm not in power, your dick is in my mouth. I can fucking hurt you or heal you right now. Do not fuck with me." "You have better sex when you know what you're working with. But none of us were ever taught what we're working with. So, like, we're just like flailing about." "That's daddy official. Okay, okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, you've been a sugar daddy. I've been not a good one." "You have your erotic persona and then you have who you are. Yeah. Really? Like you have, there's, there's two worlds." "To get somebody in a position to release to you in that way is such a gift and it's so powerful." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! Where to find Nnamdi: Intsta: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: Website: K, love you, byeeeee
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Letting Your Freak Flag Fly (w/ Teresa Lo)
06/12/2024
Letting Your Freak Flag Fly (w/ Teresa Lo)
Teresa Lo is an award winning writer and comedian originally from Coffeeville Kansas where nearly 40% of her high school class had a baby before graduation… which is another reason why accurate sex education is so important! Some things we said... "Comedy and the sex world is the only place that accepts freaks and lets us thrive." "If I really wanted it, I could have done it." "How bad do you want something? What are you willing to sacrifice?" "People, not all people, but many people are very dishonest about sexuality where they can't be open with what they really want." "Some people are afraid to even negotiate, to even say upfront, like these are what I want. This is what I'm cool with. This is what I don't like to do. This is what I like to do." "There are so many men out there that want to treat a woman, that want to be in that dynamic, that want to be daddy, that want to be a master." ... plus so much more. to get the full experience! Where to find Teresa: Intsta: OnlyFans: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: Website: K, love you, byeeeee
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Tantalizing Tantra (w/ Layla Paul)
06/05/2024
Tantalizing Tantra (w/ Layla Paul)
Layla Paul is a strategic brand consultant for kinky brands originally from Chicago where her lack of sex education lead her to put her own child through the program. What a badass move. Some things we said... "If it can do double duty, I'm all about that" "You have this one product that's made for XYZ, but how can you use it in a different way?" "Partnerships with deep, visceral connections and loyalty last regardless of monogamy or non-monogamy." "The primal aspects of attraction, like scent and voice, are often overlooked but play a significant role in intimacy." "Intimacy coordinators in film ensure the safety and comfort of performers during intimate scenes." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! Where to find Layla: Intsta: Website: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: Website: K, love you, byeeeee
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Prioritizing Sex (w/ Andrew Orolfo)
05/29/2024
Prioritizing Sex (w/ Andrew Orolfo)
Andrew Orolfo is a stand up comedian, host of the meter gameshow and one of Just For Laughs New Faces of 2022 originally from Oakland, CA where they pretty much just watched a video from the 80s with dude stuff. Some things we said... "Sometimes you get close to death and then you come, you know what I mean?" "We're so often rushing with ourselves, especially men and people with penises." "Creating space for pleasure and exploration can enhance sexual experiences." "There's so much more. There's so much available to us if we're willing to explore it." "We need to normalize that conversation. Yeah. By the way, fucking everybody's got herpes and we just don't talk about it." "We have to make it safe for men to learn these things without shame, without guilt." ... plus so much more. Watch it on YouTube to get the full experience! Where to find Andrew: Intsta: Website: OnlyFans: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: Website:
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You Can Be Smart AND Slutty (w/ Nicoletta Heidegger)
05/22/2024
You Can Be Smart AND Slutty (w/ Nicoletta Heidegger)
