Sexual Assault Survivor Stories Podcast - SASS
Sexual Assault Survivor Stories -SASS- is a weekly podcast designed for the purpose of providing victims and survivors of sexual assault and rape information and a forum to better understand the complexities, adversities, victories, and all the dynamics of surviving and healing. But it's not just for victims and survivors! It's a podcast of learning about trauma-informed interviewing and the neuroscience of trauma and memory, understanding the victim impact of rape and sexual assault, knowing how to recognize the psychophysiological responses of interpersonal trauma, and developing healing strategies and best-practice responses for all of these components. And the main goal of the podcast is to help bring justice to victims and survivors, recognizing that the best way to do this is by talking about our experiences and spreading information...because we all know someone who has been affected by rape or sexual assault. .
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164. Rita Smith: The Voice That Changed the National Conversation
11/18/2025
164. Rita Smith: The Voice That Changed the National Conversation
In this week’s episode of Sexual Assault Survivor Stories, I’m honored to welcome someone whose name has become synonymous with advocacy, leadership, and meaningful systemic change. Rita Smith has spent more than four decades reshaping how this country understands, responds to, and prevents violence against women. From her grassroots beginnings to her national-level impact, Rita has consistently shown up for survivors with a rare blend of humility, strength, and deep psychological insight. Rita’s work reaches across some of the largest platforms in the nation. She has served as Senior Advisor to the National Football League for more than 11 years, guiding the NFL’s policies, training, and cultural shifts around domestic violence and sexual assault. As Vice President of External Relations for DomesticShelters.org, she strengthens community programs around the country, builds partnerships, supports frontline advocates, and provides a steady, trusted voice to the national media. She’s also spent years consulting for organizations nationwide and serves on the board of Restoration Project International, supporting victims of sex trafficking with compassion and expertise. But what stands out most in our conversation today isn’t just Rita’s résumé—it’s the heart behind the work. She brings decades of crisis intervention experience, conflict-resolution skill, and trauma-informed understanding into this discussion. You’ll hear the wisdom of someone who has sat with survivors, challenged institutions, trained leaders, and refused to accept the status quo when it harms those who need protection most. Rita’s clarity, steadiness, and lived commitment to justice remind us that change doesn’t come from policy alone—it comes from people willing to keep showing up, year after year. This episode is a powerful reminder of what it looks like when advocacy meets integrity. Whether you’re a survivor, a professional in this field, or someone trying to understand how we build safer communities, Rita Smith’s voice will leave you thinking differently about the systems around us—and inspired to push them toward something better. An important side note: if you’re finding value in this show and these amazing episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, follow SexualAssaultSurvivorStories on Instagram, then, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. And if you’re a victim or survivor and are ready to tell your story in order to help yourself or someone else heal, let me know, and we can start a conversation about the possibility of you being on the show. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already. Just provide me with a phone number where I can reach back out to you…because I like to talk to people who are interested in guesting. And please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! Here are some critically important links that I hope you’ll take the time to explore, and where a contribution is requested, please consider doing so! — Thank you!! As mentioned, and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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163. Anne Marie Hauben: The Truth About Non-consent, Trauma, and Speaking Up
11/11/2025
163. Anne Marie Hauben: The Truth About Non-consent, Trauma, and Speaking Up
Sexual Assault Survivor Stories Podcast with Dave Markel
Guest: Anne Marie Hauben I’m honored to share this week’s episode of The SASS Podcast with someone whose courage doesn’t just echo across a microphone—it reverberates across decades of silence, retaliation, and survival: Anne Marie Hauben. Anne Marie isn’t just a guest. She is a truth-teller, an advocate, and a woman who refused to let a lifetime of dismissal define her story. After more than 30 years of carrying the weight of an assault she endured at 18 years old, she decided she would not stay silent any longer. And in doing so, she carved out a path of empowerment for survivors everywhere who feel trapped between trauma and the societal forces that try to suffocate their truth. This conversation is raw, urgent, and profoundly human. Who Is Anne Marie Hauben? • She is a survivor of a 1990 sexual assault, perpetrated during a senior trip to Bermuda when she was 18 and extremely intoxicated. The reported perpetrator was Ward, a former city councilor in Melrose, Massachusetts. (AnneHauben.com) • Anne Marie endured decades of silence shaped by shame, traumatic memory, lack of parental safety, and the fear that telling the truth would bring more harm than healing. (Written testimony) • In 2016 and again in 2018, she privately confronted her perpetrator through personal messages seeking accountability, remorse, or even acknowledgment. Both attempts were ignored; the second resulted in her being blocked. (Testimony) • In 2023, when her perpetrator ran for city council, her trauma was violently retraumatized and shoved back into the light. The anxiety, fear, flashbacks, and PTSD symptoms became overwhelming, forcing her to grapple with her past in a public way to protect herself, her community, and other survivors. (Testimony) • She ultimately sought legal guidance and published a public statement so voters would know who they were electing. Instead of support, she faced a wave of defamation threats, intimidation, and a coordinated effort by community members to discredit her. (Testimony) • Today, she is a vocal survivor-advocate pushing for reform in defamation law, accountability in local government, protections for survivors, and cultural change around how we respond to sexual violence. (AnneHauben.com) • She uses her platform, Amplified Voice Healing, to speak openly about her story, help other survivors reclaim their voice, and educate the public about the patterns of retaliation, shame, and silence that protect perpetrators. (AnneHauben.com) Why I Asked Anne Marie to Be on the Show • Because I’m committed to giving survivors a place where they’re believed, respected, and heard—and Anne Marie has spent her entire adulthood being silenced and attacked for speaking the truth. • Because her experience is a masterclass in how systems, communities, and defamation laws are weaponized against survivors who dare to speak out. • Because she embodies the intersection of trauma neuroscience, public accountability, and the lived experience of surviving both assault and decades of retaliation. • Because her voice is needed. For college students. For mothers. For anyone grappling with whether they’re “allowed” to speak. For every survivor who worries they’ll be called a liar, crazy, or unstable simply for telling the truth. • Because her story is not just her own. It is woven from the same cloth as Chanel Miller, E. Jean Carroll, Christine Blasey Ford, and every survivor whose truth confronted a powerful man shielded by convenience and denial. What We’ll Explore in This Episode • The assault itself: what Anne remembers from that night in Bermuda, what trauma did to her memory, and what the aftermath looked like for an 18-year-old trying to survive without support. • The neuroscience of delayed disclosure: why trauma keeps victims silent for years or decades—and how shame, fear, and protective forgetting shape a survivor’s timeline. • Retaliation, defamation threats, and silencing: how community members, friends of the perpetrator, and public officials weaponized intimidation against her to shut down her voice. • Rape culture in action: what happens when a small-town political ecosystem decides that a man’s reputation is worth more than a woman’s truth. • Healing, advocacy, and finding purpose: how Anne turned her pain into public testimony, activism, and a platform for educating others about accountability and survivor protection. My Personal Reflection I want to acknowledge Anne Marie’s courage. What she carried for three decades would have broken many people. Yet she continues to speak out with clarity, strength, and conviction, not just for herself but for every survivor who has been told to stay quiet. Listening to Anne Marie share her story so openly, and hearing the resilience and emotional labor it took to put her truth into the public square, is proof that SASS is a platform is for victims and survivors to be able to further their pursuit of justice and the commitment to normalize the conversation. Anne Marie’s experience is not just recounting a traumatic event—she’s exposing the machinery that keeps perpetrators safe and survivors silent. I’m grateful Anne chose to trust me with her story. I’m grateful my listeners get to learn from her, feel with her, and rethink what accountability truly looks like. And I’m truly proud to have had her on this show. Audience Takeaway • No survivor owes anyone immediate disclosure. Trauma rewrites the rules of time. • Anne’s experience is both a warning and a call to action. Rape culture is not theoretical—it’s lived every day in the systems that dismissed and attacked her. • If you are a survivor: you’re not alone. Your timeline is valid. Your truth is yours to tell when you are ready. • If you are part of a community, a school, a department, or a justice system: please pay attention. These patterns repeat everywhere. Silence is the abuser’s best friend. • And if you’ve ever wondered why survivors take years to speak: this episode will change the way you think about trauma forever. Anne Marie, thank you for standing up, speaking out, and refusing to keep your pain quiet. And to our SASS listeners: brace yourselves. This episode is powerful, necessary, and is one of those important conversations I regularly bring to the podcast to help normalize the conversation about rape and sexual assault. An important side note: if you’re finding value in this show and these amazing episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, follow SexualAssaultSurvivorStories on Instagram, then, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. And if you’re a victim or survivor and are ready to tell your story in order to help yourself or someone else heal, let me know, and we can start a conversation about the possibility of you being on the show. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already. Just provide me with a phone number where I can reach back out to you…because I like to talk to people who are interested in guesting. And please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! Here are some critically important links that I hope you’ll take the time to explore, and where a contribution is requested, please consider doing so! — Thank you!! As mentioned, and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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162. Dr. David Lisak, PhD: The Man Who Shaped My Work — Sharing Science, Wisdom, and Hope
