Why Intervention Podcast

The Why Intervention Podcast is aimed at helping family and friends feel supported and encouraged that recovery from addiction is possible, for themselves as well as their loved ones. Through powerful stories of recovery, expert interviews and relevant musings, families can learn just how influential love and understanding can be to get their loved ones to stop their addictive behavior and willingly accept help.

Why Your Loved One "Doesn't Want Help" and What You Can Actually Control with Ryan Soave - Episode 103 08/14/2025

Why Your Loved One "Doesn't Want Help" and What You Can Actually Control with Ryan Soave - Episode 103 Ryan Soave, LMHC, a renowned addiction treatment specialist with decades of clinical experience and his own recovery story, sits down to share the conversations that typically happen behind closed doors in treatment centers. As someone working on the front lines helping people with addictions and their families daily, Ryan brings both professional expertise and personal understanding to help families move from reactive crisis mode to intentional healing- for everyone involved. Highlights The 94.7% Reality - Understanding why most people with addiction don't perceive they need help, and how this statistic actually explains the resistance you're experiencing (it's not about you or your efforts) Motivational Interviewing for Families - How treatment professionals help people build internal motivation for change, and what families can learn about meeting their loved one where they are, not where they wish they were The Substance as Solution Perspective - Why viewing the addiction as your loved one's attempt at solving discomfort (rather than just destructive behavior) can transform your approach and reduce your frustration The Family System Impact - How addiction creates functioning patterns where everyone plays a role, and why understanding your part isn't about blame but about empowerment to create change When the "Patient" Gets Healthier Than the Family - Why families often struggle more when their loved one enters treatment, and how to prepare for and navigate this challenging but hopeful phase The Serenity Prayer in Practice - Concrete ways to identify what you can and cannot control, including how your reactions contribute to the family system's functioning Age and Responsibility Considerations - Different approaches for families dealing with a 14-year-old versus a 35-year-old, while maintaining consistent principles about boundaries and support The "Built-in Forgetter" Phenomenon - Understanding why your loved one returns to using even after experiencing severe consequences, and why this baffles everyone (including them) Treatment Fatigue Reality - Why people often stop participating in treatment when they start feeling better, and how families can support sustained engagement without becoming codependent Modern Challenges for Recovery - The unprecedented availability and potency of substances today, including the fentanyl crisis and how social media impacts both addiction and recovery Individual Goals Within Family Systems - How family members can identify personal goals that have nothing to do with their loved one's addiction, and why this benefits everyone The Spiritual Component of Healing - How recovery involves returning to an authentic self rather than finding something new, and what this means for family healing Meeting People Where They Are - Practical ways to support your loved one's actual goals rather than imposing your own, while still maintaining healthy boundaries Codependency as Addiction - Understanding how families can become "addicted" to their loved one's wellbeing, and healthy ways to redirect that energy toward personal growth The Lucky Ones Perspective - Why families dealing with addiction, despite the pain, often have opportunities for profound growth and connection that others may never experience This conversation offers something rare: honest, practical wisdom from someone who helps families navigate these waters every day. Ryan's shares that while addiction affects the whole family system, everyone has the capacity for healing and growth. You're situation isn't hopeless, even when it feels that way. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: My gift to parents concerned about teen substance use - a prevention and early intervention framework providing the exact scripts needed to address concerns while preserving your relationship with your child. Access your special gift here: Connect with Ryan Soave Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Follow on Subscribe with /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/37805095

From Nine Years in Prison to Recovery Legacy: My Father's 'Impossible' Transformation - Episode 102 06/18/2025

From Nine Years in Prison to Recovery Legacy: My Father's 'Impossible' Transformation - Episode 102 When Christopher Doyle reflects on his father Jimmy's journey from nine years in prison to becoming a cornerstone of the recovery community, he sees more than just personal transformation. He sees a roadmap for families navigating their own loved one's addiction. This deeply personal conversation with longtime family friend John Ronayne reveals how recovery can reshape not just individuals, but entire family systems across generations. Jimmy Doyle's story spans decades of struggle and eventual triumph, offering families a powerful reminder that no bottom is too low and no situation too hopeless for recovery to take root and flourish. Highlights What You'll Discover: The surprising response that planted seeds instead of shame- What Jimmy said when 16-year-old Christopher first admitted to drinking will completely change how you think about confronting addiction in your family Why having sober parents didn't prevent addiction- Christopher's story reveals the complex relationship between family recovery history and individual substance use patterns The counterintuitive size that makes recovery meetings most effective- Why 10-15 people created deeper transformation than rooms of 150, and what this means for finding the right support The daily habit that created an instant early warning system- Jimmy's morning routine was so powerful that any deviation felt immediately wrong within seconds of waking How helping the "unhelpable" transformed the helper- The specific type of people Jimmy chose to work with, and why this choice became central to his spiritual development Why a four-year relapse actually strengthened his recovery- The surprising reason Jimmy's return to the community was even more impactful than his original sobriety The distinction between attraction and promotion in recovery work- What made Jimmy's approach so effective that people still reference it 15 years after his death What happened when a 17-year-old entered rooms where both parents were already sober- The unexpected advantages and challenges this created for early recovery The selfless response that surprised even a firefighter- Why the recovery community's reaction to Jimmy's cancer treatment needs revealed something profound about these bonds compared to other tight-knit groups The train track analogy that ended arguments about controlled drinking- Jimmy's simple story that made the impossibility of "just one drink" crystal clear to newcomers How spiritual presence becomes visible to others- What observers noticed about Jimmy's transformation over 23 years, and how routine created this "aura" The business meeting question that still guides decisions today- How "What would Jimmy do?" continues to influence group dynamics years later The moment that eliminated alcohol's psychological power forever- JR's complete acceptance that fundamentally changed his relationship with craving The unrecognizable transformation that neighbors witnessed- How someone who remembered Jimmy from the 1970s couldn't believe they were seeing the same person What the last conversation between father and son revealed- The final exchange that perfectly captured everything Jimmy had taught about priorities and service For families feeling exhausted by their loved one's addiction, this episode provides both practical strategies and emotional reassurance. You'll hear how to respond supportively when addiction is discovered, understand why relapses don't negate previous progress, and learn how recovery communities can become extended family systems. The conversation also highlights crucial resources: local AA groups (particularly smaller, intimate meetings), meditation meetings, and the power of having sober mentors available for guidance and support. If you're supporting someone in early recovery or wondering if change is truly possible, Jimmy Doyle's legacy reminds us that with the right community, consistent practice, and commitment to helping others, transformation isn't just possible- it's inevitable. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: My gift to parents concerned about teen substance use - a prevention and early intervention framework providing the exact scripts needed to address concerns while preserving your relationship with your child. Access your special gift here: Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Follow on Subscribe with /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/37040635

