The Root of Power - Embody Peace, Heal Trauma & Be Happy
Top Podcast For Healing Trauma & Anxiety, and learning to be happy. Are you ready to step into your full power, align with your highest desires and live your dream? Are you suffering and struggling and working so hard to just survive, but want more - a life you love? Are you overwhelmed with information about how to live your best life and achieve happiness? I’ve got you, my sweet croissant. Each week I teach YOU how to finally ditch stress and anxiety and take ACTION to live your dream life. I am fully committed to teaching true wellness through providing education, interviewing wellness leaders and keeping things simple. You are a gift, this life is a gift; and I sincerely believe that when you are living your best life, you become a lighthouse for others. I cannot wait to show up for you, teach you how to show up for yourself and help you get to the root of your power.
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Is it emotional exhaustion or compassion fatigue or burnout?
02/06/2024
Is it emotional exhaustion or compassion fatigue or burnout?
emotional exhaustion: a state of feeling emotionally worn-out and drained as a result of accumulated stress from your personal or work lives, or a combination of both. chronic state of emotional depletion. Allostatic load. compassion fatigue: “a state of exhaustion and dysfunction biologically, psychologically, and socially as a result of prolonged exposure to compassion stress and all it invokes." also called vicarious trauma. burnout: a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress Think of these as a spectrum. EE more from life stressors. CF/B more from work/responsibilities. EE could be from carrying unresolved trauma, stress overload, being out of alignment, living with or experiencing systemic oppression, late state capitalism, chronic stressors, being chronically dysregulated, Sx: apathy, withdrawal, isolation, exhaustion, soul tired, irritable, feeling stuck or helpless, not being able to do what you know would help, only paying attention to negative, headaches, tense muscles/sore body, trouble sleeping, brain fog, depression, numb, How to mitigate/fix Heal trauma. Rewire your mind for growth, healing, helpful thoughts. Cut out stressors/toxic people, things etc. Radical acceptance. Do whats useful to have done and possible to do. Learn to build a resilient nervous system. Mindset work. Journaling Process emotions. Make choices that create/maintain alignment Locus of control Do things that feel energy giving. Move well, eat well, sleep well. Connect with others. Set boundaries. Radical honesty. Radical accountability. Do work that feels purposeful. Let go of perfectionism.
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"I don't know who I am" -- This episode is for you
01/30/2024
"I don't know who I am" -- This episode is for you
Trauma disconnects from self, leaves no room for exploration or building a self concept Dont confuse your occupation with your purpose You are what you love, not who loves you Healing means being the you that you've always been but didn't have the space to be because you had to survive. Authenticity and survival mode don't exist at the same time, because authenticity requires presence of safety. Ways to start exploring: MTBI test Enneagram test Human Design Astrology/Birth Chart Write down a list of things you enjoy or used to enjoy or think you might enjoy or that you enjoyed as a child Find a list of values, circle the ones that are important to you Know this is a life long journey unraveling who you are. Write down beliefs you hold and assess if those resonate Ask friends to describe you using five words
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Unlock Your Potential: Break Free from Limiting Beliefs
01/23/2024
Unlock Your Potential: Break Free from Limiting Beliefs
Most automatic things we do are conditioned responses that we learned during childhood, but they're no longer serving us. Until we are 6, we exist mostly in theta brainwaves, which is associated with a hypnotic state. We are the most suggestible we will ever be. Everything a child that young hears is taken as true, nothing is questioned. Most people then never question the programming they received as children. This is good for adults who need to teach a child how to behave in the world quickly, and not so good for the child that becomes the adult if they don't learn to question their programming. Some I come across often: You dont have to do something every day for it to be consistent, successful or effective. Your partner doesnt have to follow your schedule for your relationship to work. Love is not earned, but neither is it unconditional. You dont need permission to do thing you want to do. Just because someone disagrees with your choice, doesnt mean its the wrong choice. Your healing journey is your own and wont look like others. Youre allowed to disappoint other people when doing whats best for you. No one really gives a shit about what you're doing/no one notices/cares. You're allowed to change your mind. Quitting does not mean failing. You don't have to forgive people who have hurt you. Having an abundance of money doesn't make you evil. Life doesn't have to be hard. Relationships don't have to last forever to be good, and breaking up/getting divorced doesnt mean the relationship failed. How to break: Question and assess if your automatic assumptions are true, and even if they are true, are they helpful. Write down a list of beliefs you have about how people or the world "should" operate. Question these. When you hear a should, that's programming. Assess if your behaviors are actually getting you the life you want, if not theres programming to undo.
