Life Check Yourself

Each week on the podcast, hear Marni Battista, Founder and CEO of The Institute For Living Courageously, interview the world’s top experts in how to help people live more meaningful and impactful lives.

Life Check Yourself 447 – "Drive Him Wild With These 3 Irresistible Date Outfits" with Nicole Russo 04/17/2024

Life Check Yourself 446 – Overcome jealousy in 3 minutes with Shanenn Bryant 04/10/2024

Life Check Yourself 446 – Overcome jealousy in 3 minutes with Shanenn Bryant Marni welcomes Shanenn Bryant to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to crack the control code and transform the way we view jealousy. Shanenn is a jealousy and relationship confidence expert. She’s also the host of the Top Self podcast and founder of self-development company, Top Self. It’s not just about eradicating jealousy but understanding that this feeling isn’t the problem, but rather a symptom of it. And the answers can be found by examining yourself. * Focus on yourself * Lengthen the space between trigger and response * How to foster self-awareness What’s Jealousy Got to Do With it? [05:35] Jealous stems from somewhere internal, from a place of insecurity. And that could either be because of some type of dysfunction in your childhood or because you went through a bad experience in a romantic relationship. Either way, to understand the feeling itself, you need to look at yourself and ask the right questions. It doesn’t necessarily have to always be that it was a cheating incident. I felt like I was insecure and jealous before that ever happened. Make Room for Accountability [14:49] While it may be difficult to do so in certain situations, it’s important to take responsibility rather than blame your partner straight away. Self-awareness is key. You cannot change something that is blocking you, unless you really take a look at what you think, do, and say. Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries [21:10] Before getting into a relationship, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation about boundaries, particularly those regarding interactions with exes. It allows both partners to understand each other’s expectations. Have that conversation to figure out what that relationship is like beforehand and then you make the decision if that’s a relationship you want to be in. Make a Connection: · · · · /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/30738598

Life Check Yourself 445 – How to VISUALIZE correctly so you can MANIFEST Faster with Paget Kagy 04/03/2024

Life Check Yourself 444 – The 3 NICE GIRL habits ALL women must break with Lily Womble 03/27/2024

Life Check Yourself 443 – The 5 Signs Your Relationship is Over with Dr. Heidi Brocke 03/20/2024

Life Check Yourself 443 – The 5 Signs Your Relationship is Over with Dr. Heidi Brocke Marni welcomes Dr.Heidi Brocke to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into what being toxic actually means. It’s a buzz word that gets thrown around a lot but does anyone really know how to detect a toxic person? Heidi is a toxic relationship awareness and healing specialist. With a podcast that has over 1 million downloads, Heidi has worked with hundreds of people to help them get out of and heal from toxic relationships. * What does toxic actually mean? * How to decode unhealthy dynamics * How to clean up your social circle Narcissistic Much? [09:27] We’ve gotten used to throwing around certain labels and terms without ever actually understanding what they mean. And that includes the word toxic and narcissistic. However, they’re different. Many actually have narcissistic personality disorders because of something in their upbringing or something in their lives that has left them with that insecurity. Knowing the distinction between a disorder and an adjective is imperative. I chose the word toxic because it’s not a diagnosis. Toxic is an adjective. . You Define What’s Healthy for You [14:19] Instead of seeking validation for your decisions when it comes to who to include or exclude in your life by labeling them toxic, embrace that you have the agency to curate your own social circles. You decide who stays and who leaves. You don’t need to make excuses or throw around labels. We’re all just trying to make sure that there’s something wrong with that person so that we can be validated in changing the relationship. Your Normal Isn’t Everyone’s Normal [21:57] Not everyone sees the world the same way. Sometimes when someone does something that doesn’t align with you, you’ll describe it as not being normal. It’s because that person isn’t acting like you would and as such it is out of the norm for you. In reality, we are looking at them through our emotionally wired eyes. Make a Connection: · · · · · /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/30426573

Life Check Yourself 442 – "How to Reinvent Your Life Starting Today" with Anya Chernyshova 03/13/2024

What's the Biggest Mistake Successful Women Make on the First Date with Anapaula Corral 03/06/2024

How to be Happy, Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing with Dr.Abby Medcalf 02/28/2024

Life Check Yourself 439 – 10 Examples of What Gaslighting Looks Like (Hidden Signals) with Dr. Amelia Kelley 02/21/2024

