#170 - The 'Not All Men' Defense: How Misguided Beliefs Undermine Women's Power
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Release Date: 04/03/2025
#183 Why Successful Women End Up in Sexless Marriages & What to Do About It
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
The high-achieving women that I work with fall into two groups. Low desire and checked out because intimacy has become a performance, a task, a source of resentment. Or high desire and confused because sex is one of the only ways they feel close, but their emotional needs aren’t being met. And then they’re blamed for wanting it too much. No matter which group you're in, you're trapped. And it’s invisible unless you know what to look for. On the surface, it looks like a libido issue. But what we’re really talking about is emotional labor, power dynamics, and a nervous system that no...
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#182 The Hidden Link Between Stress, Painful Sex & Your Pelvic Floor From A Pelvic Floor Specialist
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Superwomen, we need to talk about your pelvic floor. If you’ve ever apologized during a pelvic exam, felt broken because sex hurts, or wondered if leaking when you laugh is just part of being a mom, this conversation is for you. Pelvic floor physiotherapist Aliya Dhalla joins me to answer the questions most of us are too ashamed to ask. We talk about vulva appearance, labiaplasty, pelvic tension, postpartum trauma, and the invisible ways stress shows up in our bodies, especially in the pelvic floor. You’ll hear how porn and patriarchy have warped our ideas of what’s normal and why so...
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#181 Why Couples & Sex Therapy Doesn’t Work for High-Achieving Women (Truth About Communication)
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Why you don't need to communicate better and other weaponized advice from couples therapy and Instagram influencers. These are the things keeping you stuck in your sexless marriage. If your relationship feels like a never-ending conversation with no lasting change, chances are you don't need to communicate better. You need to understand the concepts of coercive control and power dynamics. Most high-achieving women are not evil at communication. They run companies. They run households. However, in their relationships, they are over-functioning and over-communicating, yet still not getting their...
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#180 5 Questions Couples Having Great Sex Are Asking Each Other
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
You’ve read the sexy prompts, saved the dirty talk guides, maybe even worked up the courage to send a flirty text and still nothing changes. The card games, therapy scripts, I statements, sandwich feedback, even Nonviolent Communication and it still hurts. You feel alone. It reinforces the belief that you’re the problem. But you’re not. I’m sharing the 5 questions couples having great sex are asking each other and why communication advice does not work for high-achieving women with super traits. You’ll learn: – Why high-desire women chase emotional unavailability in the bedroom –...
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#179 Why You’re Not Initiating Anymore (And It’s Not Low Libido, Hormones or Feminine Energy)
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
He wants you to initiate. You want to feel seen, supported, and safe. Every week I get a DM from a man asking how to get his wife to initiate sex again. And every time I think, are you really ready to hear the answer? MAKE SEX WORTH HAVING This one is for the woman who’s doing it all. The emotional labor. The logistics. The mental load. Desire doesn’t just disappear—it gets buried under exhaustion, disconnection, and power dynamics no one’s talking about. We’re not fixing a sex problem. We’re naming what’s really going on. The invisible weight. The resentment. The conditioning...
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#178 Scheduling Sex Isn't The Holy Grail Solution to a Sexless Relationship
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
I used to be the doctor on national television telling couples to schedule sex. I even wrote about it in my book. But I’ve learned so much since then. Not because scheduling sex is inherently wrong. But for high-functioning women like us, it becomes another setup. Another task. Another way to fail. Scheduled intimacy only works when both partners truly want it. When desire is shared., but when it’s one-sided, it becomes a power play. Another unpaid job. One more thing we have to manage. This is about more than sex. It’s about power. Emotional labor. Invisible dynamics that no one teaches...
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#177 The Real Reason You Don’t Want Sex in Your “Good” Relationship
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
You say your husband’s great. Supportive. A great dad. He helps around the house. He doesn’t cheat. So why don’t you want to have sex with him? If everything looks good on paper but feels emotionally lonely, this episode is for you. We’re talking about the invisible power dynamics that cause erotic shutdown, especially for high-achieving women with supertraits like empathy, loyalty, and perseverance. Here’s what you’ll walk away with: Why your libido isn’t broken, it’s protecting you How “nice guy” behaviors create disconnection The impact of decision-making...
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#176 Why High-Achieving Women Stop Wanting Sex (And How to Get It Back)
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
You’ve done everything right. The degrees. The success. The personal growth. But still… You feel nothing. Sex feels like another thing on your to-do list. You’re disconnected, exhausted, and quietly wondering, “What’s wrong with me”? I’m breaking down how Superwoman conditioning and invisible power dynamics kill desire. Why therapy, hormones, and even functional medicine haven’t worked. And why it’s not your fault. Because most women don’t have low libido. They have low safety. We’ll talk about how overfunctioning, medical gaslighting, and the wrong relationship scripts...
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#175 Why Sex Therapy Doesn’t Work for High-Functioning Women And What Actually Does
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
You’ve done the therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve tried to fix it. But if you walked away from couples therapy or sex therapy feeling like you were the problem, this conversation will hit home. I’m exposing the quiet harm that happens when traditional therapy fails to account for power dynamics, emotional labor, and the super traits of high-achieving women. Let’s break it down: Why therapy often blames the over-functioning partner while ignoring the underfunctioner How high-capacity women are mislabeled as controlling, anxious, or codependent Why therapy’s focus on saving the...
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#174 - How Fingering Unlocks Female Pleasure, Better Sex, and Lasting Libido
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Before the pressure. Before the performance. Before checkbox sex. Pleasure used to come naturally. But somewhere along the way, it got replaced by mental gymnastics, performance-based sex, and trying to earn intimacy instead of receiving it. Jordin Wiggins pulls back the curtain on why fingering, that slow, intentional manual stimulation, is the real key to unlocking female pleasure, better sex, and lasting libido. Drawing on her work with thousands of high-achieving women, she shares: Why the traits that made you successful are the same ones killing your intimacy How performance-based sex...
info_outlineThe moment you say, “I’m exhausted,” they say, “but men feel pressure too.”
The moment you name abuse, they say, “not all men.”
The moment you ask for more, they say, “you’re being too much.”
This is not compassion. It’s manipulation.
In this searing episode, Dr. Jordin exposes the subtle and sinister ways women are silenced in the name of "balance"—especially in spiritual and coaching spaces that should know better. She calls out the weaponized softness, the faux neutrality, and the gaslighting dressed up as emotional intelligence.
Because when women are talking about femicide, sexual trauma, and generations of unpaid labor—and someone derails that conversation to center men’s pain? That’s not a dialogue. That’s erasure.
And if you’ve ever walked away from those conversations feeling like your rage made you the problem, this episode is going to feel like coming home.
What we’re getting into:
- The real reason why “men struggle too” is a silencing tactic, not solidarity
- How high-achieving women are groomed to over-empathize and under-advocate
- What no one wants to admit about the power imbalance in your relationship
This episode is a reclamation of:
🩷Your voice.
🩷Your anger.
🩷Your pleasure.
🩷Your unapologetic womanhood.
No more bypassing. No more guilt. Just the raw, inconvenient truth—and the support to finally do something with it.
If this hits you in the gut, trust it. Forward it to the woman who’s biting her tongue to keep the peace. Share it. And tell the truth—we're not doing silence anymore.
Ever thought, “I don’t even know where to start to fix this"?
I want you to listen to my private podcast series, The Pleasure Path. A raw, unfiltered series to help you uncover what’s holding you back from the intimacy, connection, and passion you crave.
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