Pulling People Out of Fentanyl Hell: A Former Cop's Story with Brock Bevell - Episode 101 06/12/2025

Pulling People Out of Fentanyl Hell: A Former Cop's Story with Brock Bevell - Episode 101 When Brock Bevel was in active addiction, he never imagined he'd one day be the person dropping a rope into the hole for others. Today, this former police officer and detective runs the Fentanyl Project in Arizona, where he saves lives on the streets every single day. His story reminds us that recovery is possible, even from the depths of fentanyl addiction. Brock brings a unique perspective to the conversation about addiction and recovery. As someone who experienced the physical and emotional devastation of opioid addiction firsthand, and now works directly with people struggling with fentanyl on the streets of Arizona, he understands both sides of this crisis. His work with the Fentanyl Project has helped dozens of people find their way to recovery, proving that hope exists even in the darkest circumstances. Highlights What You'll Discover: • The "Chocolate Chip Cookie Effect" — Why someone with extreme tolerance can still die from a single pill, and what this means for your loved one's safety • The Tylenol Pill Discovery — What police found during a routine traffic stop that changed everything families need to know about today's drug supply • Why Experimentation Has Changed Forever — How a simple party decision that was once relatively safe has become potentially deadly, and what parents need to discuss now • The Four-Hour Rule — The surprising timeline that drives the psychological warfare people with fentanyl addiction face every single day • When "Just Meth" Isn't Just Meth — Why people think they're using one drug but are actually unknowingly taking something completely different • The Seven-Day Truth — What really happens during fentanyl withdrawal and why most treatment programs get this critically wrong • The Moment That Changes Everything — How Brock identifies when someone is truly ready for help and what families can learn from this recognition • The Baseball Diamond Approach — Brock's simple framework for understanding what every person in addiction is really struggling with • Why People Chase the Deadliest Supply — The counterintuitive reason that news of an overdose can actually increase demand for that dealer's product • The Success Story You Need to Hear — How someone went from stumbling in traffic half-clothed to celebrating a year of recovery • The Family Connection Factor — Why the people who recover from street-level fentanyl addiction almost always have this one thing in common • The Environment Trap — Why even successful detox often leads right back to using, and what actually works instead • The Magic Wand Solution — What Brock would create if he could design the perfect recovery system from scratch • The Rope in the Hole — A powerful metaphor that will change how you think about your role in your loved one's recovery journey This conversation offers both sobering realities about the current drug crisis and genuine hope for families facing these challenges. Brock's daily work on the streets of Arizona proves that recovery is possible, even from the depths of fentanyl addiction. His approach of meeting people where they are, providing life-saving resources, and connecting them to proper treatment when they're ready offers a model that families can adapt to their own situations. For families feeling overwhelmed by a loved one's addiction, remember that your involvement matters more than you might realize. While you can't force someone into recovery, you can be prepared with resources, maintain appropriate boundaries, and be ready to act when the moment of willingness arrives. Recovery starts with family. Your love, properly channeled through education and appropriate action, can make all the difference for your loved one. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: My gift to parents concerned about teen substance use - a prevention and early intervention framework providing the exact scripts needed to address concerns while preserving your relationship with your child. Access your special gift here: Connect with Brock Bevell Donate to the Fentanyl Project: Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Follow on Subscribe with /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/36965675

How One Father's Question Saved His Son's Life: A Story of Hope for Exhausted Families with Jeff Jay - Episode 100 06/03/2025

How One Father's Question Saved His Son's Life: A Story of Hope for Exhausted Families with Jeff Jay - Episode 100 Jeff Jay was sleeping under bushes in San Francisco, physically deteriorating and contemplating suicide, when his parents found him through an unlikely series of events. What started as a simple phone call became the beginning of a 40+ year recovery journey, and eventually helped create the modern intervention methods that have guided thousands of families. Highlights What Every Family Needs to Know: The gentle question that changed everything- how one father's caring words reached his son when nothing else could (and why the approach mattered more than the words themselves) Why "they have to want it" isn't the whole story- understanding how motivation and readiness actually work in recovery, plus what families can do while waiting The doctor's straightforward explanation that provided clarity- a simple framework that helped make sense of addiction as a medical condition Real success rates for family interventions- 85-90% when done thoughtfully, and what happens with the remaining 10-15% Understanding the addicted brain- why decision-making is compromised and how this knowledge can help families respond with compassion instead of frustration How families can recognize their influence- you have more impact than you might think, especially when you know how to use it constructively What "raising the bottom" means for your family- helping someone reach acceptance sooner rather than waiting for more consequences The power of "doing this together"- why recovery works better when the whole family participates, not just the person with addiction When intervention doesn't work on day one- what families can do to maintain momentum and continue the conversation Why modern treatment approaches can be confusing- navigating the difference between treating addiction and treating other conditions simultaneously The trauma and addiction connection explained- understanding when to address underlying issues and when to focus on sobriety first How structured family recovery works- supporting your loved one (and yourselves) through the crucial first year The difference between enabling and supporting- practical guidance for families learning new boundaries What to do when you feel exhausted and hopeless- finding your way back to effective action when you've been through so much Why having an ally matters- the importance of not going through this alone, and how to find the right support Practical next steps for families ready to learn more- where to start when you're ready to try a different approach This conversation offers both hope and practical guidance for families who love someone struggling with addiction. Jeff's story reminds us that even in the darkest moments, the right kind of help- offered with love and clear boundaries- can make all the difference. If you're feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, remember: you don't have to figure this out alone, and you don't have to solve everything at once. Resources mentioned: Love First (3rd edition), It Takes a Family, No More Letting Go, For families ready to move from feeling helpless to taking loving action- this episode shows you it's possible. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: My gift to parents concerned about teen substance use - a prevention and early intervention framework providing the exact scripts needed to address concerns while preserving your relationship with your child. Access your special gift here: Connect with Jeff Jay Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Follow on Subscribe with /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/36837385

From Heroin Overdose to Sober Entrepreneur: How One Moment of Grace Saved His Life with Michael Chernow - Episode 99 05/27/2025

