#191 Why You Only Want Sex on Vacation. How to Get Desire Back at Home
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Release Date: 08/28/2025
#194 Why Super Traits Keep High-Achieving Women Lonely and Stuck in Relationships
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
October 2nd at 1pm ET/10am PT. The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy HERE High-achieving women are praised for their empathy, loyalty, and hard work, but these same super traits often become survival strategies that leave them exhausted, lonely, and stuck in relationships. The very qualities that help women succeed in their careers, families, and communities are the ones that quietly drain their desire, connection, and pleasure. For nearly two decades, I have worked with women in every stage of rebuilding after infidelity, illness, divorce, or the collapse of a...
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#193 How Tone Policing Leads to Loss of Intimacy and Low Libido
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Join the FREE Super Trait Masterclass October 2nd, 2025 @ 1pmET/10amPT The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy. I am feeling direct today, and it could be the eight cortados I had while writing content. There are a few things that are always true after working with thousands of women with super traits. If he cannot handle your tone, he is never going to be able to handle the full force of your desire, your orgasm, and your passion. Tone policing is not about communication; it is about control. When your needs and frustrations get dismissed because of how you said...
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#192 Why Smart Women Get Stuck in Extractive Relationships Instead of Pleasure-Centered Ones
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Most high-achieving women don’t even realize they are living in an extractive relationship. You give and give in your relationship, in your career, and at home, and wonder why you feel exhausted, unseen, untouched, and unfulfilled. You blame your hormones, your libido, your partner’s attachment style, or your parents. You go to therapy, plan date nights, and try lingerie, but none of it works because the real issue isn't communication; it is extraction and power dynamics. The invisible dynamics are silently draining your health, your desire, and your power. Super traits like loyalty,...
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#191 Why You Only Want Sex on Vacation. How to Get Desire Back at Home
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Join us in the Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025 Summer is almost over, and I see a lot of my clients getting caught up in loops. You know that version of you that shows up on vacation. The one who laughs more easily, who says yes to sex, who feels lighter and more present in her body. Or maybe, like me, you have lived years experiencing a vacation from a bird’s-eye view, outside of your body, because of how burnt out you were. That woman isn’t fake. That’s you. But on vacation, you are not free to show up day to day either....
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#190 Why Strong Women Overlook Betrayal and Red Flags in Relationships
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Join us in the Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025 I was asked recently why successful, hardworking, intuitive women stay in emotionally harmful relationships. This was me. This is many of my clients. The truth is, we have super traits. The same traits that make us incredible in our careers, the ability to handle anything, to anticipate needs, and to stay calm under pressure, can also keep us from seeing just how harmful the relationship really is. Last week alone, I had a client discover her partner’s affair. I had another navigating her...
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#189 How to Build a Pleasure-Centered Relationship from the Inside Out
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Most women don’t need another date night, another vacation, or better communication strategies. What they need is a radical unlearning of everything they were taught about love and intimacy. Because even the good relationships are built on extraction. Not reciprocity. Not mutuality. Not pleasure. If your relationship feels like a second job, if your body is numb, if you’ve been blaming your hormones or your libido and nothing ever really changes, this episode will hit deep. You’ve been rewarded for self-sacrifice your entire life. You are the one who holds it all. The one who fixes. The...
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#188 Is He a Great Partner or Just Really Good at Control? The Good Guy Gaslighter
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Your nervous system already knows what your mind has been trained not to see. “He’s a great guy.” “He’s a good dad.” “He means well.” These are the phrases that keep brilliant, high-achieving women stuck in sexless, disconnected, emotionally manipulative relationships. I’m naming the pattern you’ve been taught not to see… the good guy gaslighter. It’s the new face of power and control and it’s quietly draining your desire and destroying your self-worth. And might be the reason you are not feeling like showing up intimacy for your parter even when you know you want...
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#187 The Truth About Estrogen & Breast Cancer That No One Is Telling Women
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
If you’ve ever been told that estrogen causes breast cancer, or that your mammogram will save your life, or that your only option is to “cut, poison, and burn,” this episode is going to challenge everything you’ve been taught. Dr. Jenn Simmons joins me for an honest conversation about what actually causes breast cancer, why the screening model is flawed, and how functional medicine is changing the game. Dr. Jenn was one of the top breast cancer surgeons in Philadelphia. She was the first fellowship-trained breast surgeon in her city. The first onco-plastic surgeon in the state. She was...
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#186 Kink Isn’t About Pain It’s About Power and Presence
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
If you’ve ever been called intimidating, too much, or one of the boys. If you’ve had to explain how you like to be touched more times than you can count. If the idea of surrender feels terrifying because you’re the one who always needs to be in control. This episode is your permission slip. We are talking about kink. Not in the way you think. This is not about whips or pain or anything performative. This is about kink as a nervous system tool. A way back into your body. A space where you can finally stop performing, stop leading, and just feel. This episode is about what high-achieving...
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#185 10 Phrases That Turn High-Achieving Women On When She is Burned Out (Make Her Want Sex Again)
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
The 10 Phrases That Make Her Want Sex Again She came on the call overwhelmed, crusty, resentful. She left flushed, smiling, turned on. If you’ve built your life on doing things right and still feel disconnected from sex, this episode is for you. We are talking about what actually helps high achieving women want sex again. Not dirty talk. Not pressure. Not more performance. These are ten phrases that soften your jaw, land you in your body, and let your nervous system breathe. Because when you are always leading, adjusting, and accommodating, there is no room for your pleasure. If you are...
info_outlineJoin us in the Pleasure Principles™ Group Program with Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND HERE Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025
Summer is almost over, and I see a lot of my clients getting caught up in loops. You know that version of you that shows up on vacation. The one who laughs more easily, who says yes to sex, who feels lighter and more present in her body. Or maybe, like me, you have lived years experiencing a vacation from a bird’s-eye view, outside of your body, because of how burnt out you were.
That woman isn’t fake. That’s you.
But on vacation, you are not free to show up day to day either. Vacation sex is a lot like affair sex. All of the dopamine, none of the responsibility. If your relationship feels like a job and you only feel sparks or connection when you are away from your real life and responsibilities, this conversation is for you.
You might be wondering why you only feel desire on vacation, why you crave sex when you are stress-free, but shut down as soon as you are home. Desire is not gone. It is buried under responsibility, gender roles, patriarchy, and nervous system overload. Vacation sex is not proof that your relationship is fine. It is proof that your desire remains.
We are looking at the patterns that keep you blaming hormones or libido when what is really happening is your body protecting you. We are talking about bread crumbing, over-functioning, and super traits like empathy and achievement that erode intimacy without you even realizing it.
Your erotic power and your desire do not need an escape. They need a new map. This is the first step on the pleasure path and the reason therapy, communication tips, or sex hacks have not worked. Once you can name the invisible dynamics at play, the path back to erotic aliveness and pleasure-centered relationships becomes clear.
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