Unf*ck Your Relationships
Welcome to Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast! I’m your host Michelle Panning - intimacy alchemist AKA your love, sex, and relationship bestie, trigger queen, and founder of my signature program The Connected Woman. I get it, you’re done being left on read, getting ghosted and being caught up in a cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable men. Let’s be real - you have NEEDS. You deserve it all, you deserve to feel worthy and confident. You deserve a fulfilling love life. For years I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious, and pissed off. I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected, and abandoned. I just wanted a meaningful relationship and thought I was doing all the right things. But none of it was working. I knew I couldn’t continue to repeat the same cycle with different men. Something had to change. I decided in that moment that I was going to finally work on healing my own wounds and work on myself, so that I could experience a beautiful and fulfilling relationship. I decided to put myself first. And now, with this podcast, I want to share with you the exact internal work strategies that I did to get to a place of confidence, peace, and worthiness. You can kiss ALL of your worries and limiting beliefs around love goodbye. Are you ready? Grab your favorite glass of wine and let’s get to work, because it is time to reclaim your self worth babe. For more information about the podcast, or other ways you can work with me, visit: www.michellepanning.com I would love to connect with you more on social media! You can find me at: IG: @michellepanning Website: michellepanning.com
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Ep 206: Why Fantasizing Your Way Through Dating is F*cking You Over
07/07/2025
Ep 206: Why Fantasizing Your Way Through Dating is F*cking You Over
So…I did the thing. I am officially back on the dating apps. That’s right, my loves—I’m back in the dating trenches. All the things you’re going through? I’m going through them right along with you. (I figured if I'm releasing a program about dating, it's only fair that I do it alongside you, right?) But as long as I’m here, I’m going to talk about some of the reasons why you might not be having much success with dating. First and foremost, the fact that you’ll go on one date with a man and come home already planning the wedding. It’s great to be excited when you meet someone new. But it’s TOO fucking easy to get swept straight into a full-blown fantasy about who this person is…when in reality, you have no idea who they actually are. “But Michelle, we’re soulmates!” No, you’re STRANGERS. And you need to remember that before you dive too deep into something you don’t even want. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Sign up for SWIPE RIGHT, my signature dating program that is going to help you attract genuine, long-term love: These aren’t just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 205: 5 Signs YOU are the Red Flag
06/30/2025
Ep 205: 5 Signs YOU are the Red Flag
If you’re racking your brain trying to figure out why you can’t seem to find “the one” for you…sit down a sec. I think I might’ve solved it. So. Your relationships keep failing. You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men. You can’t find someone willing to commit. You can’t track down a secure man. Your dating woes seem to have no fucking end. Now, hear me out on this one… It sounds to me like YOU’RE the fucking problem. No, think about it—what’s the common denominator in all these relationships? Different men, different circumstances, all with the same outcome, and the only consistent factor is—you guessed it—you. “No, Michelle, it’s them!” Are you sure about that? Because I smell bullshit. But the only way to be sure is to take a good, hard look at what you might be doing to contribute, so… Let’s talk about five red flags you might be flying without even realizing it. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Sign up for SWIPE RIGHT, my signature dating program that is going to help you attract genuine, long-term love: These aren’t just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 204: Secure as F*ck: 5 Dating Don'ts Secure Women NEVER Do
06/23/2025
Ep 204: Secure as F*ck: 5 Dating Don'ts Secure Women NEVER Do