Nicoletta Heidegger is a therapist, sexologist, equine assisted psychotherapist, educator and host of the podcast ‘Sluts and Scholars’ originally from the porn capital of the world (aka the San Fernando Valley) where thankfully she grew up in a sex positive home that lead to being the sexy powerhouse that she is today! Some things we said... “We all have the capacity to be woo girls” "The San Fernando Valley: From Porn Capital to Podcast" “So like a pole at the park, like a bed post, a lamp post, sofa arm, you know, like things that were things that were long and hard that I could rub up against.” "Breaking Down Sexual Shame and Judgment" “I had a curious mind about it and just an active imagination. I had a lot of fantasies when I was younger and self-pleasure and fantasizing became a big part of my young life.” "The Lack of Sexuality Education for Medical Professionals" "I don't know, it's just like dare to resist drugs and yeah. Let's look at it." "And so she was the one that was like, yeah, we should be teaching our kids about masturbation. It's a natural part of having a body and we should be teaching kids about that." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! Where to find Nicoletta: Intsta: Podcast: Website: Where to find Arielle: Insta: // Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: Website: K, love you, byeeeee
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Kinky Education (w/ Nathan Hammerle)
05/15/2024
Kinky Education (w/ Nathan Hammerle)
Nathan Hammerle is a sexual wellness educator and novelty specialist from central Ohio where the older kids faked them out and gave all the younger kids anxiety about the sex ed videos they had to watch about puberty. Some things we said... "Sex is messy and weird and we're gonna fuck up and just like, keep going." "Safety is the foundation of any successful kink scene." "How can we get more creative in bed?" "I loved doing...that's how I sort of transitioned from history teaching into sexual wellness." "There's room for everyone, but there's a responsibility...that everybody does their homework in this space." "Electro play is fun...it's not all about pain." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! LA Couples Intimacy Workshop with Arielle on 5/15: LA Sensual Movement Soundbath with Arielle & Sacred Sounds by Devon on 5/22: Where to find Nathan: Intsta: Where to find Arielle: Insta: & Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: K, love you, byeeeee
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Sexy Yentas (w/ Raye Schiller)
05/08/2024
Sexy Yentas (w/ Raye Schiller)
Raye Schiller is a comedian, screenwriter and professional yenta originally from Queens, NY where they were raised as an Orthodox Jew. Yes, that means we are two Jews from New York which is obviously why this is the sexy yenta episode! Some things we said... "We're Jews. We have our own traumas." "The gender thing was the reason I left. I couldn't exist in that world where I was a second class citizen." "Relenting is not consenting. Just remember that. If you learn anything today, learn that relenting is not consenting." "When you're in a subspace, you are, you're present, but you're like shut down, not shut. I don't want to use the language shut down, but you're so, you're like in a trance." ... plus so much more. Watch it on to get the full experience! LA Couples Intimacy Workshop with Arielle on 5/15: Where to find Raye: Intsta: TikTok: Where to find Arielle: Insta: K, love you, byeeeee
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Sex Positive Moms (w/ Dr. Alix Agar)
05/01/2024
Sex Positive Moms (w/ Dr. Alix Agar)
Dr. Alix Agar is a Clinical Sexologist and one of LA’s top Sex Therapists originally from Oakville Ontario where her mom was the cool mom to create safe spaces for her, and all her friends. A literal hero. In this episode we talk about: 02:06 Early Experiences as a Dancer 03:34 Bonding Experiences through Travel 04:04 Exploring Power Dynamics and Relationships Working On a Cruise Ship 05:55 Open Communication and Supportive Parenting 09:16 The Role of Parents in Sex Education 13:24 The Power of Self-Disclosure in Therapy 21:32 Disarming Clients and Normalizing Experiences 23:00 Spoiler… Therapists Hav Biases! 26:23 Harm Reduction!! 31:23 Lack of Sex Education in Therapy Programs 39:39 Defining Boundaries and Scope of Practice 41:33 You Gotta Like Your Therapist! 44:15 Sex and Politics - They’re unfortunately intertwined! 45:37 Religion's Impact on Sexuality 47:59 The Cruelty of Sex Education 51:36 The Importance of Embracing Childhood Curiosity 59:40 Find Your Community and Get Support You can find Dr. Alix on Instagram at and her website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! LOS ANGELES: Join me on Wednesday May 15th for a Couples Intimacy Workshop at Zula Den where we'll be exploring arousal, gaining practical sexy communication tools and embaring on a journey of sensory exploration designed to ignite passion and deepen connection. Learn more at: Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Strip Your Shame Away (w/ Miss Spent Youth)
04/24/2024
Strip Your Shame Away (w/ Miss Spent Youth)
