Authentic Men's Group podcast
What is “Shadow Work”? Shadow Work involves digging into the parts of ourselves we've hidden away because they seem too ugly, weird, or unacceptable. This survival tactic might help us through childhood, but it wreaks havoc on our adult lives, leading to inauthenticity. Shadow Work is about embracing your whole self – the good, the bad, and the ugly – and integrating these parts into your life. The Enneagram and Shadow Work The Enneagram is a powerful tool for understanding our personality and the shadow parts we hide. Each of the nine Enneagram types has qualities that...
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Shadow Work (Part 2) Today, we're diving into a topic that’s as crucial as it is uncomfortable: authenticity. Let me set the stage for this podcast. Picture this: a man finds his marriage on the brink of falling apart. He's convinced he's doing everything he "should" do to keep it together, yet he feels like he's constantly falling short. Growing up, he learned that showing certain emotions or traits of himself like being “too excited” or “too hyper” could jeopardize his relationships and get him in trouble with his parents – "boys don't cry," "toughen up," “Good...
info_outline Introducing The ShadowAuthentic Men's Group podcast
The Shadow is all those parts of ourselves we’ve shoved into the dark because we were told they’re unacceptable. This is what we call repression – unconsciously hiding these aspects to fit in and feel loved. And no shame. This helped us survive as kids. But as adults, we take it a step further with suppression – consciously choosing to hide these parts, leading to inauthenticity. Resources we mentioned to start engaging in your own shadow work: Book: Podcast:
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Chapter #7 Suicide The word “”committed” is usually used in the context of crimes. 2016 suicide was ranked the 10thcause of death in the US. Pg 116 men die from suicide 4x more then women. Pain is a natural reaction to death but suffering is what our mind does to us. 118 Death by suicide is not a selfish act or even a choice. It’s a sign of a mind that needs help. 114 The path to freedom from the suffering caused by our minds is through finding meaning. Pg 118 There are many paths to meaning, and if you search for them, you will eventually find them. 119 Give the...
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Authentic Grief: Finding Meaning In Your After In this series of podcasts we want to address the topic of grief. Grief is something we all experience so we want to take an authentic look at this shared experience. David Kessler wrote a book as a 6th stage of grieving titled Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. We will be recording this podcast series as an overview to this book and be inviting you to a conversation about grief and how we can approach it through meaning. What is Grief? Grief is the response to the loss of something deemed important or essential, particularly to the...
info_outline Authentic Grief - Finding Meaning in Your After (Part 2)Authentic Men's Group podcast
Authentic Grief: Finding Meaning In Your After In this series of podcasts we want to address the topic of grief. Grief is something we all experience so we want to take an authentic look at this shared experience. David Kessler wrote a book as a 6th stage of grieving titled Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. We will be recording this podcast series as an overview to this book and be inviting you to a conversation about grief and how we can approach it through meaning. What is Grief? Grief is the response to the loss of something deemed important or essential, particularly to the...
info_outline Authentic Grief (Part 1)Authentic Men's Group podcast
Authentic Grief: Finding Meaning In Your After In this series of podcasts we want to address the topic of grief. Grief is something we all experience so we want to take an authentic look at this shared experience. David Kessler wrote a book as a 6th stage of grieving titled Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. We will be recording this podcast series as an overview to this book and be inviting you to a conversation about grief and how we can approach it through meaning. What is Grief? Grief is the response to the loss of something deemed important or essential, particularly to the...
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In a culture of “artificial intelligence” and “virtual reality” it can be a challenge to be authentic. In this podcast we continue this conversation and give 4 key factors of how to start unlocking our authentic self. Michael Kernis and Brian Goldman developed an They came up with a technical description of authenticity as "the unimpeded operation of one's true or core self in one's daily enterprise." People who score high in authenticity are also more likely to respond to difficulties with effective coping strategies, rather than resorting to drugs, , or...
info_outline Authenticity in the HolidaysAuthentic Men's Group podcast
In this podcast we talk about what it is like to live authentically during the holidays. We reference the 8 qualities and how we personally will look to incorporate these into our holidway experience with friends and family. 8 Qualities of Authenticity: Curiosity Calm Clarity Connectedness Confidence Courage Creativity Compassion
info_outlineWhat is “Shadow Work”?
