3-Word Phrases Every Wife Needs To Hear
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
Release Date: 11/22/2022
How to Heal Your Wife's Midlife Crisis
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
You’ve been told “midlife crisis” means your marriage is doomed. Not true. In this episode, we break down what’s really happening (identity crisis + FOMO) and how to respond in a way that actually helps—without chasing, lecturing, or pressure. WHAT THIS COVERS What a midlife crisis really is: an identity crisis where one role feels good (work, friends, gym) and others feel punishing (wife, mom) Why she skews toward the one rewarding identity and away from the rest The “FOMO” driver: “There’s something I can only get outside the marriage” Escapism loops and why...
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3 Ways to Validate Your Wife
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
Has your wife ever said, “You don’t validate me,” or “Stop trying to fix it”? This episode is for the guys who love solutions—but keep getting told they’re not listening. I’ll show you why solution-first often backfires and exactly how to lead with validation so your solutions actually land. Big idea: When she brings a problem with hurt feelings, she needs an emotional landing pad before logistics. Start with validation, add curiosity, and remember imperfect is allowed—then offer a concrete action you’ll take. 00:00 Welcome to Husband Help Haven 00:27 The Fixer Mentality...
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Is This One Word Poisoning Your Marriage?
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
Are your “shoulds” stalling progress in your marriage? In this episode I unpack the trap of turning personal standards (“shoulds”) into boundaries (“musts”)—and how that pressure slows connection and blinds you to better solutions. Many husbands (me included at times) think too much in terms of "should" Here are some common examples I see come up in coaching: “My wife should go to counseling.” “She should talk about the affair and apologize before we move forward.” “She should have told me before she left.” Some of these are good standards. But when you elevate...
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You've Been Lied To About Your Marriage Problems
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
Episode notes & quotes: You’ve been lied to about your marriage. If the same problems keep showing up, you’ve probably heard: “That means it’s unfixable—just leave.” In this episode, we explore why that advice quietly wrecks good marriages—and what actually helps. Big idea: In every lifelong relationship, issues often feel cyclical because two steady humans bring steady strengths, weaknesses, and sensitivities. Healthy marriages don’t permanently erase friction; they learn to manage it well. That’s where commitment and self-awareness come in. In this episode,...
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You Get Exactly The Marriage You Deserve (What If?)
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
What if the marriage you’re living is the exact marriage you deserve? I know—sounds harsh, right? But hang with me. In over ten years of coaching men through separation, I’ve learned that treating this “what-if” as true is the quickest way to spotlight the blind spots you're contributing to the breakdown of the relationship. Go to for a full episode overview. 00:00 Introduction 00:20 You Get The Marriage You Deserve... Sort of 01:00 Key to Uncovering Blind Spots 03:44 How to Use this "What If" 04:29 Am I Too Harsh on Husbands? 05:42 Why You Should Want This To Be True 08:17...
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How Good Couples End Up Divorced
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
How do good, loving couples end up divorced? The short answer comes down to three key factors: Marriage on the Back Burner – You both get busy—maybe with a home remodel, new job, or family obligations—and assume it’s “just a season.” Meanwhile, the relationship gets less and less attention. Both Spouses Become Their Worst – Left untended, bad habits and unresolved stress start growing like weeds. You’re not pouring in the love, so complacency—and resentment—take root. An External Crisis Strikes – This might be a financial meltdown, a parent passing away, a milestone...
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3-Word Phrases Every Wife Needs To Hear
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
Episode notes available at Do you need help reconnecting with your wife? Maybe you need to know some specific things to say to your wife to navigate the often-challenging conversations that happen during separation? Or maybe you just want some tips to be a better husband overall. In today's episode of the Husband Help Haven Podcast, I'm going to share some good ol' fashioned communication advice to help you build a better connection with your wife, whether you're happily married or in the thick of separation. As you listen, you'll learn about 8 different three-word...
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5 Reasons You Might Decide To Be Done Waiting For Your Wife
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
Show notes and video for this episode can be found at How do you know when it really is time to be done waiting for your wife to come back? This is the other side of the question answered in the previous episode. As a pro-marriage optimist, please know that I'm rarely going to tell you to move on from your marriage, but in this episode I will share the reasons that I've seen other separated men make that decision for themselves. I will warn you, unlike the last episode, this one may not be very encouraging. But this is a real-life question that comes up regularly, especially...
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6 Reasons To Keep Waiting For Your Wife To Come Back
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
Show notes and video available at Do you ever question if it's worth waiting for your wife to come back? Does it feel like your separation is dragging on indefinitely? We all need to be reminded sometimes why we do the things we do. This episode is for the men who are sick of being in no man's land, and need a pep talk to remember why they're still holding onto hope for their wife. When you're doubting whether it's worth it to keep going, I want this episode to be one that you can listen to and go, "Oh yeah, that's why I'm still waiting for my wife... That reason is worth...
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How Much Longer Until She Comes Back?
Husband Help Haven Podcast: Marriage Advice for Men Facing Separation, Affair or Divorce
"Stephen, I know you can't tell me an exact timeframe, but based on your experience, how much longer do you think this separation will last? How long 'til she comes back? How long til she pushes through the divorce?" I get this sort of question a lot, and I understand why. Separation is hard. Being able to have some reasonable expectation of how much road you have left to travel would help you set realistic expectations. Obviously I can't predict the future, but today I'm going to walk you through seven questions that you can ask yourself to help figure out how much longer your...
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