11/04/2025
162. Dr. David Lisak, PhD: The Man Who Shaped My Work — Sharing Science, Wisdom, and Hope
I’m so honored to share this week’s episode of The SASS Podcast with someone who is far more than a guest—he’s a mentor, a guiding light, and a dear friend: Dr. David Lisak, PhD. I’ve personally known David since 1992, when I met him at a training conference where we were both teaching on rape and sexual assault investigations. From those early days of my journey into trauma-informed investigations, inspired by David, he set the bar for what rigorous, compassionate, science-based work looks like. I’m grateful every day that our paths crossed. Who is David Lisak? David is a clinical and forensic psychologist whose career has been defined by an extraordinary depth of research into interpersonal violence, sexual assault, and the long-term impact of childhood abuse—especially in men. () He earned his PhD from Duke University and later served as Associate Professor of Psychology at University of Massachusetts Boston. () His research includes seminal work on so-called “undetected rapists” — men who committed sexual assault but were never prosecuted — helping shift how the criminal justice system and institutions think about serial offending and victim vulnerability. () He is a founding board member of 1in6 — a nonprofit dedicated to supporting male survivors of childhood sexual abuse and trauma. () David’s work has had real-world reach: trainings across every U.S. state, consultation with the military, and involvement in major judicial and prosecutorial education efforts on sexual assault. () On a personal level, David is himself a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. He turned that lived wound into a mission: to break silence, deepen understanding, and empower both survivors and the professionals who serve them. () Why I Asked David to Be on the Show Because when I think about trauma-informed interviewing, especially in the sexual assault realm, nobody blends the neuroscience, the forensic rigor, the interviewing technique, and the survivor-centered ethos quite like David. Because I’ve seen firsthand how he mentors (me and others) with humility, curiosity, and a deep commitment to doing no additional harm. Because our book and masterclass work (on trauma-informed investigations) simply wouldn’t be as strong without grounding from his research and example. Because the connection is personal. As someone in this field, you hope for a few mentors who walk the talk. David is one of those. I’m deeply honoured to have him here, and I want our audience to know just how lucky we are to learn alongside him. What We’ll Explore in This Episode The neuroscience of trauma in sexual assault: what happens in the brain and how knowing that changes how we interview survivors. The dynamics of perpetration: David’s research on serial offenders, undetected rapists, and how institutions often miss the patterns. Interviewing victims without retraumatizing: practical tactics, grounded in empathy, science, and the deep lessons David has gleaned over decades. What it means to bring a trauma-informed lens into the criminal justice system: both the opportunities and the hard realities. David’s personal journey: how his own survival informed his work, and how hope and resilience can coexist with the gravity of this subject. Some Notable Highlights & Quotes In one of his foundational works, David describes the paradox-that despite sexual assault being treated as one of the most serious crimes, the vast majority of rapes are never prosecuted—and the myths around victim behavior and perpetrator profile still linger. () His 2002 study, “Repeat Rape and Multiple Offending Among Undetected Rapists”, revealed very sobering statistics: among a sample of men who had self-reported acts meeting the legal definition of rape, the average number of rapes per offender was roughly six. () David is quoted in a military base article saying: “Sexual violence is a global problem. It affects every institution and community. The only question: Is it confronted with honesty and commitment?” () From his story on 1in6: “He turned from farming to psychology… He transformed his early traumatic experiences into a career of research and clinical work, focused on trauma.” () My Personal Reflection David, I want to say directly: your friendship, your mentorship, your unwavering standard have meant more to me than I can adequately express in these notes. You have modeled for me what it means to combine rigorous science with deep compassion; to enter the “hard space” of sexual assault investigation without turning away; to always center the survivor’s lived experience while equipping professionals with clear, actionable insight. Having you on the SASS Podcast feels like coming full circle. I’m proud, humbled, and ready to dive deep with you. Audience Takeaway (for them to remember) Think of this not just as a “talk episode” but as an opportunity: with David here, you’ll be challenged to think differently about trauma, interviewing, and systems of response. If you work in criminal justice, victim advocacy, forensic interviewing—or even just care deeply about supporting survivors—tune in with a notebook handy. David brings insights you’ll want to capture. And if you’re a survivor or know one: you’ll hear someone who both understands the science and honors the person behind the trauma. That combination is rare—and precious. Thank you, David, for accepting my invitation, for journeying with me into this space, and for being the kind of mentor I’ve aspired to be like. And to our listeners: brace yourselves for one of the richest conversations we’ve had on The SASS Podcast. An important side note: if you’re finding value in this show and these amazing episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, follow SexualAssaultSurvivorStories on Instagram, then, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. And if you’re a victim or survivor and are ready to tell your story in order to help yourself or someone else heal, let me know, and we can start a conversation about the possibility of you being on the show. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already. Just provide me with a phone number where I can reach back out to you…because I like to talk to people who are interested in guesting. And please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! Here are some critically important links that I hope you’ll take the time to explore, and where a contribution is requested, please consider doing so!—Thank you!! As mentioned, and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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161. Diane: Fighting for Justice for Almost 50 Years…Because It’s That Important!
10/28/2025
161. Diane: Fighting for Justice for Almost 50 Years…Because It’s That Important!
I had a SASS listener reach out to me a few months ago via email. It was a short email, but it sure got my attention. The writer, Diane, told me that she had been listening to SASS for a while, and that she was very appreciative of the show, as she is a survivor of military sexual assault (MSA) from almost 50 years ago. She also told me she had sent me a large envelope of important information about her case…certified, return receipt. That’ll peak you’re curiosity! I did get a large envelope a few days later. It was a pretty full, 9x12 , mailing envelope, full of documents—letters, law enforcement reports, a narrative of Diane’s story—enough to keep me reading for about an hour. And what I read was both horrific and miserable information, but frustrating and compelling at the same time. It was a compilation of most of the work that Diane had been compiling for the past almost 50 years in order to try to get the Army to bring a retired physician back into active duty for the purpose of having him court-martialed. Can you imagine how frustrating it must feel to have your case investigated by one of this country’s foremost criminal investigation agencies, have the investigation result in being substantiated, sue the perpetrator civilly, and win, and then to have the Army’s prosecutors refuse to prosecute your case…for no particular reason other than to save face for the Army because to court-martial a retired colonel, doctor, from the Army would be embarrassing. Yeah…that’s what happened. It’s asinine; you’re gonna want to hear the story from Diane herself. So listen to this episode. Then, share it with everyone you know. Because it’s that important! An important side note: if you’re finding value in this show and these amazing episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, follow SexualAssaultSurvivorStories on Instagram, then, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. And if you’re a victim or survivor and are ready to tell your story in order to help yourself or someone else heal, let me know, and we can start a conversation about the possibility of you being on the show. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already. Just provide me with a phone number where I can reach back out to you…because I like to talk to people who are interested in guesting. And please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! Here are some critically important links that I hope you’ll take the time to explore, and where a contribution is requested, please consider doing so!—Thank you!! As mentioned, and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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160. Inside The Epstein Era: An Important Re-airing From The Jan Broberg Show
10/21/2025
160. Inside The Epstein Era: An Important Re-airing From The Jan Broberg Show
This week’s episode of Sexual Assault Survivor Stories is a powerful replay of Episode 223 from The Jan Broberg Show — an episode that I was honored to join alongside Beth Magnetic, host of the Mormon True Crime Podcast. In this deeply important conversation, Jan, Beth, and I confront one of the most disturbing and misunderstood realities of our time: how a trafficking operation like Jeffrey Epstein’s could remain functional, protected, and operational for more than four decades — despite countless victims, despite obvious warning signs, despite so many people “knowing” something was wrong. What unfolds in this conversation is not just about Epstein. It’s about the dangerous intersections of wealth, privilege, and political radicalization. It’s about the systems that hold more allegiance to influence than to justice. It’s about a culture that is quicker to protect a powerful perpetrator than to believe a terrified teenage girl. And at its center — it’s about the neuroscience of trauma. We talk honestly about why victims don’t “just come forward,” how the brain reacts to betrayal by high-trust offenders, how dissociation and freeze responses still get interpreted as “consent,” and how our culture repeatedly re-traumatizes survivors the moment they dare to speak. Jan, Beth, and I push directly into the root of this: society still does not want to look at the truth of sexual violence. Not in churches. Not in elite institutions. Not when the perpetrator has a famous last name. And that refusal to confront the truth is exactly what keeps the next Epstein alive. If we are ever going to break the cycle, we have to normalize these conversations — not in whisper rooms, not in back channels — but openly, nationally, relentlessly. That is the core mission of this podcast — to elevate the survivor’s voice, to educate the public with the neuroscience of trauma, and to help ignite a cultural change where victims are believed the first time they speak. If this episode moves you, please share it. That is how change begins — one shared truth at a time. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already; and, if you’re interested in guesting on the show, please mention that in your email or text, and provide me with a phone number where I can reach you. Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! Here are some critically important links that I hope you’ll take the time to explore, and where a contribution is requested, please consider doing so!—Thank you!! My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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159. David Wood: Searching for Answers—Finding Courage and Clarity; Part 2