From Heroin Overdose to Sober Entrepreneur: How One Moment of Grace Saved His Life with Michael Chernow - Episode 99 In this powerful episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle sits down with Michael Chernow, the founder of Kreatures of Habit and co-founder of The Meatball Shop, who shares his remarkable journey from addiction to 20 years of sobriety and entrepreneurial success. Highlights "Four hours later I was using again" — The shocking moment Michael realized the true meaning of powerlessness, and what it revealed about addiction's grip The unexpected ultimatum — How losing the one thing still tethering him to life became the catalyst that changed everything "I needed to see someone who was sober, who was cool" — The unconventional mentor who shattered Michael's preconceptions and gave him a vision of what recovery could truly be The three words families need to say — Michael's urgent advice for loved ones watching someone battle addiction, and why it matters more than you think The morning ritual that saved his life — How a simple daily habit from his first week of sobriety eventually transformed into a thriving business two decades later "We are the gladiators" — The surprising perspective shift that turned Michael's greatest weakness into his most profound strength The breathwork experience that healed a lifetime wound — How Michael reconnected with his father without using substances, and what it means for trauma healing The parenting approach he completely abandoned — Why Michael dramatically changed his strategy for talking with his children about substances in today's world This episode offers a raw, unfiltered look at both the darkest depths of addiction and the extraordinary heights of recovery. Michael's journey reminds us that transformation is possible even when hope seems lost, and that sometimes our greatest struggles can become our most powerful purpose. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: My gift to parents concerned about teen substance use - a prevention and early intervention framework providing the exact scripts needed to address concerns while preserving your relationship with your child. Access your special gift here: Connect with Michael Chernow Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Follow on Subscribe with /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/36722475

The Hero's Intervention: How Adam Jablin Transformed from Functioning Addict to Inspirational Coach - Episode 98 05/20/2025

The Hero's Intervention: How Adam Jablin Transformed from Functioning Addict to Inspirational Coach - Episode 98 In this riveting episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle sits down with Adam Jablin – a man who once orchestrated his entire day around pills and alcohol while running a successful business, and now coaches some of the world's highest performers. Highlights The shocking morning-to-night "pharmacist routine" that kept Adam functioning while slowly killing him – and why no one suspected a thing The two words from his interventionist that Adam literally couldn't process (he repeated them FIVE times in disbelief) Why fixing your "outsides" (Adam transformed from the "fat kid" to having a bodybuilder physique) does NOTHING to fix your insides The counterintuitive truth: It's not about the addict hitting bottom – discover who REALLY needs to "hit bottom" for recovery to begin The bizarre "spiritual relationship" Adam had with substances that regular people will never understand (and why it changes everything about recovery) How Adam saw TWO versions of himself during a phone call – and the split-second decision that saved his life The unexpected panic attack that finally made Adam accept he was an addict (it wasn't what you think) How Adam's infant daughter became the unexpected "saving grace" that made intervention possible – for both him and his wife in profoundly different ways The "Superman Effect" – the seductive feeling substances provide that makes quitting nearly impossible (until you understand this) The simple 3-part equation that explains why some interventions work and others fail miserably PLUS: The surprising connection between Michael Jordan's "love of the game" clause and lasting transformation that Adam uses with his highest-performing clients This episode offers a rare window into one man's journey through addiction and recovery. Adam's candid sharing about his high-functioning addiction, intervention experience, and transformation provides valuable insights that may help families better understand their loved one's struggles and the potential power of intervention. Listen now to discover why Adam says, "What I thought was prison turned into spiritual camp" and how this complete perspective shift might be exactly what your family needs. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: Connect with Adam Jablin Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Follow on Subscribe with /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/36624925

Trauma-Informed Intervention: Heather Hayes' Compassionate Approach to Addiction Recovery - Episode 97 05/14/2025

Trauma-Informed Intervention: Heather Hayes' Compassionate Approach to Addiction Recovery - Episode 97 In this eye-opening episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle interviews Heather Hayes, founder and CEO of Heather R. Hayes and Associates, Inc., a master's level licensed counselor and board registered interventionist with over 35 years of experience in treating complex mental health issues and addictive disorders. Guest’s Info Heather Hayes is the founder and CEO of Heather R. Hayes & Associates, Inc. She is a Master’s level Licensed Counselor in the State of Georgia, and Board Registered Interventionist (CIP). With over 35 years of experience in treating clients with complex mental health issues and the full spectrum of addictive disorders, she has worked with clients of all ages and specializes in the treatment of trauma. As the globe’s most prominent authorities on these topics, she is widely-recognized for her trauma-informed responsive approach to intervention. Highlights The shocking truth about what's really behind "denial" in families affected by addiction – it's not what you think, and understanding this changes everything Why telling an addict to "just stop" is like telling someone with a broken leg to "just walk" – the crucial brain chemistry factor most families completely miss The dangerous trap of "compassion" that actually keeps your loved one stuck in addiction (and what real compassion looks like instead) The "cucumber to pickle" phenomenon that explains why some people can experiment with substances while others are instantly hooked How standard treatment models are catastrophically failing teenagers – and the minimum effective dosage required according to research that almost no one follows Why kicking someone out might be the worst thing you can do – but letting them stay could be equally destructive (and the precise third option that works) The internet trap that's sending thousands of desperate families into the hands of the highest bidder rather than the best help The revolutionary six-month family commitment that transformed Heather's entire approach to intervention Why today's drug landscape gives parents zero room for error – the terrifying reality of what's actually in street drugs now The hostage negotiation techniques Heather adapted for family intervention that change everything about how we approach resistance How trauma-informed care has completely revolutionized intervention – moving from confrontation to connection while maintaining boundaries The counterintuitive reason why bringing recovered addicts to speak to teens actually INCREASES drug experimentation Listen now to discover why Heather Hayes is considered one of the foremost authorities on intervention and learn how her trauma-informed, responsive approach might be exactly what your family needs. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: Connect with Heather Hayes Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Follow on Subscribe with /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/36562315

When Your Child Has Addiction: A Mother's Guide to Setting Boundaries Without Losing Connection with Pam Lanhart - Episode 96 05/07/2025

