Better with Daffnee & Torri

Join Daffnee and Torri as they discuss, vent, and explore how we can all do small things everyday to become better, happier, healthier, more productive, and less stressed. This podcast is not meant to be a source of judgement, but instead a place that allows you to really think about your day-to-day and how we can better better people for ourselves and those around us. We’re covering things like: Parenting Money Marriage Health and fitness Bad habits Careers Entrepreneurship Positivity Gratitude Racial movements Feminism Dealing with tough people Mental health Judgement How to not be an asshole And more (no really, like way more)

Is Your Husband "Dad Mad"? 07/16/2026

Is Your Husband "Dad Mad"? Trust us, we have marriage all figured out…. Daffnee and Torri are diving headfirst into the wild, unfiltered reality of marriage as a millennial: what it actually looks like ten-plus years in versus what you thought it would be at 25. They get real about why "let me check with my spouse" is not the controlling red flag your single friends think it is, whether marriage is actually overrated or just misunderstood, and the exact moment you walk in the door and can feel your partner's mood before they say a word. Plus, they name the specific brand of grumpy, huffy, silent-treatment energy every husband seems to get when he's stressed but won't say why (you'll know it when you hear it). One of Daffnee's personal favorites. Buckle up. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get tons of freebies at What We're Reading: Daffnee's pick: A Fine Balance by Rohinton Mistry — a 600-plus-page deep dive into life in India during a chaotic era, discovered through a book influencer. Daffnee says it's the kind of hidden-gem, non-trendy read that asks something of you, and she's fully immersed. Torri's pick: A Court of Thorns and Roses (re-read, book four) — her self-declared "book junk food" era. Poolside, no shame, plowing through the series again because, in her words, she has Swiss cheese brain, so it's basically a new book every time. Bonus reco: Salman Rushdie — prompted by Daffnee's Fine Balance pick, Torri throws in a highly-recommended nod to Rushdie's work for anyone wanting to go even deeper into literary fiction. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/42114010

Life Events That Change You 07/08/2026

Life Events That Change You Daffnee and Torri are back after an unplanned hiatus, and this episode is different from anything they've done before. Torri opens up about the five weeks that upended her life: her husband Charlie's sudden collapse, a terrifying hospital stay, an ulcerative colitis diagnosis, and a healthcare system that repeatedly failed to listen until things got dangerous. She talks about what it means to be the person someone relies on, the support that actually helped versus the comments that made things so much worse, and how she kept herself standing through it. It's raw, it's real, and it might be exactly what someone going through something similar needs to hear. They close things out with a couple of book recommendations, because even in the hardest weeks, the reading never really stops. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get tons of freebies at What We're Reading: Torri's pick: Yesteryear — a book club read about an Instagram-famous, wealthy tradwife who gets sent back in time and has to actually live the aesthetic she's been selling. Culpability — a family road trip gone wrong involving an AI-assisted car, and a very timely gut-punch of a question: when the car is driving, who's actually to blame? Daffnee's pick: The Divorce by Freida McFadden — maybe not McFadden's best, but exactly what you want from her: unputdownable, twisty, and you will not see the ending coming. The Most Fun We Ever Had by Claire Lombardo — a Reese's Book Club pick following one family, four kids, and all of their beautifully messy secrets. Daffnee's verdict: confusing for the first twenty pages, then a total gut-and-heart read. Think This Is Us, but a book. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/42001640

Will I ever stop hating my body? 05/28/2026

Will I ever stop hating my body? Content warning: this episode includes a personal account of sexual assault. Most of us can pinpoint the exact moment we stopped feeling at home in our bodies and it's almost never about weight. Daffnee shares when she first became “aware of her body,” and it reframes the entire conversation about why so many women grew up shrinking themselves. From looksmaxing in 2026 to Weight Watchers at 12, this episode goes deep on body image, where it actually comes from, and what it costs us. Daffnee and Torri also get honest about where they are right now: the peace, the progress, and the Greek yogurt they almost felt guilty eating. Plus, how they're talking to their kids about bodies differently and why it matters more than we think. This one's personal. Hit play. Recommended LINKS: If anything in this episode brought something up for you, you're not alone and you don't have to sit with it by yourself. RAINN's hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673 or rainn.org. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line. Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: https://www.daffneecohen.com/podcast/ Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/41123480

Is Your Dream Job Even Real? 05/21/2026

Is Your Dream Job Even Real? Most of us grew up with a dream job that had nothing to do with reality. In this episode, Daffnee and Torri get honest about what it actually takes to find work you love — why doing the unglamorous stuff first matters more than anyone wants to admit, and whether a "dream job" is even a real thing or just an influencer reel you saw online. Plus the career pivot nobody saw coming and the job Daffnee almost took that would have changed everything. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: https://www.daffneecohen.com/podcast/ Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/41123465