At the very beginning of this year, I went through a pretty devastating breakup. It’s been nearly seven months now, and I haven’t dated at all since then. Not just because I wasn’t going to jump right on the apps after such a difficult breakup—a girl’s gotta process, after all—but because I just didn’t have a desire to date. Now, that’s starting to change. I can feel myself on the verge of being ready to date again…which is super exciting. But it also has me thinking a lot about the way a secure woman approaches dating compared to the way insecure women approach dating, and honestly? We need to talk about this. There are some super common threads I’ve seen among the clients I’ve supported through dating, and I want to help you avoid falling prey to the same. So let’s go over five things secure women NEVER do while dating. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Sign up for SWIPE RIGHT, my signature dating program that is going to help you attract genuine, long-term love: These aren’t just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 203: Behold, a Man! - A Conversation with Somatic Practitioner Jack Bohannan
06/16/2025
Ep 203: Behold, a Man! - A Conversation with Somatic Practitioner Jack Bohannan
Unf*ck Your Relationship may be for the girlies (mostly) but this one? This one’s for the boys. Okay, real talk, this podcast is for everyone. (Love you all, proud of you for being here, XOXO.) But today, we are going to be having some guy talk…because we have an actual guy on the podcast. That’s right: the elusive man has appeared on Unf*ck Your Relationships. Everyone please welcome Jack Bohannan! Jack is a certified somatica relationship coach who combines the experiential approach of somatica with elements of the Ideal Parent Figure, or IPF, protocol by Daniel Brown, which is a method developed to treat attachment issues. He supports women in healing their relationships with men and empowers men to relate better to women and themselves. This one’s going to be juuuicy, friends. I can feel it. And don’t worry…I know you’ve got questions for the man in the room. Jack’s going to help us get to the bottom of some of the greatest mysteries surrounding men…and maybe even turn the tables on me a little bit. WORK WITH JACK: Are you an anxiously attached girly? Struggling to connect with an avoidant partner? Get Jack’s FREE webinar now: Ready to release old attachment patterns + create happier, healthier connections? Work with Jack: CONNECT WITH JACK: Connect with Jack on Instagram: WORK WITH MICHELLE: These aren’t just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 202: Wrestling for Control: A Discussion With "The Experience" Member Kellie Irene
06/09/2025
Ep 202: Wrestling for Control: A Discussion With "The Experience" Member Kellie Irene
I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again, I’ll say it every fucking time I have a guest on the podcast: I am so fucking excited to introduce you all to one of my beautiful clients, Kellie Irene! Kellie has done Awakening Her, The Experience, and my retreats, so she’s been in my world for a while. She absolutely embodies main character energy. She’s bold, courageous, vivacious…I love being around her, and I have to bring her magic into this space so you all can experience it, too. But Kellie didn’t start out this confident. And this is one of the most f*cking impressive “how it started vs. how it’s going” stories you’ll ever hear. But I’ll let Kellie tell the story… CONNECT WITH KELLIE: Be the first to listen when Kellie launches her podcast, THE WOMAN OF YOUR DREAMS: Follow Kellie’s wrestling journey: Connect with Kellie: WORK WITH MICHELLE: These aren’t just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 201: Why You Feel Like You’re Too Much and Not Enough — At the Same Time
06/02/2025
Ep 201: Why You Feel Like You’re Too Much and Not Enough — At the Same Time
“I’m too needy. I ask for too much. I’m too emotional.” “I’m not strong enough. I’m not confident enough. I’m not cruisy enough.” Too much AND not enough…all at the same time? Yes, it is possible…and no, you’re not the only one. I see this shit every day in my work. Women who feel simultaneously like they are too much, too needy, too difficult, while also feeling like they aren’t enough to be chosen and cherished. That pendulum swing? It’s no fucking joke—and until you figure out how to regulate it, you’re going to keep swinging until you’re so dizzy you can’t even think straight. Tired of your too-muchness? Ready to kiss not-enoughness goodbye? Let’s get it done, love. WORK WITH MICHELLE: These aren’t just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 200: Truth or Trigger: Celebrating 200 Episodes of UFYR by Answering YOUR Relationship Questions!
05/26/2025
Ep 200: Truth or Trigger: Celebrating 200 Episodes of UFYR by Answering YOUR Relationship Questions!