When Your Child Has Addiction: A Mother's Guide to Setting Boundaries Without Losing Connection with Pam Lanhart - Episode 96 Guest’s Info Pam Lanhart is a mother of four, grandmother of eight, author of "Praying Our Loved One Home," and founder of Thrive Recovery Resources. After experiencing the emotional rollercoaster of loving a family member with substance use disorder and struggling to find trustworthy treatment centers and evidence-based resources, Pam turned her pain into purpose by founding Thrive in 2016. Having grown up in a home where both parents struggled with alcohol use disorder, Pam brings a unique perspective as both a child affected by addiction and a parent who navigated her son's substance use journey. Thrive recognizes that families are critical components to recovery, providing support and proven strategies to empower real change that moves both the loved one and the family toward wellness. Highlights The boundary secret that actually STRENGTHENS your relationship with your addicted child (when everyone else is telling you to "detach with love") The hidden childhood wounds driving your seemingly "rational" responses to your loved one's addiction (and why understanding this changes everything) The gut-wrenching "make it stop" behaviors most parents don't even realize they're doing – that silently feed the addiction cycle instead of breaking it The Irish wisdom that cuts through all the noise and finally explains what your loved one is REALLY seeking when they use The life-altering question that stopped Pam in her tracks: "You say you'd die for your kids, but will you LIVE for them?" (and why your answer matters more than you know) The "last text" principle that will forever change how you communicate with your struggling loved one (Pam shares the final message she sent her son before losing him) The doorway-opening phrases your loved one is already saying that you're missing – that could lead to real change if you knew how to respond Why treating an addict with dignity – especially when they're actively using – might be the most powerful gift you haven't given (yet) The compassion approach that replaces outdated "tough love" tactics (and actually works to rebuild what addiction has torn apart) The uncomfortable truth about why some recover and others don't (and the only guarantee you CAN count on regardless of outcome) Listen as Pam vulnerably shares how she navigated her son Jake's addiction journey – from his pills in a backpack at 13 to the grief of ultimately losing him too soon, yet finding meaning and purpose through it all. This conversation isn't just about addiction – it's about reclaiming your life while still fighting for theirs. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: Connect with Pam Lanhart Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Follow on Subscribe with /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/36463875

‘It's Over': The Three Words That Saved This Young Man From A $500- A-Day Opioid Habit with Aidan Morgan - Episode 95 04/30/2025

‘It's Over': The Three Words That Saved This Young Man From A $500- A-Day Opioid Habit with Aidan Morgan - Episode 95 In this powerful episode of The Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle sits down with Aidan Morgan, who shares his harrowing journey from childhood experimentation to full-blown addiction and ultimately to recovery. Guest’s Info Aidan Morgan is a remarkable example of transformation and resilience. After battling addiction from age 12, Aidan has now maintained sobriety for six years, completely rebuilding his life in the process. A native New Yorker with deep roots in his community, Aidan's journey from addiction to recovery showcases the power of human connection and the possibility of change even in the darkest circumstances. Now 28, Aidan has transformed from someone who couldn't be relied upon to the family member everyone calls first when they need help. His story provides both hope and practical insights for families struggling with a loved one's addiction. With honesty, humility, and occasional humor, Aidan shares his personal experiences not as an expert but as someone who's lived through the struggle and found his way to the other side. His story stands as powerful evidence that recovery is possible and that intervention can save lives. Highlights Why the "wait until they hit bottom" approach is DANGEROUS and potentially DEADLY in today's world where "you could hit a casket before you hit bottom" The SHOCKING truth about what happened when Aidan nearly died in a car accident while high - and why it STILL wasn't enough to make him stop The DEVASTATING "9-HOUR DECISION" phenomenon that explains why addicts can't stop using even when they desperately want to and have days of abstinence Why your addicted loved one already has ENOUGH PAIN to change - they just need the right connection and opportunity NOW How Aidan's father's surprising SILENCE became the catalyst that finally broke through when nothing else would The COUNTERINTUITIVE reason why taking away a teen's activities as punishment for substance use actually ACCELERATES their addiction The BIZARRE encounter with "Franklin" that kept Aidan from walking out of detox over a veggie burger Why an addict telling you "I promise I'll stop" and ACTUALLY MEANING IT still isn't enough to overcome addiction The EMOTIONAL MOMENT when a father's three simple words - "It's over" - finally gave his son permission to surrender The PROFOUND TRUTH that most recovered addicts didn't seek help on their own - and what this means for your intervention strategy How Aidan went from being "the last person anyone would call" to handle a problem to becoming the family's MOST RELIABLE member If you're struggling with a loved one's addiction, this episode provides both the inspiration and practical framework for taking action before it's too late. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/36366265

When to Call That Sober Friend: Why Families Shouldn't Wait for Rock Bottom with Joe Courtney - Episode 94 04/23/2025

When to Call That Sober Friend: Why Families Shouldn't Wait for Rock Bottom with Joe Courtney - Episode 94 In this powerful episode, recovery veterans Christopher Doyle and Joe Courtney (with 48 combined years of sobriety) dismantle the dangerous myth that you can't help someone until they "want it" or "hit bottom." Guest’s Info Joe Courtney is many people's first phone call when they need help with an addicted loved one. Joe is married 24 years, has 4 beautiful children, and 30 years sober. Highlights The truth behind "they have to want it" that the conventional wisdom gets totally backward Why your loved one's first meeting rarely happens because they chose it (and what actually gets them there) The surprisingly simple sentence that's gotten hundreds of resistant addicts to agree to help Why the person who got you sober might be the one person you never thank The heartbreaking story of waiting "until they're ready" that ended in a funeral just days before this recording The counterintuitive leverage point that turns "I don't have a problem" into "I'll go to one meeting" Why the most resistant addicts who fought all the way to rehab are often the most grateful afterward The shockingly simple 10-word question that can be your loved one's turning point Joe and Chris reveal their personal journeys, relapse stories, and the practical tactics they've used to help countless others find recovery - even when those people initially wanted nothing to do with getting help. This isn't just theory - it's battle-tested wisdom from two men who've been on both sides: the resistant addict and the person making that vital first call. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: Even Russell Brand misses the point: Youtube video - "How to treat the addict you love!: Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review b Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/36272160

When Your Adult Child Cuts You Off: A Mother's Guide to Healing Through Estrangement with Sally Harris - Episode 93 04/17/2025