10/14/2025
159. David Wood: Searching for Answers—Finding Courage and Clarity; Part 2
This is the concluding episode of David Wood’s horrific story and search for answers to his life-long confusion and turmoil. David is an Australian journalist and copywriter now based in Darwin, Northern Territory. He reached out to me by email after listening to several SASS episodes and recognizing his own story in the voices of others. I was immediately captivated by David’s email…which turned into several emails through our ongoing efforts to make this episode happen. The bumps in the road as we struggled to put this together were well worth it for me. And I think you’ll also find it well worth it to listen to David’s episodes. I won’t spend a lot of time here describing this episode…it’s something so powerful and so impactful, you’ll just have to listen to it to absorb its phenomenal importance. There is a previous SASS episode that I mentioned this week regarding Katie Stewart…if you’re interested in learning more about Katie and the interesting connections between her story and David’s, it is Episode 35. I also mentioned two books during this episode; one by Dr. Bruce Perry, and the other by concert pianist, James Rhodes. You’ll find the links to where you can purchase these books listed below. If you’re a survivor, a loved one, or a professional in the field of investigating or prosecuting sexual assault cases, this conversation is a reminder to keep looking until the story you’re told matches the truth you feel. I love how David’s through-line is simple and powerful: if the explanations you’ve been given don’t make sense, don’t stop. Keep asking better questions. Keep seeking better care. And keep choosing the kind of community that believes you, and stands with you. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already; and, if you’re interested in guesting on the show, please mention that in your email or text, and provide me with a phone number where I can reach you. Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! Here are some critically important links that I hope you’ll take the time to explore, and where a contribution is requested, please consider doing so!—Thank you!! (Instrumental: A Memoir of Madness, Medication, and Music by James Rhodes, Amazon.com) (The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, by Dr. Bruce Perry, Amazon.com) (Kennedy Alley: A 100 Mile Journey; GoFundMe link) (Amazon link to I, Sean/a) (SASS Episode 35, on Spotify) My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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158. David Wood: Searching for Answers—Finding Courage and Clarity; Part 1
10/07/2025
158. David Wood: Searching for Answers—Finding Courage and Clarity; Part 1
David Wood—an Australian journalist and copywriter now based in Darwin—reached out to me after listening to SASS and recognizing his own story in the voices of others. I was immediately captivated by David’s email…which turned into several emails through our ongoing efforts to make this episode happen. The bumps in the road as we struggled to put this together were well worth it for me. And, I think you’ll also find it well worth it to listen to David’s episodes. As you’ll hear, David, with his ample talent articulating his experiences (which I attribute this to his expert abilities as an experienced professional writer), paints a vivid picture of life in the Northern Territory—crocodiles, cyclones, cattle stations (what we in America call ranches), and monsoonal rains—then opens the door to the harder terrain he’s had to cross: decades of depression, shame, and a long search for what was really happening beneath the surface. David’s life was shaped by early childhood and adolescent pressure to fit a role, the silence of an emotionally constricted household, and the slow, eventual, collapse that followed: failing out of school, drinking to cope, and repeatedly trying to rebuild. He shares how journalism became both a refuge and a battleground—holding power to account in a frontier city while privately fighting to get out of bed, to think clearly, to simply function. Along the way David describes the independent newspaper company he worked for that took on government blacklisting, the stories that toppled leaders, and the cost of doing that work when your nervous system is already on fire. David’s story is not a neat “treatment plan,” but a messy, honest, human journey: forty mental-health professionals, trials that didn’t help, medications with harmful tradeoffs, and the painful realization that many answers he’d been given didn’t fit his lived reality. David lived through the humiliation of being labeled “treatment-resistant,” the limits of purely cognitive fixes, and the experiences of meditation, a different kind of therapeutic relationship, and a commitment to stop turning away from pain began to move the needle. From my lens, David makes a compelling case for seeing depression and anxiety not as character flaws, but as signals—rooted in love withheld, in stories untold, and in bodies that learned to survive more than they could name. I am particularly appreciative of how David describes how memory works when trauma muddies the timeline, and why shame can masquerade as consent to a life you never chose. But even more amazing is his realization of how a witness—someone who sees you—can become the hinge on which healing turns. David doesn’t glamorize suffering; he demystifies it for us. And while doing so, he gives amazing language to what so many male survivors carry in silence: the pressure to perform, the terror of feeling, and the hope that returns—slowly—when you refuse to abandon yourself. If you’re a survivor, a loved one, or a professional, this conversation is a reminder to keep looking until the story you’re told matches the truth you feel. I love how David’s through-line is simple and powerful: if the explanations you’ve been given don’t make sense, don’t stop. Keep asking better questions. Keep seeking better care. And keep choosing the kind of community that believes you, and stands with you. Make sure you tune in next week for Part 2! It’s a power culmination of the grit of human pain and healing. You don’t want to miss it!! An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already; and, if you’re interested in guesting on the show, please mention that in your email or text, and provide me with a phone number where I can reach you. Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! Here are some critically important links that I hope you’ll take the time to explore, and where a contribution is requested, please consider doing so!—Thank you!! (Kennedy Alley: A 100 Mile Journey; GoFundMe link) (Amazon link to I, Sean/a) My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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157. Dr. Kirsten Harrison: I, Sean/a and Perspectives That Break the Silence
09/30/2025
157. Dr. Kirsten Harrison: I, Sean/a and Perspectives That Break the Silence
I had an instant connection with Kirsten Harrison…we had a “vetting” phone call several weeks before we recorded her episode, and I truly wish I had recorded that conversation and made it a part of this weeks’ episode so that you could actually hear that connection! Kirsten and her work are truly inspiring and captivating. Read on, if you would: Dr. Kirsten Harrison has dedicated her career to understanding trauma and guiding survivors through some of life’s most difficult psychological and spiritual transitions. With research experience at the UCLA Neuropsychiatric Institute and advanced studies at Georgetown, Pepperdine, and Harvard Medical School, Dr. Harrison brings a wealth of knowledge and clinical skill to her work. Yet, as she shares in this episode, it is the lived experiences of her clients — their creativity, resilience, and will to survive — that have most profoundly shaped her philosophy and practice. As we talked, Kirsten took the conversation deep into the realities of trauma treatment, including her decades of work with PTSD, dissociation, and near-death experiences. She told me not only about her clinical insight and practices, but also her striking view of humanity, and her approach to healing, emphasizing that it is never linear, nor is it confined to a single framework. Instead, it is forged in the bravery of those willing to confront their trauma and fight for their own transformation. A central part of our discussion centered on her groundbreaking book, I, Sean/a: The Story of a Homeless Intersex Woman Who Inspired a Community. Co-authored with Sean/a Smith, the book chronicles the life of an intersex woman living with schizophrenia who endured nearly two decades of homelessness yet never lost her voice or her hope. Through Sean/a’s story, Dr. Harrison exposes the failures of outdated medical practices, the destructive force of stigma, and the radical resilience it takes to survive and inspire change. This episode is an invitation to see trauma, healing, and identity through a wider lens. Dr. Harrison’s wisdom and candor challenge us all to confront hard truths while also offering a vision of what is possible when compassion and science meet in service of dignity and justice. I truly hope to continue working with Dr. Harrison on widening both of our platforms! An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already; and, if you’re interested in guesting on the show, please mention that in your email or text, and provide me with a phone number where I can reach you. Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! Here are some critically important links that I hope you’ll take the time to explore, and where a contribution is requested, please consider doing so!—Thank you!! (Kennedy Alley: A 100 Mile Journey; GoFundMe link) (Amazon link to I, Sean/a) My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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156. Kennedy Alley: A 100 Mile Journey
09/24/2025
156. Kennedy Alley: A 100 Mile Journey
156. Kennedy Alley: A 100 Mile Journey This says it all:
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155. Amanda Carrasco: Losing Everything, Finding Strength, and Becoming the Brave One
09/16/2025
155. Amanda Carrasco: Losing Everything, Finding Strength, and Becoming the Brave One
