Revoking All Access: Setting Boundaries for Your Emotional Well-Being
Soul Wide Open with Michelle Renee
Release Date: 03/21/2025
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info_outlineIn the journey of healing and personal growth, one of the most crucial steps is recognizing who has access to your life and evaluating whether they truly deserve that access. The concept of an "all-access pass" serves as a powerful metaphor for understanding the dynamics of our relationships and the boundaries we set.
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Do you feel drained after being around this person?
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Do you find yourself tiptoeing around them or over-explaining your feelings?
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Do you feel guilty when you say no to them?
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Do they manipulate you into changing your mind when you set boundaries?
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Do they take more from you than they give?
If you find yourself answering "yes" to any of these questions, it may be time to reconsider the level of access this person has to your life.
In this episode of Soul Wide Open, we dive deep into the concept of access and boundaries in our lives, especially after experiencing trauma and abuse. Host and Certified Trauma Healing Practitioner Michelle Renee discusses the importance of evaluating who has access to your time, energy, and emotions, emphasizing that not everyone deserves a place in your life. Using the metaphor of an "all access pass" commonly seen at concerts and conventions, the episode highlights the need to reclaim control over who gets to be part of your journey.
Join us as we explore the significance of setting boundaries and taking back those access passes to foster healthier relationships and self-honesty.
Insights:
00:21 - The Importance of Boundaries
01:05 - The Concept of All Access Passes
04:03 - Toxic Relationships and Friendships
05:20 - Real-Life Example of Setting Boundaries
08:01 - Revoking All Access Passes
11:15 - Reassessing Relationships
14:06 - Acknowledging the Shift
15:32 - The Power of Silence
18:58 - Filling the Void with Nourishment
23:05 - Protecting Your Energy
24:11 - You Are Not a Public Venue
25:26 - Conclusion and Call to Action
Quotes:
"Some people are walking around with all access passes to your life when honestly they don't even deserve to be in the parking lot."
"Just because you initially gave somebody an all access pass or even a VIP pass does not mean that that automatically gives them a lifetime membership to the behind the scenes and the deeper inner parts of your life."
"You are allowed to change."
"It is your responsibility and no one else's responsibility to protect your mental health, your emotional wellness, your nervous system, and to protect your own happiness and joy."
"Don't let the pain of the grief and the fear of letting go of somebody keep you in a situation that's hurting you."
"I'm going to hop on this roller coaster and I'm going to hang on to that bar and I'm going to let it take off and I'm going to put my hands up in the air sometimes and let go sometimes and ride this roller coaster and enjoy the ride or it's going to take off without me."
"You're not a public venue where everybody can just come in for free and have access to you and your life and your time and your emotions at YOUR expensee. You're not a public library."
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