Life Check Yourself 439 – 10 Examples of What Gaslighting Looks Like (Hidden Signals) with Dr. Amelia Kelley Marni welcomes Dr. Amelia Kelley to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into the notion of gaslighting and how to spot it when it’s happening. Amelia who is a hypnotherapist and an art therapist, discusses the prototypes that are most likely to get gaslit. Dissecting the different types of gaslighting, she explains the personality traits that can play a role in whether or not a person will get gaslit as well as how to avoid a gas-lighter. * How to know when you’re being gaslit. * Stand firm in your truth * How to distance yourself Are You Just Being Immature? [07:18] The term gaslighting gets thrown around lightly, and a lot. However, there are times where it is not a gaslighting situation. You’re just having a disagreement. Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation and abuse that is intended to control, contort and alter your sense of reality and your sense of self. There are so many ways it can impact your self-esteem, your interpersonal relationships, your goals and just everything. Confuse and Conquer [13:27] Gaslighting thrives on keeping the person at the receiving end confused and doubting their own reality. Good news is the first step to avoid being gaslit is understanding and detecting when it happens. It’s about being aware of it. Distancing yourself from gaslighting is the only true way to cut yourself off from its impact. A Never-Ending Cycle [19:10] One of the psychological aspects of gaslighting is that it’s a cycle that can be gratifying but it’s important to set boundaries. More so, practicing emotional individuation and not letting others rewrite your personal experiences are all steps you can take towards dealing with gaslighting. The whole purpose is to cut down your self-esteem or your confidence. They don’t want you to have self-confidence. Make a Connection: · · · · · /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/30018613

What Women Don’t Understand About Men with Dr.Ricky Arenson 02/14/2024

What Women Don’t Understand About Men with Dr.Ricky Arenson Marni welcomes endocrinologist and author Dr.Ricky Arenson to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discuss the dynamics between men and women in a partnership. The duo delves into the differences between both genders and how the things that set them apart actually become their strength when combined. While men and women may function on opposing wavelengths, that is actually the key to the success of a relationship. And a happy relationship means a longer life. Longevity isn’t just about eating those berries and that OJ. * Uncover your innate qualities * Why do you keep having the same fights? * Stop scrolling past everything IRL Make Love Not War [18:18] We live in a society where everyone is seeking conflict. And it’s amplified by social media. At the end of the day though, what unites us is our humanity regardless of our race or gender. We all want to come together and see each other as human beings, and see the value and the beauty of being human rather than dividing up by race, gender, and sexual preference. Women are From Venus, Men are From… [23:36] The way a man and a woman’s brain function are actually very different. Whereas men tend to get hyper focused on the task at hand, women have a more diverse thinking pattern. A woman’s brain activity shows that there could be a lot going on everywhere. Because men, when they focus on something, they become very unique, focused. You can’t distract them. Modern Day Romance [34:28] The issue with modern day romances is that we’ve all become impatient. We’ve gotten accustomed to just scrolling past anything we don’t like on our phone. And it seems to be a habit we’ve taken in our daily lives. But relationships don’t work like that. Relationships are a long-term process. Make a Connection: · · · · · /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/29910738

Life Check Yourself 437 – How to Radiate Feminine Energy to Live a Soft Life: habits, dating tips and healing *Life Changing with Julie Hakim 02/07/2024

Life Check Yourself 437 – How to Radiate Feminine Energy to Live a Soft Life: habits, dating tips and healing *Life Changing with Julie Hakim Marni welcomes Julie Hakim to the Life Check Yourself studio for a live coaching session. Julie is a physician who works at Texas Children’s Hospital. For Julie, it is vital for her to step into her power especially since she’s been struggling to feel seen recently. During the session, the duo tackle what it actually means to feel seen and how to regain control in situations that feel unpredictable. * What’s your external avatar? * How to be Seen * What are energy influencers? Are You Seen? [01:37] When you are seen there is a sense of alignment and flow that accompanies that feeling. What are the areas in your life where you feel flow? You recognize it because it is a space of emotional safety. I think the most immediate response is that I feel I don’t feel vulnerable. How to Adult [06:40] Part of becoming an adult is developing roles that you need to fulfill. Those roles differ from person to person. For some, it could be the role of a caregiver, while for others it’s the role of a friend. Becoming an adult is reframing the perspective that one had as a child and developing into the role as I’m no longer a child, I’m no longer a teenager. How to Prepare for the Unpredictable [11:10] It’s difficult going into something not knowing the outcome. But there are certain things you can do to put yourself at ease when in a situation that brings you discomfort, for whatever reason. And that could be anything from not going on a date hungry to taking some space for yourself beforehand. It’s about your energy influencers and those differ from one person to the next. For your physical self, it might be stuff like I need to make sure that I sleep or maybe hearing music to make me feel empowered. Make a Connection: · · · /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/29841083

Life Check Yourself 436 – How to Navigate the world of relationship and dating when you’re neurodivergent with Jeremy Hamburg and Ilana Frank 01/31/2024

