Dr. Morgan Cutlip on Tackling the Invisible Burden of the Mental Load Among Couples
Release Date: 05/22/2025
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info_outlineHave you ever felt overwhelmed in your relationships or struggled with the mental load? If yes, this episode is a must-listen!
In this episode, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, an Enneagram 9 and author of the new book, A Better Share reveals how understanding her Enneagram type has shaped her approach to relationships, especially with her husband, who is a Type 3. We explore the dynamics of their relationship, including the challenges of maintaining connection while navigating the complexities of life and parenting. Morgan shares her journey of reclaiming her voice and agency, which is particularly resonant for those of us who identify with the steady, reliable nature of the Enneagram 9.
One of the key topics we discuss is the concept of the "mental load"—the invisible tasks and emotional labor that often fall disproportionately on women in relationships. Morgan provides practical insights on how couples can tackle this load together, fostering a more equitable partnership that leads to less resentment and greater fun!
Here are a few highlights from the episode:
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The importance of understanding your partner's Enneagram type to improve communication and connection.
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How to navigate feelings of resentment and the need for appreciation in relationships.
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Strategies for creating a more balanced share of responsibilities at home.
Whether you're a 9, a 3, or any other type, this episode offers valuable insights that can help you strengthen your relationships and enhance your emotional well-being.
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