I can’t believe I’m about to say this (well, I actually can) but… WELCOME TO THE 200TH EPISODE OF UNF*CK YOUR RELATIONSHIPS! Fuuuck, has this been a JOURNEY. Most podcasts don’t even break double digits, let alone triple, let alone hit fucking 200. Can I just take a second to brag on myself? Way to go, Michelle. I’m so proud of you. And I’m proud of YOU, my loves; every single one of you that has shown up wanting to do the work. Wanting to learn. Wanting to reconnect to yourself and to others. I see you. I’m so fucking proud of you for being here. You’ve given me the gift of my dream come true…so I want to give something back today. I reached out and asked for your relationship situations you could use a little coaching on, and you all DELIVERED. Today, we’re playing a little game called TRUTH OR TRIGGER. Let’s see if those stories you’re telling yourself about your relationships are ACTUALLY the truth…or a story your triggers are trying to disguise as the truth. WORK WITH MICHELLE: These aren’t just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 199: Embodiment is Essential. Here's Why
05/19/2025
Ep 199: Embodiment is Essential. Here's Why
So. Let’s review. You’re a high-achieving, self-aware woman. You’ve clocked your patterns and traced them back to their cause. You’ve been in therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You’ve done breathwork, meditation, EFT tapping, all the things… And you haven’t made any real fucking progress. Why? Why have you done all the things, but aren’t getting “better?” Because mindset work isn’t enough. Because awareness without embodiment is just you doing mental cartwheels AROUND your trauma, not actually integrating it. Let’s talk about how to fix that. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 198: Sweet Surrender: A Conversation with Embodiment Coach Chené O'Brien
05/12/2025
Ep 198: Sweet Surrender: A Conversation with Embodiment Coach Chené O'Brien
When I tell you this particular guest of mine is one of the most joyous, radiant, embodied women that I know…I hope you know that I fucking mean it. And I’m not just saying it because she’s my client. Meet Chené O’Brien: a client of mine, an embodiment coach, and the owner of the hottest f*cking accent ever. Chené’s healing journey started from a place of constant self-abandonment…but she clocked that pattern, embraced the pieces of herself that kept trying to throw her needs to the curb, and is now out here helping others connect to their own embodied wisdom. Her story brought me to tears. Genuinely. And now it’s your turn. So without further ado…let’s turn the mic over to Chené, shall we? WORK WITH CHENÉ: Want to work with Chené? Uh, yeah you fucking do. Head to her website now to get started: CONNECT WITH CHENÉ: Follow Chené on Instagram: WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 197: Why You Keep Losing Yourself in Relationships (and What to Do About It)
05/05/2025
Ep 197: Why You Keep Losing Yourself in Relationships (and What to Do About It)
It all happens so fast. One minute you’re living your best life. You’re hitting the gym. You’re journaling. You’re doing your embodiment practices. You’re going out with your friends. You’re going on solo dates. You have hobbies that you love… And then you meet someone. It is astonishing how QUICKLY I’ve seen women go from their glow-up era to “Wait, did I say the right thing? Did I mess up? Oh, he wants to hang out Friday—I’d better cancel my plans. Did that come across as too needy? Was I too much? What if he—” GIRL. TAKE A BREATH. Even when you’re a self-aware human, it’s easy to get swept up in the excitement of a new relationship. You can easily end up abandoning yourself without even realizing it’s happening…because when it does happen, it isn’t anything catastrophic. It just…happens. A little here. A bit more there. Until suddenly, when something finally goes wrong in the relationship and you bother to look up at your life for the first time in a while, you realize that you don’t even recognize the person you’ve become. But WHY do we do this—and how can we stop? WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 196: Why You’re Scared of Healthy Love (Even Though You Swear That’s What You Want)
04/28/2025
Ep 196: Why You’re Scared of Healthy Love (Even Though You Swear That’s What You Want)