When Your Adult Child Cuts You Off: A Mother's Guide to Healing Through Estrangement with Sally Harris - Episode 93 In this powerful episode of the Why Intervention podcast, host Christopher Doyle interviews Sally Harris, who transformed her devastating experience with her daughter's estrangement into a mission helping other mothers find healing. Guest’s Info Sally helps mothers navigate one of life's most challenging journeys - estrangement from their children. After over a decade battling addiction, depression, and the despair of suicide attempts, it was a severe health crisis that ultimately sparked Sally’s profound transformation. Through deepening faith and a revolutionary insight - that her well-being couldn't depend on her daughter's choices - Sally found her way to healing. Today, she celebrates years of sobriety, a renewed relationship with her daughter, and a thriving coaching practice that helps other mothers find their path to wholeness.” Highlights The shocking truth about what "estrangement" really means—and why it's not always what you think (hint: your child might be in more pain than you realize) Why 60% of mothers dealing with estrangement have ZERO support system—and the dangerous spiral this creates The "front porch vs. front yard" strategy that will immediately transform who you talk to about your child's struggles The critical difference between HELPING and ENABLING your adult child (most parents get this dangerously wrong) Why loving detachment might be the most painful—yet healing—gift you can give both yourself and your child How to handle the soul-crushing judgment from others who haven't walked in your shoes The unexpected revelation about "control" that changed everything for Sally (and can do the same for you) The simple communication technique that can instantly transform your relationship with your adult child Why forgiving YOURSELF might be the missing key to healing your relationship (most parents skip this crucial step) The counterintuitive approach to boundaries that actually strengthens your bond with your child The profound mistake Sally made that led to dangerous enabling—and how you can avoid the same path Why Sally chooses to meet with mothers on Thanksgiving and Christmas Day (the revelation will bring tears to your eyes) Listen now to discover how Sally found her way to healing after years of addiction, depression, and suicide attempts—and how her journey can light the path for your own healing and reconciliation. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: Connect with Sally Harris Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/36201275

The Teen Brain and Addiction Risk: How Parents Can Connect Before It's Too Late with Kirsten Cobabe - Episode 92 04/04/2025

The Teen Brain and Addiction Risk: How Parents Can Connect Before It's Too Late with Kirsten Cobabe - Episode 92 In this episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, Christopher Doyle and Kirsten Cobabe dive deep into the turbulent waters of teen development and addiction risk. Kirsten draws from over two decades of experience guiding parents through the challenges of adolescence to reveal the hidden connections between brain development, parenting approaches, and addiction vulnerability. Beyond the typical "just say no" advice, this conversation explores why teens make the decisions they do, how parents can maintain influence during these critical years, and the powerful protective factors that can prevent addiction before it starts. What emerges is a masterclass in understanding the teen brain and building the kind of relationship that keeps communication open even when the stakes are highest. You'll discover exactly what's happening in your teenager's mind, why traditional approaches often backfire spectacularly, and the specific conversational techniques that transform parent-teen relationships from battlegrounds to lifelines. This isn't just information—it's a roadmap for connection when it matters most. WARNING: What you're about to discover might forever change how you speak to your teenager… Guest’s Info Kirsten Cobabe is a former therapist turned coach, specializing in supporting families navigate the waves of adolescence. For over two decades, she has guided parents in learning how to listen to, and talk with, their teens. She engages parents in personal reflection, embracing their evolving role, understanding the teen brain and restoring harmony in the home. In recognizing this unique stage of development, her hope is to bridge the widening gap between parents and their children, creating timeless bonds. Through compassionate guidance, intentional strategies and a tailored approach, Kirsten empowers families to pilot these pivotal years with deeper awareness. Her work is not just about addressing immediate concerns, but about lighting the path to a more empowered future, ensuring that today's challenges become the foundation for tomorrow's brighter relationships. Kirsten works with parents, teens and the entire family constellation with a holistic lens, starting with what is already working. Highlights The shocking truth about your teen's brain and why expecting them to "just make better decisions" is like expecting a car with no brakes to stop safely Why your teenager might be HARDWIRED to seek thrills that terrify you (and the counterintuitive way smart parents can channel this energy) The "substitute prefrontal cortex" technique that helps teens navigate risk without destroying their lives in the process Why some teens try substances once and walk away while others spiral into addiction – the answer isn't what most "experts" claim The emotional detection system every teenager possesses that allows them to "read" your true feelings (even when you think you're hiding them perfectly) The counterintuitive reason why your teenager's complaints and negativity are actually GOLDEN OPPORTUNITIES you should never shut down Why "Connect Before Correct" might be the three most important words any parent of a teen will ever hear The devastating childhood experiences that dramatically increase addiction vulnerability (and the surprising protective factor that can neutralize them) How to be the person your teen WANTS to talk to about the scary, dangerous, confusing parts of their life The tragic mistake well-meaning parents make when setting boundaries around substance use (and what to do instead) This conversation offers something truly valuable – practical wisdom that strengthens the parent-teen relationship and builds the resilience young people need to navigate adolescence successfully. The tools shared here don't just help prevent problems – they create the foundation for deeper connection and understanding that lasts a lifetime. Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: Connect with Kirsten Cobabe Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/36012010

Why Your Addicted Loved One Can't Get Sober Alone - Episode 91 03/27/2025

Why Your Addicted Loved One Can't Get Sober Alone - Episode 91 In this episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, Christopher Doyle and Daniel Klein discuss the complexities of addiction, particularly in teenagers. They explore the rapid onset of addiction in today's society, the psychological and physical aspects of substance use, and the importance of parental intervention. The conversation emphasizes the need for parents to recognize the signs of addiction and to take proactive steps to help their children. They introduce the Four-Part Connection Formula as a method for parents to effectively communicate and support their loved ones in recovery. In this conversation, Chris and Danny discuss the critical role of family members in the recovery journey of loved ones struggling with addiction. They explore the importance of being a catalyst for change, the balance between influence and control, and the necessity of empathy and communication. The discussion also addresses common misconceptions about addiction, the societal responsibility to intervene, and the long-term nature of recovery. Ultimately, they emphasize that while accepting help lies with the individual, family support is essential in facilitating that journey. Highlights The shocking brain scan evidence that explains why your loved one keeps using despite promising to stop (hint: it's nearly identical to another devastating condition) Why "waiting for them to hit bottom" is a dangerous myth that keeps families paralyzed while their loved one drowns The uncomfortable truth about sobriety stories that even recovered addicts don't realize about their own journey to recovery A startling confession from Dan: "I spent 10 years saying 'I'll stop tomorrow' - here's why tomorrow never came until someone else made it happen" The secret 2% statistic that explains why your traditional approach to helping your addicted loved one is almost guaranteed to fail How to be the catalyst for your loved one's recovery without staging a dramatic intervention (the same method that helped Chris get sober at 17) The critical difference between "swimming in rough waters" and "drowning" - and why it changes everything about how you should respond Links and Resources from this Episode TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/35886475

