Episode 23 - What You Want and Moving Through Discomfort

In this milestone 23rd episode of the Divorced AF podcast, Audrey takes a powerful look back at the journey of launching the show and speaks to the very real, very raw discomfort that comes with life after divorce. Whether it's the fear of starting something new, navigating emotional landmines with an ex, or waiting for the "right moment" to feel happy again—Audrey is here to challenge all of it. This episode is a permission slip to stop waiting for the discomfort to pass and start living the life you want now.

From Fear to Flight: The Podcast Origin Story

Audrey reflects on the humble beginnings of the Divorced AF Podcast, sharing how fear and imposter syndrome nearly stopped her from pressing record. She opens up about the early doubts around identity and public speaking—and how working with Jen as her podcast producer made it all possible. This behind-the-scenes look is a reminder that asking for help is a strength, not a weakness.

Divorce Coaching: Meeting Women Where They Are

Audrey explains what it means to be a divorce coach and how her podcast episodes are inspired by real client conversations. She discusses a common theme: the belief that peace and happiness are only possible after the divorce is finalized. Audrey challenges this mindset, offering a bold alternative—what if closure isn't required to feel free?

Feel It All: Sadness, Stress, and the Power of Now

Happiness doesn’t have to wait. Audrey breaks down the idea that emotional healing and joy are only valid once a divorce is legally over. Instead, she empowers listeners to claim those feelings right now, even if sadness, anger, or anxiety are still present. It’s not about avoiding emotions—it’s about making space for all of them.

Boundaries, Nervous Systems, and Ex-Drama

Audrey shares her own moments of emotional upheaval and the tools she uses to stay grounded: guided visualizations, meditation, and journaling. She also dives into the importance of boundaries—like choosing not to respond to certain texts—and why that’s not just self-protection, but a power move.

Reclaiming Control in Divorce Conflicts

When you're stuck in reactive mode, you lose your sense of control. Audrey walks listeners through the trap of trying to manage an ex’s behavior and offers a shift: focus on your own boundaries instead. With the support of lawyers, mediators, or coaches, you can stand your ground and reclaim your peace—even during the messiest parts.

Discomfort Isn’t a Sign You’re Doing It Wrong

Using examples like job interviews and pregnancy, Audrey normalizes discomfort as part of any major transformation. She reframes discomfort not as a red flag, but as proof you're moving forward. Consistency, intention, and the willingness to feel uncomfortable are all part of the path to what you want.

Joy Can Start Today

Audrey closes the episode with a powerful truth: you don’t need closure to move on. You don’t need to wait for the perfect circumstances to be happy. The discomfort of divorce is real, but so is your power to find joy in the middle of it. You just have to decide.

A Message From Audrey
If you take anything from this episode, let it be this: you don’t have to wait. You don’t need permission. You can be happy, even when it’s hard. I know how uncomfortable this process can be—I’ve lived it. But every step you take through that discomfort is a step closer to the life you want. Thank you for listening, thank you for sharing this space with me, and please, if this episode resonated with you, send it to a friend who needs it. We’re all in this together.
—Audrey

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• Music created and composed by my son, Hugo
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