This captivating episode features Amanda Carrasco, also known as Amanda The Brave One, author of Becoming the Brave One; My Journey to Justice. Amanda’s story is one of unimaginable trauma and extraordinary resilience. She endured horrific sexual assaults and, while out of her home, suffered the devastating loss of her immediate family at the hands of another family member. Yet rather than allowing her trauma to define her, Amanda transformed her experiences into a platform for healing, education, and advocacy—helping survivors and professionals alike understand the realities of trauma and the critical importance of being seen, heard, and believed. In this episode, Amanda shares her journey with raw honesty and fearless transparency. She talks about the challenges of navigating the aftermath of assault, the systemic failures survivors often face, and the personal strength required to reclaim one’s life. Her story is a powerful reminder that even in the darkest circumstances, courage and resilience can create change—not only in one’s own life, but in the lives of others. This is an episode that will challenge, inspire, and leave listeners reflecting on how they can better support survivors in their communities. Get her book wherever you buy your books. Including online at Amazon. And share it. Everybody should read this book! The link is provided below. And here’s an important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already; and, if you’re interested in guesting on the show, please mention that in your email or text, and provide me with a phone number where I can reach you. Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! Here are some important links to learning more about Amanda and reaching out to her if you want to make a connection with her. And remember, buy her book! My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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154. Caroline Markel: Big Changes Are Coming! What’s Next for Safe in Harm’s Way
09/09/2025
154. Caroline Markel: Big Changes Are Coming! What’s Next for Safe in Harm’s Way
It’s finally happened!!--I’m honored to welcome back Caroline Markel, Founder and CEO of Safe in Harm’s Way, for an in-depth conversation that’s both exciting and, yes!...exclusive! Over the past two-and-a-half years, Caroline and her organization have been evolving in significant ways, and this episode offers a rare, behind-the-scenes look at the changes, developments, and forward-thinking initiatives that few people outside her immediate circle have been privy to. In this episode, Caroline shares her perspectives with openness and transparency, discussing not only what has changed with Safe in Harm’s Way but also the plans for the future that are poised to make a real impact in the world of rape and sexual assault advocacy. Her insights and strategies highlight the importance of proactive, survivor-focused approaches to justice, and the conversation is packed with actionable ideas and hope for victims and survivors. Listening to Caroline’s vision for the organization is both inspiring and energizing, giving us a glimpse of what’s to come and the difference one dedicated advocate can make. I want to extend my deepest gratitude to Caroline for joining me once again and for providing such an informative and impactful discussion. The work she and Safe in Harm’s Way are doing is critically important, and the implementation of these forthcoming changes promises to bring even more tangible support and justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. Her commitment, foresight, and passion are genuinely admirable. It’s why she’s on this show so frequently! For my listeners, I hope this episode leaves you with not only a sense of excitement about Caroline’s plans but also a renewed sense of the power that advocacy and action can have in the lives of survivors. Sharing this episode helps amplify these important conversations, supports the critical work of Safe in Harm’s Way, and contributes to the ongoing effort to normalize the conversation around sexual assault and rape. Every donation and share strengthens the ability of organizations like Safe in Harm’s Way to make a lasting impact and bring justice to those who need it most. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already; and, if you’re interested in guesting on the show, please mention that in your email or text, and provide me with a phone number where I can reach you. Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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153. Pastor Michael Neely: ‘Till Death Do Us Part’ Almost Killed Him—Now He Fights for Survivors
09/02/2025
153. Pastor Michael Neely: ‘Till Death Do Us Part’ Almost Killed Him—Now He Fights for Survivors
This week I had the privilege and pleasure of talking with Pastor Michael Neely, a man whose faith, courage, and resilience were tested in living his own personal marriage; that 15-year marriage nearly cost him his life. Michael now channels his pain into advocacy and works to turn churches into safe spaces and mentoring victims who once felt voiceless. And the really awesome part of all of this to me, is that his story is real, raw, gripping, and completely relevant to everything this podcast is about—and it will challenge everything you think you know about abuse, faith, and healing. I’m not going to give away anymore about this episode in these notes. Just know that the episode is worth your time to give it a listen. Additionally, I want to encourage you to put Michael’s book on your reading list: Black Eyes and Sweet Talk: A Biblical Perspective on Domestic Violence. Here’s the link: You can also reach out to Pastor Michael through his website: or through LinkedIn: An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already; and, if you’re interested in guesting on the show, please mention that in your email or text, and provide me with a phone number where I can reach you. Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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152. Johnny Braun: What the World Refuses to See About Male Survivors
08/26/2025
152. Johnny Braun: What the World Refuses to See About Male Survivors
It was an amazing day for me when Johnny Braun sent me a DM on Instagram. It was short, it was succinct, and it made me want to talk to him. Here’s what he said: “Hey there Dave, if you’re looking for another person to be on your podcast, I’d like to be on an episode. I experienced childhood sexual abuse.” That was it…that’s what started an amazing conversation, and my decision to have him as a guest today. I could go on and on about how amazing I know Johnny is. But I think he would rather I tell you about what I know about male sexual assault as a “thing” that needs to be talked about more; because Johnny agrees with me: we need to normalize this conversation. So, here’s my short version of what needs to be said, and read, and heard, about male sexual assault and rape: Sexual assault is often framed in most public discourse as an experience primarily affecting women, which is good and appropriate in a certain lens. But the reality is that men and boys are also profoundly impacted by these crimes—unfortunately, their stories remain drastically underreported and underrecognized. Here’s a stat that should shock you: according to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN), approximately 1 in 6 men in the United States have experienced some form of sexual assault in their lifetime. While female victims often receive the bulk of media attention and resources, male survivors face unique challenges, including societal stigma, shame, and cultural expectations about masculinity that can discourage reporting or seeking help. Johnny knows this personally…all too well. You’ll hear him talk about it. When we focus specifically on childhood sexual assault, the numbers are equally sobering…or better put: shocking. Studies indicate that roughly 1 in 6 boys will experience sexual abuse before the age of 18. These assaults frequently occur in settings where trust is expected—by family members, coaches, teachers, or other authority figures—and often go unreported for years. Male survivors of childhood sexual abuse are at increased risk of long-term emotional, psychological, and physical consequences, including depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress, substance misuse, and difficulties with relationships and sexual identity. All of which, again, Johnny talks about. Despite these alarming statistics, male victims—especially boys—remain largely invisible in conversations about sexual violence. Cultural myths that men cannot be victims, or that male survivors should “tough it out,” do nothing to help, but actually add to the systemic underreporting dilemma. Data from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center shows that only about 1 in 10 male survivors report their assault to law enforcement, compared with 1 in 3 female survivors. This silence is not a reflection of their experiences being less real or less impactful—it is a reflection of societal barriers that must be dismantled. By acknowledging, amplifying, and normalizing male survivors’ voices, we can create a safer, more trauma-informed space where all survivors—regardless of gender—are believed, supported, and empowered to heal. And that’s another step toward crushing rape culture in our society. Johnny wants his story to be a part of that step. Don’t skip this episode. Thank you, Johnny, for your strength in reaching out to me, and for being a guest with me on this show. For those of you who want to take Johnny up on his invitation to reach out to him and start a connection, DM him on Instagram. He’s at: itsjohnnybraun An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already; and, if you’re interested in guesting on the show, please mention that in your email or text, and provide me with a phone number where I can reach you. Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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151. C Kimberly Toms: From Victimization to Voice—Changing the System
08/19/2025
151. C Kimberly Toms: From Victimization to Voice—Changing the System
151. C Kimberly Toms: From Victimization to Voice—Changing the System C Kimberly Toms. She’s a survivor of rape and attempted murder, a filmmaker, writer, and business consultant. In 2013, a hopeful job move to Milwaukee turned into a harrowing ordeal when she was raped and stalked by a U.S. Department of State special agent who eventually also attempted to murder her. For the last 12 years, Kimberly has endured relentless trauma, systemic failures, and intimidation. The absolutely worst experiences, however, inspired advocacy; Kimberly created her documentary Escaping Fed and founded Not Just One, an organization dedicated to empowering survivors and driving systemic change. In this episode, Kimberly bravely and openly shares her journey of rape, survival, resilience, and transformation, highlighting the challenges survivors face and the urgent need for justice system reform. Her story is both deeply personal and profoundly instructive—a testament to courage, advocacy, and the power of speaking out. Kimberly is truly one of us whose goal is to Normalize the Conversation!™ Kimberly encourages my listeners to reach out to her, for a couple of reasons: first, she is asking for feedback on her story and the opportunity to support each other, which is always welcome. Secondly, if you’re a victim or survivor of rape or sexual assault and you want to share your story as part of Kimberly’s support community, go to the Not Just One website, and contact her! The website URL is listed below. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support! I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already; and, if you’re interested in guesting on the show, please mention that in your email or text, and provide me with a phone number where I can reach you. Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about: My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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150. Whitney Vergés: Breaking Barriers in the Sex Industry
08/12/2025
150. Whitney Vergés: Breaking Barriers in the Sex Industry
