Sex & Bacon
Welcome to Sex & Bacon — the podcast serving up unfiltered conversations about sex, love, dating, relationships, and everything society told you not to talk about at the dinner table. Hosted by Sarah, this show dismantles shame and breaks down the stigma around sex and the sex industry—one juicy, no-holds-barred conversation at a time. Whether you're swiping right, loving long-term, healing a broken heart, or finally embracing your sexuality, you’re in the right place. Each week, we explore the raw, real, and ridiculous parts of modern intimacy through stories, expert insights, and honest talk that makes you feel seen, heard, and maybe a little turned on. Questions we’re answering on the regular: - What does healthy sex even look like? - Can hookup culture coexist with emotional connection? - Why are we still so uncomfortable talking about female pleasure? - How do you rebuild trust after betrayal? - Is there really such a thing as "too much sex"? - What do sex workers wish everyone knew? - And why is vulnerability the ultimate aphrodisiac? No filters. No shame. No faking it. Press play and let’s talk about the things we all think—but rarely say out loud. Instagram: @ownyourerotic Email: [email protected]
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Everything You’ve Been Told About Non-Monogamy is Wrong — Jim Fleckenstein Reveals Why
08/12/2025
Everything You’ve Been Told About Non-Monogamy is Wrong — Jim Fleckenstein Reveals Why
What if the relationship model you’ve been taught your whole life… isn’t the only way to love? In this eye-opening and deeply educational episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with sexuality educator, researcher, and author Jim Fleckenstein for a no-BS conversation about polyamory, swinging, open relationships, and the many forms of consensual non-monogamy. With over 20 years in the field, Jim shares the research, real-life experiences, and hard truths that challenge everything you think you know about love, sex, and commitment. From breaking down the different types of non-monogamous relationships to busting seven of the biggest myths people still believe, Jim pulls back the curtain on what makes these relationships thrive—and where they fail. They explore the role of communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in creating healthy dynamics, plus why jealousy might not be the deal-breaker you think it is. Whether you’re monogamous, curious about opening your relationship, or already exploring non-monogamy, this conversation will give you the language, insights, and confidence to navigate love on your own terms—without shame. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: The difference between swinging, polyamory, and open relationships Why consensual non-monogamy is more common than you think How society stigmatizes non-monogamy—and why that’s changing The surprising research on relationship satisfaction in non-monogamous couples Understanding boundaries, agreements, and emotional safety Why women are often the ones initiating open relationships The truth about jealousy and how to manage it Common myths that keep people from exploring alternative relationship models What makes a non-monogamous relationship healthy, sustainable, and fulfilling How to talk to therapists, friends, and family about your relationship choices If you’ve ever wondered what it’s really like to live, love, and thrive outside of monogamy, hit play, this episode might just change how you see relationships forever. #SexAndBacon #JimFleckenstein #PolyamoryExplained #NonMonogamy #OpenRelationships #SwingingLifestyle #ConsensualNonMonogamy #RelationshipMyths #EthicalNonMonogamy #RelationshipAdvice #PolyamoryTips #HealthyRelationships #SexPositive #AlternativeRelationships #LoveOnYourTerms We get into: 00:00 Intro 02:52 Jim's Journey into Non-Monogamy 04:57 Research on Non-Monogamy 13:51 Types of Non-Monogamous Relationships 14:31 Swinging and Polyamory Explained 19:04 Open Relationships and Their Challenges 23:44 The Intersection of Kink and Non-Monogamy 25:23 Addressing Stigmas and Misconceptions 35:06 Seven Common Myths About Non-Monogamy 43:57 Debunking Relationship Duration Myths 44:38 Intimacy as a Measure of Relationship Health 46:44 Generational Shifts in Relationship Norms 47:14 Authenticity in Relationships 48:47 Non-Monogamy and Jealousy 52:42 Therapy vs. Coaching for Relationship Challenges 54:26 Nine Polyamory Myths Debunked 58:35 Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships 01:02:49 Inclusivity in the Polyamory Community 01:16:47 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Jim X: Facebook: LinkedIn: Website: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Healing Through BDSM: How Mistress Mia Uses Kink to Release Trauma & Reclaim Power
07/22/2025
Healing Through BDSM: How Mistress Mia Uses Kink to Release Trauma & Reclaim Power
What if the thing you’re most afraid of… is the very key to your healing? In this powerful, raw, and eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Mistress Mia Payne—owner of Pain With Purpose—for a deep dive into the healing side of BDSM. Together, they explore how kink can be a therapeutic tool for trauma recovery, emotional release, empowerment, and reconnecting with the body after pain. From confronting abuse triggers in a collar to understanding the difference between consensual pain and trauma reenactment, this conversation peels back the layers on what it really means to reclaim power through intentional BDSM. Mia shares the science behind “cellular memory,” the unexpected link between kink and spirituality, and how her clients—many of them high-powered men and trauma survivors—have transformed their lives through her work. Whether you’re kink-curious, healing from trauma, or just ready to ditch shame and explore your full self—this episode offers a radically safe space to reimagine what power, submission, and self-trust can look like. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: How trauma lives in the body—and why kink can help release it The difference between abuse and consensual BDSM (and why consent is everything) What “titration” is and how it helps retrain your nervous system safely Why dominant men often crave submission—and what it reveals emotionally Using pain as a spiritual tool for rites of passage, transformation, and clarity The psychology of humiliation, degradation, and praise in therapeutic sessions What submissives really get out of being “controlled”—and it’s not what you think How Mistress Mia’s clients overcame anxiety, depression, and trauma (and yes, one got off antidepressants!) Why shame is the true block to pleasure—and how to leave it at the door Hit play if you’re ready to heal your body, your beliefs, and your boundaries—one consensual, empowered session at a time. #SexAndBacon #MistressMiaPayne #BDSMHealing #TraumaRecovery #KinkTherapy #PainWithPurpose #RitesOfPassage #DominatrixWisdom #EmotionalRelease #ShameFreeLiving #FemininePower #SafeKink #SexPositiveHealing #AlternativeTherapy We get into: 00:00 Intro 04:48 Understanding the Healing Benefits of BDSM 08:12 Rites of Passage and Spiritual Practices 11:08 Client Experiences and Transformations 17:02 Tools and Techniques in BDSM 22:03 The Therapeutic Impact of BDSM 29:31 Introduction to Therapeutic BDSM 30:17 Challenges and Misconceptions 31:00 Coming Out and Acceptance 32:47 Sex Positivity and Personal Growth 37:03 Session Costs and Customization 40:19 Boundaries and Limits 44:22 Client Relationships and Communication Connect with Mia Payne Instagram: Links: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Hot Mess, High Magic: Turning Chaos Into Confidence, Dating Power, and Dark Femme Energy with Michelle Burke
07/08/2025
Hot Mess, High Magic: Turning Chaos Into Confidence, Dating Power, and Dark Femme Energy with Michelle Burke
