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I Spent $7,000 on a Matchmaking Service (Here’s What Happened)

Release Date: 10/01/2025

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When we’re lonely, it’s easy to throw money, time, and hope into quick fixes for love. Matchmaking services promise “high-quality partners” but are they really delivering?

I dropped $7,000 on a service that matched me with men who were… let’s just say, not exactly husband material. From shocking disclosures to ghosting to inappropriate texts on Christmas, I quickly realized I’d paid a premium for more disappointment than the free dating apps.

In this episode, I (embarrassingly) share my real story of hiring a matchmaker - the good, the bad, and the straight-up bizarre - so you can learn from my mistakes (and save yourself the expensive learning lessons). More importantly, I unpack what desperation does to our decision-making, and why self-work and nervous system regulation are a far better investment than outsourcing love.

Episode highlights include:

The truth about what matchmaking services actually offer
The red flags I ignored because I wanted love so badly
Why compatibility > chemistry > desperation every single time
How to date without settling or self-abandoning

If you’ve ever felt the pull to settle or rush love, this episode will help you pause and reset.

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