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I Lost My Marriage… and Found Myself

Release Date: 03/18/2026

Men Don't Have to Get Screwed in Divorce (Here's the Playbook)

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Most people don’t go into marriage expecting it to end. And when it does… they don’t have a roadmap. If you're a man facing divorce, you’ve probably heard the same story on repeat: You’ll lose your money. You’ll lose your kids. The system is rigged against you. But what if most of that is just noise? In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, to break down what actually happens in divorce, and how to navigate it without destroying your finances, your relationship with your kids, or yourself. Joe has spent 17+ years...

From Affairs + Escapism to Healing: Coleman’s Nervous System Comeback

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At 25, Coleman was cheating on his wife, chronically lying, and living in constant fight-or-flight. He didn’t just lose his marriage. He realized he didn’t like who he had become. This episode is the raw, unfiltered story of what it actually takes to change, not through mindset hacks, but through nervous system healing. From rock bottom… to somatic work, subconscious reprogramming, breathwork, and rebuilding emotional integrity. Today, Coleman helps women regulate their nervous systems, and teaches men how to create emotional safety instead of control. This conversation goes...

I Lost My Marriage… and Found Myself

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Some moments in life split your story into two chapters: Before. And after. For Charlie, that moment happened the night he discovered his wife was having an affair. After 15 years together, his marriage collapsed overnight. His nervous system spiraled. His identity shattered. And he found himself sitting in his car wondering how his life had fallen apart so quickly. But that breakdown became the beginning of something unexpected. In this episode, Charlie shares the real story behind his healing journey inside the Healthy Men-tality program, from emotional shutdown and codependency to learning...

Rebuilding Trust With Yourself After Cheating, Divorce, or Betrayal

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Heartbreak has a way of exposing patterns we didn’t even realize we were living inside of. In this episode, Tara sits down with heartbreak and relationship coach Erica Wright to unpack the deeper dynamics that show up in relationships, especially after betrayal, divorce, or emotional disconnection. The conversation explores how codependency develops, why people often ignore their intuition in relationships, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust with yourself after a painful breakup. Erica shares how she helps clients heal using parts work and inner child work, explaining how the...

Navigating Post-Divorce Grief

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Divorce is messy. It’s grief. It's a relief. It’s rage. It’s freedom. Sometimes all in the same week. In this solo episode, I break down what really happens after divorce, especially for the men I work with inside Healthy Men-tality. The bitterness. The bargaining. The shame spiral. The temptation to jump into something new just to avoid being alone. And here’s the bold truth: Dating while you’re still legally or emotionally tied to someone else often isn’t healing… it’s avoidance. We talk about: The 5 stages of grief in divorce (even when you initiated it) Why second...

Reigniting Desire: From Roommate Marriage to Real Intimacy with Dan Purcell

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You’re good teammates.Good parents. But behind closed doors?Something’s missing. The spark.The fire.The “I can’t wait to touch you” energy. Most couples don’t talk about sex or nobody knows how to actually talk about it. In this episode, I sit down with sex and intimacy coach Dan Purcell to talk about what’s really underneath the roommate marriage phase and why trying to “get more sex” is often the exact thing killing desire. We unpack: Why desire discrepancy is so common (and what it actually means) The “sweatpants phase” and how polarity shifts over time How...

She Cheated. Here’s What I Did Instead of Exploding

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Two D’ Days. That’s what Clayton calls them. The day he discovered the sexual affair. And the day he found out it wasn’t the only one. She cheated. Twice. When he found out about the affairs, his reality shattered. He stopped functioning. Sat on the couch. Scrolled TikTok for answers. Six months later? His marriage is still rocky. But he’s calm. Clear. Grounded. And not afraid anymore. In this episode, Clayton shares what happened after joining Healthy Men-tality and how nervous system regulation changed everything, not by saving his marriage overnight, but by rebuilding...

You Changed. She’s Still Mad.

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You finally decided to do the work. You’re learning about nervous system regulation. You’re reflecting on your patterns. You’re trying to show up differently. And instead of relief… She says: “Why now?” “I’ve been asking for this for years.” In this episode, Tara breaks down: Why resentment often shows up when growth begins What emotional shutdown in women actually means Why your healing doesn’t automatically repair years of micro-betrayals How to develop emotional range instead of emotional volatility What emotional safety actually means (beyond the buzzword) ...

Why Defensiveness Is Wrecking Your Relationship (And What It’s Really Protecting)

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If every conversation with your partner feels like an attack… If feedback turns into defensiveness, shutdowns, or arguments… If you keep asking yourself, “Why does this keep happening?” This episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I break down why defensiveness isn’t confidence or self-advocacy… it’s a nervous system response rooted in shame and early childhood wiring. We’re unpacking: Why your body reacts before your logic ever shows up How defensiveness protects an identity wound, not your relationship The difference between guilt (“I did something...

What does emotional safety really mean?

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When life punches you in the throat (flu, ice storm, a branch through your roof at 5am… you know, casual “unprecedented times” stuff), you learn real fast what “emotional safety” actually means. And here’s the thing: emotional safety has become a buzzword. A lot of women use it. A lot of men hear it and instantly translate it as physical safety. “I’ve never hit her.” “I don’t scream.” “I would never hurt her.” Cool… but that’s not the conversation your partner is trying to have. In this episode, I’m breaking down what an emotionally safe partner is...

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Some moments in life split your story into two chapters:
Before. And after.

For Charlie, that moment happened the night he discovered his wife was having an affair.

After 15 years together, his marriage collapsed overnight.
His nervous system spiraled.
His identity shattered.
And he found himself sitting in his car wondering how his life had fallen apart so quickly.

But that breakdown became the beginning of something unexpected.

In this episode, Charlie shares the real story behind his healing journey inside the Healthy Men-tality program, from emotional shutdown and codependency to learning how to regulate his nervous system, rebuild his self-worth, and show up as a safer father and partner.

What started as survival turned into transformation.

Today?

He's rebuilding his life, reconnecting with himself, strengthening his relationship with his kids, and discovering what it actually means to feel confident, calm, and emotionally safe.

Not because his life became perfect.

But because he changed how he shows up inside it.

In this episode we explore:

Why men often suppress emotions until everything explodes
The nervous system spiral that happens after betrayal
The codependency patterns that quietly destroy relationships
How childhood wounds shape adult relationships
The breathwork experience that completely shifted his healing
Learning to observe thoughts instead of being controlled by them
Setting boundaries with parents for the first time
Becoming a safer parent for his kids during divorce
Rebuilding identity after a relationship ends
What happens when a man learns emotional regulation

Charlie didn’t just learn how to survive divorce.

He learned how to trust himself again.

And that changed everything.

If you're a man navigating heartbreak, divorce, or feeling stuck in survival mode…

You don't have to figure it out alone.

The Healthy Men-tality Program teaches men how to:

Regulate their nervous system
Lead themselves emotionally
Build relationships rooted in emotional safety
Break patterns that sabotage connection

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