Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce

Are you struggling to get your wife back? Marriage on the brink of divorce? The only one trying to save the relationship and keep the family together? Stephen Waldo from Husband Help Haven shares powerful insights based on his experiences with over 2,500 men going through separation. Advising men going through separation since 2011, he has seen marriages saved from a wife wanting separation, wife having a physical affair (or emotional affair), wife going through a midlife crisis, facing divorce, husband struggling with pornography addiction, depression, childhood trauma, and more. Through a mix of solo shows, interviews, reader Q&A, direct advice and a sprinkle of marriage philosophy, he says, "My goal is always to help you be the best husband, father and man you can be, no matter what your marriage is like right now - even if your wife wants out." Subscribe today and start moving forward.

You Get Exactly The Marriage You Deserve (What If?) 04/25/2025

You Get Exactly The Marriage You Deserve (What If?) What if the marriage you’re living is the exact marriage you deserve? I know—sounds harsh, right? But hang with me. In over ten years of coaching men through separation, I’ve learned that treating this “what-if” as true is the quickest way to spotlight the blind spots you're contributing to the breakdown of the relationship. Go to for a full episode overview. 00:00 Introduction 00:20 You Get The Marriage You Deserve... Sort of 01:00 Key to Uncovering Blind Spots 03:44 How to Use this "What If" 04:29 Am I Too Harsh on Husbands? 05:42 Why You Should Want This To Be True 08:17 Addressing The Peace Keepers 12:10 The Danger of Peacekeeping 14:22 Key Takeaways 16:11 If you remember one thing... 17:33 Moving Forward With Self-Awareness “Stephen… isn’t that a little harsh?” Yes, and it’s meant to jolt us awake. I’m not saying you deserve pain or betrayal. I’m asking you to imagine you might be a bigger part of the problem than you realize. I often see two typical reactions to this statement: “Nope, not me!” → usually indicates pride, unwillingness to self-examine. “Okay… maybe.” → usually indicates humility, openness to learn, far easier to coach. The question forces healthy self-interrogation: “What would I need to be blind to for this to be true?” Why You Should Want This To Be True You have more power than you think – If your habits helped create the mess, your new habits can help clean it up. Divorce ≠ Automatic Fix – You can’t divorce yourself. Growth—not escape—is the thing that brings lasting change. Pride Shattered, Humility Unleashed – Humility and marital satisfaction rise (or fall) together. Most lessons in this series seek to help you do one of three things: Set aside ego, Consider your wife’s experience, Proactively do better—because there is better to do. Big Takeaways You’ll Hear It’s not literally true you always get exactly what you deserve—but acting as if can uncover life-changing blind spots. Every marriage contains two flawed humans carrying baggage and ignorance. When those go unexamined, dissatisfaction skyrockets. “You don’t have a ceiling—you do have blind spots.” Deny that, and your best-possible marriage stays out of reach. /episode/index/show/husbandhelphaven/id/36310605

How Good Couples End Up Divorced 04/17/2025

How Good Couples End Up Divorced How do good, loving couples end up divorced? The short answer comes down to three key factors: Marriage on the Back Burner – You both get busy—maybe with a home remodel, new job, or family obligations—and assume it’s “just a season.” Meanwhile, the relationship gets less and less attention. Both Spouses Become Their Worst – Left untended, bad habits and unresolved stress start growing like weeds. You’re not pouring in the love, so complacency—and resentment—take root. An External Crisis Strikes – This might be a financial meltdown, a parent passing away, a milestone birthday, or even an affair. The marriage, already neglected, crumbles under the added pressure. In this episode, we dig into why these three steps devastate even “happy” marriages and how to recognize the warning signs early. You’ll hear the story of “Terry,” a devoted family man who thought everything would be fine once life calmed down—only to learn his wife was already done. We’ll explore the external crises that can blindside a relationship, from sudden loss to those insidious “life is good on paper” moments that leave you wondering why you still feel so empty. We will talk about why this pattern is so surprisingly damaging to a marriage. But it’s not all doom and gloom. We’ll also talk about concrete strategies for proactively restoring your marriage—whether you’re on the brink of divorce or feeling rock-solid as a couple. Find out how to keep small disconnects from becoming gaping chasms The importance of showing empathy in the face of conflict Why (and how) even the busiest seasons of life don't have to starve your marriage of attention. We’ll also look at what you can do if you’re already separated, plus how to respond when your wife says, “Why did it take me leaving to make you change?” If there's one thing I want you to take away from this episode, it's this: “Complacency kills your marriage because good habits take effort; bad habits grow on their own.” No matter where you stand—separated and feeling desperate, or happily married but busier than ever—this episode is a wake-up call. You’ll walk away with tangible tips for staying vigilant, owning your mistakes, and steering your marriage off the back burner for good. If you’ve ever wanted a crash course in how to protect the connection you value most, this is it. Ready to learn the subtle ways couples drift apart—and how to stop it from happening to you? Visit for the full episode. /episode/index/show/husbandhelphaven/id/36187480