What if your biggest heartbreaks, failures, and messy breakdowns weren’t the end of your story—but the beginning of your magic? In this bold, beautiful, and brutally honest episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Michelle Burke—author of Hot Mess Magic—for a heart-opening conversation about owning your chaos, finding power in your pain, and learning how to rise without needing to be "put together" first. From losing her dad and grandma within weeks to screaming grief into the sand on a frozen Jersey beach, Michelle shares the raw truth behind what it means to discover the magic in your mess. They explore what “dark feminine energy” really looks like (spoiler: it’s not about manipulation—it’s about unapologetic power), why emotional availability in dating starts with self-honesty, and how sitting in discomfort is the only way to truly heal. If you've ever felt like a disaster in lipstick—or worried you’re too broken to find love, success, or peace—this one’s your reminder that messy doesn’t mean unworthy. It means you’re mid-alchemy. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: What “dark feminine energy” really means—and how to embody it with confidence Why your mess might be your greatest teacher (and how to reframe your pain) The truth about emotional unavailability—his, and yours Releasing rage and grief through physical movement, not emotional bypassing How to date with power—even if your life feels like a chaotic dumpster fire The magic of mirror work, solo dates, and becoming the love you seek Setting boundaries, letting go of friendships, and outgrowing your old self Why vulnerability is the portal to deeper connection, healing, and community 🎧 Hit play if you're tired of pretending you're fine, and ready to feel powerful because of your mess—not in spite of it. #SexAndBacon #HotMessMagic #DarkFeminineEnergy #HealingEra #FeelYourFeelings #SelfWorthJourney #DatingWhileHealing #EmotionalAvailability #ReclaimYourPower #MessyHealing #UnfilteredFeminine #PersonalAlchemy We get into: 00:00 Intro 01:02 What is “dark feminine energy,” really? 02:25 Why women put others first—and how to stop 03:56 The birth of Hot Mess Magic and the story behind the book 07:13 Finding magic during grief, chaos, and emotional breakdowns 09:04 “Show me the truth”—the mantra that changed everything 10:56 Don’t bypass the pain: feel it, but don’t become it 12:00 Rage, grief, and kickboxing as therapy 14:52 What emotionally unavailable actually looks like in men (and women) 17:32 Dating during a hot mess—what to do, what not to 18:56 Becoming the love you want: solo dates, mirror notes, and self-devotion 21:34 Letting go of people you’ve outgrown—and the guilt that comes with it 24:26 You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with 25:42 Learning to receive instead of chasing in relationships 26:55 The art of not settling—and how to hold your standards 28:44 What kind of man are you actually calling in? 29:51 The masks we wear—and how isolation keeps us stuck 31:00 Releasing shame around money, failure, and public messiness 33:02 The power of safe community, storytelling, and permission 34:44 Final thoughts: give yourself permission to want more—and go for it Connect with Michelle Instagram: Links: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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From Mormon Shame to Sex Magic: How Carolee & Britton Rebuilt Their Marriage
06/24/2025
From Mormon Shame to Sex Magic: How Carolee & Britton Rebuilt Their Marriage
What if everything you believed about love, sex, and marriage was built on shame—and it nearly destroyed you? In this raw, rebellious, and soul-awakening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Carolee and Britton—former devout Mormons turned sexual freedom seekers—for an unfiltered conversation about unlearning religious programming, healing from infidelity, and discovering the power of sex magic. They dive into how growing up Mormon created deep repression, guilt, and silence around sexuality—and how it all came to a head in their marriage through betrayal, disconnection, and years of internalized shame. But instead of falling apart, Carolee and Britton chose the path of radical self-responsibility, spiritual awakening, and shadow work (with a few smashed picture frames and moonlit rituals along the way). From smashing purity culture to manifesting their dream home mid-orgasm, this episode is a masterclass in rewriting the rules—and reclaiming your body, your voice, and your pleasure. 🔥 This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt broken by belief systems, but still dreamed of rising whole. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: How religious shame shapes our sexuality—and what it takes to unlearn it The silent toll of purity culture on women’s bodies, desire, and confidence Infidelity, emotional immaturity, and the deeper wounds underneath cheating Why healing together sometimes means burning everything down first What “sex magic” actually is—and how it can transform your life The power of psychedelic medicine, astrology, and conscious co-creation How Carolee and Britton rebuilt a marriage on truth, not tradition 🎧 Hit play if you’ve ever questioned the beliefs you were raised with—or wanted a relationship that’s wildly more aligned, embodied, and soul-fueled. #SexAndBacon #DeconstructingReligion #SexualLiberation #MormonDeconstruction #InfidelityRecovery #SexMagic #HealingTogether #ConsciousRelationships #ShadowWork #DivineFeminine #MarriageRebirth #ReclaimYourPower #UnlearnAndRebuild We get into: 00:00 Intro 01:52 Growing Up Mormon 03:55 Sexual Repression and Infidelity 04:25 Carol Lee's Perspective on Sexual Shame 10:56 Early Marriage Challenges 25:56 Infidelity and Its Impact 34:32 Therapy and Healing 38:29 Leaving the Mormon Church 42:52 Magic Reenters Our Lives 43:04 Emotional Healing and Sound Therapy 43:36 The Journey of Reeducation 45:33 Facing Betrayal and Healing 47:13 Rage and Release Rituals 51:51 Redefining Relationships 56:59 Sex Magic and Manifestation 01:07:44 Overcoming Judgment and Shame 01:17:54 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Britton and Carolee Instagram: Podcast: TikTok: Website: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Dating Dicks & Red Flags: Why Smart Women Fall for the Wrong Men with Steph V
06/10/2025
Dating Dicks & Red Flags: Why Smart Women Fall for the Wrong Men with Steph V
What if every guy you dated turned out to be a walking red flag—disguised as Prince Charming? In this hilarious, unfiltered, and deeply relatable episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Steph V—author and host of Dating Dicks—to unravel the art of dating emotionally unavailable men, how we ignore red flags on purpose, and why we sometimes mistake chaos for chemistry. Steph shares jaw-dropping stories (one involves being ditched at a party... for her own guest), outrageous moments of heartbreak, and the hard-won wisdom that comes from being a self-proclaimed “serial dictator.” Together, Sarah and Steph explore why women stay, what keeps us hooked, and how to break free from toxic patterns that feel way too familiar. This isn’t just girl talk—it’s a deep dive into self-worth, healing, and learning to spot the dicks before they ruin your mascara. 💥 If you've ever fallen for potential instead of reality—or if you’re just here for the wildly entertaining stories—you’re going to love this one. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Why smart, self-aware women keep dating emotional toddlers The truth about “fixing him” (and why it never works) How we confuse comfort with compatibility Learning to balance heart and logic in relationships Spotting red flags early—and actually listening to them Navigating dating apps without losing your damn mind Why Steph launched Dating Dicks—and how it’s helping women heal through humor 🎧 Subscribe, share, and don’t forget: you deserve the dick, not the dicks. #DatingPodcast #ToxicRelationships #SexAndBacon #DatingDicks #DatingRedFlags #FunnyDatingStories #FemaleEmpowerment #EmotionalUnavailability #DatingDisasters #WomenSupportingWomen We get into: 00:00 Introduction 02:02 Crazy Dating Stories: The Christmas Party Incident 05:19 Another Dick Story: The Boutique Birthday 11:17 Patterns and Lessons in Dating 15:11 Heart vs. Logic in Relationships 21:56 Navigating Online Dating 23:04 The Vulnerability of Online Profiles 24:11 Strategies for Online Dating Success 25:41 Exploring Offline Dating Options 30:25 Speed Dating Experiences 36:01 Catfish Encounters 42:30 Sharing Stories and Building Community Connect with Steph Instagram: Book: Podcast: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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I Was Married to a Sex Offender and Didn't Know Until He Was Arrested with Amanda Quick
05/27/2025
I Was Married to a Sex Offender and Didn't Know Until He Was Arrested with Amanda Quick
What if the person you trusted most turned out to be living a double life? In this gripping, raw, and deeply courageous episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Amanda Quick—author of The Sex Trafficker’s Wife—to unravel the unthinkable: what happens when the man you married, the father of your children, is arrested for trying to purchase underage girls. Amanda shares her story with jaw-dropping honesty, walking us through the emotional rollercoaster of betrayal, trauma bonding, courtroom battles, and reclaiming her voice after years of manipulation and gaslighting. This isn’t just true crime—it’s a masterclass in resilience, motherhood, and choosing yourself when the world expects you to stay quiet. 💥 If you’ve ever questioned your instincts, felt stuck in a toxic relationship, or needed proof that healing is possible—this episode is for you. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: What it’s really like to discover your partner’s darkest secrets The truth about trauma bonding—and why it’s so hard to leave How Amanda fought a high-conflict custody battle against a convicted sex offender Why the system often fails survivors—and how she found loopholes to protect her kids The emotional toll of keeping the family together at all costs How one psychic session changed everything Reclaiming identity, sexuality, and joy after betrayal Why Amanda wrote The Sex Trafficker’s Wife—and what she wants every woman to know We get into: 00:00 Introduction 00:47 The Night Everything Changed 01:52 The Shocking Arrest 03:36 Unraveling the Truth 07:14 The Aftermath and Legal Battles 11:42 Struggling with Reality 17:07 A New Beginning 26:34 Custody and Conflict 36:49 Signs of Danger 37:59 Reporting the Incident 40:27 The Rock Bottom Moment 42:06 Seeking Unconventional Help 48:15 A Renewed Sense of Purpose 51:14 Legal Battles and Final Decisions 53:30 Life After the Divorce 57:30 Healing and Moving Forward 01:12:55 Raising Awareness and Final Thoughts Connect with Amanda Instagram: TEDx Talk: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Why Women Crave Smut: The Truth About Erotic Romance & Female Pleasure | Ruan Willow
