Unlearning Toxic Patterns: How I Overcame My Top 3
Soul Wide Open with Michelle Renee
Release Date: 09/12/2024
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Am I Just In the Way?: Overcoming Feelings of Displacement and Overwhelm
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"Am I just in the way?" This question plagued host Michelle Renee for years. It wasn't until she wrote tthese words as a response tto a text tto heer brother thatt sparked her to llook deeply into the root of this response. Seeking self-understanding and unraveling past coping mechanisms are crucial steps in personal growth and healing, as discussed in the podcast episode. Michelle Renee shared her personal experience of realizing how her childhood experiences had shaped her responses to overwhelming situations. By acknowledging the root cause of her reactions, she was able...
info_outlineIn this episode of the Soul Wide Open podcast, host Michelle Renee reflects on her upbringing and the programming that influences our behaviors and coping mechanisms. Broadcasting from her brother's house near Lake Tahoe, she discusses the importance of unlearning unhealthy patterns that were necessary for survival in a challenging environment. Michelle emphasizes the process of unraveling unhealthy coping mechanisms, comparing it to untangling a ball of yarn. She explores how many of us operate from outdated beliefs that no longer serve us and can even be harmful. To make the topic manageable, she outlines three key areas to focus on for unlearning and healing: self shrinking, self abandonment and over explaining. These are important aspects to consider, especially when healing from emotional trauma or when building self-awareness.
Join Michelle as she guides listeners toward self-discovery and personal growth and be sure to take the free Soul Wide Open healing self assessment here:
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Talking Points:
00:00:45 - Unlearning for Healing and Growth
00:01:05 - The Process of Unlearning
00:02:00 - Top Three Things to Unlearn
00:03:25 - Unlearning Self-Shrinking
00:07:09 - Dave Joins the Conversation
00:09:06 - Self-Shrinking as a Survival Tactic
00:11:05 - Unlearning Self-Abandonment
00:14:02 - The Impact of Shame
00:18:11 - Unlearning Over-Explaining
00:24:06 - Shifting Mindset and Acceptance
00:25:31 - Conclusion and Self-Assessment
Quotes:
"Self-shrinking literally became something I felt like I needed to master that in order to avoid the pain and what came with being noticed."
"In what ways do we abandon ourselves when we're running from the pain caused by traumatic events?"
"Shame is like this cloak of darkness over you, where you just abandon yourself."
"I really don't owe anybody an explanation at all about anything."
"Living with my soul wide open has everything to do with unraveling all of those things that we learned growing up in environments that were really challenging."
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