Life Check Yourself 436 – How to Navigate the world of relationship and dating when you’re neurodivergent with Jeremy Hamburg and Ilana Frank Life Check Yourself 436 – How to Navigate the world of relationship and dating when you’re neurodivergent with Jeremy Hamburg and Ilana Frank Marni welcomes Friendship and Dating coaches, Jeremy Hamburg and Ilana Frank. Having worked for years towards creating strategies that empower autistic and neurodivergent adults, Jeremy and Llana give in-depth insight on the dating world. The duo has come up with a program, dubbed Social Life 360, that teaches clients to confidently meet new people. In this conversation, they touch on our basic need to connect as humans and what that really means. They delve into the struggles faced when dating and making friends as a neurodivergent person. Much of the advice is applicable to people across the board. * How to open your mind * Why is timing important? * The Impact of words Are You Rigid? [11:10] This rigidity in thinking when it comes to dating is not just limited to neurodivergent individuals. It is something we are all guilty of. And it reduces the dating pool and with it the likelihood of success. One of the diagrams we have in our program is a diagram that shows how limited your dating pool is when you don’t open your mind. How to be Present [15:03] Many of us get overwhelmed by the unpredictability that comes with dating. However, there are little ways around it that help you spend mental energy on enjoying yourself and the person rather than getting anxious. By knowing what to expect and having your date in a more familiar setting, you’re freeing up that energy to really be present in the moment. They’re going to know the sensory impact that that date is going to have. So, they’re in control. They’re prepared. Recognizing That Inner Critic [25:27] That inner critic voice in your head? Don’t listen to it. It stems from a history of rejections. Many individuals, neurodivergent or otherwise, face challenges as a result of past rejections. By identifying and understanding that inner voice, you can start working on changing it and moving forward in social and dating situations. Part of it is understanding that recognition. There’s an inner critic voice in my head that’s keeping me stuck. Make a Connection: · · · · · · /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/29706353

Life Check Yourself 435 – The Real Reason (You Don’t Wanna Hear) Ur Relationships Always Feel Hard with Stephen Muiriri 01/25/2024

Life Check Yourself 435 – The Real Reason (You Don’t Wanna Hear) Ur Relationships Always Feel Hard with Stephen Muiriri Marni welcomes transformational speaker and relationship coach, Stephen Muiriri to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses why women feel trapped in certain relationships and how to overcome that feeling and find their authentic value. Stephen has helped thousands of women overcome dating challenges and find true love. In this conversation, he talks about the importance of finding your value and harnessing that energy to communicate it to yourself and those around you. And that value isn’t just limited to the physical, it is much deeper than that. What do you stand for? What are your values? What are your principles? That is where the beauty really is. How to let go of the past Rediscover yourself Take a step back and reassess The Sum Cost Policy [06:47] When you continue to invest in something that is failing, the cost starts outweighing the benefits in your mind. And that’s where the challenge lies. It’s what keeps you there despite knowing better. They think about what they have put in and what they hoped to get, they still hold on to the hope that things will get better. Why do we Underestimate our Value? [14:39] Most of the time, we underestimate our value and who we are as a people. But when you give yourself the value you deserve, those around you pick up on that energy. Just being a woman is valuable enough for you to command respect. The Life we Created is A Shield [21:24] One of the biggest obstacles women face is their lack of clarity. Your identity is who you are; it is your values; it is your principles. To be your authentic self, you need to be clear on those values. When you know your value, you can express it, you can communicate it. You’re not ashamed or afraid of getting rejected. Make a Connection: · · · · · /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/29652273

Life Check Yourself 434 – 3 Man-Melting Hacks that will Make a Guy Fall for you with Rebecca Purnell 01/24/2024

Life Check Yourself 433 – Men Choose Women Based on THESE FEELINGS with Mike Goldstein 01/17/2024

Life Check Yourself 433 – Men Choose Women Based on THESE FEELINGS with Mike Goldstein Marni welcomes strategic dating coach, also known as the OG of online dating, Mike Goldstein in the Life Check Yourself studio, where the duo dive into the male perspective of dating and what men are actually looking for when it comes to a partner. What makes them tick? How do they date? Men, like women, are looking for a safe space where they can be themselves. But what does that actually mean? Their conversation touches on cornerstones of what it means to be in a relationship and how to get there. How to be his safe space Speak your mind How to date right What Does He Really Want? [16:30] Men want to feel needed, appreciated, and accepted. They want to show their partner off. But for each man, the definition of that varies. And that definition evolves with age as men start to look at what they really want in a life partner. So then it’s still showing off, but it becomes less vain. And it’s what would really feel good if a woman has these amazing qualities. Don’t be the Competition, Be the Prize [20:14] Your partner is at work all day, fighting his own demons, dealing with his own battles and obstacles. When he comes home, he’s not looking to compete with you. He’s looking to just be with you, let his guard down, and be himself. You’re his safe space, not his battlefield. Maybe I can be feminine with her. Maybe I’ll be masculine. Whatever I want to do in that moment, she accepts me and doesn’t make it more battle, more conflict. It’s just acceptance. Breaks Aren’t a Bad Thing [30:31] This isn’t a race. When it feels overwhelming or demotivating, it’s important to take breaks and just take your distance from the dating scene. Give yourself that space to get excited again. You’re going to get someone quick when you’re in the right mindset. Make a Connection: · · · · /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/29509073

