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Episode 362: The Motivation to Let Go [24:22]

Loving and Living the Quran

Release Date: 03/18/2026

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Yesterday we reflected on the cost of holding onto grudges. Today we turn to the motivation the Qur’an offers for choosing the difficult path of forgiveness.

Allah says: “Let them pardon and overlook. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (24:22)

Before addressing the motivation embedded in this verse, we must acknowledge something honestly: forgiveness is difficult. The Qur’an itself describes it as an act of courage.

Why is it so hard?

When someone wrongs us, the injury often feels like a threat to our dignity. Holding onto the grievance becomes a way of affirming that what happened mattered — that we mattered. At the level of the ego, forgiveness can feel like surrendering that claim.

We also confuse forgiveness with condoning the harm. We worry that letting go means declaring the wrongdoing acceptable or leaving ourselves vulnerable to being hurt again.

Sometimes resentment even gives us something: a story that explains our pain, a sense of moral clarity, even sympathy from others. Psychologists note that grievances can become part of a person’s identity, which makes them difficult to release.

The Qur’an does not deny any of this. Instead, it gently redirects our focus by asking a question:

“Would you not love that Allah should forgive you?”

It appeals to something we all deeply want.

If we hope that Allah will treat us with mercy rather than strict justice — forgiving our many shortcomings — then the Qur’an invites us to extend a fraction of that mercy to others.

Forgiveness becomes an act of humility.

A recognition that we, too, stand in need of pardon.

Reflection

• What does it mean to me that the forgiveness I extend to others is connected to the mercy I hope to receive from Allah?
• What has holding onto this grievance been costing my heart, my peace, and my Ramadan?

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