116: Re-Authoring the Narrative Identities of Men
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
Release Date: 08/30/2019
143: Daughters of Critical Mothers
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
“The areas that we struggle with the most, where we feel maybe we’re the hardest on ourselves, or the most stuck… these are actually potentials for really building a strong foundation with your recovery.” [20:47] In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes speaks with Mari Grande about the Mother Wound and the impact of trauma on Daughters of Critical Mothers. By addressing this trauma clients can break the cycle and turn inward to heal and be soothed. Mari speaks about the trauma that Daughters of Critical Mothers experience and the ways in which clients and therapists...
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142: HSPs & Complex Trauma Series: What is Dissociation?
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes Viado and Carmen Schmidt Benedetti continue their podcast series on Complex Trauma and Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs). Today’s episode explores the coping mechanism of dissociation, diving into what it is, what causes it, and potentially how to avoid and combat dissociation.
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141: Rediscovering Your Body with Tara Galeano, LPC
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes Viado speaks with Tara Galeano about the journey of women rediscovering and reconnecting with their bodies. By building a more solid relationship with themselves, women are able to improve the quality of their relationship with others.
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140: Somatic Approaches: Self-Regulation for Mind-Body Well-Being
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode, Dr. Lourdes Viado speaks with Rebekkah LaDyne about mind-body somatic approaches. Rebekkah discusses how and why exercising and teaching your body ways to respond to anxiety, stress, and trauma are effective tools for your mind-body well-being.
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139: Harnessing the Unique Strengths of Women's Brains
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Dr. Tracy Packiam Alloway, an award-winning psychologist who has conducted extensive research on memory and the brain. In this conversation Dr. Alloway discusses her recent book “Think Like a Girl: 10 Unique Strengths of a Woman’s Brain and How to Make Them Work for You.”
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138: HSPs: Healing from Toxic & Abusive Relationships with Arianna Smith, LPC
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Arianna Smith, EMDR Clinician and Licensed Professional Counselor. She helps Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) and LGBTQ individuals process childhood trauma, recover from abusive relationships, and release the cycle of constant people pleasing.
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137: Dream Journey to the Divine Feminine
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Dr. Pearl Gregor. Pearl began studying dreams in 1988. By 2015, widowed, retired, and having finished her doctorate, she created her website: www.dreamsalongtheway.com. In December 2018, she published “I, the Woman, Planted the Tree: A Journey through Dreams to the Feminine,” followed by two more books and a memoir.
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136: Depression & the Highly Sensitive Person
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Bronwyn Shiffer, LCSW, a psychotherapist from Madison, Wisconsin who works with highly sensitive women struggling with depression. Bronwyn supports women who want to feel more strong, connected and comfortable in their own skin. She has a Masters of Social Work from Smith College School for Social Work and believes that personal transformation is what heals the world.
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135: The Final 8th: Inner Selves & Getting Unstuck
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Bridgit Dengel Gaspard, LCSW, shares why, despite preparation, resources, knowledge, and support, we sometimes fail to achieve our goals. While Bridgit specifically discusses being stuck in relation to larger life goals, her work also applies to other ways we are stuck in our lives.
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134: HSPs & Complex Trauma Series: Where Does Your Anxiety Come From?
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes Viado & Carmen Schmidt Benedetti continue their podcast series on Complex Trauma and Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs). Today they discuss where our anxiety comes from and why it matters.
info_outlineIt’s important to revisit those strategies and elaborate, and that becomes a part of your identity.
When you sit down with your family around the dinner table, the storytelling begins.
Have you ever noticed who is doing the storytelling?
Typically, women and mothers in families are the ones who tend to elaborate and go in-depth with their storytelling, while men oftentimes may be more reserved with their explanations. The ways that families reminisce and dialogue about their lives have a significant impact on how children develop their adult identities.
Humans are storytelling creatures, but when men are not supported in developing their storytelling muscles, it can lead to lost pieces of their identities.
In this episode, I talk with Dr. Jared DeFife about his work as a clinical psychologist. When we begin, we discuss his interest in supporting men who deal with rejection sensitivity, depression, and more. Specifically, we discuss how these experiences take on different characteristics in men than women, and how storytelling may impact men’s ability to connect with himself and heal.
Take a listen to learn more about how to put yourself back in the author’s seat and regain your narrative identity.
About Dr. Jared DeFife:
Dr. Jared DeFife is a clinical psychologist in private practice. He’s also an adjunct assistant professor in the Department of Psychology and Behavioral Science at the Emory University School of Medicine. Jared is passionate about helping “intense” people integrate interpersonal and personality-focused therapies drawing from schema-focused and mentalization-based therapies into their lives.
Some Questions I Ask:
- What’s the template for the type of clients you attract? (11:32)
- Do you think it’s hard for men to respond to depression screeners? (15:06)
- When does the narrative disappear for men? (20:05)
- How does one begin to re-author their life? (31:23)
- What resources would you recommend for learning more about this? (52:47)
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
- About Jared’s work with men who experience rejection sensitivity and depression. (2:53)
- How Jared transformed his approach as a therapist to connect with and reach men. (10:45)
- How depression manifests itself differently in men and women. (11:52)
- How language use and narratives impact how men perceive their struggles. (16:09)
- What different types of emotionally unavailable men look like. (32:19)
- What tools Jared uses to help men become the authors of their own stories again. (36:02)
Resources:
I Don’t Want to Talk About It by Terrence Real
The Mask of Masculinity by Lewis Howes
Deepening Psychotherapy with Men by Fredric Rabinowitz
Deepening Group Psychotherapy with Men by Fredric Rabinowitz
Under Saturn’s Shadow: The Healing and Wounding of Men by James Hollis