The importance of this podcast includes the critical component of continuing to amplify the voices of those who've survived the unimaginable. This week, the show marks a significant milestone—Episode 150—and it’s only fitting that I have a truly monumental guest, Whitney Vergés. Whitney’s story is one of incredible courage as she bravely shares her experience of being drugged and raped. But what makes her journey even more powerful is the context surrounding her assault. Whitney, who has worked in the adult entertainment industry as both a stripper and the manager of the strip club, is the first sex worker to share her story on the Sexual Assault Survivor Stories platform. The stigma and victim-blaming that individuals in the sex industry face often silence them, but Whitney’s decision to break that silence speaks volumes. She chose to be here today, sharing her truth, and I am deeply honored to give her the platform to do so. Whitney’s hesitation in coming forward was rooted in a fear of judgment, but hearing the stories of others on the SASS Podcast helped her find the courage to step up and speak out. She reflects on how often those in the sex industry are marginalized, making their voices harder to hear. Her raw and vulnerable testimony is a game-changer; one that will resonate with many listeners who may have felt isolated or silenced by societal shame. It’s a reminder of the profound impact of sharing our stories—of breaking down barriers, shattering stigmas, and embracing the power of truth. All of this is vitally important to normalizing the conversation, to which Whitney is dedicated! My deepest thanks go to Whitney for her incredible bravery. Not only is she sharing her own pain, but she is also channeling that pain into a mission to help others. Whitney is working towards opening a shelter home for victims and survivors of sexual assault, providing a safe space for healing. Her resilience and commitment to helping others heal is truly inspiring, and I have no doubt that her story will leave a lasting imprint on all who listen. Thank you, Whitney, for your strength, your heart, and your willingness to be here today. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already; and, if you’re interested in guesting on the show, please mention that in your email or text, and provide me with a phone number where I can reach you. Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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149. Ariel Sorensen: Surviving Sexual Assault and Navigating Justice Abroad
08/05/2025
149. Ariel Sorensen: Surviving Sexual Assault and Navigating Justice Abroad
Ariel Sorensen reached deep inside herself to muster the strength and fortitude to reach out to me to find out if she could share her gripping and harrowing tale of her rape and sexual assault during what was supposed to be the trip of a lifetime to South Africa. Ariel and her male companion, strangers in a foreign land, were offered nightly accommodations by an elderly couple they had just met. The couple’s generous offer seemed harmless at first, but as Ariel recounts, it was part of a carefully orchestrated manipulation. Things got worse when she was invited to stay in a separate bedroom from her friend, a decision that, in hindsight, proved to be catastrophic. Ariel’s is a story of trust betrayed: revealing the devastating reality that grooming tactics aren’t just used on children—they can be directed at adults as well. Ariel’s narrative goes beyond the details of the assault itself, exposing us to her emotional aftermath and the challenges of navigating a foreign justice system. She bravely describes the complexities she faced while reporting the crime in South Africa, highlighting the systemic obstacles that many survivors encounter when seeking justice abroad. One of the most impressive elements of Ariel's experience is that she advocated for herself in ways she herself wasn’t even aware she could! And Ariels is another prime example of why I continually emphasize the need for trauma-informed care in these situations, as well as the vital role of support systems in helping survivors begin their healing journey. Throughout this episode, Ariel emphasizes how her story can help others who may have suffered similar experiences. She also shares her thoughts on the importance of raising awareness about grooming tactics and the ways perpetrators manipulate their victims. As Ariel explains, understanding these behaviors is crucial in preventing future assaults and empowering individuals to recognize when they are being manipulated. Plus, her insights into the South African criminal justice system and the healing process offer invaluable lessons not only for survivors but for anyone looking to better understand the complexities of sexual violence. This is an episode full of learning points…start to finish! Ariel's bravery in sharing this painful chapter of her life speaks volumes about the resilience of survivors. Her story shines a light on the emotional, legal, and societal challenges that come with surviving sexual assault, while offering hope and healing to those who have faced similar struggles. I am super-impressed with Ariel’s compelling and courageous account; it’s prime example of from her journey toward justice and healing, and she joins me in the mission of normalizing the conversation. And she’s an awesome example of someone who found out what can happen when you’re a victim or survivor of rape or sexual assault and you reach out to me for a platform to tell your story. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already!! Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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148. Dave Markel: Reflections and Impacts
07/29/2025
148. Dave Markel: Reflections and Impacts
148. Dave Markel: Reflections and Impacts This week, since there’s not guest again, I want to take a moment to reflect on the growth and impact of the podcast. I am deeply grateful for the unwavering support from all my listeners, whose commitment has fueled the show's success and exponential growth. Whether long-time listeners or relatively new to the show, your passion and dedication are what have made SASS what it is today. I also want to emphasize the importance of normalizing the conversation around rape and sexual assault. By creating a safe space for survivors to share their stories, SASS works to remove the stigma and silence that too often surrounds sexual violence. This episode highlights the vital role that all of you play in breaking down barriers, supporting healing journeys, and fostering an environment where these difficult topics can be openly discussed without shame or judgment. Finally, I discuss the significance of becoming trauma-informed, not just for professionals, but for everyone. Understanding the effects of trauma—whether in the workplace, at home, or in our communities—is essential in offering empathy and support. As always, I want to encourage you to continue sharing the podcast to help spread awareness, normalize these crucial conversations, and ensure no survivor feels alone. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already!! Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: As mentioned and emphasized, it’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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147. A Repeat of Episode 43: Cashaye Barrera—An Episode Worth Hearing Again!
07/22/2025
147. A Repeat of Episode 43: Cashaye Barrera—An Episode Worth Hearing Again!
147. A Repeat of Episode 43: Cashaye Barrera—An Episode Worth Hearing Again! Sometimes life throws us a curve ball when we least expect it, and it changes the trajectory of the path we were on. That’s what happened this week when a guest who was scheduled to record with me had some unexpected events thwart our scheduled appointment and we weren’t able to record. So, I made the decision to do something I have yet to do on this podcast, and that is to repeat a past episode. It didn’t take me anytime at all to decide which one: you are about to hear Episode 43 again: my adopted daughter, Cashaye Barrera. Cashaye’s extreme courage and strength in telling her survivor story is evident and powerful, and I’m honored to be able to have you listen to this again. Please take the time to not only listen to this repeat episode, but also to re-read the notes I wrote for Episode 43: This week, I made a special request to my daughter, Cashaye Barrera, to be a guest with me on this show. I was pretty sure she would agree to do this…and she did. My confidence in her response was due in part to me knowing how passionate she is about getting justice for herself…in every legal, non-violent way possible. And because I know what a tenacious and strong personality she is when she’s fighting for herself and for those she loves and cares for…like, her family. But mostly because she is passionate about helping others. Especially others that are suffering in ways she can relate to…like other victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. Cashaye’s sexual assault case wasn’t taken seriously when it was reported to law enforcement. Even though she was able to present physical evidence that she was raped, the agency handling the case, along with the prosecutor’s office, was much more interested in giving the benefit of the doubt to the suspect than to Cashaye; to believe his untruthful explanation for the existence of his semen on Cashaye’s clothing, rather than her report of incestuous and forceful rape. This is, for the most part, across most of this country, sadly, standard operating procedure. Part of this standard, this common response among law enforcement and prosecutors, is the systemic disbelief of victims. And another huge component to the problem is blaming the victim. And while Cashaye is one of the fortunate ones that did not end up being arrested herself for false reporting, she was certainly not believed, and was told by law enforcement that she should listen to and obey the very person that raped her, and that person’s wife who knew the sexual assault was occurring, who were Cashaye’s foster parents. Why is this process of disbelief, blaming, shaming, of victims, and the closure of rape and sexual assault cases without the perpetrators of these crimes being so much as confrontationally questioned about the report, let alone thoroughly investigated, so rampant, so systemic? Because…it’s easier to not believe reports of sexual assault and rape than it is to believe these reports. It’s easier because our human brains don’t like to face the malevolence, the discomfort, the taboo, the ugliness, the messiness, the vulgarness…of rape. And because some men and women who investigate rape and sexual assault cases don’t like the idea that what they do, sexually, in their own personal sex lives, could very well be construed as rape or sexual assault. It’s easier to disbelieve victims; to blame victims; to shame victims, and to get them to recant their report. If you don’t believe me, watch the independent film, Victim/Suspect, streaming on Netflix. Then read Cry Rape: The True Story of One Woman’s Quest for Justice, by Bill Lueders. Then read Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town. And read Know My Name, by Chanel Miller Then read Dr. David Lisak’s research on The Undetected Rapist. Then watch The Invisible War documentary about the prevalence of rape in the military by Kirby Dick, Amy Ziering, and Tanner King Barklow. Things need to change…big time. Be a part of that change: Start by Believing. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already!! Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: It’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in.