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2023 Recap. 2024 plans, word of the year.
01/16/2024
2023 Recap. 2024 plans, word of the year.
Recap - over 900 therapy sessions 5 workshops Launched Boundaries Baddie Traveled to: Florida, Texas, Dublin Ireland, Florence Italy, Cuba, Decided to build a house we'll be starting this year. Established Lighthouse Energy as an LLC Completed 117 hours training in RRT, and about 50 more studying. Started working on Exhale & Release to get ready to launch next month. Worked with Andrea. Sabrina. Mahdi. 2024 plans. Word: Build. Committed. Intentional. Nurture. Plans: Go on a cruise to Mexico, Belize, Honduras. Go to Costa Rica. Perhaps Alaska or Bali or nowhere else. Go to Florida for RRT intensive in Jan. Get RRT specialist certification. Launch Exhale & Release. Launch a journal. Potentially launch grounded mornings. Bring on another therapist. Build the house. Thinking about doing a PhD program.
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What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Emily C
11/23/2023
What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Emily C
I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: Healing: Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Don't Treat A Bear Like A Puppy: How To Stop Hoping They'll Change And Accept Who They Are : Thoughts From A Licensed Therapist
11/22/2023
Don't Treat A Bear Like A Puppy: How To Stop Hoping They'll Change And Accept Who They Are : Thoughts From A Licensed Therapist
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What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Noah O
11/22/2023
What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Noah O
Free Stuff: I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: Healing: Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Dear Gratitude List, Its Not Me, It's You: Why Keeping A Gratitude List Didnt Work For You And What To Do Instead: Thoughts From A Licensed Therapist
11/14/2023
Dear Gratitude List, Its Not Me, It's You: Why Keeping A Gratitude List Didnt Work For You And What To Do Instead: Thoughts From A Licensed Therapist
Free Stuff: Exhale & Release: If you've feel like practicing gratitude hasn't worked for you, you're probably right. And it's not you, its that the most common way doesn't work for everybody. There are a million ways to practice gratitude, but all I seem to see is gratitude lists. Well, just like there's a million ways to make a sandwich, there's a million ways to incorporate a gratitude practice. In this episode I talk about why the typical way - gratitude lists - don't work for some people and other ways to start a gratitude practice. How to make a gratitude practice work for you is the central question I answer in this episode, and I'd love your thoughts! Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders Track: Healing Track: Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Morgan E
11/09/2023
What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Morgan E
Free Stuff: I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: Healing: Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Leather Jacket Leadership: How To Lead From Your Authentic Magic - Interview With Brand Architect Kat Torre
11/07/2023
Leather Jacket Leadership: How To Lead From Your Authentic Magic - Interview With Brand Architect Kat Torre
Free Stuff: Exhale & Release: There's a revolution and a reckoning coming in the leadership space. Incompetent leaders are no longer allowed to get away with mediocrity. Quality leadership requires so many skills. Embodying authenticity, emotional regulation, excellent communication, holding a vision - all these things combine into a leader that people are happy to follow. Kat developed her particular brand of leadership by going against the status quo - which we all know wasn't built for visionaries, marginalized identities or women who are fiercely themselves. Kat realized early that there was a place for leaders who operate from their heart, fiercely protect their people and hold the vision. Kat and I discuss being unemployable by most companies, because most companies are lead by authority figures instead of leaders. We discuss the importance of becoming and working with and for leaders who embody integrity, trust and service. The next generation of leaders lead with love, embody integrity and live their values. Tune in to hear our conversation about how to truly embody leadership. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Haley N
11/03/2023
What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Haley N
Free Stuff: I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: Healing: Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Nine Things That May Be Keeping You From Success And How To Shift Them - From A Licensed Therapist-
10/31/2023
Nine Things That May Be Keeping You From Success And How To Shift Them - From A Licensed Therapist-
Free Stuff: Humans are the only creatures who can block themselves. Birds don't sit around thinking "oh I really want to fly to that branch, I wish I could get myself over there. I need to jump and then keep myself flying and if I could just get motivation to get myself there I would do it." While we're smarter than birds, sometimes I think birds are smarter than us in some respects. Humans, in our infinite complexity, can either get in our own way or systems and structures that humans create get in our way. So, lets discuss. So many of my clients want a bigger life, a more adventurous life, a better life and yet they struggle to manifest it. So I started thinking "ok what's in the way here" and after doing this for thousands of hours, these are the barriers my clients experience most. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Emily B
