Episode 19 – Overthinking & Underfeeling

In this heartfelt and powerful episode, Audrey dives deep into a topic that hits close to home for many divorced mothers—overthinking. She unpacks how overthinking and overfunctioning often act as protective shields, keeping us from feeling our emotions. Drawing from personal experience and conversations with clients, Audrey explores how this coping mechanism shows up, especially in solo parenting, and offers gentle reminders and strategies to break the cycle. This is an invitation to pause, feel, and heal.

Overthinking is Underfeeling

Audrey introduces the theme of the episode by challenging a common habit many mothers experience—overthinking. She explains that constantly analyzing, planning, or fixing is often a way to avoid feeling deep emotions. Through personal stories and client examples, Audrey brings awareness to the truth behind this pattern and begins to peel back the layers.

The Challenge of Solo Parenting

Parenting alone often demands high levels of responsibility and structure. Audrey talks about how difficult it is to shift from doing mode (masculine energy) to being mode (feminine energy) when you're managing everything yourself. She points out how our nervous systems gravitate toward what’s familiar—even if that means staying in a cycle of busyness and stress.

When the Mind Takes Over

Audrey discusses how being stuck in our heads can block access to our emotions. When we live in logic and structure, we disconnect from what our bodies are trying to tell us. She stresses the importance of slowing down and allowing space for feelings to arise, reminding listeners that real clarity often comes in the stillness.

Letting Yourself Feel

Audrey encourages listeners to get comfortable with their emotions instead of pushing them away. She shares examples of how anxiety, fear, and anger can manifest in the body and why it's so important to create safe spaces for those emotions to move through. Feeling is the first step to healing.

Breaking the Overthinking Cycle

Overthinking and overfunctioning can create a toxic loop of anxiety and stress. Audrey offers practical strategies—like tuning into physical sensations, taking intentional pauses, and asking "What would be loving right now?"—to help interrupt this cycle. She speaks especially to the mothers doing it all, validating their experiences while showing them another way forward.

Permission to Rest

Rest isn’t something to be earned—it’s essential. Audrey discusses the societal expectations that drive us to do more and be more, and how that leads to burnout. She invites listeners to step back, rest, and be present with what’s around them. Taking a break is not a weakness; it’s a radical act of self-care.

If you take one thing away from today, let it be this: overthinking is underfeeling. The more we fill the space with action, the less room we leave for truth to rise. I see you, especially the solo mamas out there navigating this on your own. I know it’s not easy, but I’m so damn proud of the way you keep showing up. Keep giving yourself grace, keep pausing when you can, and keep letting yourself feel. You’re not broken—you’re transforming. And as always, if this episode touched you, share it with another woman who needs to hear she’s not alone. Let’s keep rising, together.

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