05/20/2025
Why Women Crave Smut: The Truth About Erotic Romance & Female Pleasure | Ruan Willow
Is reading smut mental cheating? Or is it the secret weapon to a more empowered, pleasure-filled life? In this juicy, no-holds-barred episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with erotica author and podcaster Ruan Willow to explore the world of erotic romance, female desire, and why stories that turn women on are about so much more than sex. From reclaiming "dirty" words to using fiction as foreplay, Ruan breaks down how smut, sensual stories, and sex-positive conversations can actually heal shame, unlock confidence, and transform relationships. Whether you're new to erotic lit or a longtime lover of open-door romance, this episode is a spicy invitation to rethink what turns you on—and why that’s more powerful than you’ve been told. 💥 If you've ever felt guilty for what you like, or wondered if you're "too much"—this one is for you. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Why reading smut isn’t mental cheating—and might actually save your sex life The difference between porn and erotic romance (and why women crave the latter) How erotica helps women reclaim pleasure, power, and their own damn fantasies The healing power of fiction for trauma, shame, and even religious conditioning What most men misunderstand about women’s desires Why sexual empowerment is mental health, period Consent, kink, and the truth about ethical non-monogamy Ruan’s top writing tips—and how her characters lead the story (and the sex) We get into: 00:00 Introduction 00:50 Ruan Willow's Journey into Erotic Romance 01:55 Debunking Myths About Erotic Romance 04:32 Writing Explicit Content: Challenges and Creativity 16:01 The Healing Power of Erotic Literature 21:51 Exploring Pseudo Incest in Literature 23:40 Family Reactions to Writing Romance 24:19 Diving into the 'Oh Fuck Yeah' Podcast 27:48 Impact of Podcasting on Writing 28:54 Writing About Non-Monogamous Relationships 32:54 Upcoming Erotic Romance Projects 35:06 Normalizing Sexual Conversations 39:21 Connecting with Fans and Final Thoughts Connect with Ruan Instagram: X: Podcast: Books: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Why Most Men Get Sex Wrong (And How to Fix It)
05/13/2025
Why Most Men Get Sex Wrong (And How to Fix It)
Most men think they’ve got sex all figured out… but what if that confidence is exactly what’s keeping them from mind-blowing connection? In this candid and wildly eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah is joined by Dallas Bluth, founder of Black Box Dating, to explore why so many men misunderstand what truly turns women on—and how they can flip the script for good. From porn culture and rushed foreplay to emotional unavailability and outdated masculinity myths, this convo dives into the core of male sexuality, desire, and how to create actual intimacy (that leads to the hottest sex of your life). 💥 If you’ve ever thought “I’m doing everything right… so why isn’t it working?” — this one’s for you. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: The biggest mistakes men make in bed Why slowing down changes everything What women actually mean when they say they need to feel safe The #1 mindset shift that makes sex hotter How porn rewires expectations and performance The real role of emotional intimacy in physical pleasure Tangible ways men can step into secure, grounded masculinity We get into: 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:58 Defining Really Hot Sex 02:14 Male vs. Female Perspectives on Sex 02:40 Understanding Male Sexuality 06:07 The Importance of Emotional Connection 16:27 Foreplay in Relationships 20:38 Acts of Service and Masculinity 34:19 Setting Standards in Relationships 46:20 The Impact of Pornography on Relationships 48:18 Desensitization and Addiction 49:47 Emotional and Sexual Escalation 50:42 The Importance of Non-Sexual Intimacy 55:06 Communication and Vulnerability in Relationships 58:18 Challenges in Married Life 01:01:32 Reigniting Passion in Long-Term Relationships 01:04:40 The Role of Masculine Energy 01:16:25 Creating Lighthearted and Carefree Experiences 01:26:59 Conclusion and Contact Information Connect with Dallas Instagram: Website: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Too Much D*, Not Enough Depth: Dating, Threesomes & Celibacy Confessions
04/22/2025
Too Much D*, Not Enough Depth: Dating, Threesomes & Celibacy Confessions
In this episode of Sex & Bacon, I sit down with the always unfiltered Darby for a rollercoaster ride through dating disasters, sexual awakenings, and the spiritual side of swearing off men—temporarily. We talk throuples, field apps, hat-fishing, giant dicks (that miss the G-spot), and the kind of kissing that makes you question if you even like the person. And then—curveball—Sarah shares her very real journey of trying celibacy… for six months. Kind of. Maybe. We’ll check back in 30 days. Get ready for big laughs, bigger truths, and the kind of late-night convo you’d only have with your best friend and a half-empty glass of wine. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Too Much Dick, Not Enough Spark Why bigger isn’t always better and why chemistry matters more than checkboxes (even if the checkbox is “deep radio voice”). Sensuality > Shits & Giggles Sarah shares her first real experience with a couple—and what it taught her about connection, boundaries, and how much is too much pleasure in one night. When Your Gut Says “No,” but Your Hormones Say “Let’s Go” Why we sometimes ignore our instincts when someone checks all the right boxes—except the emotional availability one. Six Months of Celibacy (Allegedly) Sarah swears off dating and sex for six months to heal, set boundaries, and get clear… but can she make it past day 30 without sexting someone in a cowboy hat? Red Flags & Witches From “build-a-boy” fantasies to sending money to witches (yep, that happened), we go there—and back again. Plus, what dating app culture really says about where we are emotionally. Sisterhood Over Situationships Through the mess and the magic, Sarah proves one thing: real friendship is what holds you when the bed’s cold and the heart’s hurting. We get into: 00:00 Intro 00:25 Dating Woes and Celibacy Challenge 01:14 The Cowboy Chronicles 02:29 Exploring Throuples and New Dating Adventures 04:17 The Throuple Experience 08:49 New Connections and Insecurities 14:05 Navigating Relationship Red Flags 20:04 Warnings and Red Flags 21:04 Realization and Self-Reflection 23:32 Intimacy and Relationship Benchmarks 27:22 Commitment to a Dating Hiatus 31:51 Challenges and Support 40:36 Final Thoughts and Cheers Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Why Modern Dating Feels So Hard (And What Women Can Actually Do About It) | Shay Moore on Sex & Bacon
04/08/2025
Why Modern Dating Feels So Hard (And What Women Can Actually Do About It) | Shay Moore on Sex & Bacon
In this episode of Sex & Bacon, I’m joined by the vibrant and soulfully wise Shay Moore—a licensed marriage and family therapist with a love for all things messy, magical, and real when it comes to relationships. Together, we dive deep into the labyrinth of modern love, friendships, dating dilemmas, and the wild ride of being a woman who’s trying to figure it all out without losing herself in the process. Shay brings raw honesty and therapeutic insight as we unpack the complexities of love, the importance of female friendships, and why your girlfriends really are your soulmates (even if they cook you dinner instead of sending flowers). 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Love in Shambles – From Studying It to Living It Shay shares her journey from being single and skeptical to becoming a therapist helping others navigate love—even when her own heart was still learning. Hyper-Independent Women & The Vulnerability Conundrum Why opening up feels like peeling your own skin off—and how we can soften without falling apart. Dating in the Digital Age – Why Is This So F*cking Hard? We talk about ghosting, texting anxiety, and whether being a "pen pal" counts as connection. Spoiler: it doesn’t. Friends Who Love Us Too Hard How our besties can sometimes project their own pain into our dating lives—and how to tell when it’s advice or overprotection talking. Sisterhood is Sacred Shay opens up about her own heartbreaks, the friends who walked beside her, and why adult female friendships are the real love story of your life. Healing Through Sisterhood, Honesty, & Hugs From seven-second hugs to "rotting on the couch" dates, we explore the power of being seen, held, and loved by other women—no filter, no judgment. We get into: 00:00 Intro 02:16 The Struggles of Modern Relationships 04:33 Navigating Dating Expectations 09:30 The Role of Friends in Relationship Advice 16:43 Mental Health and Relationship Breakdowns 18:03 Red Flags and Emotional Availability 23:14 The Tall Man Dilemma 23:37 Emotional Availability in Relationships 24:41 The Importance of Open Communication 28:16 Supporting Friends Through Breakups 31:49 Love Languages in Friendships 33:36 The Value of Female Friendships 42:15 Unapologetically You 48:19 Final Thoughts and Advice Connect with Shay Instagram: Podcast: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Surviving Sexual Assault: Katey's Story of Trauma, Power & Healing
