How Small Acts of Curiosity Can Save the Friendship
Release Date: 11/26/2025
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info_outlineHave you ever felt a friendship grow tense or distant and weren’t sure why?
In a world marked by polarization and quick assumptions, even strong friendships can feel fragile. A single comment, a post, or a difference in perspective can suddenly amplify the distance between us.
But what if the gap you feel isn’t the end of the relationship — just an invitation to truly see each other again?
In this episode, Tanner, Chase, and Sarah explore why division makes friendships harder to navigate, why we sometimes turn friends into “categories,” and how small acts of curiosity can soften what feels strained.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
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Why polarized culture makes friendship feel more fragile
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What’s really happening when a friend starts to feel like a stranger
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Simple practices for reconnecting with curiosity and humility
Show Notes:
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Curiosity prompt: “How did you come to see it that way?”
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Practice: Everyday Carry (EDC) Questions
When a friendship feels tense or distant, try carrying an “Everyday Carry” question — one simple prompt you can use to stay curious instead of reactive. Just like you keep your keys or phone on hand, keep a question ready that helps you slow down and listen. Something like “How did you come to see it that way?”, “What shaped the way you think about this?”, or “What feels most important to you here?” These kinds of questions invite real stories instead of assumptions and create a little more space for connection when a moment feels tender or difficult.
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