37. How to Handle Conflict With Emotional Intelligence- (Even If It's Passive Aggressive)
Release Date: 12/03/2025
45. A 15-Minute Nervous System Reset (Use When You're Numb, Anxious, Overwhelmed). A FOLLOW UP TO EPISODE #43.
The Energy to Heal- Faith-based Inner Healing, Emotional Freedom, Spiritual Growth and Inner Transformation, Trauma-Informed Christian Therapy, Subconscious Reset
*Please Note: This is a follow up to episode #43. A previous version of this episode was published in error with the wrong audio file. This is the correct version. If you’ve already listened to the earlier upload, please re-listen here for the correct content. Thanks for your patience! This is The Energy to Heal, your resource for all things Splankna, the faith-based inner healing modality that will help you achieve emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken guides listeners through a short, gentle nervous system practice designed to build emotional safety and regulation in the body....
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44. Powerlessness: What It Is and How It Shapes Your Reactions
The Energy to Heal- Faith-based Inner Healing, Emotional Freedom, Spiritual Growth and Inner Transformation, Trauma-Informed Christian Therapy, Subconscious Reset
🎟️ Training Discount Use promo code: PODCAST when you register for training to get a discount on your training cost. ______________________________________ This is The Energy to Heal, your resource for all things Splankna, the faith-based, nervous-system-focused modality that supports emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken takes a deep dive into one of the most avoided and misunderstood emotional experiences shaping human behavior: powerlessness. Powerlessness is not a mindset. It is not weakness. It is a nervous system state that forms when something overwhelming happens and...
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43. If You Feel Nothing, This Episode Is For You (For Part 2: See Episode #45)
The Energy to Heal- Faith-based Inner Healing, Emotional Freedom, Spiritual Growth and Inner Transformation, Trauma-Informed Christian Therapy, Subconscious Reset
This is The Energy to Heal, your resource for all things Splankna, the faith-based inner healing modality that will help you achieve emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken addresses one of the most misunderstood and widespread issues in both Christian and clinical spaces: emotional numbness. Many people aren’t anxious anymore. They aren’t sad. They aren’t joyful. They aren’t deeply connected. They are simply… functioning. In this episode, Laura explains why emotional numbness is not spiritual maturity, personality, or “peace.” It is a nervous system survival state...
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42. What Is Energy Psychology?
The Energy to Heal- Faith-based Inner Healing, Emotional Freedom, Spiritual Growth and Inner Transformation, Trauma-Informed Christian Therapy, Subconscious Reset
This is The Energy to Heal, your resource for all things Splankna, the faith-based inner healing modality that will help you achieve emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken introduces the foundational concepts of energy psychology and explains why it has become such an effective approach for working with trauma. Laura breaks down how energy psychology works with the body’s energy and nervous system rather than relying on insight or talk alone. She explains why trauma is stored somatically—in the body—and how healing must involve regulation and safety in order to be effective....
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41. *What Is Splankna? (Start Here)
The Energy to Heal- Faith-based Inner Healing, Emotional Freedom, Spiritual Growth and Inner Transformation, Trauma-Informed Christian Therapy, Subconscious Reset
📖 Episode Summary This is The Energy to Heal, your resource for all things Splankna, the faith-based inner healing modality that helps people experience emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken offers a clear, back-to-the-basics explanation of what Splankna is, how it works, and why it is different from traditional approaches. This foundational episode is designed to answer the most common questions people ask when they first hear about Splankna. Laura explains the role of the subconscious, the body, and the nervous system, how trauma creates emotional and physiological “stuck...
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40. Splankna vs. Talk Therapy with KENDAL ROBERTSON
The Energy to Heal- Faith-based Inner Healing, Emotional Freedom, Spiritual Growth and Inner Transformation, Trauma-Informed Christian Therapy, Subconscious Reset
This is The Energy to Heal, your resource for all things Splankna, the faith-based inner healing modality that will help you achieve emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken sits down with licensed therapist Kendal Robertson for a grounded, hope-filled conversation about emotional health, trauma, and faith. Together, they explore how therapeutic wisdom and spiritual formation intersect, especially when working with individuals and families who have experienced deep emotional pain. Kendal brings years of clinical experience, pastoral insight, and a strong faith foundation to this...
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39. If Christianity Feels Heavy, You Might Be Living the Wrong Gospel
The Energy to Heal- Faith-based Inner Healing, Emotional Freedom, Spiritual Growth and Inner Transformation, Trauma-Informed Christian Therapy, Subconscious Reset
This is The Energy to Heal, your resource for all things Splankna, the faith-based inner healing modality that will help you achieve emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken unpacks one of the most subtle but destructive belief systems in modern Christianity: the performance-based gospel. Laura explains how many believers unknowingly relate to God as employees instead of sons and daughters—striving, proving, and exhausting themselves in an attempt to earn intimacy that was already given. Through the lens of Splankna, identity work, and Scripture, she reveals how this mindset leads...