03/25/2025
Surviving Sexual Assault: Katey's Story of Trauma, Power & Healing
In this episode of Sex&Bacon, I’m joined by the incredibly brave Katey Rickert for a raw, unfiltered conversation about healing after sexual assault, reclaiming power, and the long, winding road of recovery. Katey opens up about her personal story—one that is heart-wrenching, courageous, and deeply human. Together, we unpack the dark aftermath of trauma, the complexities of consent, and how writing, movement, and connection helped her return home to herself. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Surviving the Unthinkable – The Story Behind the Blog Katey shares how her blog was born from a place of pain, resilience, and healing—writing her way through trauma, shame, and the reclamation of her body and voice. Disassociation, PTSD & the Aftermath of Assault What really happens to the body and mind during and after sexual trauma—and why it’s not as simple as “fight or flight.” Why Survivors Stay Silent – And Why That Needs to Change From shame to broken systems, Katey breaks down the reasons behind the silence of so many survivors—and what happened when she finally reported her assault 8 years later. The Broken Justice System – One Call, No Justice Despite a recorded confession, her rapist walked free. Katey details the gut-wrenching failures of the legal system and why so many survivors don’t come forward. The Road to Recovery – Yoga, Therapy & Radical Reconnection Katey dives into how years of therapy, recovery, and somatic healing helped her finally feel safe again—in her body, in relationships, and in her truth. From Trauma to Empowerment – Reclaiming Sexuality on Her Own Terms How she transformed her pain into power, explored her sensuality through photography and writing, and ultimately found healing in conscious, connected love. We get into: 00:00 Intro 01:37 The Impact of Sexual Assault 03:35 Exploring Sexuality and OF 07:15 The Lifestyle Lounge Experience 10:11 The Assault Incident 19:41 Aftermath and Reporting 26:36 Travis County's Sexual Assault Case Backlog 27:55 Dissociation During Assault 32:44 Struggles with Intimacy 33:42 Seeking Help and Recovery 40:24 The Importance of Support Systems 44:35 The Broken System and Reporting Challenges 47:31 Empowerment Through Sharing 49:36 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Katey (password is kateybea) Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Dating Over 40: Why the Right Love Feels So Hard to Find (and What to Do About It) with Sarah Davis
03/11/2025
Dating Over 40: Why the Right Love Feels So Hard to Find (and What to Do About It) with Sarah Davis
In this episode of Sex and Bacon, Sarah Davis joins me for a no-holds-barred conversation about dating today—from navigating the wild world of dating apps to uncovering what we truly want in a partner. We get real about expectations, self-sabotage, and why so many of us keep attracting the same type of relationships. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: 💥 Dating Over 40: Navigating the Chaos – Why dating later in life comes with new challenges, and how to embrace it with confidence and clarity. 🛑 Breaking the Cycle of Settling – Why so many women feel pressure to “just take what they can get” in relationships—and why that’s a hard NO. 💡 Attraction & Energy: What Are You Really Looking For? – How Sarah shifted her mindset from a “type” to deeper compatibility (and what that changed in her dating life). 🎭 Men, Women & The Dating App Struggle – The stark differences between dating men vs. women, and why dating apps often feel like a game of luck. 🔥 Red Flags, Green Flags & Wild Stories – From accidental blind dates to the infamous overnight bag incident—Sarah shares the good, the bad, and the in between. 💡 Manifesting the Right Relationship – The power of getting crystal clear on what you want in a partner—and how the universe might just deliver. We get into: 00:00 Intro 04:54 Sarah's Journey: From Marriage to Bisexuality 07:59 Navigating Bisexuality in Relationships 14:26 Dating Dynamics: Men vs. Women 19:42 Worst Date Stories and Lessons Learned 27:50 Importance of Personality in Attraction 33:07 Challenges of Finding Genuine Connections 35:07 Being Upfront About Relationship Goals 35:43 Funny Dating Story: The Wrong Sarah 38:40 Setting Boundaries and Honoring Yourself 44:44 The Scarcity Mindset in Dating Over 40 52:22 Manifesting the Right Partner Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Why You Keep Sabotaging Your Relationships (And How to Stop!) | Self-Sabotage & Love with Minh-Thu Lam
02/25/2025
Why You Keep Sabotaging Your Relationships (And How to Stop!) | Self-Sabotage & Love with Minh-Thu Lam
In this episode of Sex and Bacon, Sarah sits down with executive coach and self-sabotage expert Minh-Thu Lam from Higher Alignment Consulting to uncover the sneaky ways we sabotage our own happiness—especially in relationships. From unspoken needs and toxic patterns to the role of the nervous system in love, this deep and raw conversation reveals why we keep making the same mistakes and, more importantly, how to break free. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: 💥 Why We Self-Sabotage: Minh-Thu breaks down the subconscious patterns that keep us stuck, from childhood conditioning to societal programming. 🛑 Recognizing the Signs: Struggling with ghosting, repeating toxic relationship cycles, or pushing away healthy love? Here’s how to identify self-sabotage in action. 💡 Healing Through Awareness: Learn how to stop reacting from fear, regulate your nervous system, and start making intentional choices in love and life. 🔄 Dating with Clarity: Sarah and Minh-Thu discuss how to set boundaries, voice your needs, and stop expecting partners to be mind readers. 🌱 Growth Over Comfort: Unlearning unhealthy patterns is uncomfortable—but it’s the key to creating the deep, fulfilling relationships we actually want. 🔥 The Hard Truth: If you keep attracting the same type of partner, the common denominator is you—but that also means you have the power to change it. We get into: 00:00 Welcome to the Sex and Bacon Podcast 02:11 The Root Cause of Burnout 03:43 Understanding Self-Sabotage 04:46 Self-Sabotage in Relationships 06:57 Childhood Conditioning and Relationship Dynamics 18:05 The Importance of Setting Boundaries 26:49 Recognizing Self-Sabotaging Patterns 34:52 Recognizing Old Patterns and Moving Forward 35:06 The Importance of Surrounding Yourself with Positive Influences 35:34 The Role of Coaches and Therapists 37:03 Choosing the Right Coach 38:01 Self-Sabotage and Its Reflection on Self-Worth 39:51 The Importance of Prioritizing Wellbeing in Relationships 43:35 Tools to Overcome Self-Sabotage 46:17 Regulating Your Nervous System 53:04 The Value of Open Communication in Relationships 59:26 Taking Control of Your Life and Seeking Help Connect with Minh-Thu LinkedIn: Facebook: Instagram: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Dating Apps, Disasters, and Deal Breakers: Inside the Modern Dating Scene
02/11/2025
Dating Apps, Disasters, and Deal Breakers: Inside the Modern Dating Scene
