Ep 208: You Have Standards for Your Whole Life… So Why Are You Settling in Dating?
Release Date: 07/21/2025
Unf*ck Your Relationships
Not to break your entire self-image or whatever, but abandoning all your needs and desires for the sake of your partner actually doesn’t make you a good person. Sorry not sorry. Sure, maybe it feels good to oh-so-f*cking-selflessly lay your needs down to fulfill your partner’s instead. To be the “good girl.” The “cool girl.” To play the hero in his story. Right up until resentment starts burning so badly you think you’ve got a f*cking ulcer. Truthfully, self-abandonment is a relationship-killer. But it can be a subtle one, especially when you don’t know what the fuck...
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Your skincare routine? Precise. Your career? Thriving. Your friendships? Healthy. Your wardrobe? Curated. Your dating life? FUCKED. What tf happened there, exactly? You have top-notch standards for every single area of your life…but for some reason, you’re tolerating all kinds of bullshit when it comes to dating. Not anymore. Sit down, strap in, and get ready to set—and HOLD—some actual fucking standards instead of giving someone a dozen chances to meet them when we both know they’re never going to. (But it’s so nice to get to blame them when it doesn’t work out yet again,...
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Your career? Thriving.
Your friendships? Healthy.
Your wardrobe? Curated.
Your dating life? FUCKED.
What tf happened there, exactly? You have top-notch standards for every single area of your life…but for some reason, you’re tolerating all kinds of bullshit when it comes to dating.
Not anymore. Sit down, strap in, and get ready to set—and HOLD—some actual fucking standards instead of giving someone a dozen chances to meet them when we both know they’re never going to.
(But it’s so nice to get to blame them when it doesn’t work out yet again, isn’t it?)
Nothing’s going to change before you do. Let’s get to work.
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