Life Check Yourself 432 – Unraveling the top dating myths in the new era with Damona Hoffman. 01/10/2024

Life Check Yourself 432 – Unraveling the top dating myths in the new era with Damona Hoffman. Marni welcomes award-winning podcast host and author Damona Hoffman to the Life Check Yourself Studio, where the duo takes a deep dive into what the dating scene looks like today and what are some of the myths that need to be debunked. They delve into the importance of forging genuine connections by slowing down and reflecting on our dating beliefs. Touching on some of the misleading notions that many of us need to dismantle like the chemistry myth or the soulmate myth, the conversation serves as a new-age manifesto for how to make dating more hopeful and authentic. Take a good, hard look at your dating beliefs How to rewrite your own love stories How to show up with intention F the Fairytale [10:09] While it may not be evident, the way we date is passed down from generation to generation. That is, the dos and the don’ts, the etiquette and all that comes with the courting stage. Take a good hard look at your dating beliefs and question them. Why can’t you send the first message? Why can’t you, as a woman, initiate things? Now our dating pools have expanded everywhere, and yet we’re still playing by these old rules that no longer fit. Why Are We So Obsessed with Chemistry? [18:05] Chemistry when dating is a myth that can be damaging. Being curious about the person in front of you rather than holding on to that notion of chemistry is more likely to lead to better results or at the very least a genuine connection, if not a lasting one. For the chemistry myth, the antidote is clear communication. Dump the Pick-Me Attitude [23:47] We all have this deep need to be liked, and it’s a feeling that we’re constantly chasing. It’s been aggravated by social media where we’re constantly trying to one-up each other and prove that we’re better than this or that person. We don’t have to do all that if we are focusing on authentic connection. First of all, it’s going to be a more interesting date for you. Second of all you’re going to show up differently. Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/29406288

Life Check Yourself 431 – This Mindset Shift Guarantees A Great Date! (How to Reduce Anxiety by 70 Percent with Jamie Heberlein 01/03/2024

Life Check Yourself 431 – This Mindset Shift Guarantees A Great Date! (How to Reduce Anxiety by 70 Percent with Jamie Heberlein Marni welcomes well-being life coach, trainer and consultant Jamie Heberlein where the duo discuss how to eliminate anxieties when it comes to dating. Having been through it herself, Jamie shares nuggets of wisdom in the form of tips that helped her break free from expectations, pressure, and disappointment when it comes to dating. Part of it is learning that one person’s reaction or action is not a negative reflection of you as a person. · Transformation through self-compassion · How to balance your approach to life · Getting rid of external validation Are You Forcing it? [10:34] With the whole manifestation trend, it’s a thin line separating between actually putting that energy out there and obsessing over it. It’s a trap many women fall into, which only ends up making them feel worse about themselves. What happens is that you put yourself down when what you had in mind doesn’t manifest in the way you wanted. I start going negative. So, it really helped change my mind set to say that I’m going out into the world to have experiences and meet people, and that’s kind of it. Slow Down [14:11] It’s sometimes a good idea to take pause when immersed in the hectic environment that is the dating scene. People often forget but take a minute to step back and figure out what are the things you’re not being true to yourself about. Give yourself permission to do the behind-the-scenes work. That’s usually the work that helps you figure yourself out. I think the non-negotiables of what are the things that I will not negotiate just helped me ground who I am. And I think that even gave me confidence. Switching from Subjective to Objective[22:08] It’s the stories we tell ourselves that matter. When it comes to someone not calling us back or canceling a date, it’s important not to attach too much meaning to that. Instead, sit back and look at it objectively before thinking negatively about yourself. It will happen when it’s supposed to happen. Trust the process. Do the steps to reach out to different guys, they reply…Or they don’t. Then they’re not my person. Make a Connection: · · · . /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/29310668

Life Check Yourself 430 – A Toolkit for Confidence: How to build UNSHAKABLE Self-Confidence with Julie Pryor 12/27/2023