In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, we’re kicking off a brand-new series—The Dating Circle! Host Sarah introduces us to two incredible women, Jess and Tina, as they embark on their dating journeys, sharing all the juicy details, awkward encounters, and hard-earned lessons along the way. From navigating dating apps and ghosting to defining what they’re really looking for in a partner, this candid conversation is filled with laughs, surprises, and some hard truths about modern dating. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: 💘 Dating in the Digital Age: Jess and Tina open up about their experiences with Tinder, Hinge, and Facebook Dating—why some platforms work better than others and what really goes on behind the scenes of online dating. 💔 The Struggles of Modern Romance: From ghosting to awkward first dates, the ladies spill their worst dating experiences—including one that involved a surprise LARPing confession! 💡 What Women Really Want: Confidence, ambition, and emotional intelligence—Jess and Tina break down the qualities that matter most when looking for a partner. 🔥 Who Should Make the First Move? Should men take the lead in planning dates, or is it a mutual effort? The conversation dives into the importance of confidence, effort, and setting the tone for a relationship. 📌 The Homework Assignment: Jess and Tina have two weeks to find and go on a date—who will they meet, and how will it go? Stay tuned for the next episode to find out! We get into: 00:00 Introduction to the Dating Circle Series 01:30 Meet Jess: A Journey Through Divorce and Dating 03:35 Meet Tina: Single Mom Navigating the Dating World 04:45 Dating Apps: Tinder, Hinge, and Facebook Dating 07:44 The Challenges of Online Dating 13:45 Worst Date Stories: Tina's Experience 19:05 Worst Date Stories: Jess's Experience 26:40 The Oven Thermometer Gift 27:43 Debating Dating Expenses 28:33 Splitting the Bill on Dates 32:13 Worst Date Stories 39:17 Online Dating Realities 43:35 What Women Want in a Man 49:49 Dating Homework Assignment Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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From Rock Bottom to Redemption: Corey Ossum’s Guide to Overcoming Addiction
01/28/2025
From Rock Bottom to Redemption: Corey Ossum’s Guide to Overcoming Addiction
In this episode of the Sex & Bacon podcast, I’m joined by Corey Ossum, an addiction recovery coach, emcee, and construction professional, who shares his journey of transformation. Corey opens up about his struggles with addiction, the pivotal moments that inspired change, and how he’s now helping others navigate their recovery paths. From the importance of redefining one’s legacy to finding joy and purpose after addiction, Corey’s story is both raw and inspiring. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Rewriting Your Narrative: Corey shares the story of legally changing his last name to “Awesome” to leave behind a legacy of positivity and empowerment, emphasizing the importance of creating your own path in life. Hitting Rock Bottom: A sobering experience at the U.S. border marked a turning point in Corey’s life, motivating him to confront his addictions and commit to lasting change. The Power of Passion: Corey discusses how his love for emceeing bodybuilding shows became a driving force for his sobriety, illustrating the impact of having a meaningful purpose. Healing Through Coaching: Now an addiction recovery coach, Corey uses his experiences to guide others through a six-week program that focuses on physical, mental, and spiritual growth. Sobriety and Relationships: Corey reflects on how his addiction affected his relationships and how sobriety has redefined his connections with himself and others. We get into: 00:00 Introduction 07:45 Addiction Journey 12:13 Hitting Rock Bottom 18:25 Recovery and Reflection 20:13 Dating and Relationships 26:05 The Booty Blow Job Shot 26:54 From Pool Boy to Party Scene 28:11 The Cycle of Partying and Relationships 29:23 Struggles with Addiction and Sobriety 31:45 Finding Passion in Emceeing 36:29 Building a Coaching Business 41:01 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Social Media Challenges 46:17 Helping Others Through Personal Experience 51:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Connect with Corey Instagram: To learn more about Corey’s coaching program or to book a consultation, visit his Instagram page and access his booking link through the bio. Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Embracing Your Erotic Mind: Katie Runyon on Role Play in Relationships
01/14/2025
Embracing Your Erotic Mind: Katie Runyon on Role Play in Relationships
Have you ever wondered how a change in persona could reignite the spark in your relationship? In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, I’m joined by Katie Runyan, founder of Faithful Fling and a roleplay sex expert. Katie shares her journey into roleplay, starting with a bold experiment in her own marriage that evolved into a successful venture helping couples reignite their connection through creative roleplay scenarios. Katie explains how roleplay can break monotonous routines, enhance intimacy, and keep monogamy exciting while providing listeners with tips and resources to explore their own fantasies safely within their relationships. We get into: 00:00 Introduction 00:04 Meet Katie Runyan: Roleplay Expert 01:29 The Birth of Faithful Fling 05:00 Exploring Roleplay Scenarios 07:19 Overcoming Vulnerability and Rejection 09:34 Starting Your Roleplay Journey 19:15 Popular Roleplay Scenarios 30:52 Transform Your Room with Minimalistic Art 31:36 Roleplay Date Essentials: Tips and Tricks 33:50 Keeping Monogamy Hot with Roleplay 35:43 Workshops and Webinars for Overcoming Insecurities 39:13 The Importance of Emotional Security in Roleplay 40:04 Creating a Sensual Atmosphere 41:07 Personal Consultations and Future Goals 42:16 The Power of Roleplay in Relationships 50:28 Embracing Sensuality and Confidence 57:37 Final Thoughts and Contact Information Connect with Katie Instagram: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Sexual Polarity, Holistic Sex and Emotional Vulnerability with Andrew Daniel
01/09/2024
Sexual Polarity, Holistic Sex and Emotional Vulnerability with Andrew Daniel
In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Andrew Daniel joins me to talk about sexual polarity, holistic sex, and emotional vulnerability from a man's perspective. Andrew helps us navigate important issues on men's perceptions of masculinity, societal expectations of gender roles, and the influence of these elements on personal relationships. He highlights the significance of emotional maturity and self-awareness as key to creating genuine intimacy and having a fulfilling sex life. Andrew suggests that by embracing vulnerability, men can enhance every facet of their life, from relationships to professional success. Andrew Daniel is an award-winning and international bestselling author and director at the Center for Cinesomatic Development. His Cinesomatics® workshops are held internationally from New York to London, Tuscany to Switzerland—helping professionals see the elusive patterns that hold them back. This methodology leads the world in cinematic movement diagnostics and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment, shadow work, therapy, and spirituality. His book, Awaken to Your True Self, is a gold Nautilus Book Awards recipient and #1 Amazon bestseller in the US & UK. In his early career, Andrew coded a particle and physics engine by the age of 18, used by top Fortune 100 companies over the 7 years of his software business. His first teaching work, Holistic Sex (Mindvalley, 2014), provided the world with a new paradigm that bridged the divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. Andrew is also an advisor for the Alan Watts Organization. We get into: [0:00] Intro [2:48] Why men comes to him for help [7:32] Why men do not feel supported in embracing the masculine and feminine [16:21] Intimacy is more than just sex [21:53] Battle of the sexes [24:19] Making someone's pleasure your pleasure [28:12] Revisiting our north american views on sex and intimacy vs. other countries [36:51] When your body is at odds with your brain [38:50] Developing self awareness [45:46] What is sexual polarity [52:21] Control and safety [56:59] Tips for men to start being introspective with themselves and their experiences Connect with Andrew Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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The Impact Money has on a Relationship
12/19/2023
The Impact Money has on a Relationship
In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, we talk all about the taboo subject of talking about money in relationships. My guest, Marci Grossman, highlights how financial stress is a significant contributor to a couple's sex life disruption. Marci discusses the importance of being financially literate to avoid money-related issues in relationships. The conversation also focuses on the impact of financial responsibility in relationships, addressing key factors like communication about earnings, debt, retirement, and savings. We also talk about the importance of having open conversations about financial expectations and circumstances when dating or entering a relationship, and how to manage finances responsibly whenever there's a major shift in life (like losing a job). Marci Grossman is a CPA with over 30 years of experience helping individuals and businesses with financial matters. She has worked in public, private, and non-profit accounting. Her passion is helping people to improve their relationship with money. We get into: [0:00] Intro [2:43] My own experience in my marriage surrounding money [6:15] The conversations about money that need to be had before marriage, and Marci's experience in her own marriage [10:20] Should we put money together or keep it separate? [12:40] Why do people avoid conversations about money while dating [14:20] Are there money deal breakers in a relationship? [18:35] The problems that finances can cause [20:05] Mental health struggles with financial burdens [25:50] Tips for couples to start to look at their finances and set themselves up to be in a better position [27:15] How much to save for an emergency and retirement [33:10] The generational differences between our parents and us Connect with Marci Instagram: Facebook: Links: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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15 Types of Orgasms with Ava Pikul