Everybody talks about wanting a man who COMMUNICATES, who’s HONEST, who CHOOSES YOU wholeheartedly… Until one actually shows up. And you go running like your f*cking ass is on fire. If you grew up without a secure attachment, your brain is wired to read insecurity as desirable. Which means your brain basically can’t tell the difference between a bear attack and a man telling you he really, really likes you. Sound ridiculous? Yeah, no f*cking kidding. But it’s true. And until you learn how to teach it otherwise, you’re going to keep treating every emotionally available man like he’s trying to eat you…and not in the fun way. So. Let’s get you recalibrated, shall we? WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 195: You’re Not Broken, You’re Healing: Why Becoming The Connected Woman Isn’t Linear
04/21/2025
Ep 195: You’re Not Broken, You’re Healing: Why Becoming The Connected Woman Isn’t Linear
If you’ve ever been ugly crying into your pillow, your chest aching like someone f*cking ripped your heart out, and said to yourself, “What the FUCK? I should be over this by now!” …Then this episode is for you, babe. Welcome to the fucking club. I’ve worked with hundreds of women, and all of us—including me—have experienced a similar feeling while going through a breakup: the feeling that we’re taking too long to heal. That we “should have been over this by now.” Yeah, so, bad news…grief doesn’t give a shit about your schedule. You try to tell it that you’re on Step 5 of your healing journey, so it’s time for it to see itself out? It’s going to tell you to fuck off with its WHOLE chest. Healing isn’t pretty. It isn’t quick. Hell, it doesn’t even go in a straight line. But it does happen…even if you can’t tell it’s happening. Let me tell you how healing ACTUALLY works. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 194: Do You Actually Want Him—or Does He Just Trigger Your Daddy Wound?
04/14/2025
Ep 194: Do You Actually Want Him—or Does He Just Trigger Your Daddy Wound?
Do you ACTUALLY want him… Or does he just trigger your daddy wound? Ouch, right? But we really need to talk about it. I was the QUEEN of daddy issues once upon a time. So trust me when I say I get exactly how addictive this pattern can be…and how f*cking fast we need to clock it, own it, and clean it tf up. If you’re always dating the guy who’s hot and cold with you, the guy who’s there one second and gone the next, the guy whose attention and love you need to EARN… Congrats. You’ve probably got a gaping daddy wound that needs some stitching up…and this is where it starts. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 193: Performative Feminine: The Manipulative Side of Softness
04/07/2025
Ep 193: Performative Feminine: The Manipulative Side of Softness
This one’s going to sting, loves… But we need to talk about feminine energy. Specifically, we need to talk about performative feminine energy. We’re seeing a huge resurgence in embracing feminine energy…and that’s fucking amazing. We love to see it. But with that resurgence, I’m also seeing an upswing in people mistaking performative femininity for actual feminine embodiment. And if you don’t know the difference (or don’t know shit about the feminine, period) don’t stress. We’re going to fix that right tf now. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 192: You’re Not ‘Too Much’... You’re Just Dating the Wrong Men
03/31/2025
Ep 192: You’re Not ‘Too Much’... You’re Just Dating the Wrong Men
“You’re too much.” “You’re too emotional.” “Your standards are too high.” “You’re too picky.” “You’re asking for too much.” RED LIGHT, babe. Hold tf up. Listen to me very, very, very closely. You are not too much. “But Michelle, they said—” I don’t give a shit. “But Michelle, I asked for—” Did I fucking ask? You are not too much. Period. Done. End of conversation. And if people keep telling you you’re “too much” then…maybe the problem isn’t you. Maybe the problem is that you keep dating the wrong people. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 191: Why You’re Addicted to the Wrong Men (and How to Break the Cycle)
03/24/2025
Ep 191: Why You’re Addicted to the Wrong Men (and How to Break the Cycle)
I hope you have a mirror on hand, babe…because you’re about to take a good, long, hard look at yourself in it. Here’s the thing: if you feel like you’re always attracting the same emotionally unavailable men, I have good news and bad news. The good news? It’s not bad luck—you’re not just shit at picking men. The bad news? It’s actually wired into you to want these kinds of men. “Wait, that sounds worse!” Yeah…sorry. But it’s true. This pattern is wired into your system…and until you figure out how to get the wires uncrossed, you’re going to keep repeating that pattern. But I have more good news—and more bad news. There is a way to break this pattern…if you sit down and acknowledge the actual common denominator in all of your failed relationships. You. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 190: How I Got Roasted by Dr. Gabor Maté
03/17/2025
Ep 190: How I Got Roasted by Dr. Gabor Maté