Life Check Yourself 430 – A Toolkit for Confidence: How to build UNSHAKABLE Self-Confidence with Julie Pryor Marni welcomes growth strategist and consultant, Julie Pryor to the Life Check Yourself studio, where the duo discuss how to switch your mindset in a way to make it work in your favor. They reflect on the importance of accountability and that of the words we tell ourselves. Speaking about what it takes to build an impactful brand and the lessons gleaned from her experiences, Julie’s method isn’t just about the numbers. · How to create your own results · Trust yourself · How to hold yourself accountable Shifting Your Mindset [12:34] You need to embrace all the things that make you you rather than looking for validation externally. You’re not the victim, you’re the architect of your own life. That is, things are not happening to you; they’re happening for you. The process is about having the courage to make new choices, having the courage to ask for help, just having the courage to look within. New Level, New Devil [19:20] There’s this common misconception that many people hold, where they’re convinced that once they achieve a particular goal, all their problems will disappear. But the reality is that with each stage in life, there are the challenges that come with it. However, you find out through these challenges, the areas where you’re lacking in confidence and how to start working on that. It was an energy. It was an energetic leaking. I wasn’t seeing the results that I wanted. Do You Practice Accountability? [27:36] While it’s not discussed as often as other key concepts, accountability is something a lot of us minimize in our lives. By learning to hold yourself accountable, you also learn to do what you say you’re going to do, when you’re going to do it. Those couple of projects I’m procrastinating on, I bring them back to the forefront and I recommit. Make a Connection: · · · . /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/29243403

Life Check Yourself 429 – Jealous of Someone: Listen to This with Mali Apple and Joe Dunn. 12/20/2023

Life Check Yourself 428 – What Dating Mistakes Do Women in Their 40s Make the Most? with Rachel Russo 12/13/2023

Life Check Yourself 428 – What Dating Mistakes Do Women in Their 40s Make the Most? with Rachel Russo Marni welcomes Rachel Russo to the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss what it means to find your person and the importance of aligning lifestyle and vision for the success of your relationship. Rachel has been working with people to help them find love for almost 18 years. The matchmaker, and dating and relationship coach has a long history in the industry and she’s got a few gems to share on what it means to have a healthy relationship with the right partner. What’s the deal with age gaps? He might not be what you’re looking for Do you have core compatibility? It Starts with You [12:00] It’s vital for you to know yourself before venturing out on the dating scene. What that means is that you need to figure out what is important for you, what your values are and how it is you want to spend your life. What they really need is core compatibility on how they want to live and how they want to be in a relationship. There Is Someone For Everyone [21:28] No matter what your situation, there is someone out there for you. Whether you’re a single mom in her 40s or a three-times divorced woman in her 50s, there are men out there who are looking for your exact lifestyle and everything that makes you you. Don’t be discouraged by anything anyone says and don’t weave limiting narratives about yourself. The number of kids doesn’t have to stop you. And also, being really upfront and clear [is important], like I’m not looking for a provider, I’m looking for a partner. Be Flexible [29:07] No one is saying compromise everything. But it’s not just about these superficial qualities you’re looking for. While attraction is necessary, and there are certain things every woman looks for to feel that romantic spark, there needs to be more flexibility. You have to strike a balance because we do have to rule people out. But we can’t make these premature judgments, and a lot of the sabotaging has to do with these superficial things. Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/29044013

Life Check Yourself 427 – Help! I’ve done the work but I Still Have Imposter Syndrome (coaching session with Heather Leick) 12/06/2023

Life Check Yourself 427 – Help! I’ve done the work but I Still Have Imposter Syndrome (coaching session with Heather Leick) Marni welcomes Heather Leick to the Life Check Yourself studio for a coaching session. Leick’s objective is to get through feelings of imposter syndrome. Heather is someone who reinvented her life after getting out of an abusive relationship and leaving a job she didn’t love to pursue one that she does. The duo discusses imposter syndrome, habit of self-sabotage and Leick’s difficulty when it comes to expressing herself. · Why do you hide yourself? · Where does your self-sabotaging stem from? · What’s your central thread? Feelings of Belonging are Natural [07:27] Everybody wants to belong. It’s natural to feel nervous when you’re introducing yourself or presenting yourself to a group of new people. It’s normal to want to be picked and liked. If you didn’t have that self-doubt, what would that look and feel like? Self-Sabotage Happens on Different Levels [08:59] When you hide a part of yourself, it’s a draining on the long run. Partial expression of yourself is not sustainable because it feels dissonant in your body. When we don’t feel enough that we can be who we really are, we’re sabotaging on so many levels. The Love Shield [15:05] The love shield is this central thread that people have that is the through line within their life. When it’s used for good, it’s a super power. But when it’s used in the shadow side, it takes us away from ourselves. It’s essentially a recurrent quality or trait that you have that can either be good or bad for you depending on when and how you use it. For me, mine is to create possibility, like I can create possibility anywhere. But also, I can create possibility when I’m fixing people who don’t need to be fixed. Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/28927053

Life Check Yourself 426 – The 7 Dating Mistakes You Are Probably Making (and Don’t Even Realize it) with Evan Marc Katz 11/29/2023