11/14/2023
15 Types of Orgasms with Ava Pikul
In this episode, we return from a brief break and introduce Ava, a Tantric expert, who was previously on the podcast, and who I’ve been working with over the last six months. We talk all about the various types of female orgasms including clitoral, G-spot, cervical, U-spot, A-spot, P-spot, and anal orgasms. We also talk about how expecting a specific outcome, such as a particular type of orgasm, can limit one's ability to fully experience pleasure, emphasizing that tantric practices are more about healing and self-exploration than only focusing on achieving orgasms. The episode highlights the importance of effective communication, understanding one's emotions, and establishing safety and connection on a physical and emotional level during sex. We also touch on societal misconceptions about pleasure, trauma, and our intricate connections to sexuality. Ava is a Transformational Therapist and Tantra Healer certified by the only government accredited institute of tantra in the entire world - The Institute of Authentic Tantra! She has over 1,700+ hours of training in the field of tantra, as well as psychological, emotional, and spiritual healing modalities. Ava believes that healing shouldn't take years, and primarily guides men, women, and couples through a unique and holistic approach to healing and sexual fulfillment. We get into: [0:00] Intro [1:25] Why we’re talking about orgasms [2:30] What does it really mean to orgasm [5:50] The emotional side of an orgasm [10:00] Is there a rank of which orgasm is the best? [15:05] G-spot orgasms [25:45] GSpot crystal wand, stimulation, squirting [30:30] U-Spot Orgasm [35:35] Cervical orgasm [40:50] A spot orgasm [42:55] Finding these spots for yourself [58:55] Anal orgasms [1:07:00] Sexual trauma and the resistance people might feel when they first start this work Connect with Ava Instagram: Facebook: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Healing Trauma and Nurturing Intimacy with Alyssen Nguyen
06/27/2023
Healing Trauma and Nurturing Intimacy with Alyssen Nguyen
In this episode, we explore the profound impact of relationship trauma on Alyssen's journey and how it has shaped her work. Join us as she candidly shares personal stories, shedding light on the transformative power of addressing past wounds to create healthier relationships. Continuing the conversation, we delve into the fascinating realm of hormonal fluctuations and the effects of birth control on our sex drives. Uncovering the scientific and psychological aspects, we examine how birth control can influence our intimate lives. Additionally, we talk about the importance of anticipation and scheduling intimacy, sharing practical tools to create deeper connections. We get into: [0:00] Intro [1:45] The relationship trauma that brought Alyssen into this work [4:35] The impact of birth control on our hormones and sex drives [9:40] Anticipating and scheduling intimacy [13:30] The expectations of how many times you should have sex per day or week [16:40] Why people don't like talking about sex [18:40] Needing to do the inner work when it comes to dating [24:45] Tools to help you do that work [28:00] Being alone vs. filling a void [31:40] Knowing your boundaries and what you will and won’t put up with [39:55] Do men attract the same women over and over? Connect with Alyssen Instagram: Facebook: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Empowering Women's Health: Navigating Fibroids with LaToya Dwight
06/20/2023
Empowering Women's Health: Navigating Fibroids with LaToya Dwight
In this episode, we explore the world of women's health and fibroids with LaToya Dwight. Through her personal journey and experiences, LaToya shares valuable insights on topics such as the impact of diet, advocating for oneself, managing intimacy, and addressing bias in the medical industry, while also shedding light on her non-profit organization dedicated to supporting women affected by fibroids. Discover the challenges women face when dealing with fibroids and gain a deeper understanding of the symptoms that lead to questioning one's health. Explore practical solutions and alternative approaches for those who prefer non-medical routes, all while being inspired by LaToya's passion for empowering women and her unwavering commitment to raising awareness and providing support in the realm of fibroids. As a wife, mother, sister, daughter, and loyal friend, LaToya Dwight embarked on a fibroid healing journey after learning about the dis-ease of uterine fibroids by happenstance, when going to her OB/GYN to have an IUD replacement. Leaving the doctors office with little to no guidance, LaToya felt compelled to take her health into her own hands. Participating in various coaching programs, doing yoga, qi gong, meditation, deep breathing exercises, eating for her blood type, and even going vegan, all led LaToya down a lonely 4 year long journey. After having a successful, minimally invasive procedure, LaToya felt compelled to tell her story in an effort to help someone else. This birthed The Fibroid Pandemic! It's mission is to provide resources to humans with a uterus who are seeking to overcome fibroids through education, support, and tools in order to best advocate for oneself. We get into: [0:00] Intro [1:35] How LaToya got into this work [4:10] Finding out she had fibroids [6:15] Did her IUD cause fibroids? [8:15] How diet impacts fibroids [10:30] The symptoms that made her question her health [15:55] Advocating for yourself and getting second opinions [18:35] Was sex painful with fibroids? [20:20] Could she orgasm [22:45] How her flare ups happen [26:50] The bias in the medical industry [30:20] About her non-profit organization [32:50] Safe products women can use during their cycles [37:35] The biggest struggle women face when it comes to fibroids [42:20] What to do if you don't want to go the medical route Connect with Latoya Instagram: Website: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Health, Body Image, and its Impact to Your Sexual Health with Kerin Briscese
06/13/2023
Health, Body Image, and its Impact to Your Sexual Health with Kerin Briscese
In this episode, Kerin shares her inspiring background and triumph over eating disorders, challenging deeply ingrained belief systems formed at a young age. Explore the power of nourishing your body with foods that make you feel good and delve into the impact of weight on your dating life. Discover the mindset of a confident woman who knows her worth and unravel the toxic patterns that hinder meaningful connections. Gain insights into cultivating a balanced approach to working out, eating, and lifestyle choices, embracing both feminine and masculine energies. Reflect on the significance of setting boundaries around health, wellness, food, and dating, and get ready to gain clarity on your desires within relationships. Kerin is an Executive Life Coach with a mission to redefine standards in health, body, mind and spirit to truly live in a happy body and lead a successful life. Specializing in the development of emotional balance, confidence, mindset management, and intuitive weight loss, Kerin specializes in the release of trauma from the cellular body and the repatterning of the thoughts and emotions that hold us back from showing up as the person we desire to be. Join us for an empowering conversation that will ignite personal growth, inspire transformation, and lead to fulfilling connections. We get into: [0:00] Intro [1:00] Kerin's background and experience with eating disorders [5:10] The belief system people develop at a young age [8:00] Eating foods that make you feel good [10:45] How weight affects your dating life [12:10] Being a woman who knows her worth [16:00] Toxic dating patterns [17:50] Unraveling your mindset around working out, eating and lifestyle choices [19:45] The balance between feminine and masculine energetics [23:30] Do you need to sleep with someone to know if you like them or not? [25:30] Boundaries around health, wellness, food and dating [32:55] Getting clear about what you desire in a relationship Connect with Kerin Instagram: Facebook: Freebie: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Handjobs - Love Them? Or Ditch Them?