Miss Spent Youth is a Los Angeles based burlesque performer, producer, teacher and pin up princess originally from North Carolina where the girls were afraid to swim on their periods! In this episode we talk about burlesque, empowerment, creativity, body positivity, power dynamics, body confidence, sexuality, burlesque, sex education, circumcision, shame, open-mindedness, acceptance and SO much more! You can find Miss Spent Youth on Instagram at and her website, ~~~~ Los Angeles! If you’re a femme looking to build confidence, heal your relationship to your body and tap into your sensuality, join me THIS Sunday April 28th for an Immersive Sensual Empowerment & Pole Dance workshop in Downtown LA. Details & registration: ~~~~ Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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The Boob Episode (w/ Amanda G. Savage)
04/17/2024
The Boob Episode (w/ Amanda G. Savage)
Amanda G. Savage is a comedian, host and creator of the show G. Savage Talks originally from the great soft pretzel state of Pennsylvania where she did an anti-abstinence only presentation and we Stan. Also, happy 420 ya'll! This episode was unofficially sponsored by , their vapes are so tasty and smooth. If you're into it, I highly (!!) recommend this brand. In this episode we talk about: The great G Savage Yelling at men on stage Boobs! Imagine having a different pair every day?! Respecting pussy gets you EVERYWHERE Decision fatigue in dating Growing up wanting to pee standing up (relatable) Prioritizing pleasure Society’s perception of sexual expression Refractory periods… what are they? You can find Amanda on Instagram at on TikTok at and her website LA you can see Amanda live on April 25th at Holy Water in WeHo for the G Savage Talks premier! Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! 4/28 Immersive Sensual Empowerment & Pole Dance Workshop Registration: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/immersive-sensual-empowerment-pole-dance-workshop-beginner-friendly-registration-875746440177?aff=ebdsoporgprofile Check out other upcoming Sensuality workshops at Join the mailing list for weekly Sex(y) Education sent straight to your inbox! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie (or a Daddy, whatever). K, love you, byeeeeee
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The Truth About Sex Work (w/ ShelBee)
04/10/2024
The Truth About Sex Work (w/ ShelBee)
ShelBee is an aerial performer, instructor and sex worker originally from Taiwan and grew up in an Asian community in SoCal where she was taught using a tampon means you’re losing your virginity! In this episode we talk about: 03:19 ShelBee got me a gift!! 05:13 Cultivating Eroticism 08:58 The Impact of Positive Examples of Single Women 18:20 Asian Cultural Beliefs about Tampons 23:04 Older Siblings Are Our Saviors! 25:31 First Sexual Experiences 26:28 Understanding How to Please Women 29:18 Creating Mutually Beneficial Relationships 32:26 The Erasure of Female Anatomy In Medical History 35:11 Exploring and Discovering Sexual Preferences 39:22 The Impact of Shame and Internalized Shame 40:46 Coming Out and Overcoming Trauma 41:34 The Journey to Self-Acceptance 45:09 Entering the Sex Work Industry 47:05 Understanding Having a Sugar Daddy / Being A Sugar Baby 49:54 Dispelling Misconceptions about Sex Work 52:37 Unity and Support within the Sex Work Community You can find ShelBee on Instagram at @shelbeestrong and if you’re lucky, teaching or performing at a venue in Los Angeles! Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Planting Sexy Seeds (W/ Dr. Nazanin Moali)
04/03/2024
Planting Sexy Seeds (W/ Dr. Nazanin Moali)
Dr. Nazanin Moali is a Clinical Psychologist, Sex Therapist and Host of the Sexology podcast originally from Iran where sex education was TRULY non-existent. In this episode we talk about: 00:00 The Importance of Different Perspectives 03:09 The Role of Communication in Relationships 07:15 The Impact of Nonverbal Communication 10:06 Changing Attitudes Towards Therapy and Mental Health 12:04 The Influence of Trauma on Sexual Health 15:47 Lack of Comprehensive Sex Education 26:41 Transitioning to Sex Therapy 28:20 Healing from Eating Disorders and Rediscovering Pleasure 31:17 The Importance of Pleasure 36:31 Cultivating Pleasure in Different Areas of Life 41:21 Creating Sensual Spaces 44:57 The Menu of Options 50:12 The Importance of Communication and Planning in Sex 55:44 Cultivating Desire and Erotic Mind You can find Dr. Nazanin on Instagram at @sexologypodcast, her website and wherever you get your podcasts. The Yes / No / Maybe list we talk about can be found at: And the erotic menu can be found at Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host And if you want to say “thanks babe” !
