Episode 12 - Focus Less on Your Ex and More on You

Shifting Your Focus: Reclaiming Your Energy After Divorce

Your healing starts with you. In this episode of Divorced AF, Audrey Alice dives into the importance of redirecting energy away from your ex and toward your own growth, peace, and happiness. She unpacks why obsessing over what your ex is doing (or not doing) can keep you stuck in a cycle of stress and frustration. Instead, she encourages listeners to focus on what truly matters—building a fulfilling, empowered life post-divorce.

Audrey kicks off the episode with exciting news—the Divorced AF E-store is officially live! What started as a vision for a yoga and meditation resource for moms has now evolved into a store filled with empowering merch, guided visualizations, movement videos, and even scream pillows for those moments when words just won’t cut it. Audrey shares her gratitude for Jen Perman, who helped bring this vision to life, and invites listeners to check out the new offerings at the DAF Online Store.

Why You Need to Focus on You, Not Your Ex

It’s easy to get caught up in what your ex is doing—especially in the early stages of divorce. Audrey discusses how many of her clients spend their first few sessions venting about their ex, but she quickly shifts their perspective. Instead of staying stuck in that cycle, she encourages them to focus on their own goals, dreams, and self-regulation. She reminds listeners that healing begins when they stop giving their ex so much mental and emotional energy.

The Toll of Fixating on Your Ex

Focusing on your ex doesn’t just drain your emotional energy—it affects your physical well-being too. Audrey explains how stress and high cortisol levels can impact the body, making it harder to move forward. She highlights the importance of choosing thoughts that feel better, shifting attention toward gratitude, and reclaiming control over your own happiness.

Creating Stability for Yourself and Your Kids

Audrey encourages listeners to focus on what they can control—the environment in their own home. Being the solid, grounded parent gives children a sense of security, even when external circumstances are uncertain. She reminds listeners that their energy sets the tone for their household and that prioritizing their well-being benefits not just them, but their kids as well.

Your ex doesn’t deserve free rent in your mind. Audrey leaves listeners with a powerful reminder: Healing is a choice, and every day is an opportunity to focus on yourself, your happiness, and your future. She invites listeners to support the podcast by leaving a review, asking questions, and sharing their experiences with the Divorced AF community.

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Giving Credit To My Tribe

• Music created and composed by my son, Hugo

• This podcast is produced by Jen, my Unicorn!

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