Life Check Yourself 426 – The 7 Dating Mistakes You Are Probably Making (and Don’t Even Realize it) with Evan Marc Katz Marni welcomes Evan Marc Katz to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into what dating looks like today and how to navigate it. Why do women keep falling into the same patterns? How do you tap into your feelings? Evan is a dating coach that has helped over 13 thousand women from all over the world. Having written 4 books, he is also a successful podcast host. In tackling the topic of dating at all ages, Evan explains what it means to find your person. It’s not just about the mantras but setting an action plan. · Stay in the game · Seek consciousness and intention · How to be strong universally Stop Focusing on Landing the Man [10:00] We always think of dating as an accomplishment. Women tend to focus on landing the man rather than looking at how they feel. Face your emotions. Ask yourself how you feel within the relationship. It’s not about the man looking good on paper, it’s about the connection that is meant to come with that. Do I feel safe, heard, and understood? Can I relax and let my guard down, and trust that he’ll be there for me and accept me in full? Hope Springs Eternal [17:48] People soften with age, they get better. They’re more self-aware, more supportive of each other. Life is peppered with examples of people who found love not only in the most unlikely places but later on in life as well. And you shouldn’t lose hope but you should set an action plan. Hope springs eternal. So, my belief is that there’s enough good guys to warrant it, especially for women of a certain age who are surrounded by people who have given up on love. Dump the Scarcity Thinking [23:12] Stop doubting yourself If you’ve left your partner for all the right reasons. Trust yourself and start reframing it in your mind. It’s easy to fall into that pit of self-doubt, wondering whether you’ll ever be loved this way again or whether you’ll ever be treated this way again. You will. This relationship was just a stepping stone, it unlocked something in you. Why would you treat him like he’s the last man on earth? So many people come back to coaching because they had something that was ill-fated, and it awakened something inside of them. Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/28812398

This Advice for Busy Women to Get Their Sexy Back Back May Surprise You! 11/22/2023

This Advice for Busy Women to Get Their Sexy Back Back May Surprise You! Marni Marni welcomes Dr.Diane Mueller to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses sexual health, intimacy and how to get your sexy back. Dr.Diane is a podcast host who’s helped many women reclaim their vitality and jumpstart their libido. She also holds a doctorate in naturopathic medicine. Women often forget the importance of sex and the nuances that come with that kind of intimacy. However, sexual intimacy is one of the pillars for a good healthy life. How does stress affect your sex drive? Sex is a foundation of health Why you should care about your libido It’s All in the Hormones, Baby [08:01] Stress affects men and women differently when it comes to their sex drive. Similarly, the hormones released by men and by women after being intimate have a different effect on each gender. Whereas men release vasopressin, which allows them to then become focused, women release oxytocin, which gives them the urge to be held. What happens with stress is that stress will actually turn down oxytocin. What’s Sex Got to do With it? [12:58] Conversations surrounding sex and sexuality when it comes to women, for centuries, have been regarded as too taboo to talk about. It is only over the past decade or so, that these topics are being tackled more. And with good reason. Being sexually intimate has proven to raise happiness levels and reduce anxiety. It also decreases social isolation and feelings of loneliness. There’s some research that is connecting a proper healthy sex life with really maintaining the longevity of a happy relationship. Be Present [19:18] To actually enjoy pleasure means to be present in the moment. Sounds self-evident but many women will sometimes zone out during the act as their mind drifts off to the laundry list or the grocery list or something that needs to be done. And that’s because of the way the hormones released affect the brain. However, that’s a sign that you’re not in the present, that you’re not in the body. The more we’re in that moment experiencing pleasure, the more oxytocin, the more stress resilience, the more happiness and all those things. Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/28761983

Advice to Stop Believing Your BS and Finally Put Yourself First 11/15/2023

Advice to Stop Believing Your BS and Finally Put Yourself First Marni welcomes Laura Foster to the Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses what it means to be in alignment with your true self by un-programming yourself. Laura has been helping women through her movement Soul Healing Humanity, and through her technique Holistic Scaffolding, to unpack their bullshit and leave it behind. The maverick, who decided to cut the bullshit out of her own life, guides her clients into doing the same and finding a massive makeshift in their physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. How to cut the bullshit Stop the distractions Be there for you Is Your Unhappiness Seeping through? [04:40] It seems evident but looking at your happiness, or lack thereof, is the first indicator of whether you need to make a change or not. And sometimes, you might not even know that you’re unhappy. While things might look great on the outside, and you’ve ticked all the boxes for what a successful happy life looks like, what’s underneath is what counts more. When I’d stop all the doing and the busyness, and I would start to come into alignment with my true self, it was like that’s where a lot of unhappiness is coming from. Who is Your True Self?[13:00] Your true self is what’s underneath everything you’ve been programmed to believe; it’s underneath everything you’ve been conditioned into thinking you need to do; and it’s underneath all the human bullshit. And as you get closer to who your true self is, you get into your power. But that’s something only you can do. To take back your power means to live in alignment with your true self. Be Your Own Guru [20:38] While it is beneficial to hear out other people or gurus, what ends up happening is that you replace one set of rules and dogma with another. However, the reality is, no one knows what’s best for you more than you do. Once you learn this framework that gets you to where you’re your own guru, then you design a life that you love by you, for you. Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/28641383