Buckle up and grab the burn cream, everyone… This is the story of how I got f*cking ROASTED by Dr. Gabor Maté. As most of you know, I recently went through a breakup, and there are a lot of f*cking complicated (and even “contrary”) emotions that come with that. So when I got to go and hear Dr. Gabor Maté speak—and then got the incredible opportunity to ask a question—I asked him how to navigate the clash of deep compassion and intense anger toward my partner. And what he had to say? I’m talking third-degree burn shit. Even though it was painful…it was something I really, really needed to hear. And I’m betting a lot of you need to hear it, too. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 189: Sparks Start Fires, Not Relationships: A Conversation with Relationship Coach Sabrina Zohar
03/10/2025
Ep 189: Sparks Start Fires, Not Relationships: A Conversation with Relationship Coach Sabrina Zohar
So—we’ve talked before about how butterflies in the stomach, not being able to eat, etc. are actually signs of some fucking MAJOR dysregulation, not being in love… But what happens when you DO start avoiding that feeling…and you end up dating someone who’s boring as batshit? On one hand, it is super fucking easy to mistake “safe” for “boring” when you’re used to dating in dysregulation. But on the other…as my guest says on today’s episode, we’re not out here to do charity work. You don’t need to date someone you don’t have any interest in. So how do you tell the difference between obsession, boredom, and actual healthy love? The infamous Sabrina Zohar, relationship and dating coach and absolute brilliant badass, is here to lay it all out for us. You’re going to want to take notes, babe. WORK WITH SABRINA: Website: CONNECT WITH SABRINA: Instagram: TikTok: Podcast: WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 188: Walk Away Energy: The Ultimate Power Move in Love, Business & Life
03/03/2025
Ep 188: Walk Away Energy: The Ultimate Power Move in Love, Business & Life
I got introduced to a new phrase (but not a new idea) by a recent Chappell Roan interview: Walk Away Energy. When asked how she stays so chill despite all her success, Chappell Roan said it was because she has “walk away energy.” And I absolutely had to sit down and talk about that. “Walk away energy” is similar to the detachment idea we were talking about here recently. It’s the idea that you are never, ever willing to stay in something that is past its expiration date; it’s the concept that you trust yourself enough to walk away from something when it’s over, or when someone isn’t treating you the way you deserve. It’s taking all those thoughts of “But what if this is the best I can get?” and throwing them the f*ck away. If someone isn’t meeting your standards, you don’t have to stick around and tell them that you deserve to be treated better. When you have walk away energy, you don’t waste your time begging for the bare minimum. You just walk away. It sounds easier than it is…but once you master it, you’ll find it’s your most powerful tool for attracting the kind of relationship you ACTUALLY deserve. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 187: How to Recognize YOUR Needs: A Conversation With Abigail Elizabeth
02/24/2025
Ep 187: How to Recognize YOUR Needs: A Conversation With Abigail Elizabeth
It is truly so exciting to watch one of your clients blossom…and my guest this week, Abigail, is a perfect example. Just a short while ago, she was living in her spare bedroom, trying to “fix” herself for the sake of other people…and now, I've witnessed this woman blossom and come into her own as she embodies what it means to be a high-value woman. Too many of you think that these kinds of transformations aren’t possible for you…which is why it’s important to hear these stories from people who have actually DONE the thing. This work, this change…it’s for everyone. For me, for Abigail…and for you. WORK WITH ABIGAIL: Arrange a boudoir photography session with Abigail: Get one month FREE working with Abigail in exchange for an honest review! Use coupon code “michellepanning” now: CONNECT WITH ABIGAIL: Listen to my guest episode on Abigail’s podcast: Abigail’s Instagram: , Abigail’s TikTok: , The Kaizen Learning Podcast: WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 186: The “Let Them” Theory... But Make It Shadow Work
02/17/2025
Ep 186: The “Let Them” Theory... But Make It Shadow Work