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38. Virtual vs. In-Person Splankna: Which One Actually Works Better?? with LISA BRIGHT
The Energy to Heal- Faith-based Inner Healing, Emotional Freedom, Spiritual Growth and Inner Transformation, Trauma-Informed Christian Therapy, Subconscious Reset
This is The Energy to Heal, your resource for all things Splankna—the faith-based inner-transformation modality that helps you experience emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken (Master’s Certified Splankna Practitioner) sits down with long-time Splankna practitioner Lisa Bright to break down the power of Listening Prayer Splankna—the Splankna term for virtual or Zoom-based sessions. Laura and Lisa explore how healing works over a screen, why the Holy Spirit isn’t limited by distance, and why identity in Christ and spiritual authority matter deeply when doing Splankna work....
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37. How to Handle Conflict With Emotional Intelligence- (Even If It's Passive Aggressive)
The Energy to Heal- Faith-based Inner Healing, Emotional Freedom, Spiritual Growth and Inner Transformation, Trauma-Informed Christian Therapy, Subconscious Reset
This is The Energy to Heal, your resource for all things Splankna—the faith-based inner-transformation modality that helps you experience emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken (Master’s Certified Splankna Practitioner) breaks down how to handle conflict with emotional intelligence and confidence. Laura explains how to interact with angry people, passive-aggressive people, and anyone who struggles to communicate directly. She teaches boundary management, regulated communication, and how to stay connected to yourself in the middle of someone else’s emotional storm. Laura also...
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36. Calling Work in Splankna: Walking God's Anointed Path For Your Life
The Energy to Heal- Faith-based Inner Healing, Emotional Freedom, Spiritual Growth and Inner Transformation, Trauma-Informed Christian Therapy, Subconscious Reset
The Energy to Heal is your resource for all things Splankna—the faith-based inner-healing modality that helps you experience emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken shares a deeply personal reflection from her recent Splankna training in Colorado. What began as a routine Uber ride became a profound spiritual encounter with a woman named Zara, whose story of faith, suffering, and her daughter’s remarkable healing left Laura undone. Laura also revisits the significance of Isaiah 61—a passage declared over her ministry—and discusses calling work within the Splankna protocol....
info_outlineThis is The Energy to Heal, your resource for all things Splankna—the faith-based inner-transformation modality that helps you experience emotional freedom. In this episode, Laura Milliken (Master’s Certified Splankna Practitioner) breaks down how to handle conflict with emotional intelligence and confidence.
Laura explains how to interact with angry people, passive-aggressive people, and anyone who struggles to communicate directly. She teaches boundary management, regulated communication, and how to stay connected to yourself in the middle of someone else’s emotional storm.
Laura also shares a powerful Splankna testimony illustrating how emotional patterns shift when the subconscious agreements behind them are released. This episode gives you practical communication tools, spiritual insight, and the confidence to navigate conflict without losing your peace.
🔑 Keywords
conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, communication skills, boundaries, angry people, passive-aggressive behavior, assertiveness, Splankna, trauma, emotional regulation, spiritual growth, relationships, nervous system, conflict management, Christian podcast
📝 Takeaways
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You can stay emotionally stable even when someone else is dysregulated.
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Angry people often need containment, clarity, and regulated tone.
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Passive-aggressive behavior is indirect communication rooted in fear and avoidance.
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Boundaries are not punishments—they are clarity.
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Emotional intelligence is the ability to name, feel, and respond to emotions instead of reacting from them.
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You don't have to match someone’s emotional temperature to stay connected in a conversation.
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Staying calm does not mean becoming a doormat.
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Splankna can help uncover the subconscious agreements that fuel conflict patterns.
👤 About the Host
Laura Milliken is the host of The Energy to Heal and a Master’s Certified Splankna Practitioner. She is a registered nurse with a background in mental health and crisis work, a mom of five, and a creator with a thriving TikTok community where she teaches emotional intelligence and relationship health.
You can find her on TikTok at @TheEnergyToHealPOD and @LauraMillikenRN, or reach her directly at TheEnergyToHeal@gmail.com.
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⚠️ Disclaimer
The Splankna protocol is a unique, faith-based modality, and individual experiences will vary. While many people report breakthrough and emotional freedom, we cannot guarantee specific outcomes or timelines. Some individuals experience change quickly, while others notice gradual shifts over time. This modality is not a substitute for professional medical or psychiatric treatment. Always consult with your healthcare provider for any medical or mental health concerns. By engaging with this content, you acknowledge that results are personal and not assured.