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Doubt in Decision Making
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What if I choose the wrong option? What if a better option comes a long? These are a few of the questions that plague decision makers. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kathy Knochel and Ted Witzig Jr. discuss the angst that can accompany decision making. While we desire to have certainty about future outcomes, it remains elusive. Yet, there is a certainty that the believer has, and it can make all the difference. Show notes: Decisional Stress can be understood in three...
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The Gift of Repentance
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Change, when it is for the better, always accompanies healthy human growth. When it comes to emotional, relational and spiritual change, repentance is an apt feature to discuss. After all, repentance means changing your mind. On this episode of Breaking Bread, Chad Leman and Brian Sutter shed light on both the “why” and “how” of repentance. Show Notes: Repentance in three movements. Movement 1: God’s goodness. Romans 2 says God’s goodness leads us to repentance. His work, his grace,...
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Discipleship in the Middle Years
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Christ knew what he was doing when he gave his disciples what we have come to call “The Lord’s Prayer.” It is beautiful to the ear. Rhythmic to the tongue. Simple to remember and loaded with power. In this episode, Joe Leman highlights this beauty and power and helps us see the hope of human transformation that is instore for any who would take up the prayer and pray it.
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How to Have Stress-Reducing Conversations
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Accepting Relational Influence
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Healthy relationships require that we are open to being influenced. After all, what is a relationship if it doesn’t include give and take. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kaleb Beyer explains what both research and experience has taught him about the importance of accepting influence in relationships. Show notes: What does accepting relational influence mean? Allowing those we are in relationship with to shape and impact our...
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3 Habits for Our Kids
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Parenting has its eye towards producing future adults. One powerful adult forming tool is instilling good habits in our kids. A well parented habit can pay dividends in the long run by building the muscle memory to do what otherwise would not be natural. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter examples this by suggesting three habits that will produce very welcome attributes in our children as adults. Show notes: Healthy habits can help grow and mature our children. And yet, to do this, the habit needs to grow and...
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One Tip for Human Growth
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We all have room for growth. Yet sometimes our progress gets stalled, and we get discouraged. This discouragement might be because we are measuring the wrong thing. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Ted Witzig Jr. helps correct this mistake and teaches us to measure from the bottom-up. Show notes: Measuring human growth can be tricky. We often evaluate our progress by measuring from one of three perspectives: From top-down: This happens when we measure the gap between who we are and who we want to ideally be. For...
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Aging with Intention
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info_outlineHealthy relationships require that we are open to being influenced. After all, what is a relationship if it doesn’t include give and take. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kaleb Beyer explains what both research and experience has taught him about the importance of accepting influence in relationships.
Show notes:
What does accepting relational influence mean?
- Allowing those we are in relationship with to shape and impact our thinking, feeling and behaving.
What does not accepting relational influence look like?
- Relationship rigidity resulting in dismissing or being un-moved by the input, wisdom, experience and interaction of another individual.
What does the research say?
- Husbands who accept influence from their wives tend to have happier and more satisfying relationships.
- The more influence a spouse is willing to accept, the more influential they can be.
What makes accepting relational influence difficult?
- Being defensive or the tendency to recoil from perceived challenges.
- Black and white thinking or the tendency to see matters in either/or categories.
- Avoidant or the tendency to avoid relationship disagreement and friction.
- Misunderstood roles in relationship or the tendency to enter a relationship with a role modeled or taught to you that does not permit influence.
- Lack of relationship safety.
What happens if we don’t accept influence?
- The relationship tends towards disconnection.
Does accepting influence mean finding agreement?
- Yes and no. Yes – you both agree that the other is worth understanding well enough to know when and how to yield to them. No – agreement is not the objective. In fact, disagreement is common and still should include influence.
What does healthy influence look like amid disagreement?
- When a person says “no” in a relationship, they should simultaneously say “yes” to the friend or spouse they are in relationship with. By this we mean, those we are in relationship should always feel they have been understood and valued enough to have influenced us regardless of the decision at hand.