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93.The 4D Exercise That Helps You Create the Life You Actually Want

Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt

Release Date: 09/15/2025

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Have you ever felt like you’re doing all the right things but still not living the life you truly want? What if the gap between where you are and where you want to be wasn’t about time, but about identity? And what if you could step into your future self today and watch your reality shift instantly?

In this episode, we dive into the 4D Exercise, a powerful tool that helps you design your life from the inside out. It’s not about wishful thinking or waiting years for things to change. It’s about aligning your desires, your current identity, your future identity, and then choosing to live as that person now.

What you’ll discover in this episode:

  • Why most people stay stuck repeating the same patterns

  • How your current identity silently shapes your reality

  • The exact steps to create alignment between who you are and who you want to become

  • The mindset shift that turns your goals from “someday” into today

This exercise was born out of real coaching experiences and the powerful insights of David Bayer, a leader in mindset and transformational work. It challenges you to go beyond surface-level self-improvement and actually embody your future self now.

When you practice this framework, you’ll start to notice:

  • Greater clarity about what you truly want

  • More confidence in your decisions

  • A sense of ease because you’re no longer waiting for “someday”

  • Alignment between your thoughts, actions, and desired outcomes

The 4D Exercise works because it reprograms how you see yourself. Instead of being trapped in your current limitations, you begin to step into possibility. You start acting from the perspective of the person who already has the results you want. And when your actions align with that identity, reality follows.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re trapped in cycles of self-sabotage, or like your goals are always out of reach, this episode will give you a framework to shift everything.

Ask yourself: Who do I need to be right now to align with my desires?
The truth is, you don’t have to wait years to live the life you want. You just need to choose your future identity and embody it today.

Want to go deeper? Join me for The Great Life Experiment: 30 Days to Rewire Your Reality. This isn’t about adding more to your to-do list, it’s about living differently. Each day, you’ll practice simple but powerful shifts that reconnect you with curiosity, alignment, and the person you truly want to be. Imagine where you could be in just 30 days if you stopped waiting for “someday” and started living as your future self now.

 

Episode breakdown:


00:00 – Big Question: Creating Your Reality

00:28 – Personal Story & Training with David Bayer

02:31 – Step 1: Creating Your Desires

04:53 – Step 2: Identifying Your Current Identity

08:07 – Step 3: Defining Your Future Identity

12:00 – Living Your Future Self Today

 

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