863 | You Don’t Chase the Vision — You Become It First
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In this episode, I share the concept of becoming the version of ourselves that can hold our dreams before we chase them. Our nervous systems must feel safe and regulated to pursue our goals effectively. If we rush into chasing what we want without first anchoring into our identity, we risk operating from a place of lack rather than power. I share my journey of deciding to publish "Unreserved," highlighting the month I took to reflect on whether I was ready for such a significant commitment. This pause allowed me to assess my beliefs, emotional state, and the blocks that could hinder my ability...
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862 | Identity Work Isn’t a One-Time Breakthrough
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In this episode, I share the journey of identity work and the ongoing process of breaking down limiting beliefs. After the exhilarating experience of the unreserved book launch party, which involved coordinating with 24 different authors and connecting with women from around the globe, I reflect on the personal growth from such expansive experiences. I emphasize that identity work is not a one-time breakthrough but rather a continuous process of chipping away at the concrete walls of limiting beliefs we have built over the years, if not decades. I share a powerful metaphor: just as you cannot...
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861 | It's Never Too Late to Reparent Yourself with Johanna Gordon
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In this episode, I connect with Health and Wellness Coach Johanna Gordon. In 2019, Johanna experienced the heartbreaking loss of her mother to cancer after years of struggling with alcoholism. This loss was the catalyst of Johanna's healing journey, prompting her to seek therapeutic avenues and ultimately leading her to reevaluate her life choices. She candidly shared her feelings of stagnation and the realization that she needed to make significant changes to live a more fulfilling life. This profound loss deeply affected her, inspiring a renewed commitment to prioritize her mental and...
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860 | How to Shift from Lack to Abundance
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In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts on the difference between reacting and responding and how this is connected to a lack or abundance mindset. As we navigate through life’s challenges, especially when we feel overwhelmed, it’s easy to slip into a reactive mode. Our reactions, which often stem from a place of lack and frustration, continues to reinforce the reality we are living in, and how, by reacting, we may inadvertently be fighting for our limitations. Whatever limitations we fight for, we get to keep. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:04 - Reacting vs. Responding 00:02:07 - The Impact...
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859 | You're Seeing What You're Programmed to Look For
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In this episode, I share thoughts on perception and how our brains filter the overwhelming amount of information we encounter daily. I start by expressing my gratitude to listeners for their support and shares, emphasizing the importance of being open to new perspectives and solutions that may be hidden from our view. I introduce the idea that we are not seeing reality as it truly is; instead, we only perceive what we are programmed to look for. With our brains processing 11 million bits of information every second, our conscious minds can only handle about 40 to 50 bits at a time. This means...
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858 | The Power of Seeing Change As Neutral with Tesa Arcilla
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In this episode, I am connecting with Tesa Arcilla. Tesa has never taken the conventional route—personally or professionally. A journalist by training and driven by an insatiable curiosity, she has lived and worked across multiple continents, carving out a career that defies easy labels. From live broadcasts at NBC and CBC to moderating high-stakes political debates for Euronews and the European Commission, she has spent over 20 years asking the tough questions, navigating complex global issues, and making sense of the world’s turning points. But beyond the newsrooms and international...
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857 | Holding The Vision When You Can’t See It Yet
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In this episode, I ask the question, "Can you hold a vision when you can't see it yet?" I challenge the notion that we must wait for tangible evidence, like a certain bank balance or a fully booked calendar, before we can embody the person capable of achieving our dreams. We must first become that person internally to sustain the success we desire. Drawing from my personal experience, I recount my journey from being a kinesiologist for 27 years to embracing my calling as a coach. In 2019, I felt an unshakeable intuition that I would transition into coaching, despite not having a clear plan or...
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856 | What You Ask For Won’t Show Up How You Expect
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In this episode, I am sharing about the unexpected ways in which our desires manifest. I want to keep it real and share my insights on how asking the universe for something big often leads to challenges and discomfort rather than immediate fulfillment. I begin by discussing the concept of expansion and contraction, emphasizing that when we seek growth, whether it’s in our personal lives, careers, or finances, we often encounter obstacles that feel like setbacks. I share my own journey of asking for expansion this year, only to face a series of personal and professional challenges that left...
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855 | How Far Can Your Voice and Story Reach with Amanda Sellers
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In this episode, I speak with VoiceOver Artist, Meditation Creator and soon-to-be-published author in the collaborative book, Unreserved, Amanda Sellers. Amanda Sellers is an award-winning voice actor, known for her work with top global brands. Her voice has been featured in a Toyota commercial during the 2022 Super Bowl, animations, video games, commercials, and even your household Roomba. A multi-time Voice Arts Awards nominee, she’s been recognized for Best Commercial Campaign (Ziploc) and Best Video Game Character (SkyForge). In 2017, she discovered a passion for writing and...
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854 | What Your Subconscious Is Trying to Tell You?
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In this episode, I share some thoughts on how self-sabotage is not merely a sign of weakness or failure, but rather a form of self-protection driven by our subconscious mind. When we find ourselves on the brink of progress, it's common to experience a pullback into old patterns. I want to help you understand why this happens. I challenge the traditional narrative around self-sabotage by encouraging listeners to ask more empowering questions. Instead of questioning, "Why am I doing this?"—which can lead to feelings of shame—I suggest we ask, "What is my subconscious trying to tell me?" This...
info_outlineIn today’s episode, I reflect on recent experiences with clients who have faced toxic coaching situations in the past, emphasizing that coaching should not simply provide answers or only focus on the client’s goals, instead can they help clients uncover the underlying barriers that prevent them from reaching their goals. I share my belief that strategy constitutes only 5% of the equation, while subconscious work—addressing limiting beliefs and emotional blocks—makes up the remaining 95%.
Throughout the episode, I stress the significance of getting to the root of why individuals feel stuck or engage in self-sabotage. So many clients are unaware of the deeper reasons behind their behaviors, which are often buried in their subconscious. By employing techniques such as FLIP The Script Techniques and asking subconscious questions, we can uncover these hidden beliefs and reframe them to create lasting change.
HIGHLIGHTS
00:00:00 - Introduction to Coaching and Self-Leadership
00:01:00 - The Importance of Subconscious Work
00:02:30 - Understanding Goals vs. Blocks
00:04:00 - The Depth of Self-Sabotage
00:05:30 - Identifying Limiting Beliefs
00:07:00 - Fear of Success vs. Fear of Failure
00:08:30 - Transforming Identity Through Coaching
00:10:00 - The Power of Language and Self-Talk
00:11:30 - Emotional Patterns and Client Transformation
00:13:00 - The Role of Identity in Achieving Goals
00:14:30 - Creating Lasting Change
Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
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