The Masculinity We Inherited… And Why It Stops Working
Authentic Men's Group podcast
The Masculinity We Inherited… And Why It Stops Working Most men didn’t choose their model of masculinity. We absorbed it—through family, culture, locker rooms, workplaces, and silence. This episode was sparked by a long conversation between Andrew Huberman and therapist/author Terry Real about masculinity, emotional health, and relationships. What stood out wasn’t a new, flashy idea—it was language. Language for something most men feel but don’t always know how to name. This isn’t a lecture. It’s not political. It’s three men thinking out loud about what works, what...
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You Don’t Earn Being a Good Man (Part 2)
Authentic Men's Group podcast
You Don't Earn Being A Good Man (Part 2) We’re talking about what actually happens in a man’s life when he believes one story versus the other, how seeing yourself as good or broken shapes your reactions, your relationships, and the way you show up in the world.” SECTION 1 — Identity Split (Good Man vs. Bad Man) When a man sees himself as GOOD: More present and grounded. Slower reactions. Empathy increases. Honest about emotions. Healthy boundaries. Accountability without collapse. Less numbing, more connection. Confidence without performing. When a man sees himself...
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You Don’t Earn Being a Good Man
Authentic Men's Group podcast
You Don’t Earn Being a Good Man: Reclaiming the Identity You Were Born With Authentic Men’s Group (AMG) Podcast Blog Every man wonders quietly, “Am I actually a good man?” Most men won’t say it out loud—but the question sits underneath their decisions, their relationships, their mistakes, and the way they carry themselves through life. For many, goodness feels fragile… like one wrong move can erase everything. Like your identity is something you perform into rather than something true about you. Most of us grew up earning approval, not building identity. This episode is about...
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How to Approach The Enneagram with Dr. Ev
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Episode Title: How To Appraoch The Enneagram? Introduction In this episode, we sit down with Ev, a coach and long-time student of the Enneagram who has spent years helping men uncover who they really are beneath the roles, habits, and masks they wear. The Enneagram isn’t about putting you in a box — it’s about showing you the box you’ve been living in and how to get out. Ev shares how the Enneagram has shaped his own journey, giving him language for the patterns that once ran on autopilot. This episode kicks off a conversation that many men in Authentic Men’s Group (AMG) will...
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How to Practice Self-Compassion with Enneagram Types 5-9
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Using Self-Compassion With The Enneagram (Part 2) Last time, we explored Enneagram types One through Four—seeing how each carries its own beauty, struggle, and path toward compassion. Today, we pick up where we left off. So often, we hear messages about what we should fix or change. But the real invitation of the Enneagram is to see the truth of how we’re wired and to treat that truth with kindness. It’s not about boxing you in—it’s about showing you the patterns you’ve been living out, and then inviting you back home to your truest self. As Ian Morgan Cron reminds us, “The...
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How to Practice Self-Compassion with Enneagram Types 1-4
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Using Self-Compassion With The Enneagram We often hear messages about what we need to fix or change. But what if the real invitation is to see and celebrate the unique way we’re wired? What if our greatest strength is learning how to show up with kindness to the exact story we’re living? The Enneagram isn’t about putting you in a box—it’s about helping you see the unique beauty of your wiring and how to live it out with grace. Ian Morgan Cron says, “The Enneagram doesn’t tell you who you are; it tells you who you think you have to be.” And in doing so, it also gently...
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Why Beating Yourself Up Isn’t Making You Better
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Why Beating Yourself Up Isn’t Making You Better Rewiring the Inner Critic For most of us men, we were raised on self-esteem, (either resourceful input, or non-resourceful input) Be confident. Stand tall. Don’t screw up. Win at all costs. That’s self-esteem culture. It’s about feeling good about yourself when you’re doing well — when you’re successful, strong, admired, competent, and on your game. But the second you fall short? That’s when self-esteem gets shaky. You feel like less of a man. This is where self-compassion comes in — and most of us weren’t taught this...
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Shame - The Silent Weight Most Men Carry
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7 Common Signs You’re Feeling Shame as a Man Most men don’t like to look in the mirror—not the one in the bathroom, but the one that shows us what’s going on inside. We’re raised with messages like: You can’t change the past. Just move on. Don’t dwell. And on the surface, that sounds like wisdom. But underneath, it keeps a lot of us from practicing self-reflection… because we’re not just afraid of guilt. We’re afraid of shame. See, guilt says, “I did something wrong.” Shame says, “There’s something wrong with me.” One leads to responsibility and growth. The other...
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Boundaries vs. Requests In Our Circles of Relationships
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Using Boundaries in Every Circle of Relationship Healthy relationships are built on respect, understanding, and trust. At the core of maintaining these elements are boundaries—clear lines we draw to protect our well-being. The Circle of Relationships model by Brian Frizzell offers a helpful visual to identify the depth and nature of our connections. When we combine this with a clear understanding of boundaries and requests, we gain powerful insight into how to handle different types of relationships with clarity and self-respect. Recap: Setting a boundary is knowing, checking, and...
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How To Say No (Boundaries vs. Requests)
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What the Heck is a Boundary? A boundary isn’t just a rule—it’s a way to identify, communicate, and maintain the environment you need to be the person you want to be. Boundaries aren’t about controlling other people. They’re about controlling your space and how you respond to what happens in it. 🏡 Fence Analogy: Think of a boundary like a fence around your house. You’ve got a walkway up to the front door—that’s how you do relationships with me. That’s the space I’ve clearly defined where I invite people into my life. Now, let’s say someone jumps my fence,...
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The word could indicates that someone has the ability to do something.
In this stage we are making the proactive proclamation - “I am goodness. I am value.”
“I am love.”
Definitions of Benevolence :
Kindness, compassion, consideration, thoughtfulness, altruism, generosity, open-handedness.
It is in this stage of benevolence we are open to being present for others to give help and assistance.
When you hear that you are a good man you can begin to believe it, when you can begin to believe it, you can begin to say it, when you begin to say it, you can begin to act on it and when you begin to act on being a good man you can make good decisions that can change your world and consequently make the world a good place.
Acronym for Could:
Compassionately
Opens
Up
Loving
Direction
Conclusion:
Could becomes the expression of my goodness and makes us a conduit of goodness and love.
Joy is always going to be in community with others. How open we are for feedback is a good indicator of how we operating in goodness.
It is giving without asking for return. It is expression without expectation. Being completely engrossed in our actions and letting go of the results.
It is ‘otherish giving’ that takes care of self so we can take care of others.
So let's ask ourself, how could we can create change in our sphere of influence every day?