Do You Matter? Lisa Barlow thinks so. 05/14/2026

Do You Matter? Lisa Barlow thinks so. Do you actually believe you matter, just as you are, not because of what you produce? In this episode, Daffnee and Torri get into the question that might be hard to sit with: inherent self-worth. Where it comes from, why so many of us spend years performing our way toward it, and what it looks like to finally stop. Torri shares something personal she hasn't talked about publicly, and Daffnee gets honest about the cost of building your identity around output. Heavy topic, very unserious energy. You're going to want to listen to this one. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: https://www.daffneecohen.com/podcast/ Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/41123350

The Vibe Was Off and We Were Right 05/03/2026

The Vibe Was Off and We Were Right Your gut has never been wrong. So why does it feel like everyone around you missed the memo? In this episode, Daffnee and Torri get into trust — who has it, who lost it, and why millennials aren't cynics, we're just paying attention. From spidey senses to the Epstein files, this one hits close to home. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: https://www.daffneecohen.com/podcast/ Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/41123295

Are you addicted to being busy? 05/02/2026

Are you addicted to being busy? Everyone is exhausted and nobody has a solution, and Daffnee and Torri are no exception. In this episode they get honest about the impossible math of modern life: working full-time, raising kids, maintaining relationships, and somehow also doing all your hobbies. They talk about where AI is actually making things worse, why social media is the lead paint of our generation, and the very real case for doing significantly less. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: https://www.daffneecohen.com/podcast/ Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/41123275

Why Are Millennials So Bad With Money? 05/01/2026

Why Are Millennials So Bad With Money? Nobody taught us how money actually works — not school, not our parents, not the Pythagorean theorem. In this episode, Daffnee and Torri get honest about the financial mistakes they made, the rock bottoms that finally forced them to pay attention, and why so many millennials are still figuring it out in real time. From Klarna and Afterpay to credit card debt in college to the quiet danger of never looking at your bank account, this is the money conversation someone should have had with us a long time ago. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/41123250

Boundaries Without Guilt 02/06/2026

Boundaries Without Guilt In this episode, Torri and Daffnee get honest about boundaries. They talk about why boundaries feel so hard to set, especially for women, parents, and overachievers, and why so many of us confuse boundaries with being cold, selfish, or difficult. From friendships and family dynamics to work, parenting, and emotional labor, this conversation breaks down how boundaries actually create healthier relationships, not distance. They also dive into guilt. Why it shows up the moment we say no. Why we feel responsible for other people’s reactions. And how learning to tolerate that discomfort is often the biggest growth edge. If you’ve ever said yes when you meant no, over explained yourself, or felt exhausted from constantly managing everyone else’s feelings, this episode is for you. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more and get tons of freebies at: daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/40023650

Who’s Your BFF? 11/25/2025

Who’s Your BFF? Get ready to cackle. In this episode about friendship, and more importantly, BEST friendship, Torri and Daffnee dive into what it actually means to have and be a best friend. What makes someone a friend vs a best friend? Have you ever been through a best friend breakup? It’s a fun and endearing episode. Tune in today. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: https://www.daffneecohen.com/podcast/ Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/39158990

New Beginnings 11/21/2025

New Beginnings In this episode, hosts Torri and Daffnee explore the messy, beautiful, and sometimes overwhelming season of starting over. Whether it is a big move, a shift in identity, a career transition, or a quiet internal reset, new beginnings have a way of shaking up routines, confidence, and the feeling of stability. Torri and Daffnee share how they are each navigating major changes, what they have learned about trusting the unknown, and the emotional stages that come with rebuilding your rhythm and sense of self. If you are in a season of transition or preparing for one, this conversation will help you feel grounded, validated, and more ready for what is ahead. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: https: // Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/39119305

This is a deep one… 09/26/2025

This is a deep one… As adults, we’re constantly trying to make sense of the bigger questions in life: spirituality, religion, and whether our paths are truly ours to create or already written. In this episode, Torri and Daffnee unpack the idea of pre-determination and explore what it means to choose, believe, and grow. From faith to free will, we talk about the struggles and the freedom that come with finding our own way in the world. And of course, lots of chuckles as well. We dont take anything too seriously around here… Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee & Torri podcast homepage: Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/38362405

