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From Codependency to Self-Discovery: Thais Gibson on the Path of an Enneagram Two

Typology

Release Date: 05/07/2025

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In this episode of Typology, we dive deep into the world of the Enneagram with our special guest, Thais Gibson, an Enneagram Two with a Three wing. Thais is a counselor, best-selling author, and co-founder of the Personal Development School, bringing a wealth of knowledge and experience to our conversation.

Join Ian Cron and co-host Anthony Skinner as they explore Thais's journey of self-discovery, healing, and the challenges of being a Two. Thais shares her insights on codependency, the importance of setting boundaries, and how her experiences with pain have shaped her understanding of personal growth.

We also discuss the intersection of addiction and attachment theory, revealing how our early experiences influence our relationships with ourselves and others. Thais offers valuable strategies for transforming maladaptive behaviors and fostering a secure attachment to both ourselves and the divine.

Whether you're familiar with the Enneagram or just starting your journey, this episode is packed with wisdom and practical advice for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of themselves and their relationships.

Key Topics:

  • Thais's journey as an Enneagram Two

  • The impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships

  • Codependency and the importance of boundaries

  • Healing through pain and personal growth

  • Attachment theory and its relevance to addiction

  • Strategies for fostering secure attachments

Don't miss this rich conversation that promises to inspire and empower you on your personal development journey!

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