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Shadow Work involves digging into the parts of ourselves we've hidden away because they seem too ugly, weird, or unacceptable.
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This survival tactic might help us through childhood, but it wreaks havoc on our adult lives, leading to inauthenticity.
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Shadow Work is about embracing your whole self – the good, the bad, and the ugly – and integrating these parts into your life.
The Enneagram and Shadow Work
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The Enneagram is a powerful tool for understanding our personality and the shadow parts we hide. Each of the nine Enneagram types has qualities that are often suppressed and those that are highlighted.
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Understanding your Enneagram type helps you identify the specific qualities you tend to suppress, offering a roadmap for targeted Shadow Work.
- Enneagram Test Link: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/
Type One: The Reformer
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Persona: To be good, to have integrity
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Shadowed Parts: Anger, imperfection
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deny spontaneous behavior, fun, and anger as resentment.
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Let your hair down, be carefree
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Highlighted: Responsibility, correctness
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Famous People: Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Emma Watson
Type Two: The Helper
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Persona: To be loved, to be needed
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Shadowed Parts: Own needs, selfishness
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deny their own needs, own creativity and individuality.
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explore your own wants and needs. Find their own authenticity and individuality. Say no and find self identity.
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Highlighted: Generosity, helpfulness
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Famous People: Mother Teresa, Princess Diana, Oprah Winfrey
Type Three: The Achiever
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Persona: To be valuable, to be admired
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Shadowed Parts: Failure, inauthenticity
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deny effectiveness over efficiency, ability to fail, telling themselves the truth
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Be honest about limits, be ok with failing, reclaim your genuine self.
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Highlighted: Success, efficiency
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Famous People: Tom Cruise, Taylor Swift
Type Four: The Individualist
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Persona: To find themselves, to be unique
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Shadowed Parts: Ordinariness, envy
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deny confidence, courage, happiness, being normal and similar
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pull out positivity and goodness they have, be ok being ok, look to be positive
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Famous People: Frida Kahlo, Prince, Johnny Depp
Type Five: The Investigator
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Persona: To understand, to be competent
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Shadowed Parts: Dependency, emptiness
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deny connection with others, emotional focus and feel, ok not knowing
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Be ok not proving around others, don't need all the answers, embrace and do emotional health work.
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Highlighted: Knowledge, independence
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Famous People: Albert Einstein, Stephen Hawking, Bill Gates
Type Six: The Loyalist
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Persona: To be secure, to be supported
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Shadowed Parts: Doubt, fear
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deny being ok with unknown, living in the now, trust self and others
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Trust self, practice being present, let go over worry and know future outcomes.
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Highlighted: Loyalty, responsibility
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Famous People: Mark Twain, Ellen DeGeneres, J.R.R. Tolkien
Type Seven: The Enthusiast
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Persona: To be satisfied, to be content
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Shadowed Parts: Pain, limitation
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deny simplicity, being bored/still, consistency and structure
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Focus, structure, being ok in simple tasks and simple life.
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Highlighted: Joy, adventure
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Famous People: Robin Williams, Jim Carrey, Richard Branson
Type Eight: The Challenger
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Persona: To be in control, to protect themselves
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Shadowed Parts: Vulnerability, weakness
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deny need to be vulnerable, sensitivity, or ask for help.
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ask for help, be vulnerable, trust more, find innocence around creatures and kids, child likeness. Soften selves
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Highlighted: Strength, leadership
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Famous People: Martin Luther King Jr., Winston Churchill, Serena Williams, and Reid Horn
Type Nine: The Peacemaker
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Persona: To have inner peace, to avoid conflict
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Shadowed Parts: Conflict, assertiveness
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deny in the shadow their anger. Knowing your own wants and passions.
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explore and feel anger. Find what you want, see conflict as necessary and inevitable.
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Highlighted: Harmony, acceptance
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Famous People: Abraham Lincoln, Audrey Hepburn, Keanu Reeves