Attachment Wounds: How Childhood Trauma Fuels Addiction and Relationship Patterns with Shanenn Bryant - Episode 90 03/21/2025

Attachment Wounds: How Childhood Trauma Fuels Addiction and Relationship Patterns with Shanenn Bryant - Episode 90 In this eye-opening episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle interviews Shanenn Bryant, pattern transformation expert and founder of Top Self, who reveals the hidden connections between childhood experiences and adult relationship patterns. Guest’s Info Shanenn Bryant helps women demolish their patterns and dominate their future. As a Pattern Transformation Expert and founder of Top Self, she bridges the gap between attachment theory and real-world transformation, showing women how to recognize and transform patterns that limit both their personal and professional lives. Combining her certification in Integrated Attachment Theory with nearly a decade of corporate Learning and Development experience, Shanenn demonstrates why "conscious seeing leads to conscious being." Host of the 2.5% globally ranked podcast Top Self, she's helped thousands of women transform their relationship with themselves and others by understanding the science behind their stories. Shanenn brings a unique blend of professional expertise and personal insight to her work. She demonstrates how the same patterns that show up in relationships often appear in professional settings, helping women create lasting transformation in all areas of life. Through speaking engagements, workshops, and her podcast, she's on a mission to help women move from old patterns to personal power. Highlights The shocking truth about why anxious and avoidant people fall in love– and the unconscious dance that keeps them locked in painful cycles The "relationship land mine" hiding in children of alcoholics – why growing up with addiction creates a dangerous attachment style that sabotages love just when it starts feeling safe Why "trying harder" never works – Shanenn's personal revelation about why willpower alone couldn't stop her jealousy (and why addicts can't just "stop using") The hidden "core wounds" driving your relationships– uncover what's really happening when you keep choosing partners who can't love you back The surprising reason secure relationships often feel "boring" – and how your brain creates chaos when things get too calm The BTEA method– a powerful technique to trace your triggered behaviors back to their original childhood wounds How Shanenn overcame crippling jealousy – the turning point that saved her marriage after 8 years of struggle Why your brain is designed to confirm your worst beliefs – and the simple reprogramming technique that can permanently change your patterns The unexpected way Shanenn healed her relationship with her alcoholic father – after decades of estrangement Listen as Christopher and Shanenn share personal experiences and professional insights that will transform how you understand both yourself and the addicted loved ones in your life. Links and Resources from this Episode Connect with Shanenn Bryant Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/35807100

"CAN'T STOP": The Critical Difference Between Addiction and Dependence - Episode 89 03/14/2025

"CAN'T STOP": The Critical Difference Between Addiction and Dependence - Episode 89 In this powerful episode, Christopher Doyle and Daniel Klein explore the critical distinction between addiction and dependence. Through personal stories and professional insights, they unpack how addiction fundamentally means "can't stop" - a completely different experience from dependence. The conversation examines nuances of pain medication use, environmental factors, and why families often struggle to recognize true addiction. Klein shares vulnerable stories from his own journey while Doyle offers clinical perspectives from his extensive experience, creating a comprehensive guide for anyone trying to understand if their loved one is experiencing addiction, dependence, a phase, or simply a bad habit. Highlights The overlooked "brake system" that 90% of substance users have – and why 10% are racing toward disaster without one Why the most dangerous phrase a parent can utter is "it's just a phase" – and the hidden warning signs most families completely miss until it's too late The bizarre Vietnam heroin phenomenon that shattered addiction myths – and what it reveals about your loved one's struggles The startling 5-minute conversation test that exposes whether you're dealing with addiction or dependence (warning: most therapists get this wrong) Why "pep talks" and "tough love" produce miracles for some users – and catastrophic failure for others The heartbreaking "tomorrow trap" that keeps addicted people believing they can quit for 365+ consecutive days – while family members waste precious time and resources How distinguishing between "can't stop" and "can stop" could literally save your loved one's life – and why getting this wrong leads to years of unnecessary suffering Discover why everything you thought you knew about addiction might be wrong – and the surprisingly simple focus shift that could finally break through to your struggling loved one. Links and Resources from this Episode Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/35681435

FROM AP ENGLISH TO REHAB: How a Father's Intervention Saved His 18-Year-Old Daughter from Heroin Addiction with Leah Lemberg - Episode 88 03/05/2025

FROM AP ENGLISH TO REHAB: How a Father's Intervention Saved His 18-Year-Old Daughter from Heroin Addiction with Leah Lemberg - Episode 88 In this gripping episode, business coach and speaker Leah Lemberg reveals her shocking journey as honor student and heroin addict – and the moment that saved her life. Guest’s Info Leah Lemberg is a business coach and speaker who helps high-powered business owners achieve more freedom, profitability, and balance through strategic growth and mindset shifts. She is the creator of The Freedom Framework and Pipeline Mastery, two courses designed to help entrepreneurs scale their businesses and create sustainable growth. Leah’s one-on-one work is grounded in personal accountability, and she draws from her own journey of overcoming addiction and adversity to inspire others. As a speaker, Leah delivers actionable insights on business strategy, leadership, and personal transformation. What you'll discover The "perfect example" delusion Leah believed about addiction that nearly killed her before she turned 18 Why being "too smart" for addiction treatment is actually the deadliest trap imaginable The bizarre warning sign in preschool that everyone missed – and what parents should watch for The shocking contents of a mother's dryer that could have changed everything (but didn't) Why the "good kid" maintaining a 4.0 GPA might be hiding the deepest hurts of all The strange 7-word revelation on a treatment center's steps that finally broke through after months of resistance The "plucking method" that saved Leah's life when reasoning and negotiation had utterly failed Why a 28-day program is "barely doing anything" and what actually works instead How Leah went from stealing veterinary drugs to creating the "Freedom Framework" for entrepreneurs Leah's raw honesty about her teenage addiction, treatment resistance, and 16-year recovery offers crucial insights for families struggling with a loved one's substance use. Her story proves that intervention works – even when the person doesn't want help – and recovery is always possible. Listen now to discover why what appears to be a "lost year" in treatment might be the thing that saves a lifetime. Links and Resources from this Episode Connect with Leah Lemberg Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/35520660