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Sex Ed Video Star (w/ Christine Medrano)
03/27/2024
Sex Ed Video Star (w/ Christine Medrano)
Christine Medrano is a comedian, actress and writer originally from Winnipeg Manitoba, Canada where she went to Catholic school and watched an abortion video at age 14, and that was pretty much it! In this episode we talk about: 03:21 Christine was in a Sex Ed Video! 04:16 We have a pitch… the office, but it’s an STI clinic! 06:29 Misconceptions about Anal Play and Sexuality 10:03 There wasn’t any sex ed at her Catholic school, but there WAS an abortion video! 11:27 Lack of Knowledge about Tampons 13:08 The Importance of Openness and Humor in Sex Education 13:28 The TV Show 'Big Mouth' 14:27 Why you need to consider using Organic Tampons 19:14 Give us pain killers during IUD Insertion! 21:09 Arielle’s alcohol allergy and birth control 23:23 The Neglect of Female Pleasure in Medicine 26:35 The Impact of Shame and Lack of Masturbation Education 29:47 Coercion and Manipulation in Sexual Experiences 35:27 The Importance of Sexual Compatibility 38:21 Openness and Communication in Relationships 47:06 Generational Differences in Views on Sex and Romance 52:09 The Evolution of Romance and Communication 57:37 Reflecting on Traumatic Events 58:06 The ending you were all hoping for.. Ruby the cat Brings us an Avocado You can find Christine on Instagram at and her website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Sex, Sensuality & Sparkles (W/ The Hollywood Burlesque Festival Performers)
03/20/2024
Sex, Sensuality & Sparkles (W/ The Hollywood Burlesque Festival Performers)
This week we’re mixing things up because Rena Martine (Women’s Intimacy Coach, Author and ) and I had the opportunity to park up at the Hollywood Burlesque Festival Bazaar and speak to some of incredible performers from the weekend. In this episode we’re talking to: an Aussie based in Los Angeles Tito Bonito, the of burlesque the east coast showgirl gone west coast the traveling circus showgirl the green goddess behind You can find The Hollywood Burlesque festival happening every year right here in Hollywood but since you missed this year (bummer) make sure you follow and check out their website to see all of the gorgeous performers at www.hollywoodburlesquefestival.com You can find Rena on Instagram at and on her website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Not Your Average Sex Party (w/ Michael Hollice)
03/13/2024
Not Your Average Sex Party (w/ Michael Hollice)
Michael Hollice is the Founder and Creative Director of (that’s a sex party) originally from Los Angeles where his class watched the birthing video forwards and backwards… literally. That baby got sucked right back up! In this episode we talk about: 00:46 The Play LA and Prioritizing Health, Consent, Intimacy, and Artistry 04:04 Arielle’s Magical Experience at The Play LA 06:19 Sex as a Collaboration 13:18 The Importance of Eye Gazing and Dropping In 15:07 Sexual and Creative Freedom 16:04 Shifting the Culture of Sex Education 26:25 The Pitfalls of Non-Monogamy 34:12 The Nuance of Flirting 37:07 The power of sharing Desires, Intentions, and Boundaries 38:33 No Phones, No Money, No Hierarchy… that’s a good play party! 39:29 How to be a voyeur, but not in a creepy way 41:23 Speaking Desires into Existence 42:49 The Evolution of Boundaries 46:32 Anticipation is Foreplay 56:16 The eroticism of being fed Cookies after an orgasm 59:34 The birthing video… in reverse! 01:02:44 Michael’s First Sexual Experience and the experience that changed it all 01:07:05 Importance of Repair… cancellation is not always the way 01:18:22 Profound Experiences can happen at Play Parties 01:20:15 Creating a Community of Connection and Vulnerability 01:21:35 The Play LA and The Play Network You can find Michael on Instagram at and The Play LA website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list (you'll find out if play parties are on the menu!), get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Stay sexy xx