10/27/2023
What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Emily B
Free Stuff: I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: Healing: Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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What transformational therapy looks like - Interview with Kate Vasquez
10/24/2023
What transformational therapy looks like - Interview with Kate Vasquez
Free Stuff: I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: Healing: Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Kim R
10/19/2023
What's Therapy Like: Interview with my past client Kim R
Free Stuff: I love when clients fire me (meaning graduate y'all, relax). In this series, I give you an inside look at what therapy's like by interviewing clients who have worked with me and graduated. They share their experience, what they learned and how therapy impacted their life. If you're looking into therapy, or you're just a nosey gremlin like me, you'll love this series. The intention for this series is to give you insight into what transformational therapy looks like, what can change in the course of working with a therapist and to demystify the process. Who better to tell you that than a past client. Let's party. Curious about working with me? Grab my free journal prompt here: Or sign up for Exhale & Release waitlist here: First Responders: Healing: Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Whats Therapy Like? Talking To Your Friends Is Not Therapy - From A Licensed Therapist
10/17/2023
Whats Therapy Like? Talking To Your Friends Is Not Therapy - From A Licensed Therapist
Free Stuff: Y'all, real talk. Talking to your friends, while it may be therapeutic, is not actual therapy. Also, your friends may be f *cking you up more! Yes friends listen, yes friends may give you feedback, yes friends may validate you and while all of that is wonderful, that's only part of the therapy process. So ok, let's talk about why you need an actual therapist and not just to talk to your friends. There is a REAL, MASSIVE difference between talking to your friends and actual therapy. On this episode I talk about the differences between venting to your besties and seeing a professional trained in trauma and rewiring your brain and nervous system. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Mantras That Will Literally Change Your Life & Make Everything Better - From A Licensed Therapist
09/26/2023
Mantras That Will Literally Change Your Life & Make Everything Better - From A Licensed Therapist
Free Stuff: Mindset is a funny thing, if you don't intentionally cultivate a growth focused mindset then it's exponentially harder to reach your goals. In fact, if you aren't intentional with your mindset, I can almost guarantee that you won't reach your goals, because mindset is the thing that makes or breaks people. Think about it this way, every goal is only a series of steps, but the difference between those who complete the steps and those who dont isnt a matter of ability, its a matter of mindset. So in that respect, mindset makes or breaks you. This episode is about mantras but its really about cultivating a mindset so strong Arnold Schwarzenegger is jealous. These non-negotiable mantras cultivate a mindset that makes everything else easier, because you stop spending precious energy second guessing yourself. These mantras become the foundation you build your success, happiness and growth on, and with a foundation like these, watch out world because you'll be unstoppable. Download mantras here: Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Scared Of Change? How Fear Of Change Has Been Keeping You Stuck And What To Do Instead - From A Trauma Therapist
09/19/2023
Scared Of Change? How Fear Of Change Has Been Keeping You Stuck And What To Do Instead - From A Trauma Therapist
Free Stuff: Ask anyone if they like change, and chances are they're gonna say "I hate change." This thought, my sweet croiissant, keeps them (and you) stuck. One of the biggest secrets of success is not only embracing change, but actively choosing to change anything that's no longer serving them. When people say "I'm terrified of change" what they're really saying is that they're afraid what they'll change will be worse than what they have now. Most people are taught to be afraid of change, and they're brought up in a culture that tells people they're a victim, they're stuck and if it's not perfect then it's horrible. This is so damaging, and it doesn't have to be this way. You can control the changes you make. And I argue in this episode that the more changes you consciously, intentionally make, the happier you are. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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What's Therapy Like? What To Expect During A Therapy Intake
09/12/2023
What's Therapy Like? What To Expect During A Therapy Intake
Free Stuff: Your first therapy appointment is the intake. This is where the therapist will ask a bunch of questions, get your history, why you're wanting to do therapy, what your goals are and all the jazz. The intake, for most people, feels pretty awkward. Yep, even when I did an intake with a therapist I saw after I ended things with my husband it was weird. Even so, they're necessary. Gotta start somewhere right? My intakes are pretty standard, but of course with some differences. In this episode I walk through my intake process: what to expect during a therapy intake, some insight about therapy in general. Hopefully, this episode helps you feel at ease, know whats coming and feel a little more ready to meet with your therapist. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Hyper-Independence Is A Trauma Response: What To Do When Asking For Help Feels Like Eating Hot Mayonnaise - From A Trauma Therapist.