06/06/2023
Handjobs - Love Them? Or Ditch Them?
In this episode, Melissa and I dive into handjobs, casual sex and deep desire that pushes boundaries. We share our fave techniques that will leave you and your partner craving more. We also challenge preconceptions about casual sex and embrace the freedom and liberation that comes with exploring desires beyond the conventional. We get into: [0:00] Intro [0:45] Should handjobs make a comeback? [1:30] The art of giving a great handjob [7:25] Where handjobs feel best for men [11:00] Never do fast and jerky strokes [11:45] Have guys ever told you how they like being jerked off? [13:25] Handjobs as foreplay for amazing sex [14:55] Having multiple orgasms in one session [17:15] Can you have casual sex without feelings? [19:55] Is sex once a week enough? [22:15] How to not grow attachment to a casual partner [26:00] Why you can't change a man's mind about relationships [29:35] Why men’s sex drives are really the problem [34:05] Having sex on your period [36:05] Sarah’s anal sex obsession Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Unfiltered: Sex, Anal and Relationships with Noah Evan
05/30/2023
Unfiltered: Sex, Anal and Relationships with Noah Evan
In this episode, Noah Evan joins me to talk candidly about sex, the gay sex scene, and everything in between. Noah is a queer podcaster of the "Severely Personal" podcast, who loves to discuss all things intimate through comedy and stories. He loves to find connections and community and is always looking to learn. We get into: [0:00] Intro [0:50] Noah's podcast, Severely Personal [2:40] Bringing humor to hard conversations [5:00] The prep work that goes into anal [10:30] Is it hard dating and finding good partners? [12:30] Keeping up with different terms and ways people identify [16:10] The differences in judgment and stigma for men and women when it comes to sex [17:30] Are gay men hornier than straight men [18:10] How many times you should have sex a week [19:25] Can you heal through casual sex? [20:05] What the sex scene is like in Florida [23:40] Noah's best and most memorable sex experience [33:10] Speaking up and saying what you want in bed [38:10] Why bad sex experiences can ruin sex in the future Connect with Noah Instagram: Twitter: Facebook: Podcast: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Toxic Chemistry and the Nervous System’s Role in Pleasure with Mangala Holland
05/23/2023
Toxic Chemistry and the Nervous System’s Role in Pleasure with Mangala Holland
In this episode, Mangala Holland joins me to explore the transformative power of unleashing your orgasms, diving into the importance of sexual liberation and self-discovery. We also tackle the concept of toxic masculinity and its effects on relationships, shedding light on the connection between toxic chemistry and a dysregulated nervous system. Join us as we discuss the awakening experienced by women in their 40s and 50s, delving into the challenges and opportunities this phase brings. Additionally, we examine the barriers that block our pleasure and orgasms, including the fear of shame and judgment. We talk about cervical orgasms, demystifying their nature and providing guidance on how to experience them. We also get into the role of the body and nervous system in pleasure, highlighting their crucial role in unlocking sensual fulfillment. Finally, we emphasize the importance of finding a supportive community that nurtures and uplifts you on your sexual exploration. Mangala is a Sexual Confidence coach, and facilitator of global group programs. She’s on a mission to help women and pussy-owners become empowered through loving themselves fiercely, celebrating their sexuality, and overcoming the fear, guilt and shame that keeps them playing small. Having over a decade’s experience in the industry, her super power is helping women and vulva owners become deeply connected to their body, pleasure and orgasmic confidence, which is the natural birthright of everyone. She has a special talent in helping women in midlife access way more pleasure than they ever thought possible and believes that midlife is an opportunity for powerful, positive transformation. She’s currently training the next generation of Embodied Female Pleasure facilitators and places a strong emphasis on self-love, embodiment and empowerment in her work, teaching in a no-bullshit, fluff-free, grounded, dogma-free style. We get into: [0:00] Intro [3:00] The power of unleashing your orgasms [5:10] Toxic dick [7:55] Toxic chemistry and its correlation to a dysregulated nervous system [11:40] The awakening happening in women who are in their 40s and 50s [15:15] What blocks our pleasure and orgasms [16:15] Fear of shame and being judged [20:40] How to start creating changes in your sexuality [24:55] What are cervical orgasms [29:35] How to have cervical orgasms [32:35] The role of the body and nervous system in pleasure [34:25] Having orgasmic confidence [45:55] Finding a community that supports you Connect with Mangala Instagram: Facebook: Free 3 part video series, From Shut Down to Sensual Satisfaction Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Exploring our Fave Sex Toys with Sarah and Kat
05/16/2023
Exploring our Fave Sex Toys with Sarah and Kat
In this episode, Kat Zammuto joins me again on the podcast to talk about our fave sex toys, how to start using them, and which ones you need to add to your collection. Kat Zammuto started working in the entertainment and modeling industries at the early age of four (her dad was a TV and video producer). This lifelong experience with video and photography makes her super comfortable in front of the camera, and clients and brands love the natural, organic approach of her work. Her podcast, Kat on the Loose - Sex, Dating & Relationships, is growing a big and loyal following with over 65k downloads per episode. We get into: [0:00] Intro [1:10] Why sex and masturbation are still such taboo topics [2:30] Being on a 'dick high' [4:50] Which sex toys to buy first if you're just starting out [7:30] Why people die of embarrassment when it comes to self pleasure [9:45] How to bring up using sex toys with your partner [13:55] The 'cherry' [16:20] 'Bullet' sex toy if you're feeling extra naughty [18:05] Foreplay before you start having sex [20:40] What to do when it's hard to get in the mood [21:20] Why men are shy when it comes to dirty talk nowadays [26:05] Having G-Spot orgasms [28:55] Things you can do to turn yourself on [32:20] How sex toys add to your sex life, not take away or add [33:35] Lipstick vibrator [40:45] How to use a butt plug if you never have [46:35] Do you wear sexy lingerie? Connect with Kat Instagram: Twitter: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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How to Have More Pleasure and Connection with Your Partner with Railey Molinario
05/09/2023
How to Have More Pleasure and Connection with Your Partner with Railey Molinario
In this episode, we dive deep into the world of relationships, pleasure, and intimacy with renowned Love Educator & Relationship Coach, Railey Molinario. From overcoming abandonment at birth to becoming a six-figure boss, Railey shares her inspiring journey of transforming pain into a mission of empowering individuals to break free from generational trauma and ignorance. Her teachings on relationship intelligence have been featured on esteemed platforms like the BBC, Medium, and Brainz magazine. Join us as Railey delves into the nuances of building thriving relationships and lives, providing invaluable tools and techniques for personal growth. We get into: [0:00] Intro [1:40] How Railey's pain and trauma turned into her mission [4:40] How to boost your libido [7:25] The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire [10:50] Women's pleasure, erotica and stories [13:50] Why we need better and more thoughtful foreplay [16:10] Why it's so hard for couples to talk about sex, what turns them on, and desire [19:20] Making time for sexual intimacy [24:40] How mainstream porn limits our ability to understand and explore amazing sex [28:00] What happens when the connection is missing [30:40] The misbeliefs that women have about sex [33:20] Why men need to learn about the female body in order to experience deeper pleasure [36:25] Closing the orgasm gap [44:25] What feeling safe in a relationship can do [48:00] Power couple secrets to have a thriving sex life [54:30] What BDSM and fetishes can to do your relationship Connect with Tara Instagram: Facebook: , Website: Free Ultimate Guide To A Thriving Relationship Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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Psychedelic Orgasms with Tara Galeano