Here’s what to do if you feel someone pulling away from you. Ready? Let them. I’m serious as f*ck. If someone starts to pull away from you, if someone wants to break up, if someone refuses to meet your standards, if someone won’t pick their shit up off the floor even when you’ve asked a hundred times… Just let them. The “Let Them” theory, coined by Mel Robbins, is literally that simple. People are going to do what they’re going to do whether you try to change it or not…so just let them. You’ll be amazed how much weight lifts off your shoulders. However, as amazing as this framework is, I think there’s a piece missing—and that piece is shadow work. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 185: How to Detach & Stop Obsessing Over Him
02/10/2025
Ep 185: How to Detach & Stop Obsessing Over Him
When you hear “detachment,” what do you think it means? If your mind went straight to the idea of apathy, not caring what happens or what you’re doing, etcetera…you’re not the only one. But you’re also wrong. Detachment isn’t apathy. Detachment is power. And when you master detachment…it’s going to transform your whole motherf*cking life. Here are some of the things you need to detach from—and how to begin to let it all go. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): Want to experience a profound transformation that lasts a lifetime? Sign up for the Retreats BUNDLE: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 184: Healing from Heartbreak: BTS of My Breakup
02/03/2025
Ep 184: Healing from Heartbreak: BTS of My Breakup
Well. We broke up. You probably got that from the title. But in case you were wondering…no, it’s not clickbait. My partner Drew and I have decided to split up. It’s sad. And right. And so, so hard. I’m grieving. I’m excited. I’m struggling. I’m hopeful. There is such duality in breakups, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the relationship might have been…and navigating them in a regulated, healthy way is a fucking BEAST. So it’s a good thing I’m here to give you the play-by-play, yeah? Snap those headphones on and get ready to listen. Let’s talk about my breakup…and everything that’s changing behind the scenes. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): Want to experience a profound transformation that lasts a lifetime? The Retreats: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 183: Let's Talk CONFIDENCE feat. Caitlin Hosking
01/27/2025
Ep 183: Let's Talk CONFIDENCE feat. Caitlin Hosking
Two words: Pretty. Privilege. It’s thrown in the faces of people who happen to be conventionally attractive to imply that they have no right to complain about their struggles, particularly if they struggle with confidence. “Well, you have the perfect body, so you can’t be insecure.” “Well, you’re pretty, so what do you have to feel bad about?” You know what’s really not cute? Invalidating the experiences of other people based on their external reality. I’ve got my bestie Caitlin back on the podcast today, and we’re going over all things CONFIDENCE: our own struggles with insecurity, why your external reality actually has fuck-all to do with how confident you are, our absolute cringiest moments (yeah, we’re getting fucking real today), and ways to actually start boosting your confidence that have nothing to do with dieting, skincare, or anything else. Because it doesn’t matter if you’ve got “pretty privilege” or not…insecurity can still eat you alive if you don’t do the work. WORK WITH CAITLIN: Website: CONNECT WITH CAITLIN: Instagram: WORK WITH MICHELLE: This is not your average confidence course. Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY: Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 182: Perfectionism is Killing Your Love Life
01/20/2025
Ep 182: Perfectionism is Killing Your Love Life
Trying to be the perfect woman is killing your love life. I mean it—this little perfectionism thing you’ve got going on? It’s not protecting you from anything, babe—it’s actually keeping you stuck in the same patterns you’ve been playing out for your whole dating life. Perfectionism is not a protector—it’s a prison. And until you get up the courage to show up as the person you actually are, not whatever kind of woman would be the perfect match for the guy you’re seeing this month, you’re not going to find that secure, healthy relationship you want so badly. So how do you clock this, own it, and clean it up? Here’s what you need to watch out for…and what you need to do to quit the perfection game. WORK WITH MICHELLE: This is not your average confidence course. Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY: Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 181: How to Become the Main Character in Your Love Life
01/13/2025
Ep 181: How to Become the Main Character in Your Love Life