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Let's Play (w/ Morgan Jay)
03/06/2024
Let's Play (w/ Morgan Jay)
Morgan Jay is a musician and comedian originally from Mahwah, New Jersey where he was taught that women would derail and distract him! In this episode we talk about: 04:11 Creating a Sexy and Fun Show 05:46 Transitioning from Stand-up to Music 07:33 The Evolution of Comedy Clubs 12:02 Understanding Different Sexual Preferences 16:20 The Importance of Consent and Aftercare 20:02 Exploring Sexual Wellness and Pleasure Products 25:23 The Accessibility and Variety of Pornography 31:05 The Impact of Abstinence-Only Sex Education 36:55 The Influence of Cultural and Religious Upbringing 41:44 Exploring New Sexual Experiences 46:09 The Importance of Playfulness and Curiosity 48:18 Sexual Connection in Intimate Relationships 49:10 The Consequences of Ignoring Sexual Compatibility 51:42 Having Complex Conversations about Sexual Desires 53:47 Normalizing Sexual Pleasure for All 56:52 Exploring Unique Sexual Fantasies 59:04 Creating Pleasurable and Intimate Experiences You can find Morgan on Instagram at @morganjay and his website Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! HEY LOS ANGELES! Come to the Hollywood Burlesque Festival at Frogtown Brewery on March 9th where we’ll be interviewing performers all day! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Fck Yeah Sex Ed! (w/ Sarah Tomchesson)
02/28/2024
Fck Yeah Sex Ed! (w/ Sarah Tomchesson)
Sarah Tomchesson is a sex educator, fed-up feminist, queer mom and co-host of the Fck Yeah! Podcast originally from a little all over but who had her first sex ed class in Los Angeles where they were interrupted by an earthquake! In this episode we talk about: 02:02 SIECUS and Sex Education Advocacy 05:21 The Importance of Policy Change 10:17 The Fear of Talking About Sex 11:15 Unpacking Shame and Ego 15:07 Sarah’s Experiences with Sex Education 19:46 Supporting Parents in Sex Education 22:07 The Lack of Education on Menopause 24:59 The Lack of Sex Education in Medical Training 32:34 Sarah's Journey into Sex Education 40:55 The Importance of Normalizing Pleasure 41:08 Upcoming Program with Anne Hodder-Shipp 43:14 Understanding Your Relationship to and Expanding the Definition of Pleasure 49:31 Prioritizing Pleasure in Daily Life 52:09 Navigating Censorship and Playing the Game 53:49 Knowing and Trusting Yourself You can find Sarah on Instagram at and their website and of course you can join her program with Anne Hodder-Shipp that begins on March 14th at Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host K, love you, byeeeeee
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Consent Is Sexy (w/ Tyomi Morgan)
02/21/2024
Consent Is Sexy (w/ Tyomi Morgan)
Tyomi Morgan is a Sexologist, Intimacy Coordinator and creator of The Cowgirl Workout originally from Chicago where they went on a class trip to learn about sex! In this episode we talk about: 03:04 Intimacy Coordinating, obviously! 14:43 The one thing you MUST know as an Intimacy Coordinator 23:00 When Sex Ed is a class trip… 29:29 Impact of Sex Education on Personal Exploration 38:08 Virginity is a hoax 45:03 The importance of authenticity and Communication in Relationships 46:28 The art of Letting Go and Embracing Change 47:23 Fluidity and Exploration in Sexuality 50:13 Recognizing Patterns and Trauma 51:57 Taking Action and Doing the Work 54:20 The Lifelong Journey of Self-Reflection 57:18 The Importance of Self-Care and Boundaries 59:08 The DM slide all sex educators get 01:01:21 Embracing Autonomy and Choice You can find Tyomi on Instagram at @realglamazontyomi and on X (Twitter) at @glamazontyomi get The Cowgirl Workout at see her in person at Exxxotica Expo or catch her classes at WE’VE GOT MERCH! Plus a free Yes / No / Maybe list all over at If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on !