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146. Jessica Pride & Verna Griffin-Tabor: Co-Founders of Sirona Healing Center
07/15/2025
146. Jessica Pride & Verna Griffin-Tabor: Co-Founders of Sirona Healing Center
Welcome to Episode 146. It’s an honor and pleasure to introduce you to Sirona Healing Center of San Diego, CA. This episode features the two co-founders of Sirona, Jessica (Jess) Pride and Verna (Vee) Griffin-Tabor. Jess’s name may sound familiar to some of you who’ve been long-time listeners to SASS…she was my guest on Episode 44, in August, 2023. The reason I’m featuring Sirona Healing Center this week is two-fold: first, it’s a pleasure to have Jessica Pride back as a guest this week. Secondly, I am always pleased to present avenues of support and healing that my audience may be able to access to help them on their healing journey. And, after talking with Jessica about her plan to open this type of facility, even 2 years aga when I met up with Jess at the End Violence Against Women-International annual conference in San Diego, I was excited to hear that she had accomplished this dream of hers. So, I wanted to make you aware of this avenue of potential support and healing. This episode is an additional avenue for you to learn about Sirona, what they offer, and what they plan to offer in the future. To contact Sirona Healing Center, check out their website at: Or, call them direct at: 858-304-HEAL (4325) Thank you for tuning in to this very important episode. Please share it with everyone you know…it’s important enough to get the word out, because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. And, that’s also a good reason to Start by Believing! (Check out the EVAWI website!) An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already!! Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: It’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Here’s just a small portion of the Sirona Healing Center launch announcement.
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145. Summer Heat: A Strength Compilation
07/08/2025
145. Summer Heat: A Strength Compilation
Welcome to Episode 145 of Sexual Assault Survivor Stories. It’s hard to believe, but the year is already half gone!...WoW! By way of celebrating this half-way point of this year’s shows, I wanted to provide a compilation of a few of the powerful, brave, survivors who have guested on this show. I picked out some of the more gripping and impressionable portions of these lady’s interviews as a reminder of how powerful these women are, and as a prod to nudge you to go listen to the episodes if you haven’t already, or to re-listen if you have! These are worth your time! An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already!! Please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: It’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault.
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144. Alan Manwaring: This is Just a Teaser on Strength, Resilience, and the Road to Healing
07/01/2025
144. Alan Manwaring: This is Just a Teaser on Strength, Resilience, and the Road to Healing
Welcome to Episode 144 of Sexual Assault Survivor Stories. This is just a short teaser…something to get you prepared for a much longer, intensive interview that will be airing in just a few weeks. Alan has been on the show four times previous to this episode…and the one that’s coming up will be his sixth! He’s worth listening to! In today's episode, Alan discusses the challenges he's faced and the progress he's witnessed in raising awareness and support for survivors. We explore his advocacy work, his reflections on healing, and the ongoing journey towards justice and understanding. Alan's perspective is a reminder of the strength within survivors and the importance of community support. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: It’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault.
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143. Becky Nulle: From Trafficked to Triumph; A Story of Survival and Healing
06/24/2025
143. Becky Nulle: From Trafficked to Triumph; A Story of Survival and Healing
This is an episode of massive importance. My deepest thanks to my guest, Becky Nulle, who endured horrific experiences of rape and sexual assault from multiple perpetrators, one of which was the Deputy Superintendent of Chicago Schools, James Moffat, in the late 70’s and early 80’s. Becky was one of 5 victims that suffered rape and sexual assault from Moffat who was finally charged and prosecuted in the mid-80’s. But Becky’s story starts with parents who, as she puts it, were neglectful. Becky was victimized by bullies at school, vulnerable, and easy prey to “Darrel” who promised her protection but became her first sexual abuser. He was also the person who trafficked Becky to Moffat. And then, as a result of Becky searching for safety and connection, she fell victim to several other adults who took advantage of Becky’s vulnerability and exposure on the streets of Chicago. This story is tragic…and yet triumphant. Because Becky sought out help and healing. And found it through her therapist, Jan Spangler, who introduced Becky to brainspotting, a very effective trauma therapy method, according to Becky. She says that brainspotting saved her life, helping her recognize and deal with her hidden traumas, saved her marriage, and provided her with the ability to pursue her bachelor’s degree, as well as the pathway of writing a book. The book is Anger, Alcohol, and Healing through Brainspotting, now available for pre-release ordering. ( Becky also provided me with a brief bio that I want to include: Becky Nulle is a soon to be published author and a volunteer who helps the Hmong community in Northern Wisconsin. She is a Sexual Assault/Rape Survivor of James Moffat, a powerful man who was second in charge of the Chicago Public School System at one time. Becky is married, has a Doberman and eight ducks. She is currently working on her Bachelors Degree in Communications. This is an episode that you’ll not want to miss. And I encourage you to copy the link to this episode and share it with family, friends, and acquaintances. The impact will help bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault, and help educate those who listen in. And, it may just save someone’s life. This episode is filled with substance, reflection, and a deep commitment to the healing process. It’s a powerful reminder that survivor stories don’t stop when the episode is over—and that advocacy can take many forms, including quiet reflection. This one is for every voice that hasn’t been heard yet—and every listener who’s ready to believe, support, and speak up. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Additional links that are specific to this episode are: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address:
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142. Dave Markel: A Not So Empty Week—The Mission Continues
06/17/2025
142. Dave Markel: A Not So Empty Week—The Mission Continues
In this solo episode of Sexual Assault Survivor Stories (The SASS Podcast), host Dave Markel takes the mic alone to deliver a powerful, reflective, and informative monologue. While there’s no guest again this week, the episode is anything but empty. Instead, it offers a thoughtful exploration of recent survivor stories making headlines, along with an in-depth look at survivor-led advocacy, cultural change, and resources for healing. Dave begins by spotlighting three courageous individuals: Alex Cooper, host of Call Her Daddy, who recently spoke out about the harassment she endured as a Division I athlete at Boston University; Tina Johnson, a Roy Moore accuser whose home was destroyed under suspicious circumstances after she came forward; and Nicky Campbell, a UK broadcaster whose disclosure of childhood abuse sparked a wave of similar testimonies from others silenced for decades. Each of these stories reveals the complex layers of trauma—ranging from institutional betrayal to physical triggers—and illustrates how public disclosures can ignite change and connection. The episode also honors the work of prominent survivor-advocates like Amanda Nguyen, founder of , who authored the Sexual Assault Survivors’ Rights Act (passed unanimously by Congress in 2016). Nguyen's legislation has inspired over 67 similar laws across the U.S., while her global What Were You Wearing? exhibits continue to dismantle victim-blaming narratives in powerful and public ways. Also highlighted is Chanel Miller, formerly known as “Emily Doe” in the Brock Turner case, whose viral victim impact statement and bestselling memoir, Know My Name, redefined the survivor’s voice in modern discourse. This episode closes by offering a collection of vital resources for survivors. If you or someone you know is in need of support, please reach out: · – 24/7 hotline: 800-656-HOPE · – Support specifically for male survivors · – Education and national hotline for harassment survivors · – Survivor-led legislative training and advocacy · Even without a traditional interview, this episode is filled with substance, reflection, and a deep commitment to the healing process. It’s a powerful reminder that survivor stories don’t stop when the mic does—and that advocacy can take many forms, including quiet reflection. This one is for every voice that hasn’t been heard yet—and every listener who’s ready to believe, support, and speak up. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: It’s time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault.
