#041: If I don't manipulate--how do I get my kids to do the right thing? Part 1
Release Date: 04/10/2019
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info_outlineIn a culture of busy-ness, efficiency is strangling our parenting strategies. Because we are so often short on time, we manipulate our children instead of raise them. We're not the first generation that has defaulted to manipulation--so when we want to learn new parenting strategies, we must look for truth instead of tradition. We need the wisdom that comes from healthy relationships, instead of new tricks developed in our performance-obsessed culture.
Join Janet and Doug in this episode as they offer parents a bucket of courage to raise their children for the full human experience, instead of simply for success. They offer these take aways:
- Manipulation is often the choice we make as parents when we are running short on time—or patience. How we spend our time has more impact on our children’s lives than how we spend our money.
- Our children need to learn what it means to be fully human—not simply what it means to be busy or what it means to be the best. We get to teach them.
- The human experience, by design, happens in community—not primarily in a peer group or on a screen. Our children need a source of wisdom and empathy and mature connection.
Follow this link to join Doug and Janet on this episode--and please share BRAVE LOVE with your friends. There is great hope.
Janet promised to include links to two prior episodes. Have you heard these?
https://janetnewberry.com/what-do-we-do-with-emotions-at-home-part-1/
https://janetnewberry.com/how-do-we-help-our-children-with-emotions-part-2/