18 Subtle Gifts From 18 Years Sober - Episode 87 02/26/2025

18 Subtle Gifts From 18 Years Sober - Episode 87 In this powerful milestone episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle marks 18 years of sobriety alongside co-host Danny Klein. Through raw and insightful dialogue, they unpack the profound transformations that emerge from long-term recovery - far beyond just staying sober. Chris shares how sobriety revealed gifts he never expected: finding power in silence, breaking free from the grip of judgment and gossip, and developing a profound capacity to love others exactly as they are. The conversation dives deep into how recovery becomes a masterclass in emotional intelligence, teaching us to sit with uncomfortable feelings without trying to fix or flee from them. A highlight of the episode is Christopher's vulnerable reflection on how helping others through their darkest moments became the light that guided his own path. He explores the delicate balance of service work in recovery, and how true healing often comes through extending a hand to others while maintaining healthy boundaries. Episode Highlights Chris and Danny examine the ripple effects of self-worth on every relationship in our lives, offering practical wisdom on: Navigating emotional triggers with grace and self-awareness Breaking free from the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing Finding the courage to say "no" without guilt Transforming grief and loss into catalysts for spiritual growth This episode isn't just for those in recovery - it's for anyone seeking to build more authentic relationships, develop emotional resilience, and discover the profound peace that comes from truly knowing yourself. Takeaways Celebrating 18 years of sobriety is a significant milestone. Sobriety brings unexpected gifts that enhance personal growth. The ability to keep quiet can lead to better relationships. Freedom from gossip and judgment fosters inner peace. Loving and accepting others is a key aspect of recovery. Self-created crises can be understood and overcome. Embracing thoughts and feelings without judgment is liberating. Compassion for oneself leads to compassion for others. Expectations can impact relationships, especially in addiction. Time flies, and recovery is a journey of continuous growth. Detaching from thoughts helps in recovery. Transformation is a powerful gift of recovery. Self-worth should not be based on external expectations. The victim mentality hinders recovery and growth. Personal responsibility is key to overcoming disturbances. Effective communication is crucial in relationships. Understanding the root of disturbances leads to healing. Saying no is a form of self-care and empowerment. Freedom from justification enhances personal relationships. Service to others is a key aspect of recovery. Helping others can provide a sense of purpose. Intuition plays a significant role in decision-making post recovery. Recovery can lead to profound spiritual growth. Grief can be experienced without added shame or blame. The journey of sobriety is filled with unexpected gifts. Sobriety allows for a new perspective on life events. The importance of community in the recovery process. Recovery is a continuous journey of self-discovery. The ripple effect of recovery can change lives. Links and Resources from this Episode Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/35430340

SPECIAL EDITION: My In-Depth Conversation with Joe Polish - Episode 86 02/19/2025

Can You Save Your Marriage From Addiction? What Every Spouse Needs to Know - Episode 85 02/13/2025

Can You Save Your Marriage From Addiction? What Every Spouse Needs to Know - Episode 85 In this Valentine's Day special, intervention specialists Christopher Doyle and Danny Klein reveal counterintuitive truths about loving someone with addiction… They discuss the challenges of maintaining a loving relationship with someone struggling with substance use, the importance of connection, and the necessity of intervention and support. The speakers emphasize the need for effective communication, setting boundaries, and recognizing addiction as a serious issue that requires outside help. They share a case study illustrating the positive impact of a recovery contract and highlight the importance of envisioning a healthy future in relationships. In this conversation, Chris and Danny explore the complexities of relationships affected by substance use. They discuss the importance of understanding the impact of addiction on loved ones, the difficult decisions that must be made, and the duality of outcomes that can arise from these situations. The conversation emphasizes the need for support, the effectiveness of contrary actions in conflict resolution, and the significant role family members play in the recovery process. They highlight that external influences often drive individuals towards sobriety and encourage listeners to seek help and resources for their loved ones. Episode Highlights Relationships are central to our lives and recovery. Addiction complicates relationships, creating a two-on-one dynamic. Effective communication is crucial in relationships affected by addiction. Intervention is often necessary to address addiction. Recognizing addiction is the first step towards recovery. A recovery contract can provide structure and accountability. Improving communication can enhance relationships, regardless of addiction status. Setting boundaries is essential for both partners' well-being. Envisioning a happy future can motivate change in relationships. Honesty and willingness to change are key to overcoming challenges. If your loved one continues to use substances, your vision for the future may be impossible. Making informed decisions about relationships can lead to healthier outcomes. Divorce can sometimes lead to positive changes for both partners. Hope exists in various forms, even in difficult endings. Addiction requires a unique approach that differs from typical relationship advice. The most obvious actions in addiction situations can often be the most dangerous. Supporting recovery is not the same as enabling addiction. Family members can play a crucial role in initiating recovery for loved ones. Most individuals achieve sobriety due to external influences rather than internal motivation. It's essential to seek help and resources when dealing with addiction in relationships. Links and Resources from this Episode Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/35248075

Healing Grief: A Journey to Hope - Episode 84 01/30/2025

A Personal Journey Handling Her Son's Addiction with Mary Ann Palmer - Episode 83 10/26/2023

A Personal Journey Handling Her Son's Addiction with Mary Ann Palmer - Episode 83 This podcast episode features Certified Professional Coach Mary Ann Palmer who shares her struggles with denial about the severity of her son’s addiction and how she overcame it. She addresses misconceptions about addiction and stresses the importance of family support in the recovery process. Mary Ann emphasizes the need for patience and persistence due to the long-term nature of recovery. She also provides insights on managing a child's cravings, identifying triggers, and the benefits of community support. She advises working with a professional coach and continuous self-education. Chris and Mary Ann challenge the idea of waiting for a loved one to reach their lowest point before considering stepping in to help. Episode Highlights The story of her mother's addiction and her brother suffering from alcohol use disorder and eventually passing sober The notable moment when she found her son's backpack full of empty beer bottles and had her first acceptance of the fact that there was something wrong The assumption and denial stage in which most parents are in when they seek out help The final time her son went to rehab was his path to sobriety, as he did so after finding out that his girlfriend was pregnant Her son's momentary relapse after a year of sobriety when she found him drunk in their kitchen How she strategized her response to her son's relapse using the CRAFT methodology and displayed calmness instead of anger, resulting in a constructive conversation The usefulness of the term "influence" in managing addictive behavior The exercise she uses to explain what addiction feels like to the person suffering from it What drew her to peer coaching and how she decided to help parents going through what she went through in dealing with a child suffering addiction How you can start preparing a plan and potentially writing a contract for relapse situations The importance of positively reinforcing good behaviors Links and Resources from this Episode Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/28414931

