104.How We Stopped Fighting Over the Little Things and How to Reconnect Instead of React
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
Release Date: 01/12/2026
104.How We Stopped Fighting Over the Little Things and How to Reconnect Instead of React
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
đ Youâve chased every win, hit every goal⊠and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: http://TheGreatlLifeExperiment.ca/ Why do small things trigger big fights in relationships? Have you ever wondered why you keep reacting to your partner even when you donât want to? And why does it feel like the argument is never really about the thing youâre arguing about? In this episode of Real Influence, Joey breaks down why small things trigger you in...
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103.Therapy Didnât Fail You: The âCeilingâ of Talk Therapy, the Action Gap, and How to Know Itâs Time to Upgrade
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
đ Youâve chased every win, hit every goal⊠and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: http://TheGreatlLifeExperiment.ca/ Have you done therapy, gained awareness, and still feel stuck in the same patterns? What if the issue isnât therapy but the level of support youâre using? In this episode of Real Influence, it breaks down therapy vs coaching and explains why therapy often stops working for high achievers who already understand their...
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102.The 7-Step Life Planning Framework I Use Every Year (use this for 2026)
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
đ Youâve chased every win, hit every goal⊠and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: http://TheGreatlLifeExperiment.ca/ Are you crushing business goals but quietly feeling like life is passing you by? What if the reason success feels heavy isnât lack of discipline but lack of intentional life planning? And what if planning your life the same way you plan your business could actually give you more peace, clarity, and joy? Every year, high...
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101.The Five Transformational Mindset Principles That Help You Create Success Without Burnout, Stress, or Self-Sabotage
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
đ Youâve chased every win, hit every goal⊠and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: http://TheGreatlLifeExperiment.ca/ Why do you keep doing the âright thingsâ but still feel stuck? Why does it feel like something inside you is blocking your goals no matter how hard you try? Why does your mind keep pulling you back into old patterns you swore you were done with? If youâve ever wondered âWhy am I sabotaging myself even when I want to...
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100.Too Old, Too Late, Not Enough Time? Rethinking Limits, Timelines, and Whatâs Truly Possible
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
đ Youâve chased every win, hit every goal⊠and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: đ€ Have you ever wondered if your goals are truly possible or just wishful thinking? Do you feel stuck in life, unsure if your beliefs are holding you back? đĄ Are you chasing big dreams but struggling with limiting beliefs and self-doubt? In this episode of Real Influence, Joey Vaillancourt dives deep into the difference between wishful thinking vs....
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99.The Truth About Manifestation (Most Get It Wrong)
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
đ Youâve chased every win, hit every goal⊠and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: http://TheGreatlLifeExperiment.ca/ Have you ever tried manifesting â but nothing actually happened? đ€ Do you feel like youâre doing all the âright thingsâ â vision boards, affirmations, positive thinking â but still feel stuck? đ© What if manifestation isnât magic at all⊠but a real, brain-based process that you can actually train...
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98.The Truth About the 12 Step Program and the Life-Changing Powers Beyond Addiction
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
đ Youâve chased every win, hit every goal⊠and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: What if your addiction isnât to alcohol or substances â but to control, perfection, or validation? đ€ Have you ever wondered why success still feels empty, even when youâve hit every goal? đ Or maybe youâve been chasing âgrowthâ and âhealing,â but deep down, something still feels off â like youâre disconnected from who you really are....
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97.The Echo Effect: How to Overcome Quitting Too Soon When Making Big Changes
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
đ Youâve chased every win, hit every goal⊠and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/the-30-day-challenge/ Have you ever tried manifestation, positive affirmations, or goal setting⊠but gave up because you thought it wasnât working? đ€ Do you feel like youâre doing everything right in your personal development journey, yet the results donât show up fast enough? âł What if the reason isnât that...
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96.The Truth About David Bayer: What I Learned After Investing $100k+
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
đ Youâve chased every win, hit every goal⊠and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/the-30-day-challenge/ Have you ever wondered if mindset coaches are actually the real deal? đ€ Are personal development programs like David Bayerâs coaching really worth the high investment? đž Or is it all just another hype machine promising transformation but leaving you stuck in the same old patterns? Hereâs what youâll...
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95.Hustle Less, Live More: A New Success Formula
Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt
đ 30-Day Challenge đ30 days. 30 questions. From empty wins to deep fulfillmentâstart your Great Life Experiment today. đ€ Do you ever feel like youâre constantly grinding, pushing, and hustling⊠yet deep down, you still feel unfulfilled? đ Have you ever asked yourself why success feels empty, even after hitting your goals? đ± What if slowing down, practicing self-reflection, and redefining what success means could be the secret to true happiness and freedom? In this video, we dive deep into how to escape hustle culture and finally break free from the endless...
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Why do small things trigger big fights in relationships?
Have you ever wondered why you keep reacting to your partner even when you donât want to?
And why does it feel like the argument is never really about the thing youâre arguing about?
In this episode of Real Influence, Joey breaks down why small things trigger you in relationships and how those moments are often tied to old emotional patterns, inherited beliefs, and nervous system reactions you didnât consciously choose đ€.
If youâve ever asked yourself âwhy do tiny annoyances turn into big arguments?â or âwhy do I overreact to my partner?â, this conversation will hit home.
We explore why small things cause big fights, how reacting versus responding in relationships shapes connection, and whatâs actually happening in your body when you feel triggered đ. Joey explains relationship triggers, defensiveness, and emotional reactions in relationships, helping you see conflict not as a failure but as information.
This episode is especially for anyone stuck in repeating relationship patterns, struggling with communication in long-term relationships, or feeling frustrated that awareness alone hasnât stopped the same arguments from happening again. Youâll learn how to stop fighting over small things, how to respond instead of react, and how to interrupt the automatic reactions that damage connection.
We also dive into how childhood conditioning shows up in adult relationships, why resentment builds quietly, and how emotional regulation in relationships starts with self-awareness, not control đ€. If youâre searching for how to heal relationship triggers, how to stop being defensive with your partner, or why your partner triggers you so easily, this episode gives you language and clarity.
This isnât relationship advice about fixing your partner. Itâs about breaking emotional loops, choosing conscious response, and learning how to create healthier, calmer, more connected relationships from the inside out.
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In this, we'll talk about:
00:00 Why Small Triggers Create Big Emotional Reactions
06:10 Why Conflict Is Rarely About What Youâre Fighting Over
12:05 How Past Conditioning Shows Up in Present Relationships
18:40 Reaction vs Response and Why Awareness Isnât Enough
25:30 The Nervous System, Safety, and Emotional Regulation
32:10 Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns
39:15 How to Interrupt Emotional Loops in Real Time
46:20 Choosing Connection, Responsibility, and Growth
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