We Want You to Feel Safe 08/25/2025

We Want You to Feel Safe What makes you feel truly safe? In this episode, we explore the many layers of safety including emotional, physical, and mental, and how our sense of security shapes the way we show up in the world. We talk about how childhood experiences and trauma can influence what safety looks like for each of us, and how we react when that safety is threatened. You’ll hear personal stories, reflections, and practical insights on rebuilding trust in yourself and others, creating safe spaces in relationships, and navigating the triggers that come when safety is compromised. Whether you’re working through past wounds or simply looking to strengthen your foundation, this conversation will help you reflect on what you need to feel grounded, secure, and seen. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee & Torri podcast homepage: Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/37955050

Experience Your Way to Confidence 08/19/2025

Experience Your Way to Confidence Confidence is not something you magically wake up with. It is built, piece by piece, through action. In this episode, we talk about why the fastest and most sustainable way to feel confident is to do as much as you can, even if you fail or feel unprepared. Every attempt, every challenge, and every step outside of your comfort zone shapes you into someone who trusts themselves more deeply. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee & Torri podcast homepage: Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/37883980

The Quiet Work of Positive Thinking 07/23/2025

The Quiet Work of Positive Thinking Was Torri a little skeptical? Maybe! But when we dove in, turns out that after all, Torri IS in fact working on her mindset… Mindset work isn't always journaling, vision boards, or structured routines. Sometimes, it’s choosing to stay positive in hard moments. It’s having deep conversations, seeking connection, or just getting through the day with intention. In this episode, we talk about what mindset work really looks like, how to stay in a good headspace even when life gets messy, and why you might already be doing more mental work than you give yourself credit for. Whether you're deep in personal growth or just trying to feel more grounded, this one’s for you. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: https://www.daffneecohen.com/podcast/ Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at and get tons of freebies at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/37514225

We Thought Adulting Meant Freedom... 07/22/2025

We Thought Adulting Meant Freedom... When we were younger, we thought adulting would mean total freedom—no rules, no curfews, and eating cake for dinner. But in this episode, we unpack what actually comes with adulthood: the responsibilities, the pressure, the mental load, and the surprise realization that not everyone around us “adults” the same way. We talk about how trauma (or lack of it) shapes our ability to manage life, why having a partner who can carry their share of the adulting load matters more than you’d expect, and what it really means to feel “prepared” for adulthood. This episode is part reflection, part therapy session, and part laugh-at-our-past-selves. Tune in and feel a little more seen in your own messy, real-life version of adulting. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: Connect on Instagram: Learn more and get tons of freebies at /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/37498560

Your Passion Doesn’t Always Pay Your Bills 06/12/2025

Your Passion Doesn’t Always Pay Your Bills AUDIO ISSUES - for a small part of this show midway…My Yeti disconnected. The joys of podcasting! Let’s talk about the not-so-glamorous side of entrepreneurship. In this episode, we break down the difference between a hobby and a real business—and why passion alone isn’t always enough to pay the bills. It’s a funny, honest, and eye-opening conversation about what it really takes to run a business in the age of social media. We explore the misconceptions people have about business ownership, the pressure to turn every interest into a side hustle, and the way social media often glorifies entrepreneurship without showing the behind-the-scenes work. Whether you’re dreaming of going full-time or just trying to figure out if your idea is viable, this episode will help you get clear on your next move. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: https://www.daffneecohen.com/podcast/ Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/36965440

When Rest Feels Wrong but Cleaning Baseboards Feels Right 06/05/2025

When Rest Feels Wrong but Cleaning Baseboards Feels Right Why is it so hard to just be? In this episode, we unpack the tension between knowing we need rest… and still choosing productivity instead. From cleaning baseboards to reorganizing closets, we explore the emotional discomfort of stillness, the pressure to "earn" downtime, and why so many of us—especially parents and overachievers—find it easier to stay busy than to slow down. We also talk about the cultural messaging that ties our worth to our output, the guilt that creeps in during moments of rest, and how we can start to unlearn it. If you’ve ever felt like you need to “accomplish something” before you can relax, this conversation will help you reframe rest as necessary—not a reward. Listen in and let’s challenge the narrative that rest has to be justified. Recommended LINKS: Better with Daffnee podcast homepage: https://www.daffneecohen.com/podcast/ Connect on Instagram: @Daffnee Learn more at daffneecohen.com /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/36856170

Can People Really Change? 05/19/2025

Can People Really Change? Same soul, new habits? Do people really change, or do we just learn how to play nicer? In this episode, Daffnee & Torri dig into the age-old question of whether change is truly possible—or if we’re all just polishing the same personality. From habits and communication styles to mindset shifts and emotional growth, we explore what’s fixed, what’s flexible, and how to tell the difference. Same soul? Probably. New habits? Definitely possible. Let’s talk about the real work of becoming a better version of ourselves—without losing who we are. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/36633815