05/02/2023
Psychedelic Orgasms with Tara Galeano
In this episode, Tara Galeano joins me to talk about psychedelic orgasms and reclaiming your sexuality. She talks about her journey into the space of sexuality, and emphasizes the importance of exploring sexuality and embracing freedom, despite the shame that still surrounds sex and pleasure in society. Tara further dives into the concept of psychedelic orgasms and how they are experienced, shedding light on the link between desire and arousal. She talks about the issue of shaming one's own sexuality and emphasizes the importance of overcoming societal conditioning and embracing a healthy attitude towards sexual expression. Author Tara Galeano is a certified sex therapist who has worked with women and couples for over two decades to get their sexy back. She knows that there is pleasure in the body, beyond our wildest dreams, and everyone can access it. In her book "Rediscovering My Body" Tara teaches us how to show up for pleasure. Through reconnecting with her body, Tara was able to understand what was right and pleasurable for her, how best to proceed from this wisdom, and most importantly, how to teach these valuable lessons to others so that they too can transform their lives and reclaim their sensuality. Tara offers unique couple’s retreats, and ceremonial, sensual journeys that open doors to new experiences and communication with oneself and partners. We get into: [0:00] Intro [1:00] How Tara got into this space [3:55] Why having women approach her about sex and sexuality was surprising [5:45] Exploring sexuality and wanting freedom [7:40] The shame that still comes with sex and pleasure [10:10] The power of an open mind and curiosity [11:00] Sex when you're sick or have a debilitating diagnosis [18:45] The biggest issue women have when it comes to accepting their bodies [26:00] Reclaiming your sexuality [32:40] What a psychedelic orgasm is [35:40] How psychedelic orgasms happen [42:40] The link between desire and arousal [46:35] Shaming our own sexuality [50:30] One key thing to take from this episode Connect with Tara Instagram: Twitter: Facebook: LinkedIn: YouTube: Website: Body Wisdom Journal: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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The Psychology of Pleasure and Sex with Danielle Savory
04/25/2023
The Psychology of Pleasure and Sex with Danielle Savory
Get ready to uncover the secrets of female desire and pleasure with Danielle Savory. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind the shame that women often feel when it comes to casual sex, and the healing work required to connect with our bodies. Danielle dishes out some serious insights on how to create an erotic vessel and how to be your own pleasure advocate. We also delve into the burden of emotional responsibility, communication struggles, and the power of working with Danielle as your coach. Danielle Savory is a master certified coach, podcast host, and expert in the fields of neuropsychology, mindfulness, sexual pleasure and intimacy. Danielle brings a unique perspective to coaching, helping clients understand the ways in which the brain and body are interconnected and how this connection can be harnessed to experience the sensual pleasure the body is wired for. As the host of the popular podcast "It's My Pleasure," Danielle has explored a wide range of topics related to sexuality, relationships, and personal growth - empowering women to embrace their sexuality and prioritize their pleasure. Danielle is a master certified coach with over 10 years of experience coaching hundreds of women with her proven process of increasing desire and expanding orgasmic capacity. Come join us for a juicy conversation on full-body orgasms, mental and physical stimulation, and tantalizing tips to get back in tune with your body. We get into: [0:00] Intro [1:10] How Danielle got into this space [3:30] The psychology behind the shame of wanting casual sex as women [10:40] The difference between 'desire' when it comes to men and women [12:30] The healing women have to do in order to connect to our bodies [15:20] Desire for connection [18:30] The brain and sex [23:10] How to create the most erotic vessel [27:50] Learning how to be your own pleasure advocate [30:05] Why guys are afraid of intimacy [31:45] Why communication is a struggle when it comes to pleasure [34:00] Figuring out the kind of connection you want to have [35:00] The burden of emotional responsibility and keeping men happy [35:55] Three tips for getting back in tune with your body [43:10] Receiving pleasure through pleasuring someone else [50:20] The psychology behind having full-body orgasms [57:25] The mental and physical stimulation women need [59:30] The power that comes through working with Danielle Connect with Danielle Instagram: Facebook: Website: Join Danielle’s email list: Podcast: Free Course: Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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The Power and Liberation of Working Through Sexual Trauma with Katie Rudland
04/18/2023
The Power and Liberation of Working Through Sexual Trauma with Katie Rudland
In a world where sexual trauma and a lack of education on our desires are all too common, my guest Katie Rudland shares her insights on sexual liberation and healing. From location-based stigmas to utilizing human design for transformation, she emphasizes the importance of cultivating a relationship with oneself, learning to communicate needs, and healing without being in a relationship. Join her on the journey of sexual transformation and liberation, where healing and true alignment with oneself are possible. Katie is someone who is always looking to learn and teach. She is passionate about having the freedom to be herself and live authentically. She aims to inspire others to do the same without being dependent on outside authorities. She is passionate about helping people find emotional freedom within themselves, and she creates and embodies emotional freedom within herself and supports emotional intimacy in others, triggering their healing to birth them onto their own paths and journeys. Katie guides others to reconnect, heal, and transform, opening them up to transparent intimacy, supporting and empowering them to find freedom of spirit, living in true alignment and union connected to their higher self and infinite wisdom. She is here to help others write their own story, with themselves as the main character. We get into: [0:00] Intro [2:10] Katie's take on sexual trauma [6:40] The lack of education around what we truly want from and during sexual experiences [7:55] What sexual liberation means [11:40] Location and culture-based stigmas around sex [15:25] Sexual liberation and trauma healing without being in a relationship [18:15] Human design's role in sexuality [22:20] Utilizing human design for sexual transformation and healing [26:20] The journey of sexual transformation and sexual liberation [30:20] How crucial it is to learn to communicate your needs [35:10] Cultivating a relationship with yourself first Connect with Katie Connect with me Instagram: YouTube: Email us:
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