Episode 10 - The Kids Always Come First

Putting Your Kids First in Divorce: Lessons in Ego, Growth, and Parenting

Divorce isn’t just about you—it’s about your kids, too. In this episode of Divorced AF, Audrey Alice unpacks the challenging but essential topic of prioritizing children through the chaos of divorce. From managing ego-driven conflicts to modeling emotional regulation, Audrey shares insights on creating a safe, supportive environment for your children—even when co-parenting is challenging. If you’ve ever struggled navigating custody agreements, communicating with an ex, or simply keeping your kids' well-being at the center of your decisions, this episode is for you.

Audrey welcomes listeners from Ola Acupuncture in Honoka, Big Island of Hawaii, reflecting on time zones and the illusion of time itself. She expresses gratitude for the growing Divorced AF community, sharing her excitement about the podcast's impact. She encourages listeners to leave reviews to help spread the message and reach more people who need this support.

Why Kids Must Come First in Divorce

As parents, we instinctively want what’s best for our children, but divorce can complicate that. Audrey discusses how ego-driven conflicts often get in the way of prioritizing children’s well-being. She highlights how kids learn more from what we do than what we say and shares a powerful quote from Nikki Marie about the story our children will one day tell about us.

Modeling Healthy Behavior and Avoiding Conflict

Audrey emphasizes that arguing in front of children does more harm than good, impacting their ability to regulate emotions. She shares personal experiences of learning from her mistakes and reminds parents that belittling the other parent only hurts the child. Instead, she urges parents to focus on growth, self-awareness, and leading by example.

Parenting Agreements and Child Safety

One of the most practical tools in co-parenting is a solid parenting agreement. Audrey explains why precise custody schedules and responsibilities are crucial and stresses that the parent with the child must ensure they are properly cared for no matter what's in writing. She also touches on situations where a child’s safety is at risk and offers mediation and coaching as alternatives to costly legal battles.

Reflections on Growth and Parenting

Audrey wraps up the conversation by reminding parents that their children are always watching, always learning. She shares a client’s story of a child afraid to speak about their other parent, demonstrating the deep impact of parental behavior. She encourages listeners to embrace their divine nature, lead with love over ego, and always keep their children’s well-being as the top priority.

Divorce is hard, but your kids don’t have to suffer because of it. How you show up as a parent—handling conflict, communicating, and prioritizing their needs—will shape their future. Let this be your reminder to put ego aside, lead with love, and always keep your children at the center of your decisions. If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and keep showing up as the best version of yourself. Your kids are watching, and they need you.

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Giving Credit To My Tribe

• Music created and composed by my son, Hugo

• This podcast is produced by Jen, my Unicorn!

• Nicki Marie | Nicki Unplugged 

• Michelle Dempsey-Multack, MS, CDS, MFT in training

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