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141. Dave Markel: Rape Culture—My Take: What It Is and What to Do About It
06/10/2025
141. Dave Markel: Rape Culture—My Take: What It Is and What to Do About It
This week it’s just me. I want to clear up any confusion on my view of what rape culture is, and how we can do something about it. There’s a lot in here about the impact of rape culture. Please listen in! It’s time we start normalizing the conversation. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: Thank you for joining us for this important conversation. Remember, believing and supporting survivors is a crucial step in bringing justice and healing.
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140. Violeta Bagia: An Author’s Bold Truth – Overcoming Trauma and Telling Her Impactful Story
06/03/2025
140. Violeta Bagia: An Author’s Bold Truth – Overcoming Trauma and Telling Her Impactful Story
Today I have the privilege of hosting Violeta Bagia, an accomplished author hailing from the vibrant landscapes of Australia. Violeta joins me to share her profound journey, intertwining her experiences as a survivor with her passion for storytelling. Her writing career, marked by a poignant blend of resilience and empathy, has captivated readers worldwide. Today, she opens up about her personal ordeal with rape and manipulation, bravely navigating the aftermath and reclaiming her narrative through prose. Born and raised in Bosnia-Herzegovina she and her mother immigrated to Germany when Violeta was a small child, then to Australia, leaving her father behind to fight in the army. It wasn’t an easy transition for Violeta. There were massive cultural changes to navigate and new languages to learn. Through all of this, she also had to endure bullying from her peers. Violeta's journey into literature began as a means of catharsis—a way to articulate the complexities of trauma and healing. Her memoir and fictional works not only resonate with authenticity but also serve as a beacon of hope for survivors seeking solace and understanding. In this episode, she reflects on the transformative power of storytelling in her own recovery journey and offers profound insights into the healing process. In this amazing and insightful interview, we delve into the broader implications of her work, discussing the societal impact of survivor stories and the evolving conversation on trauma and recovery. Her perspective is truly a pathway into the understanding of her resilience, shedding light on the intersections of creativity, advocacy, and personal empowerment. Violeta takes us on a journey of courage, compassion, and resilience. It’s an understatement when I say that her story is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the power of narrative in fostering empathy and healing. You’ve got to give this a listen! These links will get you to all things Violeta! Please take the journey of checking out all of these! Violeta’s main website : Amazon AU : Amazon US: Dragonfly Publishing: An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address: Thank you for joining us for this important conversation. Remember, believing and supporting survivors is a crucial step in bringing justice and healing.
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139. Nicole Florisi: Unwavering Dedication in the Mission to Bring Justice to Victims and Survivors
05/27/2025
139. Nicole Florisi: Unwavering Dedication in the Mission to Bring Justice to Victims and Survivors
Hi! I'm glad you're here!...this is some powerful information. When you listen to this episode, consider this: Nicole is more than just a business colleague and mutual advocate for bringing justice to victims and survivors of interpersonal violence; she is a good friend, confidant, and someone whose integrity and unwavering dedication inspire everyone around her to do better and be better, both professionally and personally. I want to tell you a little bit more about Nicole than I have in past episode notes, because who she is, and what she has accomplished, is important for you to know in understanding why I consider Nicole such an important asset to this show. Nicole Florisi is a dedicated law enforcement professional from Jerome, Arizona, with a career that spans over two decades. Her commitment to justice, education, and community well-being is truly inspiring, and it’s the kind of dedication I strive for both personally and professionally. However, Nicole has taken it even further with her impressive and multifaceted expertise, which uniquely places her at the intersection of policing, mental health, and survivor advocacy—areas where her impact is felt deeply. You’ll hear the dedication and passion in her voice as the interview goes on. Nicole's journey began in the Verde Valley region of Arizona, where she served as a police officer and later as a sergeant. She maintains her law enforcement certification and continues to serve with Jerome PD as a reserve officer. Beyond her law enforcement roles, Nicole's vision for supporting survivors led her to become the executive director of a women's shelter, where she applied her skills to advocate for and empower those affected by interpersonal violence. In a previous employment position with Virtra, Nicole authored 15 hours of curriculum for VirTra's V-VICTA® program, focusing on topics like mental illness, trauma, and crisis communication. Transitioning from frontline policing to specialized training, Nicole became a law enforcement subject matter expert and instructor with Force Science, an organization renowned for its research and training in human behavior and use-of-force science. Her work emphasizes the importance of brain fitness and resilience for first responders, integrating psychological principles into practical training to enhance decision-making and reduce harm. Impressive? Absolutely! And this is how Force Science describes Nicole: Nicole has extensive experience as an educator, police officer, and therapist. She provides front-line instruction in de-escalation, crisis communications, and force encounters investigations. With over 25 years of experience, she has held positions including communications specialist, patrol officer, patrol sergeant, investigator, and acting chief. She has held previous roles as a Law Enforcement Subject Matter Expert at and as the Executive Director for the ; a shelter dedicated to providing services for victims of sex trafficking, sexual violence, and domestic violence. Nicole is currently working on her doctorate in clinical psychology. She holds two post-master’s degrees; one in Human Factors Psychology and one in Trauma Counseling; an M.S. in Professional Counseling; and a B.S. in Public Safety Administration and Emergency Management. (Cite: ; 27 May 2025) Her academic pursuits complement her professional experience, allowing her to contribute to the development of evidence-based training programs that address the complexities of modern law enforcement encounters. Nicole's approach is grounded in scientific research, aiming to bridge the gap between theory and practice in policing. Nicole's commitment extends beyond training and education; she actively engages in initiatives that promote mental health and wellness within the law enforcement community. Her work includes teaching de-escalation techniques, crisis communication, and conducting critical incident debriefings that support officers' mental health and resilience. By fostering a culture of wellness, Nicole advocates for a paradigm shift in how law enforcement agencies approach officer well-being and community interactions. I hope this biographical information provides insight into why I regard Nicole as not only a top-tier professional and expert contributor to everything SASS represents, but also why I hold her in the highest regard both professionally and personally as a valued friend. Thank you, Nicole for guesting this week on SASS…you are truly appreciated! An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. 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138. Victor Lyons: An Approach to Trauma Recovery and a Path to Healing
05/20/2025
138. Victor Lyons: An Approach to Trauma Recovery and a Path to Healing
This episode is a deep dive into the transformative journeys of individuals making significant strides in trauma recovery and advocacy. I am finally having the opportunity to shine a spotlight on Victor Lyons, a dedicated trauma incident reduction coach whose work has reshaped the landscape of trauma recovery. Victor Lyons was introduced to me through Derrick Hurley (Episodes 125 through 128), and brings to this show a wealth of experience and expertise in his role as a trauma incident reduction coach. With a background rooted in psychology and extensive training in trauma-informed care, Victor has dedicated his career to empowering survivors of trauma, particularly those affected by sexual assault. His approach integrates evidence-based techniques with compassionate guidance, ensuring that each survivor receives personalized support on their path to healing. Central to Victor's methodology is trauma incident reduction, a nuanced therapeutic approach designed to help survivors navigate and process their traumatic experiences. Through structured sessions and empathetic listening, Victor creates a safe space where survivors can explore their emotions and confront past traumas at their own pace. His holistic approach not only addresses the immediate psychological impacts of trauma but also fosters long-term resilience and emotional well-being. Beyond his clinical practice, Victor Lyons is a passionate advocate for trauma survivors, actively engaging in public speaking and educational initiatives to raise awareness about trauma recovery and the importance of trauma-informed care. His advocacy extends to training professionals across various fields, equipping them with the tools and understanding needed to support survivors effectively. Join us as we explore Victor Lyons' profound insights and impactful contributions to the field of trauma recovery. His dedication to empowering survivors and promoting trauma-informed practices serves as a beacon of hope and healing in the international community. If you’d to learn more about Victor, or even reach out to him with the prospect of becoming a client, a TIR facilitator, or both, here are some ways to do that: WhatsApp Contact: +34 684 30 17 27 An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at, and learn more about, including a recent article about the DOJ investigation into the NYPD Special Victims Unit, mentioning Leslie McFadden from Episode 137. Please take the time to read the article…and thank you. My email address: Thank you for joining us for this important conversation. Remember, believing and supporting survivors is a crucial step in bringing justice and healing.