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It's Not Just A Hole (w/ Allison Goldberg)
02/14/2024
It's Not Just A Hole (w/ Allison Goldberg)
Allison Goldberg is a comedian and creator known for her dating show, Love Isn’t Blind originally from Baltimore where they scribbled some stuff on an overhead projector and called it a day! In this episode we talk about: 01:25 Allison actually knows about the birds and bees! 02:07 Love Isn't Blind - The Dating Show where men aren’t allowed to talk! 04:47 Pole Dancing and Rock Climbing 06:29 Intimacy Coordination and Other Jobs 09:41 Creating a Community 13:21 Being Organized and Having Tools 16:47 Lack of Sexual Education 21:04 Consent and Desexualization 24:44 New Zealand sex clubs 31:57 Time to figure out the Clitoris 34:32 Dating and Activities 37:10 Understanding the Clitoris and Vulva 41:09 Exploring the Labia and Outer Lips 42:30 Stimulating the Entire Vulva 45:08 Pleasuring the Penis and Balls 52:54 Orbiting and Communication 55:00 Allison’s got a podcast launching TODAY! HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!! You can find Allison on all social media at and on her website WE’VE GOT MERCH! Plus a free Yes / No / Maybe list all over at Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe, leave a 5 star review and tell your friends so other people know this exists! K love you byeeeee
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Hot & Funny (w/ Christina Calph)
02/07/2024
Hot & Funny (w/ Christina Calph)
Christina Calph is an actress, comedian and creator of Comedy Pole Show and The Last Improv Show originally from a small town outside of Buffalo, NY where they were taught demons were going to take over their bodies! Yay! In this episode we talk about: 01:09 Talking about Rain in LA, because it’s law 02:24 Growing Up in New York 03:37 Comedy Pole Show and the best comedians and pole dancers in LA 15:18 Sex Education in Catholic School 32:26 What even is virginity?! 43:09 Discovering the Power of Female friendships 45:25 Learning About Relationships and Sexuality at Hooters 49:17 Different Perspectives on Sexuality in Different Communities 50:17 Exploring Sexuality and Masturbation 51:46 Navigating Toxic Relationships 01:03 Pole Dance as a Sport and Art Form 01:05 The Perineum! 01:09 How to get your free Yes No Maybe List for Better Communication You can find Christina on Instagram at and her two shows and Get tickets to both shows by checking out WE’VE GOT MERCH! Plus a free Yes / No / Maybe list all over at Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host If you’re pickin’ up what we’re putting down please like, Subscribe, leave a 5 star review and tell your friends so other people know this exists! K love you byeeeee
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Kinks & Cuddles (w/ Jean Franzblau)
01/31/2024
Kinks & Cuddles (w/ Jean Franzblau)
Jean Franzblau is an Intimacy Coordinator, Writer, Performer and Creator of the Cuddle Sanctuary originally from Hollywood Florida where her mother didn’t know she was kinky! In this episode we talk about: 01:11 Different Roles in the Sex Industry 03:03 The Physiology of Orgasm 04:00 The Impact of Shame on Pleasure 05:23 Creating Authentic Intimacy in Film 08:13 The Complexity of Faking Orgasms 10:32 The Fascinating Anatomy of the Clitoris 12:51 The Grit and Strength of Pole Dancing 15:22 The Diverse Backgrounds of Intimacy Coordinators 23:46 The Potential Benefits of Sex Dolls 25:29 The Importance of Touch and Cuddling 27:22 The Complexity and joy of Kink and BDSM 35:33 The Impact of Shame and Ignoring Red Flags 43:22 The Slow Process of Change in the film Industry 45:33 The Importance of Safety and Pleasure in Creation 48:30 Agents' Involvement in Addressing Behavioral Issues with cast (aka their clients) 53:33 Transition into Intimacy Coordinating 55:50 Experience on Set and Sense of Belonging 01:01:00 The Embarrassing Part of the Job 01:04:43 The importance of Consent and Boundaries You can find Jean on Instagram at and her website You can catch Jean's sex positive one woman show, "My Mother Doesn't Know I'm Kinky" on March 3, 2024 in Los Angeles. Find all of her performances here: Support the show and give us a 5 star review… and if you’re really into it, Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Want to get more of what you want in bed? Download your free Yes / No / Maybe list at to get clear, get inspired and get what you want! LOS ANGELES: Join Arielle and as we celebrate the release of new book “The Sex You Want” on Feb 7th at The Ripped Bodice. Tickets here:
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Poetry, Dating And Deviants, Oh My! (w/ Demi Wylde)
01/24/2024
Poetry, Dating And Deviants, Oh My! (w/ Demi Wylde)
Demi Wilde is an author, educator and content creator originally from Visalia, California where he had to GTFO as fas as he could! In this episode we talk about: 02:57 The Commodification of Connection 10:23 Demi’s journey into Sex Education 17:02 Growing Up Religious 21:13 Those First Wet Dreams 25:33 Poetry as Therapy 31:35 Demi Dishes the Dirt on Sh*tty Dating Trends 38:04 A Hookup Horror Story (obviously) 45:13 Reflections of a Bad Date 46:37 The Gift of Rejection 48:03 Finding Love on Grindr 49:29 The Importance of Timing and Emotional Availability 50:57 Being Present and Transparent 51:55 Burnout and Miscommunication in Dating 54:15 Communication and Presence You can find Demi on Instagram at , his website and you can get his podcast “Hookup Horror Stories” on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts. Help support the show and ! (Spoiler, you can also book a coaching session with me there!) Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at & follow your host Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on ! Classes coming soon to !
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