Life Check Yourself 423 – If You Are Stuck Trying To Get Your Man To Take The Lead 11/08/2023

Life Check Yourself 423 – If You Are Stuck Trying To Get Your Man To Take The Lead Marni welcomes Gillian Pothier to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo dissects what masculine energy and maleness actually mean. Gillian is a writer, a teacher, and a mentor who has helped women create fulfilling lifelong relationships with the men in their lives. And that extends to their romantic partners, their brothers, and their fathers. Her work centers around what becomes possible when you understand masculine and feminine energy. We need to talk about dad How to get right with the nature of maleness Is it time to reclaim the source of patriarchy? Going Back to Basics [03:35] If you’re to start fixing or developing the masculine relationships in your lives, you need to look at the source code, the first template. And that’s the father figure. Women need to look back at what’s inside their systems because we project these same wounds unconsciously over and over again. If we’re talking about a path of repair with men in the masculine, in our lives, we have to look at the OG. Dethroning the Father [08:19] Women do not understand men and maleness. The reality is that so many women continue to homogenize and feminize men. We want them to be like us. It’s important to cleanse ourselves from the distortions taught to us by a culture that degrades men in the masculine. We tend to use feminine values and ethos and morals and preferences in our relationship with men to judge them as a good man. Tough Love [14:15] For what has happened to you as a little girl or throughout different stages of your life, it can easily be said that it wasn’t your responsibility. But the moment it lives in your nervous system and your constellation of beliefs, it becomes your responsibility. It’s not about blaming women though. But it is about understanding that in order to have the experience that you want, this is an invitation by life or the divine to enter into a heroine’s journey and create. We have developed a capitalistic socio-political word called the patriarchy. But patria means family. Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/28529135

Life Check Yourself 422 – Biggest Mistakes Women Are Making in Their Careers 11/01/2023

Life Check Yourself 422 – Biggest Mistakes Women Are Making in Their Careers Marni welcomes Marie Garvey to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo talks about what it means for a woman to find her own voice and be in her own power, proudly. Marie is an entrepreneur, a motivational speaker and an executive and life coach who has empowered women to find success while being present in their power. From a young age, women are programmed into the good girl mentality. Marie helps them break free of that to become who they are meant to be today rather than who those around them have defined them as. Our worth isn’t in other people’s hands How to stop being uncomfortable with conflict It’s a good girl rebellion What Happens to the Good Girl? [07:52] The Good Girl mentality breeds a form of constant expectations where you're always waiting to get a pat on the back or to be commended for doing the right thing. But the danger with that is what happens when you don’t get that pat on the back or the recognition for having been a “good.” And that usually results in women working harder, and thinking that if they just do more, they'll get it. We’ve been told, ‘Don’t be too much,’ and we’re walking around being people pleasers and perfectionists all the time. Step Into Your Feminine [15:14] It is okay to be in your feminine and your masculine energy because both are valuable. But own your feminine energy because the world needs that. Women are better listeners and collaborators whereas men tend to see the world more in black and white. Hone in your feminine advantages and step into that energy. I think every woman I’ve met, certainly every woman I work with has moderated their light to fit what they believe the world can handle of them. You Got This [19:55] When it comes to the workforce, a lot of women don’t trust their own capabilities or power. It’s this overwhelming sense of ‘I haven’t earned this.’ And it is that kind of mentality that stops them from putting their hat in the ring. There are so many corporations that want women at the highest levels. And my biggest problem is convincing them that they’re ready for it. Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/28461557