What are your non-negotiables? 05/12/2025

What are your non-negotiables? In a world that glorifies hustle and constant accessibility, creating non-negotiables isn’t just self-care—it’s survival. In this episode, we’re talking about the power of personal boundaries, why saying "no" is a full sentence, and how to move through life protecting your peace like it’s your job (because it is). Whether you're navigating work, relationships, motherhood, or your own inner critic, this conversation will help you get clear on what matters most—and how to honor it without guilt. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/36542255

Astrology isn’t therapy but it helps 04/18/2025

Astrology isn’t therapy but it helps Note - If you want the contact info for the woman who did my birth chart, message me on Instagram @Daffnee – and I can send you her direct email. In this episode, we dive headfirst into the cosmic chaos that is millennial life — juggling careers, parenting, mental health, and the eternal question: "Why does Mercury hate me?" We’re talking dreams, horoscopes, birth charts, and why astrology feels like the group chat that finally gets you. Is it therapy? No. But will it explain why you cried over a cold cup of coffee and ghosted your to-do list? Absolutely. Tune in for a playful take on how the stars might be running the show — or at least giving us something to blame when our toddler throws a tantrum and our boss schedules a 4:59pm meeting. Because let’s be honest: self-awareness is great, but sometimes you just need to know where your moon is. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/36215265

Work Worth Doing 03/26/2025

Work Worth Doing Do you rub people the right way? Or the wrong way? This is a can’t miss episode folks. Listen in as we discuss values and how those impact your career, work life, and of course your relationships. Hint - This is definitely a top 3 favorite of Daffnee’s! /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/35865025

This Meeting Could’ve Been an Email 03/18/2025

This Meeting Could’ve Been an Email No but really. And if the meeting was an email, you’d have more time to listen to this show which you absolutely should. Work from home or office, work for a company or own a business, this show is filled with great nuggets about navigating the work place, team members, and managing sh**. Tune in and level up your career path yall. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/35741315

What is Spirituality? 03/04/2025

What is Spirituality? Did you know that around the age of 34, a part of your brain actually becomes more active…the part of your brain directly correlated with seeking spiritual meaning? It’s true friends. Listen in and as Daffnee & Torri discuss what spirituality means and the role religion plays in our lives as we grow through adulthood. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/35524045

Sleep Well Babe 02/11/2025

Sleep Well Babe Sleep. It’s one of the very few things we ALL have in common. We all sleep (some better than others), and we all NEED to sleep in order to function well. We’re diving into some fun tips and tricks to optimize sleep hygiene, laughing at the idea of getting sleep with small kids, and of course, sharing insights into how normal humans like us actually get (or dont get) sleep in the real world. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/35233215

What the Trauma? 02/08/2025

What the Trauma? We were originally going to change the name of the show to “Trauma Made Us Funny” but thought we’d better not… But really. Join us as we dive in to one of the most trendy and on brand terms of our generation. Is it warranted? Well we are all a little f***ed up I guess. Join Daffnee and Torri as they explore the deets of trauma, what it is, why we all have a little, and why potentially, it’s made our generation so strong. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/35201785

Let it go girl… 02/03/2025

Let it go girl… We think it’s fair to say that all of us have some controlling in us and some more than others. But is being controlling self-sabotage? How about relationship sabotage? Or does being controlling serve a genuinely functional purpose? Learn more (and laugh about it all) with Torri and Daffnee in this episode. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/35124710

New Year’s Resolutions Save Lives 01/14/2025

New Year’s Resolutions Save Lives To resolution or not? Dive in with Torri and Daffnee as they discuss the benefits (and the not so great parts) of resolutions. Dry January? More boundaries? Save more? We got ya covered. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/34846695

Marriage is hard (but fun!) 12/19/2024

Marriage is hard (but fun!) Yall. They weren’t playing when they said marriage was hard. And a ton of work. We can safely and confidently say though..it’s worth it. An automatic sexy best friend??? YES. Dive in with Torri and Daff as they explore some of the challenges and perks of marriage. Of course, get ready for some laughs and jabs, all in good fun. This is a great podcast for those of you who are married, looking to get hitched, have kids, dont have kids, etc. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/34525490

Don’t get burnt out 12/11/2024

Don’t get burnt out Everyone has experienced burn out…We think. How do we avoid it? How do we get past a season of burn out? How do we minimize the effect of burn out? Listen in as Daffnee & Torri discuss. /episode/index/show/daffnee/id/34390955

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