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Episode 360: The Harder Turning [42:40]

Release Date: 03/16/2026

Loving and Living the Quran

Allah says: “The recompense of evil is an evil like it. But whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allah.” (42:40) This verse recognizes something important: when someone harms us, we have the right to respond proportionally. Justice is permitted. But the verse then points to something higher. Whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, their reward is with Allah. Over the past few days we have been talking about tawbah — returning to Allah and repairing our relationship with Him. Today’s verse shifts the focus to another dimension of repentance: repairing our...

Episode 359: Recognizing Al-Tawwāb [2:37]

Loving and Living the Quran

Allah says: “Then Adam received words from his Lord, so He turned to him mercifully. Surely He is al-Tawwāb, the Merciful.” (2:37) The first time the Qur’an introduces the Divine name al-Tawwāb appears in the story of Adam (as). After being tempted by Iblis and leaving the Garden, Adam experienced the weight of what had happened. In that moment of remorse, he turned back to Allah. But the Qur’an highlights something remarkable: Adam’s turning did not begin with him alone. Allah taught him the words of return — the kalimāt through which he repented. This reveals something...

Episode 358: Tawwab as an Identity [2:222]

Loving and Living the Quran

Allah says: “Surely Allah loves those who turn to Him repeatedly, and He loves those who purify themselves.” (2:222) The Qur’an does not simply praise those who repent once. It praises al-tawwābīn — those who return again and again. The word tawwāb in Arabic implies repetition and continuity. It describes a person for whom returning to Allah is not a rare emergency response after a major mistake, but a regular spiritual rhythm. Repentance becomes a disposition. The people Allah loves are not those who never drift. They are those who do not stay away for long. Imam Khomeini reflects...

Episode 357: You Will Find Him [4:110]

Loving and Living the Quran

Allah says: “Whoever does evil or wrongs his own soul and then seeks forgiveness from Allah will find Allah Forgiving, Merciful.” (4:110) This verse contains a powerful promise. It acknowledges two kinds of wrongdoing: harm toward others and harm toward one’s own soul through sin. Yet the verse does not end with condemnation. It ends with an invitation. If such a person turns and seeks forgiveness, the Qur’an says: “he will find Allah.” The verb used is yajid — he will find. It is immediate and certain. To find something implies it was already there. The verse suggests that Allah...

Episode 356: The Roadmap to Return [66:8]

Loving and Living the Quran

Allah says: “O you who believe! Turn to Allah in sincere repentance (tawbatan nasūḥā). Perhaps your Lord will remove from you your evil and admit you into gardens beneath which rivers flow.” (66:8) This verse addresses believers — people already in relationship with Allah. Tawbah is not only for those far away. It is part of the ongoing life of faith. The Qur’an emphasizes the quality of repentance: tawbatan nasūḥā — sincere, wholehearted repentance. Scholars explain the word nasūḥā in several ways: A repentance done purely for Allah’s sake. A repentance that...

Episode 355 : Do Not Despair [39:53]

Loving and Living the Quran

Allah says: “Say: O My servants who have transgressed against their own souls, do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Surely Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, He is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” (39:53) This verse is often described by scholars as one of the most hope-giving verses in the Qur’an. Notice how Allah addresses the very people who feel most distant: “O My servants.” Even in the moment of transgression, the relationship is not severed. The belonging remains. The Qur’an describes sin as “transgressing against your own soul.” It frames wrongdoing not primarily as...

Episode 354: The Cost of Drifting [83:14]

Loving and Living the Quran

Allah says: “No! Rather, what they used to do has become like rust upon their hearts.” (83:14) Over the past reflections, we have explored the inner landscape of the soul — the fitrah, the states of the nafs, the pull of desire, and the voice of conscience. Recently we reflected on how communities help protect that conscience through mutual guardianship. Today we ask a difficult question: what happens when the soul drifts and does not return? The Qur’an uses the word rān, often translated as rust or a covering over the heart. Classical scholars explain that the human soul begins pure...

Episode 353: Before the Door Closes [63:10]

Loving and Living the Quran

Allah says: “Spend from what We have provided you before death comes to one of you and he says: ‘My Lord, if only You would delay me for a short time so that I could give charity and be among the righteous.’ But Allah never delays a soul when its appointed time comes.” (63:10–11) These verses place us at a powerful moment: the threshold of death. In that instant, everything becomes clear. The time we had. The opportunities we postponed. The relationships we delayed repairing. The good we intended but never acted on. The person cries out: “If only I had a little more time.” But...

Episode 352: Receiving the gift of correction with grace [39:18]

Loving and Living the Quran

Allah praises: “Those who listen to the word and follow the best of it — they are the ones Allah has guided, and they are people of understanding.” (39:18) We often focus on the courage required to give advice. But receiving correction may be harder. The believer is described as a mirror to another believer. A mirror does not flatter — it reflects. Honest reflection is a gift. As we grow older or more established, we often receive less honest feedback. People hesitate. Pride grows subtle. Imam Ali (as) said: “The most beloved of your brothers is the one who points out your flaws to...

Episode 351: Giving the Gift of Correction [16:125]

Loving and Living the Quran

Allah says: “Call to the way of your Lord with wisdom and goodly exhortation, and argue with them in the best manner…” (16:125) Encouraging good builds the village. Forbidding wrong protects it. But wisdom is what keeps it from fracturing. The problem is often not what we say — but how we say it. The Qur’an outlines three principles: Hikmah (wisdom) — knowing timing, context, and capacity. Maw‘idhah hasanah (beautiful exhortation) — strong advice delivered with gentleness and dignity. The best manner of dialogue — even in disagreement. Before correcting someone, we...

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Allah says: “The recompense of evil is an evil like it. But whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allah.” (42:40)

This verse recognizes something important: when someone harms us, we have the right to respond proportionally. Justice is permitted.

But the verse then points to something higher.

Whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, their reward is with Allah.

Over the past few days we have been talking about tawbah — returning to Allah and repairing our relationship with Him. Today’s verse shifts the focus to another dimension of repentance: repairing our relationships with other human beings.

Imam Ali (as) explains this in Nahj al-Balagha (Saying 417) when he describes the conditions of true repentance. One of those conditions is returning to people their rights so that you meet Allah in a state where no one has a claim against you.

In other words, our relationship with Allah cannot be fully repaired while our relationships with people remain broken.

And this is the harder turning.

It is easier to repent privately to Allah than to apologize to another human being. Allah already knows our weaknesses. He is perfectly forgiving. But a human being may still be hurt. They may respond with anger, silence, or grief.

That vulnerability makes apology difficult.

Yet spiritual maturity requires something simple but demanding: owning our part, regardless of the other person’s behavior.

A meaningful apology includes three things:

• Genuine remorse and empathy
• Taking full responsibility without deflection
• Repair and commitment to change

The response of the other person is not under our control. But the effort to repair carries its reward with Allah.

Reflection

• Is there someone whose right I have not yet returned?
• Is there an apology I have been avoiding — or offering only halfway?

Here are some blogs on the topic of apologizing - there are many more so please browse:

The top 10 worst things to say to your loved ones

https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/The%20top%2010%20worst%20things%20to%20say%20to%20your%20loved%20ones

The beginners guide to bad apologies(DW# 771 )

https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/the-beginners-guide-to-bad-apologies

Alternatives to the generic apology(DW# 776 )

https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/alternatives-to-the-generic-apology

Another alternative to the generic apology (DW# 777)

https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/another-alternative-to-the-generic-apology

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