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137. Leslie McFadden; Part 2: A Gut Punch
05/13/2025
137. Leslie McFadden; Part 2: A Gut Punch
This is the concluding episode of Leslie McFadden’s appearance on Sexual Assault Survivor Stories. Leslie’s experience is a powerful example of the systemic issues that many survivors face. In October 2015, she was drugged and raped in Brooklyn. The last thing she remembers was drinks on Stone Street; she would wake up in a hospital many hours later, not knowing what happened. Slowly, she began to piece together that something terrible had occurred. When Leslie reported her sexual assault to the NYPD's Special Victims Unit, she faced additional trauma. One of the first questions a detective asked her was whether this was truly a case of assault or just regret. The next day, she was asked to make a controlled call to the perpetrator, during which he admitted to the assault. Immediately after, the detective presented her with a form that she was told would put her case on hold pending further evidence. Unbeknownst to her, this was actually a case closure form, which she signed while in distress. The detective never spoke to the assailant and closed the case without further investigation. Leslie's story is not unique. She became one of 19 survivors to urge the federal Department of Justice to open an investigation into how the NYPD handled sexual assault survivors and their cases. In 2022, the DOJ opened an investigation into the NYPD's Special Victims Unit to examine whether the department discriminated against sexual assault survivors when conducting their investigations. This episode is the conclusion of a two-part encounter. Leslie is an articulate, strong, and influential voice for victims and survivors everywhere; her ongoing goal is to make a lasting change in this world, to help overcome rape culture, and encourage law enforcement to become trauma-informed, empathic, and thorough in the investigation of rape and sexual assault. As I mentioned in last week’s episode, a former guest of SASS, Rachel Izzo, introduced me to Leslie. If you haven't heard Rachel Izzo's episodes, I encourage you to take the time to listen to those as well. Rachel and Leslie share similar experiences with the New York Police Department’s Special Victims Unit, and have both shown immense courage in sharing their stories. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: I truly look forward to hearing from you! Thank you again for being part of this journey with me. Don’t miss next week’s episode as I bring you another compelling and insightful guest. In the meantime, I encourage you to share this podcast with your friends, family, and colleagues. Spread the word about Sexual Assault Survivor Stories, as we continue to amplify the voices of victims and survivors, normalize the conversation, and educate the public and professionals on the importance of trauma-informed care. Together we can help reduce the prevalence of the rape culture that is rampant in our society. Subscribe and Support: Don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode of Sexual Assault Survivor Stories; and give us a five-star rating! Your support helps us continue to provide this important platform for survivors and advocates alike. I hope you will also do your part to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. You can do that by sharing this episode with others. Also, please follow the Instagram page of sexualassaultsurvivorstories. It also helps the show grow, which is what I hope to accomplish to help lessen the prevalence of rape and sexual assault, as well as the prevalence of rape culture that surrounds us all. It only takes a minute, and I truly appreciate your support. On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about, including a recent article about the DOJ investigation into the NYPD Special Victims Unit, mentioning Leslie McFadden. Please take the time to read the article…and thank you. https://risenow.us/ My email address: Thank you for joining us for this important conversation. Remember, believing and supporting survivors is a crucial step in bringing justice and healing.
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136. Leslie McFadden; Part 1: A Gut Punch
05/06/2025
136. Leslie McFadden; Part 1: A Gut Punch
Never one to pull any punches, this SASS episode is no exception. This is a full throttle, deep dive, all-in listen. A Gut Punch. Leslie McFadden’s experience is a powerful example of the systemic issues that many survivors face. In October 2015, she was drugged and raped in Brooklyn. The last thing she remembers was drinks on Stone Street; she would wake up in a hospital many hours later, not knowing what happened. Slowly, she began to piece together that something terrible had occurred. When Leslie reported the assault to the NYPD's Special Victims Unit, she faced additional trauma. One of the first questions a detective asked her was whether this was truly a case of assault or just regret. The next day, she was asked to make a controlled call to the perpetrator, during which he admitted to the assault. Immediately after, the detective presented her with a form that she was told would put her case on hold pending further evidence. Unbeknownst to her, this was actually a case closure form, which she signed while in distress. The detective never spoke to the assailant and closed the case without further investigation. Leslie's story is not unique. She became one of 19 survivors to urge the federal Department of Justice to open an investigation into how the NYPD handled sexual assault survivors and their cases. In 2022, the DOJ opened an investigation into the NYPD's Special Victims Unit to examine whether the department discriminated against sexual assault survivors when conducting their investigations. This episode is part one of a two-part encounter. In the next episode, we'll delve deeper into Leslie's journey and the problematic, systemic issues she faced within the NYPD. If you haven't heard Rachel Izzo's episodes, please take time to listen to those as well. Rachel and Leslie share similar experiences and have both shown immense courage in sharing their stories. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: I truly look forward to hearing from you! Thank you again for being part of this journey with me. Don’t miss next week’s episode as I bring you Leslie’s Part 2 episode. In the meantime, I encourage you to share this episode with your friends, family, and colleagues. Spread the word about Sexual Assault Survivor Stories, as we continue to amplify the voices of survivors and educate the public and professionals on the importance of trauma-informed care. Together we can help reduce the prevalence of the rape culture that is rampant in our society. Subscribe and Support: Don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode of Sexual Assault Survivor Stories; and, give us a five-star rating! Your support helps us continue to provide this important platform for survivors and advocates alike. I hope you will also do your part to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. You can do that by sharing this episode with others. Also, please follow the Instagram page of sexualassaultsurvivorstories. It also helps the show grow, which is what I hope to accomplish to help lessen the prevalence of rape and sexual assault, as well as the prevalence of rape culture that surrounds us all. It only takes a minute, and I truly appreciate your support. On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey. In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! And as always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about, including a recent article about the DOJ investigation into the NYPD Special Victims Unit, mentioning Leslie McFadden. Please take the time to read the article…and thank you. My email address: Thank you for joining us for this important conversation. Remember, believing and supporting survivors is a crucial step in bringing justice and healing.
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135. Lauren King and Shannon Porter: What They Don’t Say Podcast Meets Sexual Assault Survivor Stories for a Power Episode
04/30/2025
135. Lauren King and Shannon Porter: What They Don’t Say Podcast Meets Sexual Assault Survivor Stories for a Power Episode
In this powerful crossover episode, I had the fantastic fortune to join forces with the hosts of the What They Don't Say: Sexual Assault and Everything in Between podcast for a special pod-share episode. It was an incredible opportunity for all of us to come together and share our unique perspectives on the journey of healing and justice after sexual assault. I’ve been following Shannon and Lauren’s work for a while, and it was great to finally connect and collaborate. Their podcast offers such an unfiltered, raw approach to discussing trauma and healing, and this episode felt like the perfect chance to amplify that conversation. Shannon and Lauren dive deep into the realities that survivors face, from the emotional weight of trauma to the exhausting process of navigating the court system. They tackle what it really feels like to live with the aftermath of these experiences every day, and they aren’t afraid to pull back the curtain on the messy, unglamorous parts of healing. Their no-holds-barred approach makes it clear that this isn’t about sugarcoating anything—it’s about talking honestly, without filters, and giving people the space to relate to the tough moments. In this episode, we come together for a candid conversation about the challenges we’ve faced and how important it is to keep sharing these stories, even when it’s uncomfortable. We touch on the toll trauma can take on our lives and relationships, how the legal system can sometimes fail to offer the justice that survivors deserve, and the importance of community as a part of the healing process. It was truly an honor to share this unique episode with Shannon and Lauren, and I think you’ll find it’s a conversation that’s real, heartfelt, and incredibly important. Whether you're a survivor, a supporter, or someone seeking to understand more about the realities of sexual assault and healing, this episode offers valuable insights and a reminder that you're not alone. An important side note: if you’re finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can’t tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here’s my email address: I truly look forward to hearing from you! Thank you again for being part of this journey with me. Don’t miss next week’s episode as I bring you a new, compelling episode —right here on Sexual Assault Survivor Stories, the SASS Podcast. See you next week. In the meantime, we encourage you to share this episode with your friends, family, and colleagues. Spread the word about Sexual Assault Survivor Stories, as we continue to amplify the voices of survivors and educate the public and professionals on the importance of trauma-informed care. Together, we Subscribe and Support: Don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode of Sexual Assault Survivor Stories; and, give us a five-star rating! Your support helps us continue to provide this important platform for survivors and advocates alike. I hope you will also do your part to bring justice to victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault. You can do that by sharing this episode with others. Also, please follow the Instagram page of sexualassaultsurvivorstories. It also helps the show grow, which is what I hope to accomplish to help lessen the prevalence of rape and sexual assault, as well as the prevalence of rape culture that surrounds us all. It only takes a minute, and I truly appreciate your support. On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey. In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link: Thanks again for listening! And as always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you’ll take a look at and learn more about. My email address:
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