119: Healing the Wounds Left by the Negligent Father
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
Release Date: 12/04/2019
143: Daughters of Critical Mothers
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
“The areas that we struggle with the most, where we feel maybe we’re the hardest on ourselves, or the most stuck… these are actually potentials for really building a strong foundation with your recovery.” [20:47] In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes speaks with Mari Grande about the Mother Wound and the impact of trauma on Daughters of Critical Mothers. By addressing this trauma clients can break the cycle and turn inward to heal and be soothed. Mari speaks about the trauma that Daughters of Critical Mothers experience and the ways in which clients and therapists...
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142: HSPs & Complex Trauma Series: What is Dissociation?
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes Viado and Carmen Schmidt Benedetti continue their podcast series on Complex Trauma and Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs). Today’s episode explores the coping mechanism of dissociation, diving into what it is, what causes it, and potentially how to avoid and combat dissociation.
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141: Rediscovering Your Body with Tara Galeano, LPC
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes Viado speaks with Tara Galeano about the journey of women rediscovering and reconnecting with their bodies. By building a more solid relationship with themselves, women are able to improve the quality of their relationship with others.
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140: Somatic Approaches: Self-Regulation for Mind-Body Well-Being
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
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139: Harnessing the Unique Strengths of Women's Brains
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
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138: HSPs: Healing from Toxic & Abusive Relationships with Arianna Smith, LPC
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Arianna Smith, EMDR Clinician and Licensed Professional Counselor. She helps Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) and LGBTQ individuals process childhood trauma, recover from abusive relationships, and release the cycle of constant people pleasing.
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137: Dream Journey to the Divine Feminine
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Dr. Pearl Gregor. Pearl began studying dreams in 1988. By 2015, widowed, retired, and having finished her doctorate, she created her website: www.dreamsalongtheway.com. In December 2018, she published “I, the Woman, Planted the Tree: A Journey through Dreams to the Feminine,” followed by two more books and a memoir.
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136: Depression & the Highly Sensitive Person
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
This episode of Women In-Depth features Bronwyn Shiffer, LCSW, a psychotherapist from Madison, Wisconsin who works with highly sensitive women struggling with depression. Bronwyn supports women who want to feel more strong, connected and comfortable in their own skin. She has a Masters of Social Work from Smith College School for Social Work and believes that personal transformation is what heals the world.
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135: The Final 8th: Inner Selves & Getting Unstuck
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Bridgit Dengel Gaspard, LCSW, shares why, despite preparation, resources, knowledge, and support, we sometimes fail to achieve our goals. While Bridgit specifically discusses being stuck in relation to larger life goals, her work also applies to other ways we are stuck in our lives.
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134: HSPs & Complex Trauma Series: Where Does Your Anxiety Come From?
Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women
In this episode of Women In-Depth, Lourdes Viado & Carmen Schmidt Benedetti continue their podcast series on Complex Trauma and Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs). Today they discuss where our anxiety comes from and why it matters.
info_outlineThere are really lifelong implications for children who grow up with an emotionally isolating or absent dad.
Some wounds take longer to heal than others.
The wounds of paternal abandonment are ones that take a particularly long time to heal. It requires time, a mental and emotional journey, and a definitive decision to let go of the idea that the father will change his ways.
In this episode, Rachael Chatham talks with us about the experience of the negligent father and general paternal abandonment, and how this particularly impacts daughters. This experience of the negligent father is very common; Rachael sees it in her practice, but it’s part of her personal narrative as well.
Rachael shares with us her journey that led to a transformative experience that allowed her to start taking care of herself—she let go of the fantasy she had written in her head about her father coming back around.
Take a listen to learn more about how to heal the wound left from a negligent father, and how you can help a loved one who’s healing as well.
About Rachael Chatham:
Rachael Chatham is a Licensed Professional Counselor, psychotherapist, and published author. Her private practice is located in Asheville, North Carolina, where she specializes in navigating relationship challenges and healing complex trauma. Her education is rooted in somatic and transpersonal psychologies, and she approaches her work from a perspective that all beings are whole.
Rachael will be launching her first online course in January 2020: Reclaiming the Self: Returning to the Truth and Beauty of Who You Really Are.
Some Questions I Ask:
- What drew you to focus in on this area? (2:42)
- How does the impact of parental abandonment reveal itself in children? (8:31)
- Why is the absence of a father so impactful? (10:29)
- What advice do you have for someone who wants to explore this healing process? (26:40)
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
- How motherhood affected Rachael’s relationship with her negligent father. (6:14)
- How parental abandonment still happens, even with fathers living in the home. (10:12)
- How the effects of parental abandonment influence the child’s sense of identity. (15:16)
- What the grief process looks like when a child lets go of the fantasy that their father could be different. (23:13)
- About Rachael’s transformative experience that allowed her to start taking care of herself. (27:06)
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