247: Attachment Theory & Boundaries in Christian Marriage | Anxious Attachment Explained
Release Date: 04/28/2025
266: Get Back On: One Couple’s Journey to Restore Marriage, Faith & Purpose on Horseback
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Ever feel like life bucked you off? Whether it’s in marriage, business, or faith, the fastest way to win again is to Get Back On. Join Nina Roesner in this powerful and hope-filled episode of What to Say & How to Say It as she interviews Drs. Michelle and Paul LeCompte, DVM, a couple who know firsthand what it means to fall—hard—and get back up with God’s help. Now celebrating 39 years of marriage, they’re embarking on a horseback journey across southern Ohio to inspire others to Get Back On—no matter what life throws at you. From healing through lupus, battling addiction, and...
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265: From Unskilled to Spirit-Filled: How to Grow Spiritually and Save Your Marriage
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Struggling with conflict in your marriage? This episode of What to Say and How to Say It is for you. Join hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner as they unpack the Four Stages of the Competence Model and how it mirrors God's process of transformation in marriage—from blindness and blame to wisdom and Christlike love. 💡 Discover: Why your complaints aren’t working What “conscious incompetence” means (and why it’s actually good news) How God uses conflict to shape us The difference between trust and respect How to partner with the Holy...
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256: When the Past Haunts Your Marriage | Healing Old Wounds & Emotional Triggers
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Have you or your spouse ever said, "I didn’t sign up for this"? You're not alone. In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Roesner sits down with licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove to explore the concept of double-edged history—how past trauma, bad choices, and unresolved emotional pain can impact your present-day marriage. They get real about: Triggers from your spouse’s past (or your own) Why healing is your responsibility—not your partner’s How past wounds leak into the present David’s biblical example of lingering consequences What to do when your...
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255: How to Stay Calm in Conflict | Christian Emotional Intelligence Tips for Marriage
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In today’s episode, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner talk about how to stay cool in the chaos — especially when conflict strikes at home. Learn practical tools to manage your emotions, strengthen your self-regulation, and respond rather than react. We’re diving deep into emotional intelligence (EQ) from a faith-based lens — how it applies to marriage, what triggers us, and how to build resilience. Whether it's learning how to breathe through an argument or finally naming that hard emotion, this episode is full of tools you can start using today.
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254: Coaching vs. Therapy: How to Know What You (or Your Clients) Really Need
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Is it time for coaching—or therapy? 🤔 In this raw and honest conversation, communication expert Nina Rosner teams up with Kyle Hargrove, a licensed professional counselor with 30+ years of experience, to unpack the often-blurry line between coaching and counseling. They dive into: ✅ How to spot when someone isn’t ready for coaching ✅ Key emotional red flags therapists see early on ✅ Why personal responsibility is non-negotiable in growth ✅ The difference between forward movement and emotional healing ✅ Why our culture is in an accountability crisis—and how it’s...
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253: When Helping Hurts: How Good Intentions Can Blow Up Your Marriage
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Welcome back to What to Say & How to Say It! Today we’re tackling a surprising truth: your well-meaning help might be damaging your marriage. We’ll show you two simple, powerful tools to avoid that. Take our free marriage assessment at greaterimpact.org to find out if you’re ready to mentor other couples—or if your own relationship needs a tune-up. Licensed counselor Kyle Hargrove joins us to unpack the difference between helping and hearing—and why jumping in to fix things often backfires. From car-buying gone wrong to emotional misfires, we share real stories, real tools, and...
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252: How to Handle a Dismissive Avoidant Partner | Attachment Styles & Boundaries in Christian Marriage
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Welcome to What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast that helps you fix your marriage with wisdom and grace. I'm Shy Lewis, here with Nina Roesner, and today we're diving into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style—what it looks like, why it happens, and how to respond effectively in a Christian marriage. 🔎 In this episode, we cover: What dismissive avoidant behavior looks like in a relationship How to communicate clearly and calmly without triggering shutdown Why managing your emotions is key to connection How to set boundaries and follow through—without issuing ultimatums ...
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251: When a Closed Mind Keeps Your Marriage Stuck: Breaking Through the Walls
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What if the biggest roadblock in your marriage isn't your spouse—but your own mindset? In this powerful episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed counselor Kyle Hargrove unpack how a closed mind, especially one masked by victimhood or pride, can paralyze growth in a relationship. They share real stories, honest truths, and godly wisdom to help you—and your marriage—move from stuck to surrendered. Ready for change? It starts with humility. 💬❤️ #MarriageHelp #ChristianMarriage #GreaterImpact #RelationshipGrowth #HumbleHeart
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250: Is Your Partner Attached to Manipulation? | Attachment Styles, Drama & the Truth in Marriage
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Welcome to today’s episode of What to Say and How to Say It with Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove. 👋 Today, we’re digging into a difficult—but essential—topic: 👉 Is your partner attached to manipulation? 👉 Are you unknowingly using manipulation in your own relationship? 👉 What’s the difference between manipulation and motivation? We’re unpacking attachment styles, passive-aggressive behaviors, fear of conflict, and the silent lies that erode trust over time. 😶🌫️💔 You might be surprised to learn how common manipulation...
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249: Is Complaining Ruining Your Attachment?
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Welcome to this episode of What to Say and How to Say It! I'm Nina Roesner, and I'm here with our favorite licensed professional counselor, Kyle Hargrove. Today we’re diving into a tough but important question: Is your complaining ruining your attachment? 💡 Key Takeaways: How complaining changes your brain What attachment styles really are—and how they form Can someone change their attachment style? (Spoiler: Yes!) What therapists can and can’t say about someone they've never met Why it’s dangerous to “diagnose” your spouse 👉 Take your next step:...
info_outlineWelcome to What to Say & How to Say It—the podcast that helps Christian married couples fix communication and build deeper connection. In this episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack attachment theory, focusing on the anxious attachment style and how to set healthy boundaries in marriage.
Learn how childhood wounds impact adult relationships, what to expect when dealing with anxious partners, and how faith, communication, and consistency can bring healing. With practical examples, biblical wisdom, and tools you can apply right now, this episode offers hope and direction for couples navigating conflict and emotional intensity.
🔗 Download our FREE PDF: 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells 📊 Take the FREE Marriage Assessment ➡️ Visit: https://greaterimpactwives.org