The Close Up Look At What To Do With A Loved One’s Addiction Intervention - Episode 82 10/05/2023

Recovery is a Long-term Commitment with Brinn Flagg - Episode 81 09/21/2023

How Separation, Empathy & Compassion Can Help Your Addicted Loved One - Episode 80 09/07/2023

How To Help Your Loved One Who's New To A 12 Step Program - Episode 79 07/27/2023

How To Beat Your Own Resistance To Helping An Addicted Loved One - Episode 78 07/13/2023

6 Ways Addiction Is Like A Fire (it doesn’t stop on it’s own) - Episode 77 06/23/2023

How Group Coaching Can Help You Get Your Loved One Sober - Episode 76 06/08/2023

How Group Coaching Can Help You Get Your Loved One Sober - Episode 76 Chris and Danny discuss the crucial role of effective communication and support for families dealing with a loved one's addiction. They emphasize building resilience through facing adversity and failures. A new six-week closed group intensive is announced, aiming to teach families how to communicate effectively and support their loved ones in achieving lasting sobriety. The program offers tools, guidance, and peer support to participants. Episode Highlights Initial family outreach and the complexity of cases How cases can resolve before an intervention is needed Introduction of the closed group intensive and its goals The importance of developing skills to help loved ones get sober Creating a recovery contract for future concerns Case success: wife's attentiveness gets husband back in treatment within 5 days of relapse The challenge of discussing suspicions without causing conflict The hesitation in discussing suspicions due to fear of worsening the situation The impact of past experiences on family members' thinking Case success: crafting effective communication to get a loved one into treatment The importance of trusting and following directions Trusting in experts to understand the situation Narrowing down focus to reach the goal more efficiently Addressing the root problem rather than individual circumstances The difficulty in communicating effectively with a loved one suffering from addiction The importance of effective communication to help a loved one Recognizing patterns of enabling and finding solutions to help a loved one with addiction The necessity of failure in building character and succeeding in life Introduction of the closed group intensive program for effective communication with addicted loved ones The goal of having loved ones in treatment by the end of the 6-week program Understanding the need for more leverage and potentially professional intervention Participants gaining education, understanding, and options to help their loved ones at a fraction of the cost Links and Resources from this Episode Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/27066543

How To Bring People In Who Can Support Your Loved One's Addiction Recovery - Episode 75 05/25/2023

How To Bring People In Who Can Support Your Loved One's Addiction Recovery - Episode 75 Chris and Danny discuss the value of having supportive people in your corner while dealing with a loved one's addiction. They cover the concept of "bring someone in" from the "DEBBIE Method" in multiple ways. They also discuss the crucial roles of family and professional intervention in the journey from addiction to sobriety and highlight the difference between merely getting sober and staying sober, emphasizing the importance of seeking help, letting go of shame, and changing one's environment. Additionally, Chris and Danny critique the traditional therapy and 12-step meetings for providing limited support, advocating for combined professional interventions for better results. Episode Highlights The importance of help accessibility for families dealing with addiction What is The DEBBIE Method? Bringing an interventionist into the situation as the most helpful level of involvement Trusting influential people with addicted loved ones and letting them know some facts as a form of support Breaking the family's secret: Reaching out to uncle with long-term sobriety as the start of a recovery journey The power of bringing people together in the intervention process Accepting addiction as a possibility and knowing that there is a solution available The importance of recognizing when help is required for an addicted loved one Understanding the impact of environmental change for those in treatment Living in the present moment and accepting reality for what it is Overcoming the shame and stigma associated with addiction The benefits of environmental change during addiction treatment Connecting an addicted loved one to the right help and support system The value of getting out of the way and letting experienced professionals take over Learning to step back and let others take over in providing support during recovery. The intervention process: Ways to connect an addicted loved one to help. Family members stepping back and allowing the necessary conversations to take place between an addicted loved one and a sponsor The benefits and limitations of therapy and 12-step programs for families dealing with addiction The importance of engaging with recovery programs and not merely attending meetings Links and Resources from this Episode Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/26942316

How To Unlearn Feeling Helpless About Your Loved One's Addiction - Episode 74 05/11/2023

How To Unlearn Feeling Helpless About Your Loved One's Addiction - Episode 74 Chris and Danny discuss overcoming the feeling of helplessness when dealing with addiction, for both addicts and their family members. They emphasize the importance of separating the addiction from the person and recognizing it as an illness rather than a personal issue. Taking small steps such as learning about addiction and seeking help from experienced individuals, can help people regain control and work towards recovery. Effective communication and mindset shifts play a significant role in addressing addiction, and it is crucial to believe change is possible. Episode Highlights Relating the freeze response to family members struggling with a loved one's addiction and their feeling of being stuck The story of Danny dealing with his mother's attempts to manage his addiction and how her eventual withdrawal ultimately led to his treatment The concept of Learned Helplessness and its roots in a 1967 study involving dogs and electric shocks The discovery that the original Learned Helplessness theory actually has it backwards: We have to learn that we have the power to control outcomes Overriding the instinctual drive by looking for small actions that can influence the outcome Recognizing the feeling of being stuck and finding small options to get unstuck in relation to dealing with an addicted loved one Conventional wisdom in addiction and the importance of seeking help and learning new skills to combat learned helplessness Making addiction treatment entirely up to the addicted person, the flawed concept of hitting rock bottom, and the reality of continued use despite negative consequences Sharing insights about people in recovery, many of whom were pushed into it by their families Addressing the feelings of helplessness, permanence, pervasiveness, and personal responsibility in dealing with a loved one's addiction The importance of seeking help from others and avoiding taking personal responsibility for a loved one's addiction Learning more about addiction as an illness and separating it from the person in order to find a solution for the problem Providing an example of successful detachment from a personal perspective to appropriately address a loved one's addiction Developing a skill set to cope with addiction in the family, understanding that it takes work and dedication to reach a level of detachment Overcoming feelings of helplessness and understanding that with effort, change is possible The power of effective communication and how changing the way things are said can influence a person to seek treatment Realizing that addiction is not permanent and sharing examples of countless people who have found recovery The simplicity of saying yes to treatment, and how family members' belief in recovery can make a significant difference in taking that step Recognizing that it's unreasonable to think you can handle the situation on your own, but with proper guidance, you can unstick yourself and make progress in response to a loved one's addiction Links and Resources from this Episode Call to Action Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. /episode/index/show/whyintervention/id/26787267

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