Here’s an exciting little secret for you… Did you know that you’ve been cast as the MAIN CHARACTER in your love life? In fact, you’re not just the main character. You’re the screenwriter. The casting director. The costume designer. The credits have YOUR name all over them, babe… So why are you still acting like the f*cking side character? Too many of you are out here acting like you have to apologize for wanting the spotlight + taking up space on the stage…when you OWN THE F*CKING STAGE. This is YOUR life. YOU are the writer, the actor, the EVERYTHING. And if you don’t like how this little play is going for you… Maybe it’s time to rewrite the script. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY: Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 180: The Ultimate Glow-Up: How to Become UNRECOGNIZABLE in 2025
01/06/2025
Ep 180: The Ultimate Glow-Up: How to Become UNRECOGNIZABLE in 2025
It’s 2025. I don’t know about you, but I’m so fucking excited it’s a new year—and I don’t plan to finish it as the same person I was when it started. I want to be UNRECOGNIZABLE by 2026…and I want to help you get there, too. I want this year to be your ultimate fucking glow-up. But first, we need to go over some pretty crucial perspective shifts. You CAN become the most confident, iconic, badass version of yourself. But not if you keep doing life the way you’ve been doing it…and not if you sit around refusing to take action to actually create some fucking change. Let’s get to work. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY: Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 179: 24 Lessons for 2024: A Wrap-Up for the Anxiously Attached
12/30/2024
Ep 179: 24 Lessons for 2024: A Wrap-Up for the Anxiously Attached
This one’s for the anxiously attached girlies…and everyone, honestly, because there’s some fucking gems in here. But if you have an anxious attachment style, these lessons go double for you, mmkay? Anxious attachment can feel like a life sentence. But the truth is, your attachment style IS something you can heal…but you have to start taking steps toward security. In today’s episode, we’re going to go over 24 lessons I want you to take out of 2024 and into 2025. And once you learn these lessons and put them into practice, you’ll be shocked how quickly things can change for you. Like I always say…when it comes to changing our patterns, we have to learn to clock them, own them, and clean them up. And these lessons are a great way to start. Here’s to 2025, bitches. Let’s get you on your way to a secure relationship. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: Ready to finally take action to transform your life in 2025? Apply for one-to-one mentorship with me: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 178: How to Know When to Break Up
12/16/2024
Ep 178: How to Know When to Break Up
It's a question as old as relationships themselves... "How do I know when it's time to break up?" We've all asked ourselves this question one time or another...but almost no one really knows the answer. It's not easy to look at a relationship and decide whether it's fixable or totally f*cked. But there are some symptoms that will start to pop up when things have taken a turn for the worse...and some questions we can ask ourselves to figure out exactly where we stand. Stay and fight, or turn and run? Only you can answer that, love...but I can help you get there. Let's go over some of the signs that might be time to call it quits. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: Ready to finally take action to transform your life in 2025? Apply for one-to-one mentorship with me: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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Ep 177: How to be the Dream Girl in Your Love Life in 2025
12/09/2024
Ep 177: How to be the Dream Girl in Your Love Life in 2025
In 2025, we’re not settling for f*cking crumbs anymore, babe. In 2025, it’s time to become the center of your own love life; to become That Girl. That Bitch. The Dream Girl. Whatever you want to call her, she’s yours for the taking—if you can actually get off your ass and do the work to become her. No more putting everyone else’s needs over yours. No more leading with your insecurities…or masking them with false perfection. No more criticizing your man into the ground, then wondering why he doesn’t do what you ask him to do. Have no f*cking clue how to make that transformation? Welcome to this episode of UFYR, my love. Let’s make it happen. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: Ready to stop obsessing over texts, chasing unavailable men, and feeling like you’re always one step away from being abandoned? Sign up for my FREE masterclass, CLINGY TO CONFIDENT: CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: Website:
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