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Men Don't Have to Get Screwed in Divorce (Here's the Playbook)

Unblock Your BS

Release Date: 04/01/2026

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Most people don’t go into marriage expecting it to end.
And when it does… they don’t have a roadmap.

If you're a man facing divorce, you’ve probably heard the same story on repeat:

You’ll lose your money.
You’ll lose your kids.
The system is rigged against you.

But what if most of that is just noise?

In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, to break down what actually happens in divorce, and how to navigate it without destroying your finances, your relationship with your kids, or yourself.

Joe has spent 17+ years helping couples avoid courtroom battles and unnecessary chaos. He also lived through a highly contentious divorce as a child, which shaped the way he approaches this work today.

We get into:

  • Why divorce becomes a financial and emotional war zone
  • The biggest myths men believe (and what’s actually true)
  • How mediation works—and when it doesn’t
  • What you can do right now to protect your time, money, and future

And where this conversation really lands… is in how you approach the process.

Because most people are making decisions way too early,  based on eмоtion, assumptions, or incomplete information.

One of the biggest shifts Joe shares is simple: do the discovery before the deciding.
Don’t agree to anything until you actually understand what you’re working with.

We also unpack:

  • Why the “system is rigged” narrative isn’t the full story

  • What 50/50 parenting actually looks like in real life (and where most men get it wrong)

  • What child support really is (and why it’s often misunderstood)

  • How to build a parenting plan that doesn’t fall apart

  • What actually damages kids during divorce… so you don’t make it worse. 

Key Takeaways

  • Divorce isn’t just emotional—it’s a negotiation
  • Most conflict is driven by fear, control, and miscommunication
  • Child support is shared responsibility, not punishment
  • Parenting doesn’t stop when it’s “not your day”
  • Your kids didn’t ask for this… protect them from the fallout

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About Our Guest:

Joe Dillon is the co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, where he and his wife Cheryl (a divorce coach) help couples divorce without lawyers. Joe has an MBA in Finance and combines that financial expertise with deep personal experience—he is the child of a litigated divorce that left scars. Over the past 17 years, Joe has helped hundreds of couples avoid the courtroom nightmare and walk away with agreements that actually work. His approach is tactical, financial, and refreshingly honest. He practices in six states: Washington, California, Illinois, New York, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania.

 

Connect with Joe Dillon:

You can find Joe and access free resources, courses, and consultation options at Equitable Mediation Services. He is also active on social media where he shares divorce and co-parenting advice:

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