09/05/2023
Hyper-Independence Is A Trauma Response: What To Do When Asking For Help Feels Like Eating Hot Mayonnaise - From A Trauma Therapist.
Free Stuff: Repeat after me: "I am not a burden. Relationships are supposed to be reciprocal." Sure you can try and go through life alone, but it's literally not possible. Humans have come this far only because we help each other. Hell, you didn't even come into this life alone, you were supported to come into this world and were supported to get to where you are now. Were you well supported? Maybe not. Maybe you learned early on that your job was to take care of others. Maybe you learned early on that the way to create safety or to get love was to be useful and to not be a burden. How clever of you then to become very independent, and perhaps now those same skills aren't necessary. Mind works in some specific ways to ensure our survival, and becoming hyper independent to the point where asking for help or accepting help feels like eating a jar of mayonnaise that's been left out in the sun for a few hours is a trauma response. Somewhere along the way you learned that you couldn't trust others or rely on them. Makes sense then, not so useful now. This episode will help you reprogram that so you feel comfortable accepting help and building reciprocal relationships. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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My Favorite Tools For Healing Anxiety - Tips From A Therapist
08/29/2023
My Favorite Tools For Healing Anxiety - Tips From A Therapist
Free Stuff: That weight on your chest. The feeling that you can never get enough oxygen. That weakness you've felt in your body. The racing thoughts. Jumping to the worst case scenario. Yep, I'm talking about anxiety. Or the more useful way to put it, experiencing anxious thoughts and feelings. I heard recently that anxiety is the most common cause for ER visits. Anxiety is also the most common mental health diagnosis. Anxiety is something almost every one of my clients deals with, so Ive dealt with it almost daily for almost a decade now. Its safe to say I'm an expert in healing it. Not just teaching my clients to cope, in actualy healing it. Yes, its possible. These are the tools I use the most often, I hope they give you some breathing room, some calm and a lot of peace. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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High Vibes Only Is Toxic - How To Avoid Spiritual Bypassing
08/22/2023
High Vibes Only Is Toxic - How To Avoid Spiritual Bypassing
Free Stuff: One of the reasons so many people struggle with trying to be happy all the time and only allowing high vibe emotions is that its not possible to do. When we try to do something impossible, mind becomes frustrated and puts more energy into it, hoping that'll fix it, and because it's impossible mind becomes stuck in this loop. If you've been feeling like you can't just be happy, its likely because you've been operating under this paradigm. Emotions are an all or nothing game, either they're all allowed or nothing comes through. So many of my clients come to me disembodied (shut down emotionally) because they've been burying unpleasant emotions, and part of their healing is to become embodied (present in their body aka feeling emotions). I discuss why so much spiritual bypassing is happening, how it's creating suffering and a way of thinking about emotions that is much more useful if we want to be free. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Afraid To Fail? How To Overcome Your Fear Of Failure - Thoughts From A Therapist
08/15/2023
Afraid To Fail? How To Overcome Your Fear Of Failure - Thoughts From A Therapist
Free Stuff: Being afraid of failure is something I help clients with all the time. Because subconscious is wired to avoid an percieved threat, and most people are taught that failing is bad, of course mind will then learn to avoid failure. But think about the happiest people you know, they aren't letting fear hold them back. In fact, they're likely the people facing their fears and doing the scary thing, and loving it! Getting comfortable with discomfort is one of the most powerful shifts you can make, and being okay with failure is part of that. I discuss where fear of failure comes from, how subconscious becomes wired to avoid it, the consequences of doing so and how to break the patterns. Get ready to embody the courage of Moana my sweet croissant. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Feel Like Youre Outgrowing Your Friends & Family Because You're Healing?- Thoughts From A Trauma Therapist
08/08/2023
Feel Like Youre Outgrowing Your Friends & Family Because You're Healing?- Thoughts From A Trauma Therapist
Free Stuff: One of the prices you pay for growth and healing is losing people along the way. That can be a painful experience, and it can make growth seem lonely (and honestly, sometimes it is). Healing and growth puts you into a different energetic state, which means you may no longer resonate with the people you used to vibe with. This is so normal! And it's something all my clients deal with at some point in their healing journey. Healing can be lonely. I talk about what I see most often in my clients, my thoughts on leaving people behind and what happens when growing means outgrowing. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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How To Find Your Purpose
08/01/2023
How To Find Your Purpose
Free Stuff: Struggling with feeling like your life has no meaning? Let's give it some purpose. All most of us heard growing up was the advice to find our purpose to pursue our passions and to be useful. Somewhere along the way this got a whole generation of people feeling hopeless and dissatisfied. Finding and living your purpose is a skill, but most people have no idea how to do it. In this episode I teach you how to find it, and then how to start putting energy towards your purpose. It's stupidly simple, and trust me it's going to blow your mind. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Interview With Metabolism Experts and Fitness Coaches Joelle Reyes and Alysa Reyes
07/26/2023
Interview With Metabolism Experts and Fitness Coaches Joelle Reyes and Alysa Reyes
Free Stuff: Joelle and Alysa are literally a dream team, they run Beyond The Weights and they're married (happily, see what I mean by dream team?). They're fitness coaches who specialize in metabolism and working with the whole person. They discuss balancing all the things happening in life We talk their journey into fitness, where most people get into trouble physically, the role of metabolism in health and taking a holistic approach to health. Website: IG: @beyondtheweights Their podcast: Beyond The Weights Podcast
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Likeability Is Not An Antidote For Loneliness - How Vulnerability Builds Connection.