Life Check Yourself EP 421 – How to be nice to your Vagina 10/25/2023

Life Check Yourself EP 421 – How to be nice to your Vagina Marni welcomes Shyama Mathews to The Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses what it means to go through menopause and how to handle the changes your body is experiencing. Shyama is a gynecologist who is trained in minimal invasive gynecology surgery as well as a certified menopause specialist. She has helped women navigate their families and careers while enhancing their quality of life. In tackling the topic of menopause, Marni and Shyama agree that it isn’t something that is discussed enough, and it’s important to bear in mind that different women experience it differently. The transition, which has both mental and physical symptoms, is a subject that needs to gain more traction as it affects all women at some point. Menopause isn’t the big bad wolf Not everyone experiences it in the same way How to seek the right information on menopause Does Our Fear Stem From Misinformation [09:36] Menopause isn’t a topic typically discussed in the media. The information surrounding menopause and what women should expect isn’t as readily available as other topics. While there are a number of resources, you need to actively search for them as they won’t necessarily how up on your feed. While the average age for menopause is around 50. However, the symptoms for menopause can start manifesting themselves 5 to 7 years before that. It isn’t actually an irrelevant topic for young women because I do think everyone should sort of know what’s coming down the road. Don’t DIY it [13:00] It’s important to find the proper channels and experts to guide you through it when you start experiencing symptoms that you’re not familiar with. When you’re in an age bracket where it is likely to be menopause, do your research and find an expert to help you navigate it and dissect whether the symptoms are a byproduct of menopause or something else. Go for a consultation just like you would treat any other illness or problem. Go to a specialist for a special problem. Know Your Options [22:28] Educating yourself on your body is important, especially as a woman. It could save you a lot of otherwise unnecessary trouble. As women, we need to be aware of our options and that comes through education. We have old information. We’re doing a huge disservice. Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/28395908

Unlocking Weight Loss for Women. How to overcome pesky situations that can keep you stuck waiting for Monday with Leah Van Dolder 10/18/2023

Unlocking Weight Loss for Women. How to overcome pesky situations that can keep you stuck waiting for Monday with Leah Van Dolder Marni welcomes Leah Van Dolder to The Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses our relationship with food, perfectionism, and the line that separates success from failure. Leah is a mindset coach who has helped thousands of clients hit their weight goal while simultaneously leveling up their confidence and their energy, as well as achieving a stronger sense of self. Women often set high expectations for themselves, and while that might be good in a lot of cases, it can also be destructive when too much expectation is placed on a certain goal. How to achieve your goal sustainably The key is achievable goals How to have that wake-up call Allow Yourself to be Human [06:26] Your mindset should be taking it one step at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself because that is not sustainable and will not get you to where you need to be. Rather than jump all in with unrealistic expectations, break up your goal into achievable steps. You are human, so allow yourself room for error. What are those daily things that we can do? Such as drinking a liter of water before bed, blocking those workouts in your schedule, or having an appointment with yourself 3 days a week. Listen to your soul [10:59] When you feel a certain desire, one that is nagging at you, listen to it. It’s there for a reason. It’s meant to happen for you. But you need to be the one to make it a reality. Make time for what it is you want to achieve. There’s never going to be a right time to make a change. What’s Your Relationship with Food [18:20] Examine your eating habits, look at your relationship with food. We all placate ourselves by reasoning with ourselves. Whether we’re overeating because we don’t want to waste food or we are invited out for dinner at a 5-star restaurant, there is always a way around these excuses. When it comes to a choice of our own, I think to myself, ‘okay, who is living and feeling the consequence of my choice? Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/28334441

Break THIS habit to Overcome Your Self Rejection 10/11/2023

Break THIS habit to Overcome Your Self Rejection Marni welcomes Naketa Ren to The Life Check Yourself where the duo talks about balancing life, love, and success as well as learning how to take pauses when you need them. Naketa is a podcast host, author, and the number one balance and relationship advisor globally. The powerhouse helps clients find that work-life balance, build a sustainable successful business while also prioritizing mental health and personal relationships. And it all starts with knowing when to slow down, and how to do it. Give yourself permission to slow down How to be mindful How to leave an imprint on the world The Multigenerational Imprint [10:17] The multigenerational imprint that you leave on this planet begins with yourself. It stems from showing up as an individual that honors authenticity, transparency, and kindness. It’s by practicing all those qualities with yourself that you can then share them with others. Be kind to yourself, be transparent with yourself and be authentic and honest when looking inwards. Authenticity is different from transparency. You could be very authentic and show up as fully who you are but not be transparent with why you are being that way. How You Show Up Could be Killing You [15:47] How do you speak to yourself? Is it with kindness? Or are you harsh on yourself? Focus on what it is you say to you because when you put yourself down, and stress yourself out, you’re not only unhealthy mentally but physically as well. Stress dictates a big part of our physical health. It accounts for a high percentage of non-congenital illnesses. How you think of yourself and how you show up for yourself could be killing you slowly. Imagine all of those hidden diseases and hidden illnesses that are stress-induced. High Egos And Corporate Traumas [21:00] It’s not a bad thing to have an ego, but it is bad to let your ego run the whole show. Unfortunately, we can’t change another person’s ego. What we can do is hold up a mirror to them but sometimes it’s not enough. And in a work environment, your superiors' egos could be destructive to your mental well-being as well as those around you. But how do you galvanize the shift? You can change how you react to the person while building your exit plan. Make a Connection: /episode/index/show/datingwithdignity/id/28266374

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