272: How Accountability Can Save Your Marriage | 4 Ways the Truth Sets You Free
Release Date: 10/20/2025
274: "That’s Just the Way I Am” — Breaking Free from Old Mindsets in Marriage
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Are you stuck in the mindset of “That’s just the way I am”? In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack why so many Christian husbands and wives stay trapped in childhood pain and emotional habits—and how to let God transform them. 💬 Learn how to: Recognize when you’re letting pain define your identity Break free from cycles of blame and emotional immaturity Invite God into your healing so you can grow and thrive in your marriage Take responsibility for your mindset and respond differently in conflict 🎧 Free...
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273: Stop Avoiding Change! How Courageous Conversations Can Transform Your Relationship
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Change. Conflict. Courage. Three words every marriage faces—yet few couples know how to navigate them well. In today’s episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove dig deep into how courageous conversations can transform your marriage. They unpack: 💬 Why “change” often leads to chaos and conflict 💬 How to talk about hard issues without blame or accusation 💬 The difference between being assertive vs aggressive 💬 Why logic—not emotion—solves problems 💬 How to stay open-minded, manage emotions,...
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272: How Accountability Can Save Your Marriage | 4 Ways the Truth Sets You Free
What to Say & How to Say It
Welcome to What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast that helps Christian couples communicate better, resolve conflict, and build a thriving marriage rooted in faith. In today’s episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner talk about how accountability can heal your marriage — and how truth, grace, and humility can strengthen your relationship with your spouse and with God. 💡 Take the next step in your marriage: 👉 Download our FREE PDF: Five Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells 👉 Take your Free Marriage Assessment at greaterimpactwives.org If you’ve been...
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271: What Do You Do with Change? | How to Handle Change, Chaos & Conflict in Relationships
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Today, we’re talking about change — not the kind you keep in a jar, but the kind that shakes up your life and relationships. Change is constant, and whether it’s good or bad, it always brings some level of chaos and conflict. 💡 In this episode, you’ll discover: ✅ Why change (even positive change) often leads to chaos ✅ How conflict can actually bring growth — if handled well ✅ The importance of courageous conversations in healthy relationships ✅ What the Bible says about confronting one another with love ✅ Why avoiding conflict keeps you stuck in unhealthy patterns...
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270: From Blame to Breakthrough: How Emotional Regulation Transformed Sarah’s Marriage
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In this powerful episode, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner sit down with Sarah Karlich, a Licensed Professional Counselor, to explore how her personal and professional journey through trauma, emotional dysregulation, and the Greater Impact Marriage Intensive transformed her marriage and faith. 👩❤️👨 Sarah shares how: Emotional regulation changed how she communicated with her husband Childhood trauma shaped her reactions and belief systems God used surrender, truth, and community to restore her heart Her marriage went from disconnected to deeply healing and connected...
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269: How to Keep the Enemy Out of Your Marriage
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Are you feeling anxious, avoidant, or just out of your comfort zone in your marriage? You're not alone. In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Shai Lewis and Nina Roesner dive into what happens when your attachment style gets stretched — and how to choose growth over fear. Discover practical, biblical tools to build a secure connection, communicate with confidence, and repair conflict in healthy ways. Learn how to love with maturity, even when it’s hard. 💬 Question of the Day: How do you deal with a spouse who struggles with jealousy over your past? 🎁 Grab...
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268: How to Keep the Enemy Out of Your Marriage
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Are you fighting with your spouse instead of for your marriage? In today’s episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and guest Kyle Hargrove unpack how the enemy creeps into Christian marriages — not just through conflict, but in how we speak, how we listen, and how we forget who the real enemy is. 💔 Whether you're in a tough season or just want deeper connection, this episode will help you recognize the spiritual dynamics at play and give you tools to fight with your spouse — not against them. 👇 Resources: 🔗 Marriage Assessment:...
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267: This Is Your Brain on Bitterness: How Unforgiveness Destroys Your Mind & Marriage
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Are you stuck in a cycle of unforgiveness or resentment? 😔 You're not alone — but the consequences are deeper than you think. In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and Shy Lewis dive into the neuroscience of bitterness, exposing how unforgiveness rewires your brain, damages your communication, and even impacts your health, memory, and spiritual life. 💔 If you’ve ever: Replayed past hurts over and over Felt emotionally drained just thinking of “that person” Struggled with anxiety, sleeplessness, or depression due to unresolved pain ...this episode...
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266: Get Back On: One Couple’s Journey to Restore Marriage, Faith & Purpose on Horseback
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Ever feel like life bucked you off? Whether it’s in marriage, business, or faith, the fastest way to win again is to Get Back On. Join Nina Roesner in this powerful and hope-filled episode of What to Say & How to Say It as she interviews Drs. Michelle and Paul LeCompte, DVM, a couple who know firsthand what it means to fall—hard—and get back up with God’s help. Now celebrating 39 years of marriage, they’re embarking on a horseback journey across southern Ohio to inspire others to Get Back On—no matter what life throws at you. From healing through lupus, battling addiction, and...
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265: From Unskilled to Spirit-Filled: How to Grow Spiritually and Save Your Marriage
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Struggling with conflict in your marriage? This episode of What to Say and How to Say It is for you. Join hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner as they unpack the Four Stages of the Competence Model and how it mirrors God's process of transformation in marriage—from blindness and blame to wisdom and Christlike love. 💡 Discover: Why your complaints aren’t working What “conscious incompetence” means (and why it’s actually good news) How God uses conflict to shape us The difference between trust and respect How to partner with the Holy...
info_outlineWelcome to What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast that helps Christian couples communicate better, resolve conflict, and build a thriving marriage rooted in faith.
In today’s episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner talk about how accountability can heal your marriage — and how truth, grace, and humility can strengthen your relationship with your spouse and with God.
💡 Take the next step in your marriage:
👉 Download our FREE PDF: Five Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells
👉 Take your Free Marriage Assessment at greaterimpactwives.org
If you’ve been struggling with communication, trust, or emotional distance in your marriage, this episode will help you see how godly accountability leads to peace, healing, and deeper connection.
💖 Subscribe for more episodes on Christian marriage help, communication tips, and biblical wisdom for couples.
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