07/18/2023
Likeability Is Not An Antidote For Loneliness - How Vulnerability Builds Connection.
Free Stuff: Maybe you try and cover up your loneliness by becoming what you think other people will like. This is one of the fastest ways to lose yourself, to feel miserable and alone. Being palatable isn't the cure you think it is, and in fact it makes you more isolated because then no one knows the real you. "Yeah, Amanda, thats the point, if no one really gets to know me they can't decide they actually hate me." I hear that and I'll challenge it. If no one really knows you, no one can really love you. In this episode I talk about the actual cure for loneliness, vulnerability. Yep. Being who you are, darkness and all. Being authentic lets people get to know the real you, and gives people the opportunity to actually connect with you. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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There Are Better Places To Find Cheese Than A Mouse Trap - How Trauma Keeps You Retraumatizing Yourself. Insights From A Trauma Therapist.
07/11/2023
There Are Better Places To Find Cheese Than A Mouse Trap - How Trauma Keeps You Retraumatizing Yourself. Insights From A Trauma Therapist.
Free Stuff: Perhaps you find yourself in crisis after crisis, situationship after situationship or constantly putting out fires. That can be so exhausting, and let me tell you why that's happening. Trauma retunes your nervous system for chaos. Humans are adaptable little gremlins, in fact we're so good that we will learn how to thrive in chaos. Because your system sets trauma as the default, when you start healing you may find yourself unconsciously seeking out drama and chaos. In this episode I talk about the science behind why that happens, and why its a problem. I discuss how the nervous system adapts to match the environment and why it takes awareness and intentional action to heal. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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Stop Fighting. Why Surrender Is The Secret To Breaking Free - Insights From A Trauma Therapist
07/04/2023
Stop Fighting. Why Surrender Is The Secret To Breaking Free - Insights From A Trauma Therapist
Free Stuff: Have you ever watched an animal wrapped up so tightly that they can't get free? And they struggle and struggle, and get more tightly wound until they immobolize themselves. Maybe you've done this too - struggled and strained and tried to pull away only to become more stuck and more entrenched? This is something I see all the time, and while it's a normal instinct, it only makes us more stuck. In this episode I talk about how more often than not, the secret to breaking free is to surrender so that the tension and pressure releases. When you stop fighting, your nervous system calms and you can do what's actually helpful - think. Fighting doesn't help you. Struggling doesn't help you. Being calm and having access to calm and creativity does. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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How Trauma Impacts Your Day To Day Life - From A Trauma Therapist
06/27/2023
How Trauma Impacts Your Day To Day Life - From A Trauma Therapist
Free Stuff: Trauma changes you and leaves predictable patterns of behavior. The way the mind and subconscious processes an event determines if the event gets coded as traumatic or not, and if the event gets coded as traumatic there are predictable somatic responses and thought patterns related to the event. Mind has a goal of survival, always. When data about an event gets processed as trauma, mind will continue to prioritize survival and for many people this leads to being stuck in perpetual survival mode, aka fight or flight. In this episode I talk about some of the most common behaviors I see in clients who have unhealed trauma. I discuss how mind/unconscious reads data about events and why sometimes that data gets stuck and how that leads to being in chronic survival mode. Website: IG: @amanda_chils FB: @amandachilscoach
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